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Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

Take the bold step of initiating things, like joke great things emerge from little beginnings.
No one knew he/she was going to succeed they just tried.
I believe life is all about trying

Write down your goals. Put your vision into words and read it every day.

Listen—there are only two kinds of people in this world: the rich and the poor, the strong and the weak, the predators and the prey. Always choose to be the first!

Always have something productive doing. Don’t wait until the millions come before getting married—a good woman often comes only once in a man’s lifetime.

Your greatest weapon is your mind. Train it to see opportunities, not obstacles.

Finally, don’t surround yourself with too many friends. When they are too many, you won’t recognize your enemy among them.

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

Marriage and children are optional and do not come with a guaranteed increase in happiness; relationships only bring fleeting rewards. Find your happiness first in yourself and your life before you then decide whether any of those options are worth investing in. If you do not first realize self-love before it all, you are almost guaranteed to regret any/all relationship decisions you make.

Marriage is the new luxury item. https://youtube.com/shorts/RWtxFLObofY?si=_nTfpLQWGQimhPPq

In all you do, the most important soft skills to have are emotional and social intelligence, and the ability to discipline yourself in all aspects of your personal and professional life. 🥱🥱🥱

Improve yourself and be careful before choosing a woman in your life. First, improve yourself. It never stops, even after marriage. Don't take marriage advice from women. Listen to what men tell you. You need to learn from men before bringing any woman into your life and most importantly, choose from her family. Don't be blinded by fantasy love. Study other men and observe. Take advice from elders, it will save you 30 years of mistakes.

Advice 2

Try to learn solitude. It will help you focus and know yourself. Study old philosophy - Stoicism, Martial Arts or any related field for discipline, African Proverbs for wisdom, and history for identity. You will need these to navigate different situations in life.

You will one day turn thirty or forty.

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

Exercise and eat healthy. Understand what ambition is and understand what priority means. Those 2 words will guide you in making great decisions.

If you don't take risks to escape poverty, you'll end up in a single room with your wife and children complaining about the past. This is not an advice.

If you are a virgin, Fear God and obey Him.See that thing called fornication, Run from am.

For virgin girls, know that non virgins are your worstest enemies. They must set you up to throw away your virginity including having you raped.

Now for virgin boys, if they can do this to virgin girls, why would they not throw themselves even freely to have you bleep them? Whether aunty, mama or married women, both too beautiful and ugly. All of them are coming for you. So don't think yourself lucky that women are pursuing. It is wolves that are pursuing you sheep.

So note this one in addition to the other ones people will tell you

tHE LOVE THE GIRL ZHOULD HAVE FOR YOU ZHOULD EMORE THAN YOURZ CLOC THAT IN

Put God first, obey his words, put in the work(work hard/smart(honest work)).

Start exactly at 20,commence living very low. Save and invest like ur life depends on it.

Your first capital is crucial to ur survival. If u waste it,u have doomed your life.

Jettison any relationship that may cost u money especially if u are from poor background like me.

Stay away from friends who are into yahoo,gay,gambling,fine boy life without work and any kind of criminalities.

Don't rush into marriage without adequate money...u might be creating for yourself,a generational but pitiable poverty.

Invest like mad before u turn 30 so that,u can save ur 40s and 50s. That is the current life I am living now.

All the best folks.

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

Learn to Build Your Social Circle and Complementary Relationships as a Lifestyle from an Early Age👇
https://www.nairaland.com/8581978/build-social-circle-lifestyle-early

Know who you are by engaging yourself in solitude, then build on the knowledge of who you are.


The only true happiness comes from inside you, your mind is the theater of your destiny.
Be the gate keeper to your mind by selecting what gets to your mental health. Never take criticism and mockery to heart but as motivation never to give up on yourself.

No one is coming to save you except God and your resilience to keep going when the going gets tough.

Abeg make I drink water

Let me go straight to dis matter.

Neva have girlfriends in 20s!

But you see this mistake, 90percent of niggas will still fall for it!

Pathetic.

avoid alcohol, any type of smoke and women

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

Guess this thread is for men only.

Just reading through comments

Value time, friends, family.
Think clearly, think long-term.
Know when to stay and when to walk away.

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

no matter how critical is ur situation, never ever indulge in any form of sporting betting activities.

Save yourself from the trap of " self comparism". You don't know the struggles of that man or woman whom you think has a perfect life. Your journey is unique, your path is different embrace it.

tobore4u:
no matter how critical is ur situation, never ever indulge in any form of sporting betting activities.

E do show you shege

Reading comments

Rule 1. don't keep friends
Rule 2. Keep your wins and opportunities to yourself until it manifest
Rule 3. Listen to your inner mind
Rule 4: Not everyone needs your help and not everybody is worth helping
Rule 5: learn to say no sometimes no matter who is involved....

Do what you like.

No one can be careful enough.

Start now. Early starts are the key. Learn those skills, get those certifications. Live responsibly and don't joke about putting God first. He is the only one who can give you a meaningful life afterall.

Ignore women and make Money. Thank me later

Chase your dream not women

I am 45years old so in a good position to advice.

Never ever ever joke with your source of income. Never !

Secondly, you will realise that everybody doesn't send you. So ultimately, family is everything i.e the family you create.

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

life begins at 40. Dem no dey tell man

If you're still in Nigeria try as much as possible to getat before hitting 35.

Except you plan to marry early, dump all the girls and face your lifei

Ibechris2:
Start exactly at 20,commence living very low. Save and invest like ur life depends on it.

Your first capital is crucial to ur survival. If u waste it,u have doomed your life.

Jettison any relationship that may cost u money especially if u are from poor background like me.

Stay away friends who are into yahoo,gay,gambling,fine boy life without work and any kind of criminalities.

Don't rush into marriage without adequate money...u might be creating for yourself,a generational but pitiable poverty.

Invest like mad before u turn 30 so that,u can save ur 40s and 50s. That is the current life I am living now.

All the best folks.

Any advice on investment Areas sir

Hamachi:
Men in their 30's and 40's what advice will yoi give to a 20 year old man today?

1.Exercise, exercise, exercise, like it is the thing that would save your life.

2. Eat your vegetables

3.Time to do all those courses, online and physical

4.That babe you are eyeing...take the risk and ask her out.

5.Exercise, exercise, exercise.

6.Don't touch alcohol, cigarettes, and too much sugar.

7.Study and get a first class. Or a second class upper.