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Don't deceive yourself, every parent has their favorite child. No parents can love the children equally.
Growing up my immediate elder brother was the most favorite....
If my dad was to share us offering money for church, my immediate elder brother gets the biggest amount...
It was clear that the love was unequal, but we lived through it, and it never divided us as a family.

Any parent saying they love their children equally is probably lying.

I think the idea is to balance it up...

And not make it visible. To be fair and balanced to all and treat all equally even though deep down you know what is up!

Does having a favorite kid even matter? As long as parents are totally nailing their duties and obligations, it's fine. Being the 'favorite' definitely doesn't guarantee success in life.

Plus, parents might have legit reasons for their preferences—maybe it's about the crazy stress they went through before that kid arrived, or the good vibes and luck that came with them. It could even be down to the child's personality or if they look like a cool relative.

So, I reckon the real issue isn't if they have favorites, but whether they're being super obvious about it!

Joseph in the Bible was the favorite among the 12 children of Israel

brain54:
➜I think the idea is to balance it up... And not make it visible.
➜To be fair and balanced to all and treat all equally even though deep down you know what is up!

You'd have to be blind not to notice which of the children in a home is the favorite. I tried so hard to unsee it when I was a kid, but that was futile. And the other children in the home are always in the know.

2. That would be the ideal; however, in most cases, parents have their favorite and have a hard time being balanced in the treatments they give to their kids as a result. I have seen this everywhere and have come to accept that those who do it don't seem able to help themselves. And I have also noticed how affected the other kids are by it. Children aren't stewpid; they know which child is favorite to which parent. Do they think it is unfair? Of course!

Very true. No matter how parents try to deny, they do have a favourite

Kobojunkie:
You'd have to be blind not to notice which of the children in a home is the favorite.

2. That would be the ideal; however, in most cases, parents have their favorite and have a hard time being balanced in the treatments they give to their kids as a result. I have seen this everywhere and have come to accept that those who do it don't seem able to help themselves. And I have also noticed how affected by it the other kids are. Children aren't stewpid; they know which of the children is favorite to which parent. Do they think it is unfair? Of course!

I beg to disagree with your number 1 though...


A parent can have a favorite without giving hints to the kids. I know parents who raised their kids that way.

In my own home growing up my dad's favorite was known to all. Dude was almost always announcing his favorite with a speaker. I don't think it affected me in anyway.

Infact I think I was also his favorite in certain other ways. Parents can have different favorites for different reasons etc.

Now thinking about it I think my dad loved and had a different favorite for different reasons all 6 of us. He loved each of us for different reasons and were favorites for different reasons.


I once also had a partner that was complaining about her sister being the favorite of her dad. She was giving the jealousy vibes. It appears not every child takes it mildly if they aren't the favorite as it affects them!

If I have one child, let me see how me and the wife will get different favourites.

Sense will not kill me.

MONEY247:
Don't deceive yourself, every parent has their favorite child. No parents can love the children equally.
Growing up my immediate elder brother was the most favorite....
If my dad was to share us offering money for church, my immediate elder brother gets the biggest amount...
It was clear that the love was unequal, but we lived through it, and it never divided us as a family.

Any parent saying they love their children equally is probably lying.

brain54:
➜I beg to disagree with your number 1 though...A parent can have a favorite without giving hints to the kids. I know parents who raised their kids that way.
➜ In my own home growing up my dad's favorite was known to all. Dude was almost always announcing his favorite with a speaker. I don't think it affected me in anyway. Infact I think I was also his favorite in certain other ways. Parents can have different favorites for different reasons etc.
Now thinking about it I think my dad loved and had a different favorite for different reasons all 6 of us. He loved each of us for different reasons and was favorite for different reasons!

I have never come across such a situation to this day. Also, your statement assumes that parents whose favorites are known intentionally give away hints on who their favorite child is. From my experience, that usually only happens when the parent in question has some serious prejudice against the other kids. For a parent to literally raise one child above the others... that has to be some seriously toxic environment for the other children.

2. If you say so.

This man obviously fights with sleep while on the phone. No one can tell me otherwise.

Kobojunkie:
I have never come across such a situation to this day. Also, your statement assumes that parents whose favorites are known intentionally give away hints on who their favorite child is. From my experience, that usually only happens when the parent in question has some serious prejudice against the other kids. For a parent to literally raise one child above the others... that has to be some seriously toxic environment for the other children.

2. If you say so.

Lucky you, I'm my mother's least favourite child... She can't even see that I'm the only child who's been looking out for her by always being honest with her, something others wouldn't do.

My only crime is that I'm a blunt truth teller, something many people don't want to hear... She'd rather be misled by lies and regret it later than listen to me and be grateful for my honesty.

I'm grateful for my loving and supportive father, at least he listens to me.

brain54:
I beg to disagree with your number 1 though...


A parent can have a favorite without giving hints to the kids. I know parents who raised their kids that way.

In my own home growing up my dad's favorite was known to all. Dude was almost always announcing his favorite with a speaker. I don't think it affected me in anyway.

Infact I think I was also his favorite in certain other ways. Parents can have different favorites for different reasons etc.

Now thinking about it I think my dad loved and had a different favorite for different reasons all 6 of us. He loved each of us for different reasons and were favorites for different reasons.


I once also had a partner that was complaining about her sister being the favorite of her dad. She was giving the jealousy vibes. It appears not every child takes it mildly if they aren't the favorite as it affects them!

Growing up I was the 5th child out of 7 and was the favorite child and both parents would do anything for me. Why? Simply because I will go on any errand at any time without questions while the others won't.
This was why both parents didn't joke with my needs and would treat Me special.

Samantha125:
Lucky you, I'm my mother's least favourite child... She can't even see that I'm the only child who's been looking out for her by always being honest with her, something others wouldn't do.

My only crime is that I'm a blunt truth teller, something many people don't want to hear... She'd rather be misled by lies and regret it later than listen to me and be grateful for my honesty.

I'm grateful for my loving and supportive father, at least he listens to me.

Seems we are on the same boat here about my mom o...


I can say exactly the same about my mom. I often refer to myself as my mom's black sheep. It hurts sometimes because I feel I'm the most sincere with her and look after her feelings the most!

My Mum never hid her own!

My younger brother is dead! A large part of my Mum died with him.

My Elder brother is good! But he cares only about himself.

My Mum never hid her dislike for me, but I am among those taking care of her in her old age!

Now she tells me how much she loves me, but I am not buying it. If I am not taking care of her, she would not be telling me now that she loves me.

We The Black Sheep of our families, will always turn out to be the pillar they will need later in life!

MONEY247:
Don't deceive yourself, every parent has their favorite child. No parents can love the children equally.
Growing up my immediate elder brother was the most favorite....
If my dad was to share us offering money for church, my immediate elder brother gets the biggest amount...
It was clear that the love was unequal, but we lived through it, and it never divided us as a family.

Any parent saying they love their children equally is probably lying.

Sometimes my mother would tell me how she was hoping for a male child when she found out she was pregnant with me.

Sometimes I'm convinced that that's why I'm her least favourite child, she wanted a boy and I came a girl.

brain54:
Seems we are on the same boat here about my mom o...


I can say exactly the same about my mom. I often refer to myself as my mom's black sheep. It hurts sometimes because I feel I'm the most sincere with her and look after her feelings the most!

Samantha125:
Sometimes my mother would tell me how she was hoping for a male child when she found out she was pregnant with me.

Sometimes I'm convinced that that's why I'm her least favourite child, she wanted a boy and I came a girl.

😂 lol

Samantha125:
Sometimes my mother would tell me how she was hoping for a male child when she found out she was pregnant with me.

Sometimes I'm convinced that that's why I'm her least favourite child, she wanted a boy and I came a girl.

What I wanted versus what I got...


You come go stubborn join. I'm sure you were a tomboy when you were a kid?

In your next life come as a dude!

MONEY247:
Joseph in the Bible was the favorite among the 12 children of Israel

Yeah and Joseph's case was borne mainly because Jacob his father truly loved his mother. And the preferential love was one of the seeds that made his brothers do the evil they did to him. Please parents in the house, even if you love a child more try not to show it. Jealousy is a natural trait in humans.

But parents need to be mindful of what they say to their children during the heat of the moment because those words really hurt, you're basically telling me that you didn't want me and probably still don't want me... And what's funny is that these mothers would never blame the fathers of their children for having a hand in determining the sex of their babies, they'd rather take out their frustrations on the children.

I was tomboy throughout my teens, I think I only had less than 5 dresses and even so, I'd only wear them during special traditional ceremonies since Christianity was still a foreign religion to me back then... I loved myself some sneakers, jeans, caps, Tshirts, I'd even refer to myself as a nigga and usually hangout with my male high School classmates... ... One of my best friendships was actually with guys, you guys really know the true meaning of friendship, if it was possible, I'd only want to have male friendships, but unfortunately, it isn't... I was more outspoken and free around them where else with my gender, you have to always be mindful of the things you say as our feelings are fragile.

I only started changing my style after I met my husband... ... I needed to enchant him with my feminine power and it worked, since then, I haven't looked back...

brain54:
What I wanted versus what I got...


You come go stubborn join. I'm sure you were a tomboy when you were a kid?

In your next life come as a dude!

Samantha125:
But parents need to be mindful of what they say to their children during the heat of the moment because those words really hurt, you're basically telling me that you didn't want me and probably still don't want me... And what's funny is that these mothers would never blame the fathers of their children for having a hand in determining the sex of their babies, they'd rather take out their frustrations on the children.

I was tomboy throughout my teens, I think I only had less than 5 dresses and even so, I'd only wear them during special traditional ceremonies since Christianity was still a foreign religion to me back then... I loved myself some sneakers, jeans, caps, Tshirts, I'd even refer to myself as a nigga and usually hangout with my male high School classmates... ... One of my best friendships was actually with guys, you guys really know the true meaning of friendship, if it was possible, I'd only want to have male friendships, but unfortunately, it isn't... I was more outspoken and free around them where else with my gender, you have to always be mindful of the things you say as our feelings are fragile.

I only started changing my style after I met my husband... ... I needed to enchant him with my feminine power and it worked, since then, I haven't looked back...

Yo nigga you are absolutely right...

Chop knuckles 👊



Parents definitely need to be mindful what they say and do around their kids. One wrong word and it can hurt and damage a child's personality for a long time. Especially mothers because somehow most kids get more attached to them.

I don't have kids yet but I can relate how I interact with my siblings. It's only right to balance and be fair to all irrespective of whom the favorite might be.

From the picture on your profile its difficult to imagine you as a homie hanging out with the guys when you were much younger. Because you look very feminine. you really transformed.

Your husband really tried bringing out the seductress and feminine powers in you which was redundant he surely deserves a medal!🏅

Either way, I still love my mother because whether she likes it or not, she's stuck with me for life...

I now dislike that N word with passion and get irritated whenever I hear an African utters it... I blame the influence America hip hop had on me back then, I now hardly listen to it anymore, but I still know Eminem and Lil Wayne's rap lyrics word for word...

Even I sometimes can't believe that I was once a tomboy, but I really miss that platonic male company...

Anyways, let's not derail the op's thread... Have a good day.

brain54:
Yo nigga you are absolutely right...

Chop knuckles 👊



Parents definitely need to be mindful what they say and do around their kids. One wrong word and it can hurt and damage a child's personality for a long time. Especially mothers because somehow most kids get more attached to them.

I don't have kids yet but I can relate how I interact with my siblings. It's only right to balance and be fair to all irrespective of whom the favorite might be.

From the picture on your profile its difficult to imagine you as a homie hanging out with the guys when you were much younger. Because you look very feminine. you really transformed.

Your husband really tried bringing out the seductress and feminine powers in you which was redundant he surely deserves a medal!🏅