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I can't stand people suffering, if you even complain of something and you didn't ask for my assistance, as long as I heard you're going through stuff guilt will consume me like I'm the one at fault and I'll try to do something about it no matter how little, and if you ask for assistance I do more than you asked and if I can't help I'll try to solve it using other means like borrowing from others for your sake, I've always been like that.

I've been looking out for my siblings as the eldest since I can remember, parents are not there, and I've been lucky with some measure of financial freedom, everyone respects me then and whatever I say is what they do, conflicts were easy to resolve, I thought they respect me because I was responsible and I behaved matured and stepped up, mind you I was in my 20s fending for four siblings, I stopped schooling because no one was there to pay my fees, and started hustling before financial freedom came, I made sure my siblings goto school so they don't repeat my mistakes, not too long ago I even bought phone for one of them (siblings), borrowed on their behalf even when I don't have.

Fast forward to the past couple of months things took a drastic turn, my source of income dried off, everything stopped working at once, when I'm close to benefiting from anything that thing will crumble, things got so bad and within three months I'm totally broke, could you believe these same siblings I went above and beyond for turned on me, they don't respect me anymore, they now ask what have you done for me, one even starved me for some time when I stayed with her, in summary I'm nothing to them anymore and they even blocked me online because we had a falling out when I asked why are they're suddenly disrespecting me, then it hit me, they didn't respect me because I'm older or how I behave, they respected my money, the money they all drained,

I'll get back on my feet eventually, with a bitter lesson learnt, don't burn for anyone, not even your family, few people remember what you did for them and you're lucky if you have such around you, I'll get back up and when I do I'm cutting everyone off.

Focus on your bouncing back...

Repay them in their own coin when you eventually do.

I won't lie revenge is sweet!

Broo, life can be funny. I just had that conversation with My Bro about a few friends I helped before now, all turning their back on me..

See, it pays to stay wicked.

2022, 2023 and 2024 were my prime years. Work was good, clients were coming in until the era of gig scarcity came in.. Before then, I had lost count of people I came through for; financially, job recommendations etc. But same people have ghosted. But just a number has been a blessing to me in this trying period. I've learnt lessons and when God lifts me up, Omoh, I'll lock up. Humans can be ungrateful.

The disrespect and insult had always been there it's just that you chose to look the other way maybe because you were not the one directly involved or out of love.

Everyone has a down-time, we fall to rise so no biggy..
Tough time made tough men bro.. hustle smart hustle shamelessly.

Manofsteelx:
I can't stand people suffering, if you even complain of something and you didn't ask for my assistance, as long as I heard you're going through stuff guilt will consume me like I'm the one at fault and I'll try to do something about it no matter how little, and if you ask for assistance I do more than you asked and if I can't help I'll try to solve it using other means like borrowing from others for your sake, I've always been like that.

I've been looking out for my siblings as the eldest since I can remember, parents are not there, and I've been lucky with some measure of financial freedom, everyone respects me then and whatever I say is what they do, conflicts were easy to resolve, I thought they respect me because I was responsible and I behaved matured and stepped up, mind you I was in my 20s fending for four siblings, I stopped schooling because no one was there to pay my fees, and started hustling before financial freedom came, I made sure my siblings goto school so they don't repeat my mistakes, not too long ago I even bought phone for one of them (siblings), borrowed on their behalf even when I don't have.

Fast forward to the past couple of months things took a drastic turn, my source of income dried off, everything stopped working at once, when I'm close to benefiting from anything that thing will crumble, things got so bad and within three months I'm totally broke, could you believe these same siblings I went above and beyond for turned on me, they don't respect me anymore, they now ask what have you done for me, one even starved me for some time when I stayed with her, in summary I'm nothing to them anymore and they even blocked me online because we had a falling out when I asked why are they're suddenly disrespecting me, then it hit me, they didn't respect me because I'm older or how I behave, they respected my money, the money they all drained,

I'll get back on my feet eventually, with a bitter lesson learnt, don't burn for anyone, not even your family, few people remember what you did for them and you're lucky if you have such around you, I'll get back up and when I do I'm cutting everyone off.

Welcome to the game of understanding human nature lol. Sadly, its your siblings doing this to you however, you will bounce back. Sometimes, things like this happen for you to learn.

humans are cancer, family are tumors , friends are ulcer


if you know its best for you , get rid of all of them

brain54:
Focus on your bouncing back...

Repay them in their own coin when you eventually do.

I won't lie revenge is sweet!

Revenge keeps you inside this physical plane because its a physical emotion
All these feeling and emotion would hinder you from evolving.
Replace that revenge with love of the heart, replace hatred with love and you would unlock other aspect of the mind that has been in chains.

Python25to30:
Revenge keeps you inside this physical plane because its a physical emotion
All these feeling and emotion would hinder you from evolving.
Replace that revenge with love of the heart, replace hatred with love and you would unlock other aspect of the mind that has been in chains.

Okay that's true...

Not everyone deserves your help as a Guy man.Amongst the 12 Lepers it was only one that came to give thanks to Jesus

Whatever you do for Family,you do for love,never ever regret that.And lastly,Never give Anybody more than a deserve.

Python25to30:
Revenge keeps you inside this physical plane because its a physical emotion
All these feeling and emotion would hinder you from evolving.
Replace that revenge with love of the heart, replace hatred with love and you would unlock other aspect of the mind that has been in chains.

His saviour complex is borne from the place of ego rather than Love hence his bitterness at being disrespected!
He ain't obligated to save everyone especially when it comes at great cost to his personal well-being and growth.
The whole episode is only teaching him a lesson: "Learning to Love yourself first is the greatest love of all!"
OP, Learn, and eschew bitterness!

Demetrix:
Welcome to the game of understanding human nature lol. Sadly, its your siblings doing this to you however, you will bounce back. Sometimes, things like this happen for you to learn.

Yea it's much worse because they're family, I wish it was an acquaintance doing all this.

Manofsteelx:
Yea it's much worse because they're family, I wish it was an acquaintance doing all this.

put yourself together, it is well my bro.

Don't be too hard on yourself. I was like you but, I didn't regret anything bro. I only give people only when they ask and not fully anyways...

Manofsteelx:
I can't stand people suffering, if you even complain of something and you didn't ask for my assistance, as long as I heard you're going through stuff guilt will consume me like I'm the one at fault and I'll try to do something about it no matter how little, and if you ask for assistance I do more than you asked and if I can't help I'll try to solve it using other means like borrowing from others for your sake, I've always been like that.

I've been looking out for my siblings as the eldest since I can remember, parents are not there, and I've been lucky with some measure of financial freedom, everyone respects me then and whatever I say is what they do, conflicts were easy to resolve, I thought they respect me because I was responsible and I behaved matured and stepped up, mind you I was in my 20s fending for four siblings, I stopped schooling because no one was there to pay my fees, and started hustling before financial freedom came, I made sure my siblings goto school so they don't repeat my mistakes, not too long ago I even bought phone for one of them (siblings), borrowed on their behalf even when I don't have.

Fast forward to the past couple of months things took a drastic turn, my source of income dried off, everything stopped working at once, when I'm close to benefiting from anything that thing will crumble, things got so bad and within three months I'm totally broke, could you believe these same siblings I went above and beyond for turned on me, they don't respect me anymore, they now ask what have you done for me, one even starved me for some time when I stayed with her, in summary I'm nothing to them anymore and they even blocked me online because we had a falling out when I asked why are they're suddenly disrespecting me, then it hit me, they didn't respect me because I'm older or how I behave, they respected my money, the money they all drained,

I'll get back on my feet eventually, with a bitter lesson learnt, don't burn for anyone, not even your family, few people remember what you did for them and you're lucky if you have such around you, I'll get back up and when I do I'm cutting everyone off.

Bro with time you heal.
God deliberately allow this situation to open your eyes and mind.

In all you do in life , self love it’s always important and paramount.

The moment I realized that I've been groomed from childhood to be a selfless provider for all my siblings, it was already pretty too late, I've been burnt and reburnt...


So I've accepted my fate, they only call me to bill, all I say is yes or no...

For this life, if you no think about yourself, the people you were thinking of yesterday would be the same ones to ask you if they forced you to think about them in the first place...


Hmm, pains of an average Nigerian eldest son 😌

My two siblings above and below direct are doing leagues better than me but even airtime on my birthday hard for them to send, I've learnt to live with my scars, everything go dey alright someday...

Bro believe me you will get back on your feet again. The power behind your existence is reveling them to you it's just a matter of time you will be fine. Don't give them they opportunity again if you do you will regret far worst than this because this is how they will treat your kids if you're no more they betrayed you and they will face the monster they have made. I've pass through this phrase before my own mother turn against me when. I was completely broke my own brother I help so much became a nightmare all of a sudden thing's started getting better I became a monster to them and they respect me far more then before I don't give them attention anymore unless it's extremely important that's life for you the pain is the greatest teacher.

Manofsteelx:
I can't stand people suffering, if you even complain of something and you didn't ask for my assistance, as long as I heard you're going through stuff guilt will consume me like I'm the one at fault and I'll try to do something about it no matter how little, and if you ask for assistance I do more than you asked and if I can't help I'll try to solve it using other means like borrowing from others for your sake, I've always been like that.

I've been looking out for my siblings as the eldest since I can remember, parents are not there, and I've been lucky with some measure of financial freedom, everyone respects me then and whatever I say is what they do, conflicts were easy to resolve, I thought they respect me because I was responsible and I behaved matured and stepped up, mind you I was in my 20s fending for four siblings, I stopped schooling because no one was there to pay my fees, and started hustling before financial freedom came, I made sure my siblings goto school so they don't repeat my mistakes, not too long ago I even bought phone for one of them (siblings), borrowed on their behalf even when I don't have.

Fast forward to the past couple of months things took a drastic turn, my source of income dried off, everything stopped working at once, when I'm close to benefiting from anything that thing will crumble, things got so bad and within three months I'm totally broke, could you believe these same siblings I went above and beyond for turned on me, they don't respect me anymore, they now ask what have you done for me, one even starved me for some time when I stayed with her, in summary I'm nothing to them anymore and they even blocked me online because we had a falling out when I asked why are they're suddenly disrespecting me, then it hit me, they didn't respect me because I'm older or how I behave, they respected my money, the money they all drained,

I'll get back on my feet eventually, with a bitter lesson learnt, don't burn for anyone, not even your family, few people remember what you did for them and you're lucky if you have such around you, I'll get back up and when I do I'm cutting everyone off.

Bro my advice to you is to take your mind off revenge or pay back and focus rigorously on bouncing back because if you keep on looking at how you have helped people in the past (including your siblings) your past will definitely become a stumbling block that will hinder your progressive uplifting.

Whatever you think you have gotten, acquired or achieved in the past that you cannot merge with the present is like looking for a lost pin in the ocean. Nobody actually remembers how wealthy you are yesterday all they want to know is "How rich you are today".

in feel so sorry for you, but you will bounce back in no time op.

keep your head up keep grinding doors closed will open again

Manofsteelx:
I can't stand people suffering, if you even complain of something and you didn't ask for my assistance, as long as I heard you're going through stuff guilt will consume me like I'm the one at fault and I'll try to do something about it no matter how little, and if you ask for assistance I do more than you asked and if I can't help I'll try to solve it using other means like borrowing from others for your sake, I've always been like that.

I've been looking out for my siblings as the eldest since I can remember, parents are not there, and I've been lucky with some measure of financial freedom, everyone respects me then and whatever I say is what they do, conflicts were easy to resolve, I thought they respect me because I was responsible and I behaved matured and stepped up, mind you I was in my 20s fending for four siblings, I stopped schooling because no one was there to pay my fees, and started hustling before financial freedom came, I made sure my siblings goto school so they don't repeat my mistakes, not too long ago I even bought phone for one of them (siblings), borrowed on their behalf even when I don't have.

Fast forward to the past couple of months things took a drastic turn, my source of income dried off, everything stopped working at once, when I'm close to benefiting from anything that thing will crumble, things got so bad and within three months I'm totally broke, could you believe these same siblings I went above and beyond for turned on me, they don't respect me anymore, they now ask what have you done for me, one even starved me for some time when I stayed with her, in summary I'm nothing to them anymore and they even blocked me online because we had a falling out when I asked why are they're suddenly disrespecting me, then it hit me, they didn't respect me because I'm older or how I behave, they respected my money, the money they all drained,

I'll get back on my feet eventually, with a bitter lesson learnt, don't burn for anyone, not even your family, few people remember what you did for them and you're lucky if you have such around you, I'll get back up and when I do I'm cutting everyone off.

The Game is The Game ....!!!