₦airaland Forum

Jman06:
There are men who are naturally designed to love and be with only one woman. I'm an example of such men. Once I'm in love with one girl, I find it very difficult to love another girl. I wonder how some of you manage to date multiple women at the same time.

You said natural? I don't thinks its natural. Male hormones are not created to have a single sex partner.

I think the one man one wife thing is for population control.

Offpoint1:
➜Why are ranting about? Your husband will cheat and there's nothing you'll do it sweetheart.

Well, the same way a man can divorce a cheating wife is the way this woman chose to divorce her cheating husband. And on top of that, she can herself go on to date other men as she sees fit; same thing a man can do. So, what do you mean that a woman cannot do anything when her husband cheats on her?

djukum1:
Hmmmm! What a shame

. It is indeed a shame that a lawyer thinks a woman should forgo her rights and remain in an adulterous marriage rather than obtain her freedom from it entirely so she can freely go out and explore better options than that of life as a slave to an adulterous man in marriage.

RillJ:
➜Sometime ago my neighbors wife divorced him after 2 kids because she concluded beyond all reasonable placations that he was cheating.
Her 'evidence' - my G always get home late from work (10-11pm)
After 4 years in the open market with relationship with some married men, she wanted to return only to see my guy with a new wife pregnant for the ex.
I do not support cheating but I would advice the women to reason carefully before taking the decision that would turn their lives drastically.

Storyland! The ex-wife will be fine. If it took her 4 years to consider returning to him, then that means she probably had options but has yet to realize the advantage that gives her. Men literally do the same thing she did... return after someone outside has burnt them... to women they formerly abandoned. It does not necessarily mean they want those women back to treat them better, but rather that those women were the cheapest option they thought available to them at that point. So, don't be shocked that women can think the same of men, too.

The ex-wife did the right thing by leaving her cheating ex-husband.

GenFunction:
That word is alien to that moniker ...

It is not me that the word is alien to but to the one who invokes it without knowing either its correct meaning or correct application. Please, endeavor to take the correct meaning and application of terms before you use them.

Accountability is the obligation to take responsibility for your actions, decisions, and outcomes, requiring you to explain, justify, and answer for them, fostering trust and order in personal, professional, and governmental contexts by promoting ownership and honest conduct. It's more than just blame; it involves being dependable, addressing problems proactively, and facing consequences, with issues arising from lack of it leading to low morale and unmet goals, while systems like tracking and clear communication help control it.

No one is blaming anyone here for the divorced woman's decision, which is really well within her rights. She dependably addressed the one problem before her, which was her husband's cheating by exiting the marriage altogether, so that rather than remain bound to an adulterous man, she could pursue her own freedom and happiness away from him. That she is dating a married man is not her problem to deal with same way her former husband's sidechick was not her problem to deal with; Rather, it is a problem for the married woman married to the adulterous married man.

Kobojunkie:
And this one calls himself a Lawyer!🙄🙄🙄

Would he have preferred she remain married to the man while keeping herself a married side-dick on the side, probably like her husband? She did well to first leave her scumbag of a husband before moving on. She is not to blame for society's general lapse in judgment... the phenomenon that accepts adulterous acts of a married man. A sidechick is not to blame for a married man's cheating. 🥱🥱🥱

Does this make sense to you?

Treasure17:
➜Does this make sense to you?

What doesn't make sense to you, assuming sense for you is not as pulled from your traditional/religion dung pile.

Kobojunkie:
Married men are allowed to be free community dicks... Nothing wrong with a woman wanting the same freedom. Second, sidechick kpekus is not free even to a married man. Yes, married men spend more per capita on their sidechicks than on their wives. So, she literally went from being free to a married man to being of greater value to a married man. 🥱🥱

Hehe greater value to married men you mean, she will passed around warming bed here and there till she receives sense.

YeyeGbami:
➜Hehe greater value to married men you mean, she will passed around warming bed here and there till she receives sense.

Wrong! She will date only whom she wants to date when she wants to date.

If you hate women so much that you see them as only kpekus being passed around, why not date your fellow men instead and love them as your equals?

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! She will date only whom she wants to date when she wants to date.

If you hate women so much that you see them as only kpekus being passed around, why not date your fellow men instead and love them as your equals?

I love women paaaaa, God no go let me hate woman

But you sef know say una no even know wetin una want gan gan.

That lady weighed her options and choose what's best for her. Why the jolosy everywhere.
Or,
Are they angry she is not lonely and in church lamenting she made a mistake?

Make una face front.
Afterall,it is not good eating the same soupevery day.
Who knows,the ex husband thing may be way below average for her liking.
Let her be.
Nobody moans when a man does same.
Make she get one or 2 pikin and the sky is her and her kids limit if she plays her card smartly

YeyeGbami:
✓ I love women paaaaa, God no go let me hate woman
✓ But you sef know say una no even know wetin una want gan gan.

You clearly see women as holes for you to put your pickle into and I am explaining that men also have a hole you can dip your pickle into while still valuing them as more than just a hole. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Women know what they want in man and that includes respect. Clearly you are the one who don't know this and this is the reason I continue to insist you date men instead. 🥱🥱

dettolgel:
Most married men treat their side chicks better than their wives. So I supposed she weighed her options. She doesn't have to cook or wash for him or pick up after him or deal with all his struggles. Hers is to enjoy the kporo and gifts and sweet lies that the man will give her. It also allows her to be side chic to more than one man without breaking any further moral code other than sleeping with married men.

Well, few years from now, she will be dropping advice on Facebook and tiktok for married women not to hurriedly leave their marriages because of cheating when financial responsibilities and loneliness is choking her. 🤣🤣

Kobojunkie:
Please, endeavor to take the correct meaning and application of terms before you use them.
No one is blaming anyone here for the divorced woman's decision, which is really well within her right.

😩 I wasn't even referring to whom you think I'm refering to

descarado:
That lady weighed her options and chose what's best for her. Why the jolosy everywhere.
Or,
Are they angry she is not lonely and in church lamenting she made a mistake?

Make una face front.
Afterall,it is not good eating the same soupevery day.
Who knows,the ex husband thing may be way below average for her liking.
Let her be.
Nobody moans when a man does same.
Make she get one or 2 pikin and the sky is her and her kids limit if she plays her card smartly

Well, her lawyer is saying she's a terrible decision maker and the majority of us agreed with her lawyer. Do you get it now?

YeyeGbami:
Hehe greater value to married men you mean, she will passed around warming bed here and there till she receives sense.

Or, something worse

Kobojunkie:
You clearly see women as holes for you to put your pickle into and I am explaining that men also have a hole you can dip your pickle into while still valuing them as more than just a hole. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Women know what they want in man and that includes respect. Clearly you are the one who don't know this and this is the reason I continue to insist you date men instead. 🥱🥱

You dey shalaye too much, e b lyke you like men wey dey do men. Ire o, my hand no dey

YeyeGbami:
✓ You dey shalaye too much, e b lyke you like men wey dey do men. Ire o, my hand no dey

All is to make it clear to you that you are better off with a man than a woman. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Name some of these better reasons to stay married when rather than seek a divorce?

2. Why should another marriage be the solution for leaving one marriage? Why can't you focus on resolving the problems that got you stuck in the first marriage you had to leave before then deciding whether finding a new one or taking a long hiatus would be best option?

3. So, my guess is as a woman you were financially abused in your marriage explaining why after x number of years of marriage, you come out unable to afford a place of your own. And rather than direct your anger at the right person-- your abuser -- you turn around to blame those who told you you were better off without your abuser in your life in order that you can finally begin working on you? You want them to take you on as some sort of charity case after your foolish decision to invest all for nothing in the name of marriage?

4. I see! She should not leave even when she is emotionally, mentally or even financially abuse. (All more than valid reasons to want to leave an unfulfilling marriage, by hmm the way.) She should wait until the man is ready to literally throws her out into the streets -- something that ultimately happened to well over 50% of women by age 40 -- before she knows she should begin fighting for herself and her own life? 🥱🥱

I think you are a woman from your comments

you usually colour everything with abuse and all what not, almost all your comment is centered around abuse of women as if that's the only reason marriages fail. Always try to comment based on context of the post

The lawyer is speaking from a moral point of view, if you as a woman left because you hate cheating, why become a side chick to a married man after divorce

for your information, all side chicks enables cheating!

No be juju be that. What madness cannot cure, more madness will.......

Lovit:
...The lawyer is speaking from a moral point of view, if you as a woman left because you hate cheating, why become a side chick to a married man after divorce
✓ for your information, all side chicks enables cheating!

Lawyers are not trained to speak from your so-called moral point of view as the very first thing any lawyer learns is that societal standards of morality are bullsheet as far as standards do. 🥱🥱

2. The law does not recognize side chicks as enablers of cheating; rather, it holds the married individual culpable.

If, for instance, a married woman wishes to sue her husband and probably his mistress for adulterous acts, she first has to enter into a divorce -- penalizing her married husband -- before she is then able to proceed. That is the law.

Kobojunkie:
All is to make it clear to you that you are better off with a man than a woman. 🥱🥱🥱

Dakpada!

YeyeGbami:
✓ Dakpada!

It is ok to date your fellow men and hold your head up high with respect which you can't afford women.

Kobojunkie:
It is ok to date your fellow men and hold your head up high with respect which you can't afford women.

You no dey gree, you go force me chop wetin I no want ni.

Kobojunkie:
And this one calls himself a Lawyer!🙄🙄🙄

Would he have preferred she remain married to the man while keeping herself a married side-dick on the side, probably like her husband? She did well to first leave her scumbag of a husband before moving on. She is not to blame for society's general lapse in judgment... the phenomenon that accepts adulterous acts of a married man. A sidechick is not to blame for a married man's cheating. 🥱🥱🥱

Trash trash trash as usual. I am still trying to imagine the kind of person you will be in real life. Certainly not a pleasant person.

maasoap:
Well, her lawyer is saying she's a terrible decision maker and the majority of us agreed with her lawyer. Do you get it now?

It is her choice.
Not her lawyer.
He has absolutely no right to tell her what to do.
The same way nobody has the right to tell the lawyer what is right or not when he want to make his own decisions?
Do you get it now?

maasoap:
Well, few years from now, she will be dropping advice on Facebook and tiktok for married women not to hurriedly leave their marriages because of cheating when financial responsibilities and loneliness is choking her. 🤣🤣

Her choice, her life.
Face yours.

Not too hard?

Gosh

ariesbull:
Tufia

oga if u can't respect people or can't be committed then y married ,u ,would condone ur partner sleeping with ur friends ,let's b realistic nd put our sef in same shoe

themanderon:
✓ Trash trash trash as usual. I am still trying to imagine the kind of person you will be in real life. Certainly not a pleasant person.

You might give yourself a brain hemorrhage trying to consider that which is beyond its capacity. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
It is not me that the word is alien to but to the one who invokes it without knowing either its correct meaning or correct application. Please, endeavor to take the correct meaning and application of terms before you use them.
No one is blaming anyone here for the divorced woman's decision, which is really well within her rights. She dependably addressed the one problem before her, which was her husband's cheating by exiting the marriage altogether, so that rather than remain bound to an adulterous man, she could pursue her own freedom and happiness away from him. That she is dating a married man is not her problem to deal with same way her former husband's sidechick was not her problem to deal with; Rather, it is a problem for the married woman married to the adulterous married man.

Me?
Drag something with you?
It's not going to happen on this platform.
Godforbid.