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pansophist:
His first mistake was to go where he can spend 109k on the first date.

From the beginning, you can always predict the end. If on a first date, you begin hear funny locations like sheraton restaurant, or some rooftop places, you should not go there unless you can afford it.

Trying to give the perception of ''money no be problem'' is bad. If she think you are broke for being frugal, then she just confessed that she is not good for you. You cant have high tatse on someone's else pocket.

Men should understand that since they have the responsibility to spend, then they also have the right to choose how, where, and what to spend on. ''Responsibilities'' and ''rights'' go hand in hand.

If a girl insist on a particular place to meet and it seems expensive, playfully ask if she is the one taking you out. If her response seems like she is expecting you to foot the bills, then decline if it is above your budget.

A woman that likes you will happily meet you at a bus station, and walk in a park with just a bottle of water and groundnut.

Double0h7:
Some people have zero shame! How will I pack leftovers from a date like I haven’t eaten in years 😭😭😭

Meedon:
Mosdii the prophet ordained by Almighty Jah to do His great works

Double0h7:
Some people have zero shame! How will I pack leftovers from a date like I haven’t eaten in years 😭😭😭

pansophist:
His first mistake was to go where he can spend 109k on the first date.

From the beginning, you can always predict the end. If on a first date, you begin hear funny locations like sheraton restaurant, or some rooftop places, you should not go there unless you can afford it.

Trying to give the perception of ''money no be problem'' is bad. If she think you are broke for being frugal, then she just confessed that she is not good for you. You cant have high tatse on someone's else pocket.

Men should understand that since they have the responsibility to spend, then they also have the right to choose how, where, and what to spend on. ''Responsibilities'' and ''rights'' go hand in hand.

If a girl insist on a particular place to meet and it seems expensive, playfully ask if she is the one taking you out. If her response seems like she is expecting you to foot the bills, then decline if it is above your budget.

A woman that likes you will happily meet you at a bus station, and walk in a park with just a bottle of water and groundnut.

Gerrard59:
From the screenshot, it is clear that the girl does not like him, which is okay. Also, it is highly likely they just met and decided to kick off with a date. This is why I prefer to establish a clear and natural platonic relationship before doing all these Ndi fancy restaurant dates. I have taken ladies to such settings, but I did it for two reasons:

- to know her better as a person
- having someone to talk with.

Afterwards, I don't pester for romance or anything related. Another important factor is to always eat at/visit the chosen restaurant before taking a random woman there. I first spoil myself before spoiling another person. Please yourself first before anyone else. Abi dem forbid men to go on solo dates at expensive restaurants?

Besto:
What fun man!!!

I didn't see knacks in guide man

Kaido:
Guys, please stop trying to impress ladies by spending extravagantly.

First date, plates of jollof rice with beef in a good eatery. Option 2: Buy meat pies, a pack of Hollandia or juice and bottle waters.

Second date,take her to a park. Buy snacks & soft drinks.

Third date, invite her over to your house. Cook a good meal for yourself, get soft drinks and alcohol too. A good movie too.

If you do all these and she still says no, let her go peacefully. You no lose cuz u had fun too.

Double0h7:
Some people have zero shame! How will I pack leftovers from a date like I haven’t eaten in years 😭😭😭

SpencerForbes:
Why would you let a lady dictate the tempo of the date? As a man, you are supposed to be the one leading, not the other way around. I make it a rule to take women to places I am familiar with—my 'home turf'—rather than places they demand.

Also, my Nigerian ladies, please normalize ordering only what you can afford! It is embarrassing to be stranded. I recently had to clear a bill for a lady’s catfish and drinks because the guy she went on a date with ran away and left her there.

Ebenezer2021:
that lady is shameless, you mean she has no money on her account to pay for the catfish meal?

Ibtxxo:
See my compund man when dey soak garri with his family oooooo

ThunderFireAgba:
You dey quote that simp?
Maybe she was shedding crocodile tears and he went to her as "super man".
They are reason the society is not balanced.

SpencerForbes:
No vex😂😂 I’m a human before a man. I Dey help man, I Dey help woman. The money was something I could give a total stranger whether male or female.

Chief2410:
You have prevented her from learning a very serious lesson. She would go about Bragging to her friends how a total stranger rescued her from the mess the other guy put her. If you really understand how women think,you would not want to rescue them.

ExudeLoveToAll:
He only fueled the gluttons ego, I don't pay my hard earned money for such f""lish ladies anywhere, my money is meant for a good venture not to bail irresponsible adults.

Maxcollins042:
Some people will believe this cock and bull story concocted to chase clout shamelessly.

Hhh4444:
You are a wise man. These gals are meant to be rented... E dey baffle me say in this 2025,guys still dey do dating. That bich is for rent menh!!!

TUBLEZ:
went on a date , this lady was ordering food and wine wey pass my pocket 😂 na so I tell her jejely that I hv a budget.. that’s how she changed towards me say i dey embarrass her lass lass she ask me to go drop her off . And she don first other a 35K food I told the waitress to pack it for her, we got to her place she left the car , I called her back to come pick her food she no answer 😂 na so I reach house balance with ac couldn’t finish the food sef, in the morning I microwave the remaining

Nazgul:
One practical way to understand a girl's intentions when planning a date is to suggest a simple, reasonably priced restaurant first. If she immediately rejects an affordable place and insists on a much more expensive spot, without offering to cover her own bill, it's clearly a sign that she's more interested in the cost of the outing than the actual connection.

It’s usually better to walk away from situations like that. Anyone who genuinely wants to meet you won’t make the location about your wallet.