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Dey play... e be like sey u never experience life before.. 🤣😅🤣 no worry

Daniel058:
That can only happen to a man who maltreated his children while they re growing up

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

If you’re so confused about what you want in life, then how can anyone help you out

Drifter02:
All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Daniel058:
you will know what you did to yourself in your old age if you refuse to change Now. You Better have Ur own child Now. In your old age if you don't have Ur own child, no body will care if U exist or not. Even your siblings children may care less about their uncle. No matter the amount of money you have, a time will come when those close to you will start taking advantage of you , after all u no get wife or a child. U better change Now And get married

I completely understand this view. It's in old age such decisions become glaring, especially for those that married terrible spouses and have "useless" kids.

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

Let me give you some advice

DON’T EVER GET MARRIED
DON’T GET A KID
IF YOU DO, YOU WILL RUIN YOUR SOFT BOY LIFESTYLE
YOU WILL BEAR THE BURDEN OF CARING FOR SOMEONE ELSE OTHER THAN YOURSELF O

DON’T

If your parents were single, would you have been in existence?..your thinking is shallow and very myopic..I guess it's the kind of friends you are moving with that's affecting your mind set.

muyico:
If you married industrious woman, that gat kinds heart! Bros? U gat no problem

But you will still cheat on her

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! 🥱

How will a man who is infertile need to bear such responsibilities except he chooses to adopt children talk less of a man who intentionally chooses to be single for life? 🥱🥱

Yes, everyone will end up dead someday by why should you start the process by your own hand and choices when Death already guarantees it will happen no matter what?

Women are full of manipulation,

A man that knows himself would enjoy bachelorhood... However, I am very sure that most men should at least have one child before 50 otherwise they would feel a void.

Life na stages and once you reach that stage, try and have one (even if it is a girl). Nothing like impacting your knowledge on your own blood.

Baby-mama is more expensive than wife.
I wonder how you got this your write-up!

SpencerForbes:
Single life is seriously the best! ✌️ Having a baby mama works out perfectly for me. I just love being able to plan my entire life and chase my goals without constantly having to factor in other people's needs.
I see so many guys shelling out cash to their wives, kids, and even the in-laws, and honestly, I just feel bad for them. Me? I've got the total freedom to spoil whoever I want, and I still get all the action a married guy does—plus, I have extra cash leftover!

It's wild how much heat single guys get, though. The societal pressure is real! Some families will literally call an intervention, or try to hit you with the "immature" and "irresponsible" labels. But come on, marriage pressure just isn't for everyone.

ukaface:
Let me give you some advice

DON’T EVER GET MARRIED
DON’T GET A KID
IF YOU DO, YOU WILL RUIN YOUR SOFT BOY LIFESTYLE
YOU WILL BEAR THE BURDEN OF CARING FOR SOMEONE ELSE OTHER THAN YOURSELF O

DON’T

Would you be a boy forever.
At a certain age, it would be ridiculous to refer to yourself as "soft boy"... When by God Grace you have grown from soft-boy to BigMan (Odogu), it is a nice touch to have an offspring that even a stranger would say, "that child looks like him and that child have skills/knowledge like him".

Drifter02:
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Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

Wrong! There's no constant puzi for married men. 🤣😅

Tekzyflex:
You are on track bro. Some of us are regretting our decision of getting married.
I habe lost my soft life. Am shouldering the bills of another man's daughter.

Bad economy destroys marriage

Investcom:
➜Women are full of manipulation,

Irresponsible men, who number in the majority, are victims, abi? 🙄🙄🙄

Abeg forget all this industrious this or that.

Na you go still shoulder 90percent of the family bills.

muyico:
If you married industrious woman, that gat kinds heart! Bros? U gat no problem

This guy is just 25 years old. I'm very sure

Namaster:
EXTREMELY stiupeeed comment!

He's irresponsible for not wanting to shoulder the BURDEN of another adult and the children that could result from such a union.

Would you rather he gets married and grow to RESENT his spouse for jeopardising his "Soft Life"?

The OP is a self aware man.
He knows what he wants.
And he's doing things that won't jeopardise it.

He's a GREAT man!

To OP:

Order yourself some SPERMICIDE, Postinor 2 and a box of condoms; then INVITE that girl to come and eat indomie.

Your days shall be long on earth in DEEPENED PEACE IN ALL DIRECTIONS.

Sparkxx90:
If your parents were single, would you have been in existence?..your thinking is shallow and very myopic..I guess it's the kind of friends you are moving with that's affecting your mind set.

Sincerely the way nigeria has turn out be economically has wrecked the relationship, it's difficult to make long term plans

I don't really blame such men especially if they aren't afraid of fornication

Diamond098454:
You can't run away from your duties as a man

Oya woman. Tell us what are the responsibilities of a man. Tell us.

Hamachi:
Bro I get you — freedom sweet.
Waking up and only thinking about yourself is a privilege many people underrate.
No diapers.
No emergency school fees.
No “where are you?” every 30 minutes.
No unexpected pregnancy turning your destiny upside down.

It’s normal to protect your peace.

But at the same time… let’s be honest with ourselves:

A lot of what you’re afraid of is chaos, not companionship.
Irresponsibility, not relationship.
Unplanned pregnancy, not love.

If you’re intentional, disciplined, and aligned with the right person, partnership doesn’t steal your freedom — it multiplies your life.

The problem is:
Most men rush in without purpose, without boundaries, without knowing themselves.
And that’s how they end up trapped, tired, and resentful.

Marriage or fatherhood isn’t the enemy.
Choosing the wrong person and being unprepared is.

And being single doesn’t mean you’ll die alone.
It just means you have time — time to build yourself, your money, your peace, your standards.
Time to attract someone who doesn’t drain your life but actually contributes to it.

So if being single is what’s giving you balance and clarity right now, enjoy it.
Use it well.
Grow.
Travel.
Make money.
Think.
Become a better man.

Because the truth?
When the right woman enters a man’s life, he doesn’t lose himself — he expands.

But until that day comes… Indomie and “something soft” can remain strictly recreational activities.
No future attached.
No fear attached.
Just vibes and self-control.

Well said mate.

What do you mean please?

akpumping7720:
The truth is; if you dodge your responsibilities, you can't dodge the consequences of your irresponsibility.

Love800:
Baby-mama is more expensive than wife.
I wonder how you got this your write-up!

The actual money isn't the real issue here. It's all the mental and emotional stress that comes with it. The 'baby mama' thing is usually based on a clear agreement, and those payments are pretty minor.

But marriage? That comes with a whole new set of headaches and complications. Plus, I really don't think a baby mama situation is that costly, especially since most guys aren't typically covering the mother's expenses.

AllBlack:
Oya woman. Tell us what are the responsibilities of a man. Tell us.

hahaha hahaha hahaha

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

It is not even your responsibility to provide everything needed in your family. But many Nigerian guys married and aspiring to be have wrongly taken it upon themselves to do so, and thereby TURN THEMSELVES TO A DEAD MAN WALKING as they do refuse to marry A Lady with RESPOSIBLE parents whom have taugth there daughter that SHE MUST BE READY TO JOIN HER HUSBAN IN HER FAMILY FINANCIAL EXPENCES.

Just find that type of a lady and you will not be afraid of impregnating a lady at all.

Any lady who spend her body while you spend money on her is NEVER A WIFE MATERIAL but rather, A CODED PROSTITUTE!

I understand your point, he only needs favour from God to marry a very godly and responsible lady, that is hardworking. They will plan their lives together..2 kids..live modestly and moderately till God bless their hustles and can then live large..what of sexually transmitted diseases in fornication?

Zocalite:
Sincerely the way nigeria has turn out be economically has wrecked the relationship, it's difficult to make long term plans

I don't really blame such men especially if they aren't afraid of fornication

AOresources:
You are an irresponsible man in view!

Werey put in view 😆 🤣 😂

You may regret this in future. But for now you may not realize. Enjoy ur money life

I like your styles bro

Lol, please stay single. We even need population control in Nigeria.

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

If your parents thought like you, you wont be here today.

Lawalemi:
Your eye go soon clear. Nature has a way of dealing with everybody

And why should nature deal with him for wanting to be single?.

You need help and serious deliverance.


I was dead broke without nothing when I impregnated my babe who is now my wife.I had nothing,but today I have cars,she have her own car and the children have their own car for school movement. Heavy mansion in the village and businesses running smoothly.

Just dey play, you don't know the blessings that comes with being a father and a responsible man.

If you continue with this mindset you will surely die lonely with regrets.

Keep flexing

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

Sparkxx90:
I understand your point, he only needs favour from God to marry a very godly and responsible lady, that is hardworking. They will plan their lives together..2 kids..live modestly and moderately till God bless their hustles and can then live large..what of sexually transmitted diseases in fornication?

That's if he's godly too