₦airaland Forum

Cromagnon:
And just struggle alone is better?
what lies?
Growing old alone ain't funny
Neither is population collapse

harjay1986:
✓ Lol I don't need consult any Google for any thing I will still say having a family is base on your decision I have someone earning 30k with 3 kids and also have someone earning 800k but afraid to have a family... Marriage or Children are not needs or want... Needs are something you can't do without as human while wants are something that if you don't have it you can still move on... And Marriage or Children have nothing to do with those two words... You will be the one to Decide if or not... I decide that once I get to 30 years I will get Marry... That's my decision despite earning low as at then

blingxx:
Omoh una like poverty for this country o

Kobojunkie:
If you cannot struggle alone and make it on your own, what will adding more mouths(burdens) to your life do? Akd una dey use una head already! 🥱🥱

2. Which population collapse? The world reached overpopulation levels back in 1970 when the population of the world crossed the 5 billion people mark. Since then, the only people that have benefited from the boom were corporations that need cheap slaves to make more money than they need. 🥱🥱

The last thing the world needs is more people.

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

ibechris:
This is how to know a poor man. I really pity u especially if u are still single.

U can use wrapper or plantain leaves to wrap ur children.

Luddite!

Hhh4444:
lol,he should use plantain leaves.. it's free of charge. He doesn't need to pay for it

TheBTCinvestor:
Poverty is that you? 70k wey person dey blow under 5mins..nawa o..God help u

Wealthyonos:
You can do a small marriage ceremony. You don't have the right to tell me to marry or not, even if I'm jobless. Ozwor

ibechris:
Someone earning 250k should not try to go close. The person earning 100k should not even promised any woman marriage.

I used to advice men to marry quick but now...I really do not have any advice to give again.

If u don't marry wisely,the marriage would hit u like where a trailer had a head on collision.

Marriage is very dangerous without adequate money to run its internal costs.

I earn 200k plus but it doesn't last me two days. After paying my nanny,pay my children teachers and give to my parents,set aside Nepa bill, fueling two cars in a month ,feeding in a month...I might have spent close to
1.2m...it is crazy...not to mention other sundry expenses...all thanks to my side income.

What do i know self..marriage is not for the faint hearted my people.

If u must marry,marry a financially prepared spouse. That doesn't mean u should look for a rich woman or man ...no! but a woman/ man who is financially prepared to manage with u,live with u in tough days and not a downer

ibechris:
There is absolutely sense in what u have said..
One reason why I don't like people raising children in poverty is because it deprives the child of good things of this life and I was in that shoe and wouldn't want same for my children or even my neighbours child.

Thanks for ur insightful contribution.

SpencerForbes:
The issue here isn't marriage itself—it's the four kids, plain and simple. I'm telling you, if you had stuck to one or two and your wife was also in, the stress wouldn't be hitting you this hard. As a young guy starting out, there’s zero shame in having just one kid and then waiting and planning properly before you have the next, the age gap doesn't matter.

The biggest killer in Nigeria is bad management. People choose 'runs-girl' beauty over brains, they don't plan how many kids they want, and they refuse to start a side hustle like POS or trading. Even worse, they spend money they don't have just to impress the society.

Forget all that competition. Aside from food, school fees, and rent, nothing else is worth stressing over. Poorly management of money is what truly makes marriage look like a burden. If you know the difference between what your family needs and what they want, a man should be fine. So the problem wasn't getting married; it was you having four children—even though they might eventually turn out to be your advantage.

Kobojunkie:
By that, is marriage/having children a need or a want?

harjay1986:
My analogy is base on the 100k you earn per month but yet it not enough for you talk less of marrying with such... Having a Marriage or children is decision... But owning a gadget that will not get you additional money just because your friends have such is tag as what you Want because what you need is some thing that can still do the work of that big price gadget without breaking your account.... Imagine Someone earning 100k now paying a house rent of 450k per annum is that not too much

Kobojunkie:
Why should she do that if she is in a traditional configuration of marriage?

Kobojunkie:
Why should she do that if she is in a traditional configuration of marriage?

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

Lexusgs430:
✓ Why is it a union, if only the man is expected to lift financially....... 🙄

Kobojunkie:
Traditional marriage is instead defined as a master/slave contract...that is how that so-called union is defined. 🥱🥱🥱

Lexusgs430:
➜Only for those, who love to twist the narrative or take advantage of others...... 😉 Traditional, Registry or church, they all have same interpretations and applications......

SIRTee15:
50k monthly for food in today's economy for a family of 3, u will know person wey never carry responsibility.

SimpleGuy001:
Yes but nobody should be thinking of marriage at 100k per month.

IreMIDE1:
I am interested, if it can be done remotely.

always247:
I will learn it skill im a fast learner

mactoni91:
Even me earning 308k Net dey fear...
My woman earning 500k Net dey pressure me with marriage but i still dey observe.

No let any woman pressurize you into marriage... Focus on improving your income

babajero:
just keep on observing till you clock 80 by then your eyes go clear.

SpencerForbes:
Does having millions in your account guarantee you’ll raise good kids and be a good husband?

harjay1986:
Just leave these people bro, I got married in 2016 when my salary is just 45k, today I thank God because I earn more than times 10 of such, they want everything to be set before they will say yes..

Aceed:
your probability of raising good kids and being a good husband without millions in account, is at a huge risk as there is no community around poverty

truthhurts2:
Smiles...

What are they eating? 50k is more than enough to feed family of 3. I spent 100k on food stuff last month which is Oct, bought a bag of rice, beans, garri, noodles (for my child), palm oil, veg oil and I produce locally made semo and some other things (though, I planted 5 different types of vegetables in my compound, planted tomatoes and also rearing some birds). And we are also family of 3. We haven't eaten one quarter of the rice, we still have more of everything that'll last us till early or middle of February. Pls how many months is that if you start counting from October?

So my brother, 50k is way more than enough for JUST FAMILY OF 3 to feed in one month.