₦airaland Forum

Babaibe:
It is because you are leaving beyond your means. You have two cars and nanny. If your wife need a nanny, she should contribute part of the money.

MONEY247:
The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......

Wealthyonos:
You can do a small marriage ceremony. You don't have the right to tell me to marry or not, even if I'm jobless. Ozwor

Chokhmah:
. You earn above 200k and you have a nanny and different children for your children and you are saying marriage is difficult. Oga u are just living above your means that is why marriage is difficult for you. 100k is ok for a man to start with if he wants to get married.

SpencerForbes:
This is truly an encouraging testimony for every young man out there trying to build a solid home.

Your experience is clear evidence of what proper planning and disciplined strategy can achieve, even when starting small. You definitely married a gem, not one of these entitled 'online feminists' we hear complaining everywhere. It wasn’t easy, but the way you navigated those tough early years is the best part of the story. And the fact that you stopped at one child to build capacity first, rather than having six, is a highly commendable display of foresight. Well done, sir!

ibechris:
My brother,when they say Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world,now u will understand better.

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

always247:
there was time without pampers and humans survived

always247:
there was time without pampers and humans survived

ibechris:
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Four kids aren't my problem...instead bad governmental policies that affected everything. So because I gave birth to four then I should kill them to assuage my burden.

I am a high earner and it wouldn't be nice if I use my self to give a clearer example here because few folks are in my shoes.

My expense is correspondingly high as well...I didn't tell u that I am suffering I am only saying no one should enter marriage with 200k u recommended here...

kullozone:
Oga, you just changed the whole narrative. The op was talking about #100k but you decided to add other things. With all your assumptions, the #100k don turn #1m already.

ibechris:
Someone earning 250k should not try to go close. The person earning 100k should not even promised any woman marriage.

I used to advice men to marry quick but now...I really do not have any advice to give again.

If u don't marry wisely,the marriage would hit u like where a trailer had a head on collision.

Marriage is very dangerous without adequate money to run its internal costs.

I earn 200k plus but it doesn't last me two days. After paying my nanny,pay my children teachers and give to my parents,set aside Nepa bill,fueling two cars in a month,feeding in a month...I might have spent close to
1.2m...it is crazy...not to mention other sundry expenses...all thanks to my side income.

What do i know self..marriage is not for the faint hearted my people.

If u must marry,marry a financially prepared spouse. That doesn't mean u should look for a rich woman or man ...no! but a woman/ man who is financially prepared to manage with u,live with u in tough days and not a downer

SpencerForbes:
Your reply just proves that 100k with proper planning can turn to 1 million. I’d have loved to stop there but for clarity, I’ll engage.

I’ve got 3 questions:

— Is marriage sponsorship or partnership?

— Is the woman restricted from investing in the family?

— What stops a lady from having side income or skills?

MONEY247:
The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......

ibechris:
Someone earning 250k should not try to go close. The person earning 100k should not even promised any woman marriage.

I used to advice men to marry quick but now...I really do not have any advice to give again.

If u don't marry wisely,the marriage would hit u like where a trailer had a head on collision.

Marriage is very dangerous without adequate money to run its internal costs.

I earn 200k plus but it doesn't last me two days. After paying my nanny,pay my children teachers and give to my parents,set aside Nepa bill,fueling two cars in a month,feeding in a month...I might have spent close to
1.2m...it is crazy...not to mention other sundry expenses...all thanks to my side income.

What do i know self..marriage is not for the faint hearted my people.

If u must marry,marry a financially prepared spouse. That doesn't mean u should look for a rich woman or man ...no! but a woman/ man who is financially prepared to manage with u,live with u in tough days and not a downer

kullozone:
You have to be realistic when talking about this issue. What you're trying to say rarely happens, because it takes reasonable people to plan all that.
Right now, #100k isn't even considered average in this current economy. And to be honest, a man earning such amount will most likely end up with a woman who earns far below or doesn't have any income at all... for example, you see such men marrying a teacher who earns like 40k or a cleaner with 50k etc.
They keep managing this way and giving birth to numerous children who they can't cater for. That's the pattern of such marriages in Nigeria, it's evident in the rate of hungry and uneducated kids we have.

I understand what you mean, my man but that's just you being logical

ibechris:
Oga,I didnt ask for ur advice.

I earn 200k ×300 times in a year...

So,I didn't complain rather I was against using 100k to marry or even 250k.
Oga you where just complaining that your income doesn't last you more than three days a month. How will you have different lesson teachers for your children and a nanny, plus you are even maintaining more than two cars in a country like Nigeria. Oga you are living above your means, but if you say you are not living above your means then it's means you are into fraud or you are spending government money

Starz825:
Sign a player within your budget....

Cos even clubs with low budget till have players playing for them...

even if you earning 100k,,,there are 100 of girls who will still line up to marry you....since there will always be a woman for your budget....

The only challenge is they might not be your taste/spec....so then..if you really do want your spec then work hard towards raising your budget..

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

ibechris:
Pampas alone go make u understand some advice.

Kobojunkie:
1. Marriage has always been about financial stability for at least one party. In old Europe, it was typically men who gained financially through marriage to women from much wealthier backgrounds. During the time of our ancestors, women were traded as property, a tradition that continues to this day, with the price system getting steadily more expensive for suitors due to the economy.

As for population, the world population, which is currently at above 8 billion, can do with losing a lot of weight.


2. I am glad more and more women are rejecting the struggle-love. It rarely pays women. With over 170 million Nigerians living in poverty, it is insane for any woman out there to take a chance on the same failed strategy that robbed their mothers and grandmothers of their dreams and lives.

3. Well, people are finally realizing the old lies that have typically been used to prop up the majority of marriages in the old days no longer work in this new social media reality we live in. And that is a good thing.

MONEY247:
The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......

always247:
there was time without pampers and humans survived

mactoni91:
Lol...

Why?

You Wan collect am from me?

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

Jman06:
If the man and woman are good managers, they can survive with 100k salary especially if the woman also hustles and add to the family's finances. People have been getting married on even lower salaries. Like the saying goes, two good heads are better than one.

Solseal007:
Poisoned opinions! Marriage does not follow economic indices, it follows the 2 players commitment and determination to succeed in life.

People who are not supposed to be advising are suddenly picking up the role merely because they are unfortunate themselves.

Get married to grow in it, you will understand that things improve for couples.

Jega2000:
. . Oga calm down I know 50k for feeding is very low, but for some families that all they have..
2 bags of Rice 50kg-90k for the year..
Half bag of beans-55k for the year
25 liters red oil-65k
15 liters vegetable oil-45k
Ogbono-54k
Egusi-45k
33 penters Garri-36000
Total-390k..
600k-390k=210k..
They will manage 210k to buy other perishable food stuff.. this is for the family of 3

SimpleGuy001:
Bro anybody earning 100k per month should not be thinking of marriage at all. Even if you have your own house, cause how do you want to do it