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Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

If your father has this same mentality I’m sure you wouldn’t be alive to enjoy the soft(lonely) life you are enjoying today. Marriage is not just for procreation alone it’s companionship and that’s why you must look right and be careful before choosing your spouse. And as for money it all depends on you because person wey go get money go get either married or single so erase that mindset and kids are extremely fun to have like watching someone grow from toddler to an adult like oneself is something out of this world. Please have a rethink my man.

Diamond098454:
you can't continue to run away from your responsibilities. Get married take care of your family and take full responsibility of your kids education the same way your parents did.

How do you know his parents gave him any education?

Na man when chop belle fool dey share with other people.

Person never take care of himself how then do you expect him to take care of a family?

wany:
But you will still cheat on her

then that man go suffer am, bcus that kind of women, hardly forgive

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

Someone else said it too.
At 52years he changed his mind got married and had a daughter at 84 years old he said having a daughter was the best thing ever.
Maybe one day you too will change your mind

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

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You owe yourself a duty to be responsible. As a man, you have no right to pursue happiness. That's why you should get married.

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If I hear constant puzzy. Married man wan tiff am? Those over 2 years in bondage with 1 child will get maximum once a month if they are lucky!

We are created to be fruitful and replenish the earth. Meaning, if your parents made the same decision u making right now, there will be no u.

I respect you decision though but not for me. lols

LiveWire85:
How do you know his parents gave him any education?

he can read and write very well. And he's also a writer Spencer is one of the guys i like in this forum because he talks without abusing people's opinions

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

We have observed your kind severally, they end up irresponsible and die miserably. They claim to be FREE from regulations but end up ENSLAVED by their misguided freedom.

Your life your choice your decision,

If that's what makes you happy Enjoy it, so far your decision does not cause people pain directly.
(By deceiving ladies just to get down on them).

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

my brother I envy you oo, Jesus no marry and he is the King of kings. Are we not asked to live Christ like? My advice for men let no one force you to marry. Is not an easy task.

You are to be paying separate rent for baby-mama and still pay your own house rent. That is one financial headache first.

Am not really relying on the emotional and mental stuffs. Am basing my facts on the physical transactions(financial) between you and a baby-mama.

SpencerForbes:
The actual money isn't the real issue here. It's all the mental and emotional stress that comes with it. The 'baby mama' thing is usually based on a clear agreement, and those payments are pretty minor.

But marriage? That comes with a whole new set of headaches and complications. Plus, I really don't think a baby mama situation is that costly, especially since most guys aren't typically covering the mother's expenses.

Xso666:
✓ If your father has this same mentality I’m sure you wouldn’t be alive to enjoy the soft(lonely) life you are enjoying today. Marriage is not just for procreation alone it’s companionship and that’s why you must look right and be careful before choosing your spouse. And as for money it all depends on you because person wey go get money go get either married or single so erase that mindset and kids are extremely fun to have like watching someone grow from toddler to an adult like oneself is something out of this world. Please have a rethink my man.

You of all people should be among those that should have learned not to sell marriage as the cure for everyone out there given your history. :🥴🥴🥴

Op is actually in a better is situation than the vast majority of married folks out there who think marriages defined them apart from it simply being yet another heavy burden they have chosen for themselves in this life that is already full of its own suffering for everyone. 🥱🥱🥱

Drifter02:
Although I'm afraid I might die alone, nonetheless I still have to admit being single without any extra responsibilities- no kids, no wife - is one of the best things to keep happening to me.

I was talking to one babe just this evening.. telling her to come, I'll cook her indomie and buy her something soft and babe was smiling coyly and bro.. I was seeing the future and I didn't like it

The future of me getting the girl pregnant filled me with apprehension. Imagine, if the girl's pregnant and I had a kid on the way, I won't have no time for myself anymore, my soft life will no longer be soft, I'll always have to be worried about money, about not losing my job.. my happy life will now be sad and constantly apprehensive and all the ills that comes with having a girl pest on your life..

Omo.. married men, I'd like to say "I feel for you" but na lie.. because asides from enjoying constant puzi you knew what you were getting your asses into.. and I'm so glad I'm not you.. and in any case not all of you have money issues

Where you see the constant puzi? If you know what men are going through in the name of marriage. Go and watch recent prank by queen of prank, @shabi_pounds_

Love800:
You are to be paying separate rent for baby-mama and still pay your own house rent. That is one financial headache first.

Am not really relying on the emotional and mental stuffs. Am basing my facts on the physical transactions(financial) between you and a baby-mama.

I just want to make sure things are clear. Baby daddies are not actually required to cover the entire house rent (except he wants to), and frankly, being her baby daddy doesn't mean she can't have her own life or a new partner. The baby daddy can help out with some support for the rent, but that's what it is—support, not a full obligation. If she starts feeling too entitled about it, or if covering her costs becomes too much for her, the baby daddy should be prepared to have their child live with him once they're old enough.

I know splitting up can be tough on a kid's mental health, so the child’s father has to be super involved while the child is growing up. The child is always welcome to come stay with the father permanently later on.

Vey irresponsible and potentially Very-very unstable.

Prince16:
The bolded/underlined is the greatest scam in marriage.
It's when you get married that you'll know your wife is a 'legitimate olosho'. The day you don't drop, she doesn't spread her legs. You don't buy her that wig, she closes 'shop'. She has a bad day at office, she smiles at her boss but transfers all the aggression on u at home

She can give you an overdose of that 'constant puzzy' when you are dating o, but it's all a scam to get you to put the ring on her finger. The moment she gets that ring finish ehn, she go revert back to default setting.

If "constant sexx'' is your reason for marrying, you had better think twice before taking that jump!

I don't know for you but in my own opinion, constant sex is actually boring

SAMBARRY:
na wetin them dey use gaslight una be this to marry

Marriage is full of responsibilities and expectations from your spouse,inlaws,church/mosque and so on.

Marry if you want,don't marry if you want.na you get your life.

Single life sweet.your money is your money your time is your Time,you can go anywhere at any time without anybody monitoring you like you're in captivity or expecting you to come home at a particular time. Sex is easy,free and available with choices.

Nobody is telling you what to do or how to live your life.abegii

All these woke mentality doesn’t belong to Africa. Nothing wrong with being accountable, responsible. If your parents was like you you wouldn’t be alive to have this ideology

Daniel058:
That can only happen to a man who maltreated his children while they re growing up

Hahaha…

@Drifter02

[b]Married people are some of the most miserable people u can ever come across. They may pretend and wear big smiles to fool the unsuspecting but definitely not us.

Some married guys dey even come our side to beg for funds. 🙆‍♂️ Many married men also dont enjoy sex as u would think they should do. Their wives are so busy from hustling and working to coming home, cleaning, cooking, breastfeeding and falling asleep...and this happens like 6 days out of 7 days of the week 🤣

Most times its just quickie d man go manage or even masturbate. After d so called hullabaloo of marriage, u see d same married men risking the breakup of their supposed cherished union by looking outside on the streets for new women 😂. Dont u see them in bars and clubs?

D society is changing. Baby mama full everywhere. Have sex with d girls but dont throw away their contacts. Some of them wil end up lonely as baby mamas or widows after them don use stress kill their husband throway. Then in ur old age if ure afraid of loneliness, go back and hook up with one of them again. Win-win situation. Life na common sense 😂. Just try to have a baby or two though. Forget marriage, na baba nla setup! The odds for success and long term happiness in it are too low 😃[/b]

IamAtAnger:
Dey play... e be like sey u never experience life before.. 🤣😅🤣 no worry

D guy na joke. Many nigerian kids wey don japa and don claim asylum say them no dey return to their home country again.

Other kids wey don travel interstate leave their papa for villa go hustle for city.

Many children wey no get funds to take care of their parents in old age no dey really get face and boldness to visit their parents cos them don disappoint.

Kids of today grinding in this tough world and facing a lot of financial pressure sotay them no even dey marry at 35, 40... and them still dey...

So if u like go get 10 pikin, e no guarantee say the father no go still die lonely. 😂

Even in marriage so many men are lonely in that house. If one of the spouses is caught cheating, thats the result. If na d man cheat, d woman fit no send am or sleep in d same room as they age.

If na d woman cheat, d man of course can never forgive that and will remain on his own in that house feeling lonely, even if d woman still luckily remains in that house.

So whats d fuss about this loneliness of a thing? Many animals when they grow old die lonely and weak. Lions, tigers, leopards etc.

Why shld man fear it so much? Take a cue from the animal kingdom 😂

wany:
But you will still cheat on her

Yes.

because she was either sleeping around when young or had multiple counts in her 20s. We read stories about Festac, Asaba, Port Harcourt and Owerri and how almost 80% of ladies have or currently engage in runsgirl / prostitution.

Also because d man pays the bride price and caters for most costs in d house.

If u want equality, no cheating... everything must be equal including, body count and financial contributions.

No cheating no ojoro

Love800:
Baby-mama is more expensive than wife.
I wonder how you got this your write-up!

Depends on the arrangement. U can have a live-in babymama that is just like a commonlaw partner.

U can have a babymama withdrawn from u. U focus mostly on ur kid's expenses

NothingDoMe:
Wrong! There's no constant puzi for married men. 🤣😅

D guy never get d memo.

Married men that cry inside and try to suppress their pain and scowl of entering wetin big pass them.

When first baby come, na from there wahala don be. First 1 month u cant sex ur wife cos shes healing. When baby dey cry for milk, woman go abandon d man. D womans instincts will move full swing to d child, d husband go keep hinself one side like agbaya dey reason hin life.

When d kids grow and are aware, wife wil be very careful when theyre having sex so the kids dont find out.

Limited time, limited window.

Quickie go wan kee papa 😂

Love800:
Abeg forget all this industrious this or that.

Na you go still shoulder 90percent of the family bills.

D guy never hear "Your money is our money but my money is my money".

Make hin deh play

AllBlack:
Oya woman. Tell us what are the responsibilities of a man. Tell us.

To be their slave. Women are fighting and defending this thing called "responsibilities".

They dont want men to wake up and realise this agelong scam. Eras come and go. Changes come. A time women never voted, today they do.

A time man has been stupid shouldering all responsibilities and dying quickly while d women move on. But surely one day, men will fully wake up to their senses. The awareness is spreading fast and women are shiit-scared 😂

Lolz, when you see a woman that captions your heart, your current decision will change, i understand your current situation, i believe there's someone for everyone..

AOresources:
You are an irresponsible man in view!

Indeed

HighQue007:
✓ All these woke mentality doesn’t belong to Africa. Nothing wrong with being accountable, responsible. If your parents was like you you wouldn’t be alive to have this ideology

What is wrong in not being alive? 🥱🥱

Are you married??
I'm talking about married couples here, not dating/courting couples.

Dutlring courtship, both parties put their best foot forward and try to appeal to the other partner as the next best thing after slice bread: the guy showers her with gifts, attention, calls and sms every 20 minutes etc. The girl too tries to appeal to him by showbolting her wifely duties: constant sexx on demand from him cooking, doing the laundry, body hygiene, etc.

All na wash! The moment they marry, they put most (if not all) these facade aside and show their true color.

bluefilm:
I don't know for you but in my own opinion, constant sex is actually boring