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Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

You are an irresponsible man in view!

Lols…funny guy

All I see here is a guy who’s not ready to take responsibility….Your moniker says it all Drifter

AOresources:
You are an irresponsible man in view!

EXTREMELY stiupeeed comment!

He's irresponsible for not wanting to shoulder the BURDEN of another adult and the children that could result from such a union.

Would you rather he gets married and grow to RESENT his spouse for jeopardising his "Soft Life"?

The OP is a self aware man.
He knows what he wants.
And he's doing things that won't jeopardise it.

He's a GREAT man!

To OP:

Order yourself some SPERMICIDE, Postinor 2 and a box of condoms; then INVITE that girl to come and eat indomie.

You're right on track bro..

As for me, the ONLY reason I want a partner is for procreation. I need my children to carry on my legacy, family name, generation, ancestry, to mention but a few..

A lot of men don't know that the women in their lives don't love them that much, but it always come as a shocker to them, especially when they (men) go broke, travel overseas with her, etc...

AOresources:
You are an irresponsible man in view!

He is actually more responsible than you in that his decision to remain single is by his choice and not because of society or some other lie many others like to spout.

Exactly. As a man, your freedom and peace of mind should be your priority.

You are on track bro. Some of us are regretting our decision of getting married.
I habe lost my soft life. Am shouldering the bills of another man's daughter.

I didn't read what you wrote but I gave you a like

Single life is seriously the best! ✌️ Having a baby mama works out perfectly for me. I just love being able to plan my entire life and chase my goals without constantly having to factor in other people's needs.
I see so many guys shelling out cash to their wives, kids, and even the in-laws, and honestly, I just feel bad for them. Me? I've got the total freedom to spoil whoever I want, and I still get all the action a married guy does—plus, I have extra cash leftover!

It's wild how much heat single guys get, though. The societal pressure is real! Some families will literally call an intervention, or try to hit you with the "immature" and "irresponsible" labels. But come on, marriage pressure just isn't for everyone.

OlaOfLagos:
Lols…funny guy

All I see here is a guy who’s not ready to take responsibility….

Responsiblity of an adult with two legs and two hands?

Only reason should be solely procreation

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

you will know what you did to yourself in your old age if you refuse to change Now. You Better have Ur own child Now. In your old age if you don't have Ur own child, no body will care if U exist or not. Even your siblings children may care less about their uncle. No matter the amount of money you have, a time will come when those close to you will start taking advantage of you , after all u no get wife or a child. U better change Now And get married

Namaster:
EXTREMELY stiupeeed comment!

He's irresponsible for not wanting to shoulder the BURDEN of another adult and the children that could result from such a union.

Would you rather he gets married and grow to RESENT his spouse for jeopardising his "Soft Life"?

The OP is a self aware man.
He knows what he wants.
And he's doing things that won't jeopardise it.

He's a GREAT man!

To OP:

Order yourself some SPERMICIDE, Postinor 2 and a box of condoms; then INVITE that girl to come and eat indomie.

LOL, YOU WAN KILL OP kpata kpata

Even me I'm happy I'm single

SpencerForbes:
Single life is seriously the best! ✌️ Having a baby mama works out perfectly for me. I just love being able to plan my entire life and chase my goals without constantly having to factor in other people's needs.
I see so many guys shelling out cash to their wives, kids, and even the in-laws, and honestly, I just feel bad for them. Me? I've got the total freedom to spoil whoever I want, and I still get all the action a married guy does—plus, I have extra cash leftover!

It's wild how much heat single guys get, though. The societal pressure is real! Some families will literally call an intervention, or try to hit you with the "immature" and "irresponsible" labels. But come on, marriage pressure just isn't for everyone.

you can't continue to run away from your responsibilities. Get married take care of your family and take full responsibility of your kids education the same way your parents did.

No grown man is happy being single rather they are afraid of their shadow, running🏃🏃away from there responsibility of taking care of there wife and kids

Diamond098454:
you can't continue to run away from your responsibilities. Get married take care of your family and take full responsibility of your kids education the same way your parents did.

Maybe I’ll consider it in the nearest future😊

Baronthecelebri:
Even me I'm happy I'm single

your happiness will not last long because that your babe will get pregnant January 2026 so, prepare to be a father and a good humble husband

You can't run away from your duties as a man

SpencerForbes:
Maybe I’ll consider it in the nearest future😊

time will tell , una dey fear to start up a family abi? But na NL GUYS give marital advice pass

Daniel058:
you will know what you did to yourself in your old age if you refuse to change Now. You Better have Ur own child Now. In your old age if you don't have Ur own child, no body will care if U exist or not. Even your siblings children may care less about their uncle. No matter the amount of money you have, a time will come when those close to you will start taking advantage of you , after all u no get wife or a child. U better change Now And get married

Better go village go ask all those men there to tell you the honest truth. A significant portion of them die without their children or wives ever really paying much attention to them. Yeah, the situation happens to be that most of them die alone and are only discovered days later by visitors or neighbors. Family usually show up only when it comes time to bury their fathers and divide up the loot, if any.

Kobojunkie:
Better go village to ask all those men there to tell you the honest truth. A significant portion of them die without their children or wives ever really paying much attention to them. They usually show up only when it comes time to bury their fathers and divide up his loot.

That can only happen to a man who maltreated his children while they re growing up

Daniel058:
✓ That can only happen to a man who maltreated his children while they re growing up

Those kind of men happen to be the vast majority out there even in Nigeria: only a handful of men turn out good fathers to their children. The majority take to blaming their misfortunes on their children when the truth is instead that they were never really there for their children when it mattered

Kobojunkie:
He is actually more responsible than you in that his decision to remain single is by his choice and not because of society or some other lie many others like to spout.

There is no time he won't carry the responsibility of marrying and fathering children..

No die no die go end up die..

Kobojunkie:
Those kind of men happen to be the vast majority out there even in Nigeria: only a handful of men turn out good fathers to their children. The majority take to blaming their misfortunes on their children when the truth is instead that they were never really there for their children when it mattered

Gbam, Final nail to the coffin!

AOresources:
✓ There is no time he won't carry the responsibility of marrying and fathering children..
No die no die go end up die..

Nonsense! 🥱

How will a man who is infertile need to bear such responsibilities except he chooses to adopt children talk less of a man who intentionally chooses to be single for life? 🥱🥱

Yes, everyone will end up dead someday by why should you start the process by your own hand and choices when Death already guarantees it will happen no matter what?

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! 🥱

How will a man who is infertile need to bear such responsibilities except he chooses to adopt children talk less of a man who intentionally chooses to be single for life? 🥱🥱

Yes, everyone will end up dead someday by why should you start the process by your own hand and choices when Death already guarantees it will happen no matter what?

I know you @kobojunkie

I also know you like wahala

AOresources:
✓ I know you...I also know you like wahala

I kow you too..you have a hard time answering questions regarding claims you make. I take it this means you realize the ridiculousness of the many claims you make by tuese acts of avoidance.

That's how it feels for now, just like when Gboys are taking olosho to various clubs, eating barbeque, drinking moet, and making sex in exclusive hotel rooms. But when the dusts settles they all cry had I know, we hope you don't later on.

Weak weak weak weak weak man !

You need some growing up. It’s not by age tho

Your eye go soon clear. Nature has a way of dealing with everybody

Bro I get you — freedom sweet.
Waking up and only thinking about yourself is a privilege many people underrate.
No diapers.
No emergency school fees.
No “where are you?” every 30 minutes.
No unexpected pregnancy turning your destiny upside down.

It’s normal to protect your peace.

But at the same time… let’s be honest with ourselves:

A lot of what you’re afraid of is chaos, not companionship.
Irresponsibility, not relationship.
Unplanned pregnancy, not love.

If you’re intentional, disciplined, and aligned with the right person, partnership doesn’t steal your freedom — it multiplies your life.

The problem is:
Most men rush in without purpose, without boundaries, without knowing themselves.
And that’s how they end up trapped, tired, and resentful.

Marriage or fatherhood isn’t the enemy.
Choosing the wrong person and being unprepared is.

And being single doesn’t mean you’ll die alone.
It just means you have time — time to build yourself, your money, your peace, your standards.
Time to attract someone who doesn’t drain your life but actually contributes to it.

So if being single is what’s giving you balance and clarity right now, enjoy it.
Use it well.
Grow.
Travel.
Make money.
Think.
Become a better man.

Because the truth?
When the right woman enters a man’s life, he doesn’t lose himself — he expands.

But until that day comes… Indomie and “something soft” can remain strictly recreational activities.
No future attached.
No fear attached.
Just vibes and self-control.

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

If you married industrious woman, that gat kinds heart! Bros? U gat no problem