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Wotowotoman:
➜110k comments. Have you got anything going on in your life?

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

Jega2000:
I may not advice you to marry with 100k salary,though it's doable, am very sure that more than 70% of nigeria don't earn 100k .. if you marry your wife make sure she is earning at least 80k-100k monthly.. so una go manage together with 180k income, don't give birth to more than one child,...
Family total income-2.160m
House rent-average a room selfcon-300k per annum..
Feeding- buy your foods in bulk- like 50k monthly..
Transportation-20k monthly..
Nepa bill-10k
Miscellaneous-40k monthly
Savings-30k monthly..

Alfred200825:
Meanwhile there are married security guards, cleaners, messengers who are earning far less than that and are living fine.
Better is a meal of plain vegetables eaten with love than a feast filled with strife and fighting.

Believe everything you see or read on social media at your own peril.

mactoni91:
Even me earning 308k Net dey fear...
My woman earning 500k Net dey pressure me with marriage but i still dey observe.

No let any woman pressurize you into marriage... Focus on improving your income

Babatundehy:
While I am not saying that, to answer your question, having millions can make a big difference. Now back to the topic, 100k income is definitely not enough for one man, not to mention a couple, say the woman brings in another 100k and decides to fully support the man, then they have 200k.
They'll need to wear clothes to work every working day (say they're not business owners who sometimes go to work 7 days a week), they'll need clothes and shoes, shoes only if they're police officers or nurses who wear a uniform, transport fare back and forth, if the workplace isn't at the back of their house 😂, subtract the cost of all of that from the income.
A 100k salary doesn't mean 100k spendable money, going to work costs money, Only very few jobs pay 100k and up in rural areas where rent is cheap, they'll live in the city, if not Lagos, at least any of the state capitals, that means high rent, say they want to live like rats and be miserable, they'll want to rent a room self contained, they must forget any purchase of home appliances like AC, refrigerator, washing machine and even couch.
Now let's assume they're both slow and decide to have a kid in such a financial state, then they'd have each gone into covenant with the demon of poverty and lifelong struggles, if such a couple do not try to at least triple that income, they'll not eat good or look good, won't enjoy life a tiny bit and most likely owe one or two food vendors in the streets, there is no way this income will work for them.

mactoni91:
Even me earning 308k Net dey fear...
My woman earning 500k Net dey pressure me with marriage but i still dey observe.

No let any woman pressurize you into marriage... Focus on improving your income

Babatundehy:
➜You can also decide to Eat that meal of plain veggies with love and ALONE, this is life man, you can't be too prepared, with that income they'll not have no savings, have to deal with little debts, not eat good, live good. If they decide to have a kid, what happens when that kid falls sick and they need 40,000 urgently? Have you checked what it costs now to be pregnant and have a baby? what happens when the mother cannot express much and the baby needs to be on formula for a few months 😂
The other day I saw on Tiktok how a lady whose baby couldn't take cow milk based formula because the baby was allergic to it, only goat milk based formula was okay for that baby, she was on there on Tiktok begging for help and showing videos of the baby, anyone could tell that baby wasn't eating good, goat milk based formulas are more expensive, people don't pray for these things but they still happen, the only way is to not do anything just because you have the minimum or because you believe in miracles or that "things will work out" things don't just work out because you need them to.

Babatundehy:
You can also decide to Eat that meal of plain veggies with love and ALONE, this is life man, you can't be too prepared, with that income they'll not have no savings, have to deal with little debts, not eat good, live good. If they decide to have a kid, what happens when that kid falls sick and they need 40,000 urgently? Have you checked what it costs now to be pregnant and have a baby? what happens when the mother cannot express much and the baby needs to be on formula for a few months 😂
The other day I saw on Tiktok how a lady whose baby couldn't take cow milk based formula because the baby was allergic to it, only goat milk based formula was okay for that baby, she was on there on Tiktok begging for help and showing videos of the baby, anyone could tell that baby wasn't eating good, goat milk based formulas are more expensive, people don't pray for these things but they still happen, the only way is to not do anything just because you have the minimum or because you believe in miracles or that "things will work out" things don't just work out because you need them to.

1144AK:
➜What's happened to breast milk?

dreamwords:
how many ladies want hear that one? dem go like go cheat outside the easy way to make money if the husbnad is earning 100k, and they will make life unbearable for the man

SpencerForbes:
The focus shouldn't solely be on the ₦100k income, but rather on the financial intelligence and compatibility of the couple. Marriage doesn't mean you must start procreating immediately; if both partners are smart, they will draft a strategic blueprint first. For instance, the wife can engage in low-capital ventures like cloth vendoring at her workplace, while the husband manages a side hustle like a POS business. If they exercise delayed gratification and wait just two years before having a child, they could easily build a financial buffer. If they manage to save a combined ₦60k monthly out of their income, in two years they would have accumulated over ₦1.4 million. That is significant seed capital to scale a small business or secure housing before the real expenses of a baby arrive.

If we strictly followed the view that you need millions to start, many successful people today who started on meager ₦40k salaries would never have made it. Marriage is like a business partnership where the first three years are the 'stabilization phase,' and if you survive that with good planning, you will overcome. The real issue in Nigeria isn't always the lack of funds, but the lack of a plan. Money does not automatically guarantee a good family; you can spend millions raising a child who lacks drive, while a child from a modest home with strong values becomes a high flyer. [b]Look at civil servants on minimum wage who successfully train children through universit[/b]y—they do it through strict resource management, not excess wealth. We need to stop prioritizing location and luxury over the zeal and values required to build a successful home.

MONEY247:
The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......
Ladies who have been irresponsibly pre-moulded to be a Prostitute either open or coded always select potential Husband base on MONEY or Potential Material Gains. This is one of the reasons why so many Ladies (not all) today are not marriageable and or remain unmarried.
If you as a lady is not Ready to financially invest in your Courtship and later, Marital Life, then, YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS WITH MATRIMONY AT ALL.

You are not a wife if all you have to offer a man is your Womanwood. Money is needed from you too before you can be qualified as Marriageable.

Kobojunkie:
You think breast milk is unlimited in supply? For women who are malnourished— yes, women have to feed very well to produce milk —, breast milk cannot be of much help for their babies.

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

1144AK:
Baba, there is an agenda to crumble the institution of marriage/family values..... Lol

1144AK:
➜Then she should feed well.... Breast milk remains the best... That's what the baby needs ...

Lexusgs430:
How much is, she earning? She might be a high income earner and can augment her husband's wage......

ibechris:
Someone earning 250k should not try to go close. The person earning 100k should not even promised any woman marriage.

I used to advice men to marry quick but now...I really do not have any advice to give again.

If u don't marry wisely,the marriage would hit u like where a trailer had a head on collision.

Marriage is very dangerous without adequate money to run its internal costs.

I earn 200k plus but it doesn't last me two days. After paying my nanny,pay my children teachers and give to my parents,set aside Nepa bill,fueling two cars in a month,feeding in a month...I might have spent close to
1.2m...it is crazy...not to mention other sundry expenses...all thanks to my side income.

What do i know self..marriage is not for the faint hearted my people.

If u must marry,marry a financially prepared spouse. That doesn't mean u should look for a rich woman or man ...no! but a woman/ man who is financially prepared to manage with u,live with u in tough days and not a downer

SpencerForbes:
That’s true. This present generation prefer baby mamas and single mothers like that isn’t more expensive than even marriage. Always focusing on money. That’s why we few men that really leads their home but thinks they can solve everything with excess money. That’s why we have lots of gays and immoral children in the society.

SpencerForbes:
Let's be real here. How many 40-year-olds walking our streets right now can actually boast of ₦2 million liquid cash? Plenty of them are struggling, yet they have families. Are we saying they shouldn't procreate? That’s not sustainable.

In Nigeria, hard work isn’t the ultimate solution. You can hustle for 30 years and still have nothing significant to show for it. If we base starting a family on the official minimum wage, literally nobody would be giving birth.

The real problem is not having a child, it’s having too many children without a plan. If you manage yourself and have just one kid, how is that a burden?

And seriously, why are we making Pampers the ultimate financial obstacle? It’s just a year or two out of a lifetime. If you have a solid plan, rent that is manageable (say, ₦200k/annum), and some decent savings (even ₦5 million figure), you have a great platform to start. It’s tough only at the beginning, but smart people grow.

If we agree with these standards, then what about people in villages and rural areas? How many of them earn ₦200k per month, let alone have ₦5 million saved? Yet, life goes on and families are raised.
Some of the kids even turn out better than children raised in luxury or even abroad. Modest with wisdom is good. The money isn’t the problem but lack of wisdom is the ultimate problem.

Kobojunkie:
Where is the money to feed well with?

Kingzjayzee:
u never hear say "her money na her money. Your own money na una money"? U never hear that one abi u were not informed too?

carzeem1:
You wan carry person pikin enter poverty n life of misery. Good luck to the in-laws that see u worthy with ur 70k earning to allow their daughter enter ditch.

1144AK:
➜Be sincere, how much do you think she would need to feed properly?

Mikuni:
➜I'm married with 6 children and I earn 65k monthly. It's all about good management and understanding. Stretch your hands to your phone screen now and receive the Spirit of good management. Why must you eat rice and chicken when garri and ablubosa "Onions" exist?

darediamond:
What happens to Her paart of Financial Obligations in the Matrimony?

Is the obligation of the "wife" just about getting fuuccked to get pregnant and later put to bed even if it is just a single child?

Is just about Sex on Her Part?

If money makes the Man a correct Husband, what should make the the woman a correct wife? Her womanwood?

Kobojunkie:
We are talking about a balanced meal— not eating a mound of eba and a tiny piece of meat or drinking pap with a small piece of moimoi— at least 3 times a day, each day to get that moving in a way that can adequately nourish the baby, provided there are no other problems.

Anyway, you can check out Google to find out reasons why mothers from poverty backgrounds tend not to produce enough milk for their babies and end up needing to resort to using canned options.

1144AK:
➜This is not true at all, except in extreme cases...

Kobojunkie:
We are talking about a balanced meal— not eating a mound of eba and a tiny piece of meat or drinking pap with a small piece of moimoi— at least 3 times a day, each day to get that moving in a way that can adequately nourish the baby, provided there are no other problems.

Anyway, you can check out Google to find out reasons why mothers from poverty backgrounds tend not to produce enough milk for their babies and end up needing to resort to using canned options.

Kobojunkie:
As I said, visit Google for the many other reasons why many mothers find they are unable to produce enough milk for their babies.

1144AK:
➜It's mostly higher SES women who give their babies formulas rather than breast milk for the purpose of convenience and because they can afford to do so.