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Uptheante:
Where did he mention her age for you to know if she's underage or not?

if you don't know what the discussion is about, why butt in? 🥱🥱🥱

Op do us a favour kindly call her and ask how she managed to trick the young man to believe she is a virgin

Kobojunkie:
if you don't know what the discussion is about, why butt in? 🥱🥱🥱

Save your data Kobo. There are lots of dunderheads in the internet space.

Some seemingly intellectual ones who should know better are ethically and emotionally decadent and irredeemably so.

hakeemhakeem:
Op do us a favour kindly call her and ask how she managed to trick the young man to believe she is a virgin

....it's easy for women to lie about such stuff, especially to inexperienced men.....because an inexperienced man naturally knows nothing about the female anatomy except for what he sees through the screen...

SixSeven:
The parents did their best and hoped she did her best to the best of their own parental abilities. Now my question is, do your parents believe that you are a Virgin and you protected your penis from entering what is not yours?

You too will be a parent so I ask you this question because it will come back full circle. Are you living up to your parents' expectations or you have secretly disappointed them and they don't know?

What I'm saying is that the wedding can still go on seamlessly without those lies! Nobody ask them for all those shalaye. I mean, in my daughter's wedding as a father, I'll just give out my daughter, thank everyone for coming, and that's all. Who do I owe any explanation as regards my daughter's virginity?

hakeemhakeem:
Op do us a favour kindly call her and ask how she managed to trick the young man to believe she is a virgin

You mean I should call somebody's wife, and have such conversations with her?

SultanOfPuna:
If you want to enjoy and live long in Africa
You must become a Hypocrite.

Nigeria is like a Masked Party
The losers are those who attended the party with their real face. You must wear mask to survive.

Nigeria is a place where a woman who has done 6 abortions will be claiming virgin and preaching No SEX before marriage.

Rev. Father's knacking up and down
Everybody doing opposite of what they preach
Everybody is wearing a mask.
Na the honest ones dey suffer. The real ones. The ones that quickly show their emotion.

Hypocrisy is the code of our existence in Africa. Know this and know peace

My brother, you said it all

You're jealous

Baronthecelebri:
You're jealous

Jealous of what exactly?

Some parents even sponsor abortions for their daughters to protect their reputation

Sermwell:
What I'm saying is that the wedding can still go on seamlessly without those lies! Nobody ask them for all those shalaye. I mean, in my daughter's wedding as a father, I'll just give out my daughter, thank everyone for coming, and that's all. Who do I owe any explanation as regards my daughter's virginity?

Because that's the pride of marriage! He who find a good VIRGIN wife hath found a good thing. The parent's generation valued virginity as a virtue so I don't blame them for talking about it.

Why dem dey emphasis on her virginity

SixSeven:
Because that's the pride of marriage! He who find a good VIRGIN wife hath found a good thing. The parent's generation valued virginity as a virtue so I don't blame them for talking about it.

They should talk about it when it's true and not openly lieing about it.

Sermwell:
They should talk about it when it's true and not openly lieing about it.

I get what you’re saying, and ideally people should only speak what is true. But I can’t control whether someone chooses honesty or image. People often present themselves in ways that fit their values or expectations, even if it doesn’t match reality. Their choices don’t change the facts, and I just choose not to make their actions my burden. You should do the same.

‘If it’s not within my control, it cannot trouble me.’ ~ Epictetus

What do you gain if you want to take the mic from the parents and announce to the couple that you were the Virgin Air Pilot that disvirgined the so called Virgin? Are you also okay with this disclosure when you want to get married whether it matters if society gives men a pass or not?

Sermwell:
When I was in the university, me and my ex girlfriend cohabited for close to 4 years. She was studying pharmacy while I was studying law. There was nothing we didn't do sexually, including an*l sex and all. She even mistakenly took in 3 times and we had to abort because we weren't ready. We eventually broke up amicably after school.

Last Saturday, she had her wedding and invited me. To my shock, right in the church during the sermon and marriage counseling or whatever, the pastor began to praise her for keeping her virginity till marriage, and also praised her parents, who are elders in the church for bringing their daughter up in the way of the Lord. As if that wasn't enough, after the reception, I saw the groom lieing on camera of how it's a Godly marriage because he met his wife a virgin and they kept themselves till marriage bla bla bla. The girl's parents also spoke to the cameras advising other parents to train their children morally in the way of the Lord and sexual chastity bla bla bla.

My question is why lie about these things that are not even true in the first place? Why fake sexual chastity that's not there?

WOW.

SultanOfPuna:
If you want to enjoy and live long in Africa
You must become a Hypocrite.

Nigeria is like a Masked Party
The losers are those who attended the party with their real face. You must wear mask to survive.

Nigeria is a place where a woman who has done 6 abortions will be claiming virgin and preaching No SEX before marriage.

Rev. Father's knacking up and down
Everybody doing opposite of what they preach
Everybody is wearing a mask.
Na the honest ones dey suffer. The real ones. The ones that quickly show their emotion.

Hypocrisy is the code of our existence in Africa. Know this and know peace

He's telling the truth.

Sermwell:
When I was in the university, me and my ex girlfriend cohabited for close to 4 years. She was studying pharmacy while I was studying law. There was nothing we didn't do sexually, including an*l sex and all. She even mistakenly took in 3 times and we had to abort because we weren't ready. We eventually broke up amicably after school.

Last Saturday, she had her wedding and invited me. To my shock, right in the church during the sermon and marriage counseling or whatever, the pastor began to praise her for keeping her virginity till marriage, and also praised her parents, who are elders in the church for bringing their daughter up in the way of the Lord. As if that wasn't enough, after the reception, I saw the groom lieing on camera of how it's a Godly marriage because he met his wife a virgin and they kept themselves till marriage bla bla bla. The girl's parents also spoke to the cameras advising other parents to train their children morally in the way of the Lord and sexual chastity bla bla bla.

My question is why lie about these things that are not even true in the first place? Why fake sexual chastity that's not there?

I don't understand the bolded I supposed the statement should come after the wedding.

Or is there anything am missing?