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From my understanding, cohabitation is when two unmarried couples are living together... So what do you mean you don't need to live together to cohabit?

Felaincarnated:
Cooking lessons and sexual activities didn't come in hours na. Also u don't nid to move in full to cohabit. At least u marked ur territory d usual way

Sirchiboy:
Married men in the house did you cohabit before getting married

I did not cohabit with my wife till I married her butt I cohabit with all my side chicks before .

Samantha125:
If nairaland men can fill up threads meant for women, then I'm also entitled to comment in any thread I like.

And already some of your brothers have been accusing me of being a man disguised as a female, so might as well embrace it...

Samantha … is that you on your DP

ChizzyBuna:
what if something bad happens to her and you haven't married her. You will be arrested

Arrested for what exactly? Two consenting adults cohabiting isn’t a crime in Nigeria. Unless there’s some illegal activity involved, simply living together doesn’t make you liable for anything. Marriage is a personal and social choice, not a legal requirement for sharing a home.

No, it's just a random picture I found on the internet...

Murketeer:
Samantha … is that you on your DP

dawnomike:
I see no need for that whatsoever.

No

Samantha125:
No, it's just a random picture I found on the internet...

Stop lying … I know it’s you … naso South African women dey fine … lemme enter Pretoria and pick one bride abeg … I hope your brothers will not eat me ?

Living together could be on a short term

Samantha125:
From my understanding, cohabitation is when two unmarried couples are living together... So what do you mean you don't need to live together to cohabit?

loschivatos:
Arrested for what exactly? Two consenting adults cohabiting isn’t a crime in Nigeria. Unless there’s some illegal activity involved, simply living together doesn’t make you liable for anything. Marriage is a personal and social choice, not a legal requirement for sharing a home.

Naso una dey talk until it happens to you. U think say police wan hear grama? Dem go lock you up.
No amount of English you speak go set you free

ChizzyBuna:
Naso una dey talk until it happens to you. U think say police wan hear grama? Dem go lock you up.
No amount of English you speak go set you free

I almost ignored your post, but for the sake of learning and unlearning, I’ll respond one last time. Truly, the thoughts and reasoning behind someone’s comments often reveal their background, level of understanding and the perspective from which they operate.

loschivatos:
I almost ignored your post, but for the sake of learning and unlearning, I’ll respond one last time. Truly, the thoughts and reasoning behind someone’s comments often reveal their background, level of understanding and the perspective from which they operate.

Continue talking nonesense

This reminds me of Lanre and Tola back in the days. Lanre slept with Tola in a way that I am sure should Tola think back she will likely regret the situation and might be happy about the sexual experience. Lanre was reckless and sometimes took substances to the point where Tola will sometimes cry loud from intimacy and we neighbors had to pity her. To make her situation worse, she missed classes sometimes because of being overused during the night and the need to do house chores and cook during the day despite she being the financier in the relationship.

We met during postgraduate studies.
I was working and single. From the start, I told her in my dialect "change your father's name to mine". She took it personal. Today, she has change her name officially everywhere.

We cohabitated for about a semester. We still cherish those moments. One core reason we're together is that unlike my previous r/ship, we had numerous healthy short conflicts. She taught me conflict resolution. Don't leave the house in anger, don't reject food and still care for your partner.

Within 6 months of dating, I met her family officially.

I'll cohabit with her again for the same period, no extension. It was technically her house.

dawnomike:
I see no need for that whatsoever.

You don't know much about that. It has more positives than negatives

Samantha125:
I never did cohabited with my husband before getting married, I'd just visit and come back home.

I wasn't going to perform any full time wifely duties when I wasn't married and my family is against it.

It's not something you do with your family's consent or knowledge.

Leave am,na him go sch pass..My friend gf died giving birth. He paid almost 2mil bf dem put her for ground.Even if police no wori u,she no get where she come from??

ChizzyBuna:
Continue talking nonesense

phemmie06:
No, I don't do that. Why should you when you are not married to her?

Life is not black and white. Besides if you have a well defined purpose and goal for the relationship, cohabiting is not bad

helinues:
If you start your relationship with friendship, then cohabiting should be easy

During the friendship process, you should be able to know if the person is someone you can cohabit with. If you stick with your love map, anything from 60% should be okay

We used to be role model to other couples during end of tertiary. We no dey get any issue as we both understand each other. God bless the lady wherever she is

Why didn't U marry her? How can you cohabit for more than 6 months and not marry the lady?

How can you put someone's daughter in your house without paying her bride price??
That's irresponsible!

Yes I did for 7 years in the UK. Very common arrangement in the UK though. We met in our mid 20s and married in our early 30s. Still married for over 23 years with 2 lovely daughters.

In my family, you do, else you'll have my father to deal with.

ayusco85:
It's not something you do with your family's consent or knowledge.

Samantha125:
I never did cohabited with my husband before getting married, I'd just visit and come back home.

I wasn't going to perform any full time wifely duties when I wasn't married and my family is against it.

Oversabi they do u. I wonder how u handle ur home. Quick to talk wen not asked

Samantha125:
In my family, you do, else you'll have my father to deal with.

You are not matured enough then. most cohabitation happens during university days, let's say Ur man stays in a near by city where he works. I am not saying date Ur fellow undergraduate o. Date someone older and working class not fraudsters or jobless men

Samantha125:
I never did cohabited with my husband before getting married, I'd just visit and come back home.

I wasn't going to perform any full time wifely duties when I wasn't married and my family is against it.

I hope you know full time wifely duties include oza room duties. We all did it, no lie

I'd rather be immatured than a blockhead who easily gives herself away to be used without any guarantees of being upgraded into a worthy wife.

Even if my man stayed in the city nearby, I'd still visit him and not move in with him... And why would I move in with him when I had a comfortable accommodation that my parents were paying for?

ayusco85:
You are not matured enough then. most cohabitation happens during university days, let's say Ur man stays in a near by city where he works. I am not saying date Ur fellow undergraduate o. Date someone older and working class not fraudsters or jobless men

I don't know why you're offended...

tonymyke4life:
Oversabi they do u. I wonder how u handle ur home. Quick to talk wen not asked

Well, it takes two to tango.

bigcasava1:
I hope you know full time wifely duties include oza room duties. We all did it, no lie

loschivatos:
My honest take:
If two people can truly get to know and understand each other through only weekend visits and short stays, then that’s great for them. But personally, I believe that if you really want to know whether those sweet names “my love,” “my honey,” “my baby” are real, try cohabiting and see if you can survive one full year together. If you make it through that, then your real journey has only just begun.

Let’s be honest: no one truly understands what happens in a home except the two people living in it. Religious advice is important for those who are religious, yes, but religious leaders don’t run your home for you. When you let them, well, the men here know better. You are the ones who will live with the consequences, good or bad. In my case, I did for 2 years before marriage, now 21 years still counting...

And finally, one critical point:
As a man, never beg or pressure a woman into marriage.

oga! Now na women dey pressure men for marriage these days ohh!
The way women don pressure me for marriage heh!

Yes am doing it right now.... We will marry soon.... From my experience see finish is best b4 marriage.... You knw what you are marrying.... I have attempted marriage 3 times following the right route and i saw premium shege, from love triangles to outright deceit, family interferance, i ended up wasting money but this one am living with kinda worked very fine because of see finish we are living together, nobody cared and boom e don set, no external interferance, from one day visits then one week visits, before you knw marriage way i be day kill myself just start and am very happy i did cohabitate, if e set for you, no cohabitate........

Samantha125:
I'd rather be immatured than a blockhead who easily gives herself away to be used without any guarantees of being upgraded into a worthy wife.

Even if my man stayed in the city nearby, I'd still visit him and not move in with him... And why would I move in with him when I had a comfortable accommodation that my parents were paying for?

Not moving, like spending weekends. Or say one week. Unless U don't love him enough. It's not about what Ur parents can afford to give u. U can't stay with them forever. Those few times U spend with Ur potential spouse can unravel some traits U both will be glad U saw which will help U make a rational decision weda to marry them or not. No one said U should engage in intimate things while staying there. It should be Ur choices. U have to take some certain risks in life.

If your spouse ever spent 7days at a go in your house before tying the knot, you cohabited biko!