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A lady that can't financially take care of her child(ren) should give them to their father, in a case of Divorce or Separation. Why keep a child you can't fund? If the child is no longer breastfeeding, lady should either fund the child upkeep, or hand them over to their father.

Some ladies keep the child with them, just to keep collecting money from the man. Some men lack conscience now. That child will die by accident so that everyone including her long throat can rest.

You insist on keeping the child, then you must fund the child. Guys should pay no Kobo to Baby Mamas.

Any one who understands Nigeria very well, it means the person has very little time to run mad

Lol majority of these females want the child in their custody and still want the upkeep money.
An avenue to corrupt the child mind against the father and still raise the same child with the father's money lol

With whom is the child best secure and have a good chance of thriving?

To that person the child should logically be given.

Irrespective of financial empowerment.

If this is the kind of advice you're giving to your fellow brothers, then you clearly don't love them or care about their children... But go ahead and continue misleading them into starting something they can't finish... Hopefully you wouldn't expect them to burden their female relatives with responsibilities of looking after the children.

One guy once used this ideology of yours to fight his ex wife through the courts for full custody of their children only to constantly start whining about how the lady had abandoned the children after the court granted him his wish and his ex wife moved across the country afterwards.

He wanted to use the children to hurt her with hopes that she'll stick around, but instantly regretted it upon seeing her moving away and having a time of her life all over social media after the court granted him full custody of the children.

I also know of one child who ended up taking her own life after her father separated her and her younger sister from their mother... Their mother didn't have enough funds for a custody battle, so her hands were tied and she couldn't do anything about it... The man was so ashamed of what he did, that he kept the news of their daughter's passing away from her until years later when he finally had the courage to break the news to her... The daughter apparently left a note for her mother before taking her life, the woman was never the same again that she even got admitted into a psychiatric clinic and later died from heart complications.

It's best I raise my children by myself than gamble with their well-being... If you don't want to pay child support or visit your children unless you have full custody of them, that's fine, you can keep your money and go.

Samantha125:
If this is the kind of advice you're giving to your fellow brothers, then you clearly don't love them or care about their children... But go ahead and continue misleading them into starting something they can't finish... Hopefully you wouldn't expect them to burden their female relatives with responsibilities of looking after the children.

One guy once used this ideology of yours to fight his ex wife through the courts for full custody of their children only to constantly start whining about how the lady had abandoned the children after the court granted him his wish and his ex wife moved across the country afterwards.

He wanted to use the children to hurt her with hopes that she'll stick around, but instantly regretted it upon seeing her moving away and having a time of her life all over social media after the court granted him full custody of the children.

I also know of one child who ended up taking her own life after her father separated her and her younger sister from their mother... Their mother didn't have enough funds for a custody battle, so her hands were tied and she couldn't do anything about it... The man was so ashamed of what he did, that he kept the news of their daughter's passing away from her until years later when he finally had the courage to break the news to her... The daughter apparently left a note for her mother before taking her life, the woman was never the same again that she even got admitted into a psychiatric clinic and later died from heart complications.

It's best I raise my children by myself than gamble with their well-being... If you don't want to pay child support or visit your children unless you have full custody of them, that's fine, you can keep your money and go.

A rusty Kobo you will never receive from me. Else the child will die by accident and the whole charade will end.

essentialone:
A rusty Kobo you will never receive from me. Else the child will die by accident and the whole charade will end.

What a wicked comment.

Myrrhis:
What a wicked comment.

Depends on the angle you see it from. Several men have been brought down to penury and depression,bjust because of child support. And I ask: what happens if the child should die? Will there still be child support?

essentialone:
Depends on the angle you see it from. Several men have been brought down to penury and depression,bjust because of child support. And I ask: what happens if the child should die? Will there still be child support?

So, in other words, you would rather your child died than give child support?

Myrrhis:
So, in other words, you would rather your child died than give child support?

Yeah. If that is what it takes to end the greed and exploitation.

Then keep your money and go, if you're going to weaponize it against your own children, then we'll be far better off without it.

And make no mistake of ever trying to come back and have a relationship with the children once they're older and established because I'll deal with you, permanently... You don't get to abandon your children and then come back once they're older and buoyant while I'm still alive, I'd make sure of it.

essentialone:
A rusty Kobo you will never receive from me. Else the child will die by accident and the whole charade will end.

Samantha125:
Then keep your money and go, if you're going to weaponize it against your own children, then we'll be far better off without it.

And make no mistake of ever trying to come back and have a relationship with the children once they're older and established because I'll deal with you, permanently... You don't get to abandon your children and then come back once they're older and buoyant while I'm still alive, I'd make sure of it.

A man can have as many children all over the world if he chooses to. Keep your children. Which sane man would ever want to go back to children born by a BAVAS Lady. Bitter, Angry, Vengeful, Aggressive, and Stubborn Lady. Certainly not me. If I move on, I move on permanently...

Good, go ahead and move on permanently and have as many children as you want all over the world, we'll do just fine without you.

And how would I be bitter, angry, vengeful, aggressive, and stubborn when you'd have been the one who decided to weaponize your fatherly responsibilities against your own children? I'd be protecting them from you.

essentialone:
A man can have as many children all over the world if he chooses to. Keep your children. Which sane man would ever want to go back to children born by a BAVAS Lady. Bitter, Angry, Vengeful, Aggressive, and Stubborn Lady. Certainly not me. If I move on, I move on permanently...

Samantha125:
Good, go ahead and move on permanently and have as many children as you want all over the world, we'll do just fine without you.

And how would I be bitter, angry, vengeful, aggressive, and stubborn when you'd have been the one who decided to weaponize your fatherly responsibilities against your own children? I'd be protecting them from you.

Yes because you know you will turn around go on Facebook and begin to beg for same men you called Trash, claiming I am a Single Mother, BLA BLA BLA

You're not making any sense...😂😂😂

Take your money and beat it, your children will grow up knowing their father as nothing but a sperm donor...😂😂😂

essentialone:
Yes because you know you will turn around go on Facebook and begin to beg for same men you called Trash, claiming I am a Single Mother, BLA BLA BLA

essentialone:
A rusty Kobo you will never receive from me. Else the child will die by accident and the whole charade will end.

What if she takes you to court before the child dies?

Samantha125:
You're not making any sense...😂😂😂

Take your money and beat it, your children will grow up knowing their father as nothing but a sperm donor...😂😂😂

Most of these single mums are bitter. Truth be told. Leave all these narratives.

Why are you still quoting people on an old thread though? Where were you when it was still fairly new and lit?

spencekat:
Most of these single mums are bitter. Truth be told. Leave all these narratives.