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Samantha125:
Ever since I moved away from home few years back, my eldest sister's children finally visited me for the first time during their spring holidays in October and we had a great time together, as a result, they had a lot of things to say to their cousins.
Now their 3 cousins, who are also my niblings have been begging me to come over for the festive period, but there's one issue, their father is the same man who shot my husband two times last year, murdered his little niece, and made an attempt on my life... Personally, I've never held what happened against them, in fact, they saved me, had they not been present during the shooting, I don't think I'd have been still around. My love for them has never changed and we still have a decent aunt and niblings relationship, but I wouldn't want to put my husband in an uncomfortable position by allowing them to come over without his full approval as he's still dealing with the trauma of everything that transpired.
Last time we spoke about the incident, he made it clear how he never wanted to hear anything related to my brother-in-law ever again.
So I'm in dilemma as to what I should do, should I try to convince my husband to reconsider? Because those children had no hand in their father's evil deeds, in fact, some people, specifically guys, came forth after his arrest and started speaking up about how he's been intimidating them with his work pistol as well, or should I just come up with a flimsy excuse to decline their request to visit me during this festive period for peace's sake?

Neddstark:
How can someone shoot your husband twice, kill your niece, try and kill you and still be walking free?
Didn't you push a legal case against the monster?

Neddstark:
How can someone shoot your husband twice, kill your niece, try and kill you and still be walking free?
Didn't you push a legal case against the monster?

AngelicBeing:
Gbsmsulotey, someone like that, will never ever ever ever come near me again till the end of this world, like seriously, the guy abi monster will be forever far from anything concerning me, can a Leopard change His skin?

The husband of the Op is right.

Someone says and I quote>> l Love all humans but I can't be a friend to all humans, end of quote.

Love people from AFAR

There is so much wickedness all around us and we need Wisdom to navigate this wicked world.

Someone that has the propensity to kill can and may likely kill again and again ooooooooo, so be far from people like that

Personally, l will be far from anything connected to the man , whether kids or no kids.

Life has no duplicate

I will be far away from that kind of Monster and he will never know were l Live ooooooooo nor have access to me ooooooooo

Samantha125:
But he's now in prison, it's like you guys didn't read my post towards the end.

AngelicBeing:
There's is no where in your original post where you mentioned or indicated that the Guy is or was incarcerated or in prison.

Do you mind to point it out in your original post where you mentioned that the Guy is in PRISON.

Personally, whether he's in prison or out of prison, a killer or monster like that will never have access to me again ooooooooo, this is my opinion, l stand by it and l am entitled to it

Samantha125:
Read the last paragraph.

Samantha125:
Read the last paragraph.

AngelicBeing:
You didn't mention the Word Prison

Am l missing something in this write-up

It is because you didn't mention anything related to Prison, that made the first poster on this thread to ask you to press for charges against the killer.


Show me or point it out on your original post where you mentioned the word Prison.

AngelicBeing:
Arrest and the word Prison are 2 different things.


You can be arrested and released but when in jail, it is assumed that, you have been sentenced by a court of competent jurisdiction for the person to do time or week's or years in jail

Samantha125:
How is his arrest not related to prison? I mean where else would the police be taking him after his arrest? A five star hotel or vacation?

AngelicBeing:
Probably a 7 star hotel or vacation in Paris

Samantha125:
But I didn't say anything about him being released after his arrest, did I?

The least you could've done is asked for clarity instead of jumping to conclusions.

Samantha125:
Ever since I moved away from home few years back, my eldest sister's children finally visited me for the first time during their spring holidays in October and we had a great time together, as a result, they had a lot of things to say to their cousins.

Now their 3 cousins, who are also my niblings have been begging me to come over for the festive period, but there's one issue, their father is the same man who shot my husband two times last year, murdered his little niece, and made an attempt on my life... Personally, I've never held what happened against them, in fact, they saved me, had they not been present during the shooting, I don't think I'd have been still around. My love for them has never changed and we still have a decent aunt and niblings relationship, but I wouldn't want to put my husband in an uncomfortable position by allowing them to come over without his full approval as he's still dealing with the trauma of everything that transpired.

Last time we spoke about the incident, he made it clear how he never wanted to hear anything related to my brother-in-law ever again.

So I'm in dilemma as to what I should do, should I try to convince my husband to reconsider? Because those children had no hand in their father's evil deeds, in fact, some people, specifically guys, came forth after his arrest and started speaking up about how he's been intimidating them with his work pistol as well, or should I just come up with a flimsy excuse to decline their request to visit me during this festive period for peace's sake?

kpankpangolo:
Reading this is like watching Generations without the language switch.

Pootle:
one of the kids may come with a gun and finish the unfinished job

Samantha125:
But I didn't say anything about him being released after his arrest, did I?

The least you could've done is asked for clarity instead of jumping to conclusions.

Samantha125:
Their father is the same man who shot my husband two times last year, murdered his little niece, and made an attempt on my life...

We4all:
It must have been very traumatic for you guys to experience such a dangerous incident. Do you mind sharing why he behaved that way?

Samantha125:
Ever since I moved away from home few years back, my eldest sister's children finally visited me for the first time during their spring holidays in October and we had a great time together, as a result, they had a lot of things to say to their cousins.

Now their 3 cousins, who are also my niblings have been begging me to come over for the festive period, but there's one issue, their father is the same man who shot my husband two times last year, murdered his little niece, and made an attempt on my life... Personally, I've never held what happened against them, in fact, they saved me, had they not been present during the shooting, I don't think I'd have been still around. My love for them has never changed and we still have a decent aunt and niblings relationship, but I wouldn't want to put my husband in an uncomfortable position by allowing them to come over without his full approval as he's still dealing with the trauma of everything that transpired.

Last time we spoke about the incident, he made it clear how he never wanted to hear anything related to my brother-in-law ever again.

So I'm in dilemma as to what I should do, should I try to convince my husband to reconsider? Because those children had no hand in their father's evil deeds, in fact, some people, specifically guys, came forth after his arrest and started speaking up about how he's been intimidating them with his work pistol as well, or should I just come up with a flimsy excuse to decline their request to visit me during this festive period for peace's sake?

Samantha125:
But he's now in prison, it's like you guys didn't read my post towards the end.

makaveli902:
You only said he was arrested but you didn't say he was imprisoned. There are many people who were arrested but never charged to court.
Anyway as for the Kids, if the culprit is safe behind bars I feel they can come over if it is just for holidays. You can align with your husband about that.

Samantha125:
But he's now in prison, it's like you guys didn't read my post towards the end.