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irumole1975:
I didn’t know what to say so I just left her on read. And I liked one of the msgs where she prayed for me. I wish her well tho

The issue here is that all of you young guns see a relationship as transactional. You expect the girls to put out for you, and the girls expect you to fund their lifestyle as compensation. If the girl tells you she does not want sex, you will abandon her. When you get the sex, you move on to the next opueh available. So, if she is asking you to take care of her, do so or move on.

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

If women are for sale as your comment suggests, then women shouldn't get angry when men treat them like a purchased item. I can't buy you with money and you still give me conditions. After buying a dress the dress will be giving you conditions on what days you should wear it or not.

How r hate ladies that turn men to ATM machine

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Your Idea about dating is the guy making provision for the girl, men shouldn't date any woman that can't pay to make her hair

Guy go and build a future for your self. The language women know is money they don't have love, that's why God never ask them to love ur husband. Na them go rush you when you don establish. You don't need that stress now. Even at 45 yrs they still dey rush us, even young ones. Let her go!

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Women are allowed to work these days. Women earn so much money and compete with men for jobs, but they still want to depend on men for their financial needs. So what is the usefulness of allowing women to work when they still depend on men financially? Wouldn't it be better to stop women from working so more men can get jobs and the money to take care of women?

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

She deserves better, so it's a sin for her to make things better for herself than expecting it from someone else?

Kobojunkie:
If this is what you truly think it means to date a girl, then why bother with women altogether? Clearly, you don't like or regard them at all for you to suggest that you are taking the place of her dad when you choose to date them?

So in other words, it's now a privilege to date women?

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Kobojunkie, it pains me I am replying you back to back. Why is it that it's only we men that should offer women something in relationship, are they supposed to be handicap?

Tolu2024:
If you are not a yahoo boy and you want to date please look for someone who have something doing or someone still living with her parents and respected background and good home training, leave all this street girls for yahoo boys you can’t compete with them.

You are a very good and responsible Lady.

Tolu2024:
If you are not a yahoo boy and you want to date please look for someone who have something doing or someone still living with her parents and respected background and good home training, leave all this street girls for yahoo boys you can’t compete with them.

Well said.

Kalulu44:
Kobojunkie, it pains me I am replying you back to back. Why is it that it's only we men that should offer women something in relationship, are they supposed to be handicap?

As you go school na so them go school collect NYSC certificate o.

Boomyvig:
I’m always extra crafty with my money with any lady that I date. In fact, there was a time I did an investment through my ex. It was time to collect the profit , she didn’t know I had gone behind her back to change the withdrawal account from her account to mine. When money dropped I saw almost 80% and the rest went to her account. Come and see drama. I asked for her to send the remaining. That’s how she started showing her entitlement mentality. I quickly escalated the matter. I ensured I collected all my money to the last kobo. I don’t joke with my money especially with women. Aside basic financial bail out of 2k 3k, bill me beyond this range, I go just start to dey give excuse till she’s tired. When you realize women plenty even better than the current one giving you attitude, you won’t get pressured by any woman ever again.

The last sentence should be crafted in gold and etched in the marble of every man's heart!

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

She can’t work!

He should be thanking his God, she just helped him to liberate himself ....

irumole1975:
I didn’t know what to say so I just left her on read. And I liked one of the msgs where she prayed for me. I wish her well tho

The brotherhood is proud of this OP.

irumole1975:
I didn’t know what to say so I just left her on read. And I liked one of the msgs where she prayed for me. I wish her well tho

U already know what category to place her. Lol

Broke girl who can't be satisfied are like a plague in relationships. I don't take them seriously.

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

A woman that can't take care of herself go dey claim yeye right.

Kobojunkie:
1. Women are not commodities; rather, relationships are transactional. Note the difference! A man who wants a certain type of woman should be willing and able to take on a part of what it costs— be it financial cost, emotional, physical& mental labor, etc.,— for her to maintain herself in the way that he likes her. A man who wants a woman who dresses like a million dollars should be ready to have to take on some of the cost of maintaining that million-dollar look that he so likes. This is nothing new.

There have always been costs associated with dating culture; this is something that adult men and women have engaged in for centuries; only a child of a man would think he could get a woman he cannot afford above his range at no cost to him.

2. I don't play these childish games with your kind, using the content of that book, which you lot have little or no regard for at the end of the day. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Aiye e tita kpau

RealityKings1:
Op you heard Kobojunkie right, the woman doesn't owe you anything and that's the point blank fact.
So why do you feel you owe a a girlfriend anything?

I think he does,at first are you courting the girl or its your intentions is about marrying her. If in the course of meeting the family how will he take up responsibility, sometimes if your not ready for a relationship just back off is not a die or do affair. So what's if she's in need or desperate for financial assistance how will he come about it.

Fearyourcreator:
A woman that can't take care of herself go dey claim yeye right.

If your rich and wealthy you can do anything, bro.

Godswill095:
If your rich and wealthy you can do anything, bro.

Go kill person for oshodi broad day light nah

Kobojunkie:
Well, if you are this afraid of being alone with your own energy, that says a lot about your inability to love other human beings, do you know that? I suggest you spend time learning to be comfortable alone with your own self first, so you can better learn how to "love your neighbor as you love yourself". Otherwise, you will spend your life chasing shadows.

but you are alone with your own energy and no man on earth wants to share the same space with you. In fact, I am sure when they spend 5 minutes with you, they become very uncomfortable and leave. you are better of alone and single with your own energy. okay. only you know how to love yourself

don't forget to recharge your adult toys before nepa take light

If you check well she never support this guy with one kobo, just move on, it's her loss.

Kalulu44:
...., it pains me I am replying you back to back. Why is it that it's only we men that should offer women something in relationship, are they supposed to be handicap?

You never asked yourself how come study, after study, has shown that relationships tend to benefit men more than they do women? It never occurred to you before now that, given all that women bring to a man's life in a relationship, a man has to offer her at least something of worth to her, even if it is only money? I don't understand the reason why someone who is supposedly intelligent would ask me these questions you ask in this day and age.

Nefort:
➜Women are allowed to work these days. Women earn so much money and compete with men for jobs, but they still want to depend on men for their financial needs. So what is the usefulness of allowing women to work when they still depend on men financially? Wouldn't it be better to stop women from working so more men can get jobs and the money to take care of women?

These women do not force these men into relationships with them, you know? Men need relationships more than women do, and so if a man wants a relationship with a woman, expecting her to pour her energy into the relationship, he should be able to bring something of worthy value to the woman, rather than just his presence. That is why even a woman who earns more than a man can still require that he be able to pay some of her bills, if not all. If the man does not want to, he can walk.

patrickcollins:
➜Your Idea about dating is the guy making provision for the girl, men shouldn't date any woman that can't pay to make her hair

Well, that is OK! If a man wants to date a woman who would not ask him for anything, then such a man should specifically find himself only such a woman. You don't go out there to find a woman who has expenses and needs a man who would pay for her hair, and then turn around to complain that she is asking you for money. That stewpidity on your part!

Nefort:
➜If women are for sale as your comment suggests, then women shouldn't get angry when men treat them like a purchased item. I can't buy you with money and you still give me conditions. After buying a dress the dress will be giving you conditions on what days you should wear it or not.

If you don't like woman, don't date them or pretend they force themselves on you. You are not a victim when you pick a guy who instead wants a man who will pay for her hair. You are instead an eejiot for picking a girl that is not on the same level as you.

Kobojunkie:
You never asked yourself how come study, after study, has shown that relationships tend to benefit men more than they do women? It never occurred to you before now that, given all that women bring to a man's life in a relationship, a man has to offer her at least something of worth to her, even if it is only money? I don't understand the reason why someone who is supposedly intelligent would ask me these questions you ask in this day and age.

You still didn't say what women brings to a man's life in a relationship and how study shows men benefits more

Nnamdipapa:
➜You support a man acting the role of a father to a fully grown woman because I honestly don't get your point. What's wrong with a grown adult taking care of her own damn needs?

A man giving his women money to do her hair is not a man taking the role of a father same was a friend giving his friend food to eat is not taking the role of his mother. Stop repeating this brain-damaged gutter analogy, abeg! It never works, no matter how many times you repeat it.

Nnamdipapa:
➜So women are now commodities to be "afforded?" The lady is a pure liability whose parents failed to raise properly.

The same way men wish to be afforded by the women who wish to date them when they classify themselves as high value men or whatever other preferences they individually have out there— indicating that not just any woman will do— is the same way a woman ought to be afforded by the men who wish to date them. This isn't rocket science!

Chetas81:
➜your loyalty your score, if im adding woman budget in my budget. The woman work for it,not for free😀

There is an easier way not to have to add a woman to your budget at all. Don't date women at all. You can always date your fellow men.

CorperKola:
➜Thats private prostitution na No difference

Then get yourself a pr0stitute instead of a girlfriend/lover. Or better yet, get yourself a boyfriend, that way you won't have these thoughts to deal with.