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Those that are married know that with women come additional headache.

Life I not all about being in a sexual relationship. Don't approach every relationship with the mindset of it leading to sex. Some girls just needed company. And if you come with sex , it's a turn off. Build the relationship first

Identify your personality and then you'll be able to attract opposite sex that'll appreciate you for you. There is more to life than having sex.

Stop masturbation and stop chasing women, focus on your job and goals, on your free days go to the gym and you will see dem chasing you

FitCorper:
Before we start. What about your father? Are u close to ur father? He can help you immensely at this repulsive stage of ur life. Fathers are importantly for building confidence in young men, a trait many ladies find attractive whether you are rich or poor as a man.

Confidence will make you weigh the words that comes from your mouth before speaking. People price and rate you by what comes from your mouth.

Yes, you're right but in marriage it's more than that. Get good hygiene, have money and live right

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

You should be happy you are alone.
It has been agreed especially on this platform that Nigerian women are not useful and have nothing to bring to the table.
Besides, your problem is konji..
You don't even matured(mentally, financially and emotionally) for a long term relationship

Go and chase money first, every other things shall be added on to you..... I was still a virgin at ur age and never looked [/s]uche[s] women face ..... I was busy building myself.... But today, if I need one per day to segz, for the next two months I dey on steady without repeating kitten.... Guy stay focused..leave women matter

Change your location of dating

U are a joker... No go find Hausa learn na loneliness you dey talk...just wan believe say you dey joke sha
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Ojagun:
What you just described @emboldened is a feature of "Late-Stage Capitalism"
It has become a worldwide issue

Please, explain.

Bro u re 25 five and u worrying abt a girlfriend panicking and k!ll!ng urself? no na life is more than that,all u need to do is to work on urself, spiritually financially and mentally by doing this trust me u 'll be fine.
I'm in my late 20s I don't longer bother abt a girlfriend, just keeping myself busy with finance related matters and with the help of God I'm doing very fine ,I know that be alone is not really easy at all it's just self-discipline and the fear of God u re good to go , last last every body that work harder 'll be fine.

From your narration, you've not even understood yourself and your goals as a person. I tell people, before you talk about relationship or marriage, first understand your goals and vision after you've understudy yourself. This is when you now say, I now need a partner who also understands these set goals and vision. When I was receiving less than 50k was when i started dating and I don't miss setting those goals and placing them on the table for these ladies to see, I say ladies for a reason... It's now their choice to stay or move. Ladies kept coming, when I say ladies, I meant those that understand vision and purpose, some even earn higher than myself as of that time. I just had to chose the one my heart longed for

So, if I don't understand my journey, anyone can come along or I chase any lady, maybe one that's available... If you don't understand your purpose first, how do you even want those ladies to understand? Ladies too are humans who wants more than just romance, they have dreams too, they want a resting shoulder, they want a whole lots of things... You need to show them that you can be the right person for them and this isn't done with money!

abbey621:
You dey earn 100k monthly and you believe na woman matter be your priority for this economy?.....Dem suppose gather beat sense into you, up your levela and start making real money, you're in no position to even dream about love, manage olosho if konji wan finish you but stay away from relationship until you become a REAL man!

best advice... 💯

VOsimhen144:
at your age, u suppose to dey chase the bag aggressively, leave woman alone, 100k a month is damn too low, invest more on yourself so you can earn more.

I am a family man with a daughter. I tell you 100k can't even last us more than two weeks. This is Aside my daughters School fees o. Mind you I don't pay rent . Earning 100K Alone in this present economy is a Low. You can't get a girl that's decent with this type of pay. You can't provide for your self well enough, the girls see the Signs & your insecurities this is why they always leave. Masturbating also affects how you see women. Stop it if you want to take your life serious. Else your hands start shaking. ✌️

ayindejimmy:
Those that are married know that with women come additional headache.

Life I not all about being in a sexual relationship. Don't approach every relationship with the mindset of it leading to sex. Some girls just needed company. And if you come with sex , it's a turn off. Build the relationship first

Identify your personality and then you'll be able to attract opposite sex that'll appreciate you for you. There is more to life than having sex.

Any relationship without intimacy is a ticking time bomb and is bound to fail because of lack of commitment.If your babe is uncomfortable to UnCloth in your presence,where then is the Bonding which is vital in relationship

Hmmm. Let me be Frank with you, even if you are earning below your current income, you will surely get a wife that will love you.

You are yet to get your love and make sure any woman you want to marry love you more than you do. It is not late at 25 bro. I married at 30s and I was earning 25k monthly when I toast my wife, though she is a single mother but responsible and we have a baby now.

She loves me more than I do and whenever I am at fault, she will still be the one that will care and if I am not home for 3 years, I will be confident that my wife will still be faithful.

Yours will surely come, but try to work more on your income and also go to church regularly, from there you can get your soul mate, though I didn't get my wife from church but I got her when I was living with my brother and had no money to rent an apartment at 30s and was earning 25k, but with all this she still agreed to marry me and her mum and siblings (sisters) kicked against as if they have seen my future that I can't make it, but thank God today, I have not yet make it but we are living fine and they all relied on us now.

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Sonnobax15:

If you think having a woman in your life will make you feel like you've lived a fulfilled life,bro,lemme burst your bubble --"You ain't ready to face life yet"

You've got to first of all love yourself and find a purpose for yourself.....Live for that purpose,and stick to it.......

Even myself,I had my first girlfriend at 27 and we've been great together since then...

The bolded are true.

And with in-depth understanding of oneself, one wouldn't even care or mind being alone (alone here means without a woman in the equation I believe )

The young man still dey waka around. His mind never reach the stage wey he go understand say if happiness depends on the female human alone, na suicidal set-up....

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Dude, get a few things straight.

First, control your jerking off stuff.

Life is not as idyllic or idealistic as it is painted to be.

Most people out there are not much happier than you.

Relationships are not generally fulfilling. People just try to make the best out of them, or fake it. Let nobody or appearances deceive you. Everyone dey quietly collect woto woto.

You are on 100k monthly, but is the job fulfilling? Does it align with your values? If not plan, towards doing what gives you fulfilment.

Sit down and paint two or three best case scenarios you wish to be in. 5 to 25 years from now.

Once you have re-evaluated yourself and know where you want to be, implement it and focus on yourself. Forget others. People are typically unpredictable. The more you look, the less you see.

Your renewed sense of purpose and confidence will likely attract a decent lady.

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

stop gambling and any form of get quick rich stuffs e.g forex, binary whatever

Your own better.
I'm your age and have never had a girlfriend.

I only started paying attention to girls and body language this year and I have to say, If you build yourself as a man and stick to your principles. Na so so signals and seductions you go see dey fly around.

Guess I'll die a Singularity

emmaodet:
Stop the masturbation pls. I prefer the prostitute option to masturbation.
With prostitute, with time you will start developing to interact, negotiate with ladies and generally become better. Masturbation keeps you away from ladies.

This is a wicked advice. He should go to prostitute?
You want to destroy his life completely.
He should stay of women for some time, develop himself to build confidence,earn more money, acquire skills to help you with that.
Get good cloths, eat good food , you need to treat your selves right, focus on The One God, and watch as things flow well with you.
You've done well Soo far, at 25 I was doing nysc while you're earning already, Don't be too hard on your selves.
But this is a time for self development and have a target towards marriage and other skills/achievements

You are making a mistake now that you don't realise. I will give you an advice I wish I had when I was 25. - THE LARGER PICTURE!
Even though, it is normal to have sexual urge at a young age but I tell you, your career comes first. Your Career only starts with the BSc, it doesn't end at having BSc. Focus all your youthfulness into building a career growth for yourself. N100,000 may not sustain you if you give any girl belle now, you will be strained and your family may face hardship. Build a professional career for yourself. You see those girls you call dumb, you will envy in the next 10years when they will be MANAGERS of companies and businesses while you be the dumb person.
I don't know how to explain this anymore than build yourself up first and getting a girl and building a family will be easy for you. Don't put your cart before your horse.
Good luck!

Kipaji:
1- OP, a lot of people gave you the advice to improve yourself so that you can deserve women later, and I disagree with that.

I already explained why in a thread entitled < "Make Money And Women Will Come" (This Is A Bad Advice) >. I will reproduce my post here:




2- That said, I would also like to question why someone has to improve at all to get women.
It would be like admitting that she is superior to you (and so you need to close the gap to reach her level). Thus, I believe that it is a simpish mindset.

3- When you are "perfecting" and "bettering" yourself to get women, remember that the woman you are currently improving for is being "pounded" by a nobody in the neighborhood who never even heard about improvement, some guy still leaving in his mom's house, her classmate who never had to "improve", or some guy who straight up paid for it. You most likely won't find her a virgin bro, and the guy who deflowered her is no better than you.

4- If you improve, do it for your own wellbeing and that of your loved ones.

Oga your number 3 is faulty. Improving oneself is the earn respect and for better positioning in the society. A man who has done so well for himself will attract quite a number of ladies. It is left for him to fitter his circle of friends among them

VOsimhen144:
at your age, u suppose to dey chase the bag aggressively, leave woman alone, 100k a month is damn too low, invest more on yourself so you can earn more.

Don't listen to him........the mistake most made was leaving women alone and chasing the bag........

Always chase women while chasing the bag if you want to live a happy balanced life as a man..........

Sonnobax15:

If you think having a woman in your life will make you feel like you've lived a fulfilled life,bro,lemme burst your bubble --"You ain't ready to face life yet"

You've got to first of all love yourself and find a purpose for yourself.....Live for that purpose,and stick to it.......

Even myself,I had my first girlfriend at 27 and we've been great together since then...

But you get woman for your life and u dey advice person opposite, come u don't know law.........

As u dey with woman u no dey fulfilled......we hustle because of a lot of things and women will always come to mind........always chase women while chasing the bag ..........chasing only the bag is meaningless and will only lead to loneliness, sadness, lack of purpose.....

Let me tell you a little story of when I was in school at a federal University in Lagos. I was your age too when I was graduating. There was this particular guy who just didn't care about girls or trendy guys. He focused his energy & time on his studies while some of us were doing trendy guys. This young man later graduated with a 1st Class degree ahead of everybody in the department and after that, travelled out immediately for his Masters degree in CRM and from there he has been growing in leaps and bounds. He got married ahead of most of us that were devoting some of our time to chasing girls and had beautiful kids. Worked with a very big company abroad even as a black man.
He has built a big supermart in Nigeria now, and a very big tech company (the structure is like 3storeys) and other investments he might not show us.
I now learnt a big lesson, I wish I learnt earlier.
Chase careers first, every other thing comes right after that.
I am married too with great kids. I have a business but no structure . I have a house but not completed (65% completion), I have an MBA 17years after Bachelor's degree and the journey has been really rough...

You follow person come this life before abi person follow you come.? You go go alone naw

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

So its because of ordinary common girlfriend u are writing all this epistle and singing lamentations?

what's special about a girlfriend? Absolutely Nothing unless u meet a good girlfriend then it can be considered something.

2ndly try having friends both guys and girls rather than focusing on a girlfriend because u can't control ur hormones or lust.

Accepted ur 25 so u should have a relationship or 2 but its not mandatory neither does it mean things can get better in ur relationships if u check urself and correct Aby wrong patterns.

The most important thing u can do for urself at 25 is self development and building ur self not getting a leaching girlfriend who can even ruin ur life.

Many are afraid of loneliness.

@25 you should actually be chasing the bag, love will find you naturally when you are just being yourself. Bro live your life first before you acquire that responsibility.

My guy hustle

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

From someone who had uncountable relationships and still more waiting for me to give them the green light (on average I date about 6 girls at a time and keep replacing them) you are lucky bro. You should do a Thanksgiving, there's nothing special about having multiple partners. I wish I can go back to being that innocent boy. Now, even when I'm doing a thrizom, I don't get excited again.. it's just emptiness. You should be thankful

Just accept jesus first into ur miserable life and find the peace of God that passes all human understanding. After making peace with urself the holy spirit will definitely direct you to ur life partner at 25 u are still very young so why the hurry and desperation? Find something to do in the house of God if u are already a Christian and that loneliness will definitely disappear.