₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Endurance formulae of marriage only works on women with devastatingly low levels of self esteem -- mental illness ---- than on women who women who know and see themselves as the same species as their husbands are.

Angelfrost:
This same nonsense gist...!

Marriage that ends abroad likely already ended in Nigeria!

EmperorIsaac:
I can absolutely guarantee that he has made his wife an "independent" woman. Only dependence keep them in marriage, unfortunately!

Kajaard:
Patiently waiting for the input of Kobojunkie

ZUBY77:
That's what it is everywhere in the World. The moment women begin to make money, forget it.
Before you take your wife to UK, US, Canada and EU, mke sure toh have enough plan to leave her.

MartinCorridon:
This guy probably uses ChatGPT to concoct these fake stories

Stolen:
NA LIE, EVEN THE WHITE WOMEN THOSE LAW WERE MEANT FOR DONT CALL POLICE AT THE DROP OF A HAT OVER MISUNDERSTANDING.


SURELY THEY WILL ARISE BUT IT USUALLY SETTELED PRIVATELY.

okomile:
If marriage is not working,better to separate
Nothing like have your mental health intact

Good luck to both of them

Angelfrost:
That tells you some of these couples don dey nurse serious grudges and bitterness wey dem dey suppress for Naija.

For every failed marriage abroad, there are other Naija marriages thriving excellently.

Abroad didn't exactly destroy the marriages, the individuals in the marriage don dey quietly fight within but due to religion and stigma in Naija, they just dey patch dey go for here... As soon as they breathe the air of freedom and liberalism abroad, you really can't expect them to continue putting up with the same things.


Ask most husbands that experience such, if they are honest, they will tell you they already started seeing signs while in Naija.



Even here in Naija, divorce and separation rates have tripled today compared to a decade ago.

dollyjoy:
lol but Divorce happens every single day in Nigeria as well. More than people even know. Sometimes you wonder where the love that made them marry in the first place even went especially the kind of evidence and things they say about themselves in court. I am certain that more women in Nigeria would leave their husbands if they were economically independent.

okomile:
If marriage is not working,better to separate
Nothing like have your mental health intact

Good luck to both of them

naturefellow:
there are Nigerian women with high self esteem who still brave toxic marriages. There's more of the faith and perception factor. Keeping the peace to avoid the stigma of a divorcee, especially when kids are involved.

NairaMaster1:
✓ So being eing single guarantees sound mental health?

royalfly:
Its funny how we have accepted failure as a mechanism for happiness.. if you fail a course in the university more than once, quit, university is not for you. If your child keeps doing the same thing wrong over again drive the child out, the child is not meant to stay with you.. women now wants freedom at the slightest discomfort. For every issue in marraige there is a foundational cause. People overlook that and expect things to be right by speaking enhlish. Oh how i have an idea of what a marraige is in my head, yet i cant practically live it. Even with all i have seen in marraige, i dont think its that hard. But let me tell you if no one has told you, one person is responsible for braking the marraige, the other person only agrees to the brakeup. Forget the lies that they both agreed to peacefuly part. If we would address issues truthful with a heart that is ready focused on God, marraife would last forever. Marraige is simple, some people just make it hard. My final take is that the devil definitely is responsible for the brakeup in marraige. Simple reason is this. The hardest issues can be settled as long as its not marraige. Once there is an issue in marraige, one of the couple would harden thier heart over nothing and the other just accepts. No one would die in marraige if the idea of brakeup is not there in the first place. Its better not to marry than to marry and brakeup.

Kobojunkie:
That's pretty much the same thing in Nigerian. Your beloved endurance marriages in Nigeria are powered by women tolerating bullsheet and unmentionables every single day of the marriage.

EmperorIsaac:
I can absolutely guarantee that he has made his wife an "independent" woman. Only dependence keep them in marriage, unfortunately!

Kobojunkie:
Pastor and wife no get name?

okomile:
If marriage is not working,better to separate
Nothing like have your mental health intact

Good luck to both of them

Host78:
➜so what keeps the Nigerian man in marriage despite the laws favoring him divorcing and yet can't keep the Nigerian woman in the UK once the law favours her divorce?

okomile:
If marriage is not working,better to separate
Nothing like have your mental health intact

Good luck to both of them

Kobojunkie:
That's pretty much the same thing in Nigerian. Your beloved endurance marriages in Nigeria are powered by women tolerating bullsheet and unmentionables every single day of the marriage.

Kobojunkie:
The free benefits that a man gains from being married. For the average married Nigerian man, marriage provides him with his personal housemaid/chef/nanny/sex-worker/laundry woman/therapist/assistant/house manager, etc.— all of this out of a woman desperate to cling to the Mrs badge from which she finds her worth — all at a cost that is next to free when compared to the market value. It is not easy to give all of that up, even when he has sidechicks on the side who he knows can leave him at the drop of a kobo.

muyico:
maybe western laws that favours women