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From fire to firepan

Kobojunkie:
And this one calls himself a Lawyer!🙄🙄🙄

Would he have preferred she remain married to the man while keeping herself a married side-dick on the side, probably like her husband? She did well to first leave her scumbag of a husband before moving on. She is not to blame for society's general lapse in judgment... the phenomenon that accepts adulterous acts of a married man. A sidechick is not to blame for a married man's cheating. 🥱🥱🥱

By your logic she should have remained without dating a married man also

Kobojunkie:
And this one calls himself a Lawyer!🙄🙄🙄

Would he have preferred she remain married to the man while keeping herself a married side-dick on the side, probably like her husband? She did well to first leave her scumbag of a husband before moving on. She is not to blame for society's general lapse in judgment... the phenomenon that accepts adulterous acts of a married man. A sidechick is not to blame for a married man's cheating. 🥱🥱🥱

You've always had a hard time with sound judgement. A woman's dignity to you is as dead as a forgotten hit song iof the 50's.

Little wonder the 21st century women have no shame.

Most married men treat their side chicks better than their wives. So I supposed she weighed her options. She doesn't have to cook or wash for him or pick up after him or deal with all his struggles. Hers is to enjoy the kporo and gifts and sweet lies that the man will give her. It also allows her to be side chic to more than one man without breaking any further moral code other than sleeping with married men.

wildcatter23:


Where is the sense of rationale in this matter?

You decide to change roles from house wife to side chick.

Where is the sense in all this?

She chose what best for her I supposed. If I have an option to be side boyfriend or main boyfriend I will chose to be the side guy. As long as I am aware. What I will not accept ia telling me and me believing I am the main when I am not.

Fulgur:
You've always had a hard with with sound judgement. A woman's dignity to you is as dead as a forgotten hit song iof the 50's.

Little woman the 21st century women have no shame.

Ewedegubbler:
My friend from Enugu married a big politicians daughter, brought her to South Africa but the gal and her mother so badly undermined this guy.

She decided to leave the marriage and moved back
To naija with their only Child

Fast forward it today, this ex wife of his is now his sidechick while he is happily to another humble gal.

Life no balance ooo

Hahahaha. Some women are better kept as side chick. While some are better not touched at all, like those stupid toxic feminists.

There are many real reasons why a wife can divorce her husband. Cheating is not the only reason....

dettolgel:
She chose what best for her I supposed. If I have an option to be side boyfriend or main boyfriend I will chose to be the side guy. As long as I am aware. What I will not accept ia telling me and me believing I am the main when I am not.

A side guy! There's nothing as 'unmasculine' or effeminate as a man choosing the regurgitation of another man.

There's nothing smart or responsible about being a side guy. It's a loser's jungle paradise. Like a hyena among lions and tigers.

Don’t believe everything you read on the internet.

The logical gender should understand that it is better to be a villian than a victim in this case.

The woman doesn't want her husband to cheat; she has no jurisdiction over what another woman's husband decides to do.

Is this too difficult to understand?

dettolgel:
Most married men treat their side chicks better than their wives. So I supposed she weighed her options. She doesn't have to cook or wash for him or pick up after him or deal with all his struggles. Hers is to enjoy the kporo and gifts and sweet lies that the man will give her. It also allows her to be side chic to more than one man without breaking any further moral code other than sleeping with married men.

Finally, someone with sense!

She doesn't even need to be a side chic to multiple men. Just one man capable to be a sugar daddy ti wa okay.

That place you think that you are the main guy is being probably mine by someone as a side gig, whereas you are the one "paying the full cost" for it, while still sharing it without knowing it.

Oga na toto matter, mine is to knack all her problems and emotional baggage you as the main boyfriend you can keep it and enjoy it. I ain't interested in that mine is to chop and clean mouth without dealing with her drama. The drama na for men like una

Fulgur:
A side guy! There's nothing as 'unmasculine' or effeminate as a man choosing the regurgitation of another man.

There's nothing smart or responsible about being a side guy. It's a loser's jungle paradise. Like a hyena among lions and tigers.

IbrahimSola:
Then why become a side-chick TO ANOTHER MARRIED MAN at all if you left your husband because of another side-chic? Is this not insanity?

What is the insanity there?

MobilityMFR:
A "rational" woman prefers to be the second-class citizen in a foreign country to being the First Lady in her country. Strangely, that's how they are weird! Mtcheew!

What are the advantages of being a wife to a Nigerian man versus his side chic?

Long time goal of sorrow where the man keeps cheating torturing her emotional until he becomes old and sick. Then she starts taking care of a dying sick man until he dies and what does she gets out of it nothing, just empty title. While the side chics have enjoyed the man in his youths and his money and humane side as well.

Luak:
It's actually attractive, however it means forgoing a long term goal and living for the moment

dettolgel:
That place you think that you are the main guy is being probably mine by someone as a side gig, whereas you are the one "paying the full cost" for it, while still sharing it without knowing it.

Oga na toto matter, mine is to knack all her problems and emotional baggage you as the main boyfriend you can keep it and enjoy it. I ain't interested in that mine is to chop and clean mouth without dealing with her drama. The drama na for men like una

You still don't get it. It's not really about being played by a woman. It is the defeatist mentality of you having a preconceived idea of being a "toto" scavenger.

TemporaryHansel:
Oyindidi is this really you? Welcome back.

Yeah it me. How have you been?

Kobojunkie:
And this one calls himself a Lawyer!🙄🙄🙄

Would he have preferred she remain married to the man while keeping herself a married side-dick on the side, probably like her husband? She did well to first leave her scumbag of a husband before moving on. She is not to blame for society's general lapse in judgment... the phenomenon that accepts adulterous acts of a married man. A sidechick is not to blame for a married man's cheating. 🥱🥱🥱

Would you love to be a side chick to a married man?.....I could link you up

The bitter truth is that if you divorce your husband because he cheated with a side chick, you would be leaving your own home and position as a wife to the side chick, you will automatically become a side chick to another married man.

So ladies, marry your best friend, a man with the fear of God, who also has a responsible man he respects, who can call him to order either in the family, church or society. So that when he cheats, you have him reported to that person to ask him questions.

Then, sit him down, ask him what you're not doing right or where you offended him, just sort it out with him.

The only reason I can support a woman to leave her marriage is physical abuse.

If it is cheating, 75% of married men aren't innocent. So, that woman that's encouraging you to leave your husband, what her own husband is doing might be worse than yours. Stay guided.

I think you are the one who didn't get it, by thinking that everyone shares the same ideology as yours or that everyone places "kpekus" on a high pedestal like you do

Fulgur:
You still don't get it. It's not really about being played by a woman. It is the defeatist mentality of you having a preconceived idea of being a "toto" scavenger.

Don't mind these horrible men that litter this forum . Treat your wives well both with dignity and respect, so she won't leave you to become a side chic to another married men. I am yet to see any man with side chic that treats his side chic as horrible as he treats the wife. NL wants to have their cake and eat it

bukatyne:
Finally, someone with sense!

She doesn't even need to be a side chic to multiple men. Just one man capable to be a sugar daddy ti wa okay.

Samantha125:
Indeed education without wisdom is useless... He calls himself a professional lawyer while acting very unprofessional by bringing his clients' personal affairs on social media for the entire world to see and judge.

I'd never hire such a lawyer's services as a lady, I know a biased misogynist when I see one.

He didn't give details of the client, so he has not breached the rules of professional conduct. So rest madam. After all, you cannot even afford a lawyer!

inoki247:
Who dey clueless reach some Women...


The same thing you left your Marriage for nA him u sef dey go run for another person marriage....


Trying to also destroy another person's home...

Some even end up as side chicks to their ex husband whom they divorced previously when he's remarried or in a serious engagement

Doesn't make sense and very redundant

dettolgel:
I think you are the one who didn't get it, by thinking that everyone shares the same ideology as yours or that everyone places "kpekus" on a high pedestal like you do

If having the last word is your thing, by all means proceed even if your points are vap.

Fulgur:
✓ You've always had a hard time with sound judgement. A woman's dignity to you is as dead as a forgotten hit song iof the 50's.
Little wonder the 21st century women have no shame.

Do the 21st century Nigerian men have shame? Why should the 21st century Nigerian women bother themselves with such meaningless constructs when men are not held to the same standard? :-
If society has shame meaning absolutely nothing where men are concerned why should the same society expect it to mean anything to the women? 🥱🥱🥱

Hussein035:
✓ By your logic she should have remained without dating a married man also

Wrong! She at least cleared out of the marriage with the disrespectful douchbag she was married to. Nothing wrong with her dating afterwards.

maasoap:
✓ 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Kobo no go kill person for Nairaland.
Kobo is not right in the head, walahi. Was that decision even beneficial to that wife, herself?

Use your brain next time! The scumbags are those who are married and creating...not those who are single and still dating. A single individual owes a society that allows married men to date np politeness.

mikeapollo:
✓ You have no genuine point. What sense does it make for a married woman to divorce her husband for cheating, then she becomes a side to another married man? Unless the woman had been cheating on the husband and now wants an excuse to justify her continued cheating.

It makes every sense since divorce releases her form the legal contract that is marriage by which she could be legally charged of a crime for dating while married. Being single means she is free to date as she wants.

PassingShot:
✓ So, does it now make sense that she's now an adulterous woman herself ?

Use your brain! Adultery only applies to those who are married . She is no longer married therefore free to date as she chooses..🥱🥱🥱

ogascomax:
✓ You show say you really dey okay?

Consider yourself first. 🥱🥱🥱