₦airaland Forum

IbrahimSola:
✓ Then why become a side-chick TO ANOTHER MARRIED MAN at all if you left your husband because of another side-chic? Is this not insanity?

Samantha125:
Indeed education without wisdom is useless... He calls himself a professional lawyer while acting very unprofessional by bringing his clients' personal affairs on social media for the entire world to see and judge.

I'd never hire such a lawyer's services as a lady, I know a biased misogynist when I see one.

tollyboy5:
She's a bad egg just like her husband. The other married man here is the winner.
He keeps his marriage and flirt with a divorcee and might also have a young chick also.
Life no balance, be on the winning side is better . That's what the other married man is benefiting from the losers.

GenFunction:
Chai.
It's a pity u think this way.
So na side chick she wan be now?
Na her toto go hear am.
Very poor decision my dear.
It's okay to abandon the marriage,but to go and be a side chick?
Come on mehn.

YeyeGbami:
✓ Moving on to become a free kpekus 😂😂😂

Kobojunkie:
Do the 21st century Nigerian men have shame? Why should the 21st century Nigerian women bother themselves with such meaningless constructs when men are not held to the same standard? :-
If society has shame meaning absolutely nothing where men are concerned why should the same society expect it to mean anything to the women? 🥱🥱🥱

Adonkia:
from one scumbag to another.

Zocalite:
✓ You like this kind of thread too much
Kilode!

Angelfrost:
✓ Okay.... So, why become a side-chick giving another hapless woman the very same headache she ran from?!!
✓ Yes, a side-chick is not to blame for a man's cheating, but she is undoubtedly a key element in the vicious cycle of infidelity... I mean, she can easily say no!

Fulgur:
➜Many a woman has lost her purpose and happiness and consequently their essence when they peer across the gender divide in envy and lust, and I dare say malice.
➜ There are many, and they roam the cyberspace with a twisted concept about life, roles and gender, and then a twisted sense of entitlement.
Well, the hole is between your thighs, so, you have a lot to lose when you lose shame.

Amarachieze:
➜Read the submission carefully: She was rightly not happy because her husband cheated
➜ but now she's doing the same wrong to another woman.

Fulgur:
If having the last word is your thing, by all means proceed even if your points are vap.

Kobojunkie:
1. Women never lose their right to pursue life, liberty, and happiness... same as a man can't ever lose that right, too—UN Universal Human Rights. No peer or emotions can cause one to lose those rights. I suggest you get yourself educated on what your rights as a human being are... it is the same as those women have.

2. Nonsense! The same way a man has to protect himself during sex to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies, is the same way a woman also loses nothing when she protects herself during sex. 🥱🥱

Shame is generally a societal construct. When society no longer shames men for being community dicks, knowing that these men need women to be this, the women have no reason to walk around ashamed for doing the same.

Kobojunkie:
The one who caused her unhappiness was the married man she was contracted to be a wife to.

2. She is not doing anything to another woman, given that she is not the one married to this other woman. Her husband i,s and that woman should focus her attention and grudge against her husband.

Fulgur:
➜With you there's always a cognitive void when logic is involved. You barely can see eye to eye with common sense. Rights most of the time is birthed from a concept of human emotions not necessary in line with reality. I wasn't talking about human rights in my post.
➜ And there we go, a 'man' protecting himself from unwanted pregnancy you say? Aren't you just the ramification of a society basically at odds with common sense? And why didn't basic biology teach you that you're more likely to get infected than a man?
➜ A morally healthy woman knows what she loses when she offers sex casually. But this is completely beyond your scope of understanding as you've long shed your innocence in the bed of "freedom".
➜ What is left of you is someone lawless, unhinged, carefree with whom nothing is ever sacred, not even the passage leading to her fertility chamber.

Amarachieze:
➜This sounds 'sadistic" and gender biased you mean the very act that broke your marriage is no wrong to woman your are sleeping with the husband?
➜ And you seem to be justifying an adulterous woman while vilifying the man.
➜ In other words, women are free to sleep with people's husbands and the men are not to think of it talk less of doing it.
➜ Sorry to say that it is absurd and gender or rather feminists extremism

tunjijones:
Almost every man wants to cheat.

Listed below are what stops men from cheating from my own perspective:
1. The fear of God
2. The fear of your wife
3. Poverty.

Ewedegubbler:
➜My friend from Enugu married a big politicians daughter, brought her to South Africa but the gal and her mother so badly undermined this guy. She decided to leave the marriage and moved back
To naija with their only Child. Fast forward it today, this ex wife of his is now his sidechick while he is happily to another humble gal. Life no balance ooo

Diamond098454:
not every man cheat? Hmmmmmm this is the first time I'm hearing this.

culf:
Becoming what she dislike. Breaking another woman's home, it's bad.

Oyindidi:
That's life for you, it's only bad when you're at the receiving end

dettolgel:
It pays her more given that side chicks get better pecks than wives get from their husbands

wildcatter23:
Where is the sense of rationale in this matter? You decide to change roles from house wife to side chick. Where is the sense in all this?

Jman06:
My dear, not every man cheats! What I think is that many men end up not marrying the kind of ladies they desire but marry anyone who is available at the time they want to get married and thereafter they start cheating with the ladies they really desire. Sometimes, they marry the ladies they don't really desire but who has the potentials to help them gain economic empowerment. Once they become economically buoyant, they'll start cheating with those kinds of ladies they desire.

Fiscus105:
➜The story is common, 90% of ex wives, the ex husbands still having access to their honeypots, while the ex-husband now happily married with another woman. Even the ex-wives that since remarried to another man not excluded.
➜ Any guy that married single mother, which her husband still much alive, hail and hearty. I pity who no pity you.

Amumaigwe:
➜Please, whatever is the lady's identity? Once a lady is held accountable for her terrible life choices, all frustrated woman will want rally to her suppose.

Kobojunkie:
1. The act that broke her marriage is her husband's violation of his marriage vow — he made the vow to his wife, and then he broke the vow. What is sadistic and gender-biased about that fact, which is recognized by the law? 🥱🥱🥱 This is very funny : Her husband violated his marriage vow and she divorced him, now another woman's husband is continuously violating his own marriage vows with her and that doesn't border you
Her husband is to be blamed for sleeping with another woman and the husband of another woman she is sleeping with is also to be blamed for sleeping with her . She is simply a victim in the two cases.
This is a joke taken too far-Blind feminism.

2. You don't seem to know the meaning of the word "Adulterous". An adulterous individual is a married individual who violates his or her marriage vow. By divorcing her adulterous husband—a married individual who violated his own marriage vows— she ceases to be married and can hence not be adulterous in her dealings. Her exchange with the adulterous married man only makes her a party to the adultery but does not make her adulterous.
A party to adultery but not adulterous? Two individuals committed adultery, one is adulterous the other is not. Imagine

Please, endeavor to learn the correct meaning and correct application of terms.

3. Nigerian society applauds married men who sleep with other women, does it not? Meaning that any woman who sleeps with a married man is not to be held accountable for married men and their choices in any way.

4. Nothing of what I stated here has anything to do with such, but what are your societal norms and laws? Are your laws feminist? Gender-biased, I get, but feminist... I doubt.

Tenrack:
She go listen? Don't waste your breath on an already confused gender. They can blame everyone but themselves. People wey dey allergic to accountability

Accountability is the obligation to take responsibility for your actions, decisions, and outcomes, requiring you to explain, justify, and answer for them, fostering trust and order in personal, professional, and governmental contexts by promoting ownership and honest conduct. It's more than just blame; it involves being dependable, addressing problems proactively, and facing consequences, with issues arising from lack of it leading to low morale and unmet goals, while systems like tracking and clear communication help control it.

oalandAgents2:
A divorced woman over age 30 is cooked. If she initiated the divorce for only the minor reason that her husband is non monogamous, then she cooked herself.