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dollypi:
I'm tired of all the marriage and relationship topics.

What are you then doing in romance. Go to politics or business section.

No

Kalatium:
What are you then doing in romance. Go to politics or business section.

FriendsAndFans:
I like the colouring you gave this major sentence. Even men avoid fighting each other.
There are many reasons that could make a man make it home late. I'm coming home to Peace and not confrontation

Must you find something to change the narrative, how many men come home late because of their nagging wives,and how many women can take their husbands late coming other than work.

If you want freedom to do as you wish them don't get married and continue whatever you want,a genuine woman would always seek her man to know about his welfare,if something bad happens tomorrow she'll face it alone family no go send.

If it was a woman going out and coming late you'll probably not let her in so just let's tell ourselves the truth. Maybe she has always put up with it and it made him start keeping more late times out maybe before he comes by 9/10 then starts coming by 12 or even 1am. It's gotten to another stage and she had to summon the strength. Meaning the courage to talk to him. Even you get choked up on somethings and need to say your mind.

If you don't ready your mind for confrontation in marriage it's not marriage, because that woman is a silent killer. It's better to speak up than to be pretending.

SpencerForbes:
Men need to bring more to the table than just money

We really need to start practicing what we preach. You can’t be out here scouting for a "virtuous, God-fearing, and hardworking" woman when your own character is so questionable that even God is afraid of you. If you want a certain quality in a woman, make sure you're reflecting those same traits yourself.

Also, we need to stop thinking marriage is only about age or having a fat bank account. Real maturity is about wisdom and actually understanding what family values mean. Without that foundation, a man will just end up wrecking his own home and then turn around to blame "women of nowadays" for the failure.

Lastly, deal with your baggage before you say "I do." If you’re still carrying insecurities and trust issues from your past dating experiences into a marriage, you’ll just end up being paranoid. That kind of energy eventually pushes a good woman away and kills the peace in the home.

Whenever you see a man typing an epistle like this, just know that he has ZERO YEARS of marital experience.

Well done o! Mr. Marriage Counsellor! No be you I dey pity, na people wey dey take you seriously I pity.

ravensckar:
Whenever you see a man typing an epistle like this, just know that he has ZERO YEARS of marital experience.

Well done o! Mr. Marriage Counsellor! No be you I dey pity, na people wey dey take you seriously I pity.

Please, let’s stop this "you're not married" narrative. Did I grow up in a vacuum? We all come from families and we see what’s happening around us every day. Marriages aren't happening on Mars; they happen right here. If you aren't observant enough to see what’s working or not, don’t assume others are blind too

I’ve personally seen a man physically abuse two wives until they both died from heartbreak and stress, yet his family was still there cheering him on. Do I really need a marriage certificate to know that's wrong? You don’t need to set your own house on fire to know that fire burns. Let’s leave all these gender wars aside (I don’t participate in such sh*te btw)—when you see the truth, just acknowledge it.

ogbe88:
U talk too much woman wrapper.

Because I drop points for women today, I be woman wrapper 🤣🤣🤣 No vex sir.

Just that I’ve noticed a lot of young guys focus way too much on the kind of woman they want to marry instead of working on themselves. It’s pure hypocrisy. You’ll see a guy who is lousy, unruly, and can’t even maintain basic neatness, yet he’s searching for a "decent woman."

Searching for one just so he can go and punish someone’s daughter? Then tomorrow, he’ll be the first to come online and shout "women of nowadays."

If you follow some of my comments you’ll know I don’t support them— they have lot of faults too but let them enjoy their small win today, I’m definitely coming back for them tomorrow.

ravensckar:
Oga, even a village idiót will not believe a single thing you typed above.

You're speaking on marital issues when you yourself are unmarried? Seriously? It's like someone who doesn't have a child, attended a PTA meeting and still made himself/herself a key note speaker there. Make we stop to dey whyne ourselves nau.

Yes, opinion is free on the Internet, but even at that, a person like you should express yours modestly because you obviously have no knowledge or experience of the subject matter under discourse. On what premise is your opinion based? Your imaginary neighbour? Textbook knowledge? Movies or books?

It didn't even take me 10 seconds to figure out that you're unmarried from the way you typed. It's typical of you unmarried folks to speak so confidently (and ahem ignorantly) on marital issues. It's often said that experience is the best teacher. And in your case, you haven't learnt a thing. Hence, you have no locus standi to speak so confidently on a subject that you yourself are a complete ignoramus.

#No_Offense.

"Experience is the best teacher" is a tired cliché.
Experience is just a hard teacher that gives the test before the lesson. There’s nothing "best" about a lesson you might not recover from—take death, for example. Those who have that experience aren't here to tell the story, but we all know what’s up.

You don't need to be married to know that domestic violence is evil. You wouldn't wait for your sister to be a victim before you realize it's wrong. Let’s be real: a man without self-control and tolerance has no business being a husband. If he forces it, the woman pays the price.


On the issue of my marital status, it’s no secret that I’m single. I’ve been open about it in all my posts—some ladies here even use it to catch cruise with me. So, unless you’re new here, this shouldn't be news.

My point is this: if you have any young man around you, focus on teaching him values rather than giving him a list of what to expect from a wife. If a man lacks character, even if he marries "Virgin Mary," he’ll still end up on the internet shouting "women of nowadays" to cover his own failures

So if someone wants to jump off a bridge, I guess we shouldn't advise them because we haven't "experienced" suicide? 😂 we should just fold our arms and watch since we haven't "experienced" it. Or better yet, we should let the person finish the job so they can get the experience and come back to tell us why it's bad.

Actually, the best move would be to call a dead person to come and give advice, since they are the real "experts" with experience. You people and this your "must experience it" reasoning follow a very funny map, I swear.

Or probably we’ll let our sister’s experience domestic violence from someone we know is dangerous just because we haven’t experienced it. Funny way of reasoning.

So

SpencerForbes:
Because I drop points for women today, I be woman wrapper 🤣🤣🤣 No vex sir.

Just that I’ve noticed a lot of young guys focus way too much on the kind of woman they want to marry instead of working on themselves. It’s pure hypocrisy. You’ll see a guy who is lousy, unruly, and can’t even maintain basic neatness, yet he’s searching for a "decent woman."

Searching for one just so he can go and punish someone’s daughter? Then tomorrow, he’ll be the first to come online and shout "women of nowadays."

If you follow some of my comments you’ll know I don’t support them— they have lot of faults too but let them enjoy their small win today, I’m definitely coming back for them tomorrow.

Well u are right.

Some Men don't know how to hold a simple conversation.

They also have bad characters, well hopefully they will do better and try to improve

Jozilinn:
Must you find something to change the narrative, how many men come home late because of their nagging wives,and how many women can take their husbands late coming other than work.

If you want freedom to do as you wish them don't get married and continue whatever you want,a genuine woman would always seek her man to know about his welfare,if something bad happens tomorrow she'll face it alone family no go send.

If it was a woman going out and coming late you'll probably not let her in so just let's tell ourselves the truth. Maybe she has always put up with it and it made him start keeping more late times out maybe before he comes by 9/10 then starts coming by 12 or even 1am. It's gotten to another stage and she had to summon the strength. Meaning the courage to talk to him. Even you get choked up on somethings and need to say your mind.

If you don't ready your mind for confrontation in marriage it's not marriage, because that woman is a silent killer. It's better to speak up than to be pretending.

Are you married?

Tenrack:
Tate is disgusting how? Have you ever shared a room with the man? Dialogued with him? That man is a perfect gentleman. You should try and get to know him better.

Andrew Tate is not the sort of person I'd be in a room with considering what comes out of his mouth.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EmKs_jsS5-w?si=tOE7XSqvXI7FLK4Q

budaatum:
Andrew Tate is not the sort of person I'd be in a room with considering what comes out of his mouth.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EmKs_jsS5-w?si=tOE7XSqvXI7FLK4Q

Leave wetin dey comot for him mouth and pay heed to wetin him dey do. That's all. You'll change your mind.

Tenrack:
Leave wetin dey comot for him mouth and pay heed to wetin him dey do. That's all. You'll change your mind.

That might work for 12 year olds, but mature people watch both words and deeds.

I definitely would be worried if my sons listen to him, and moreso if my daughters do.

budaatum:
That might work for 12 year olds, but mature people watch both words and deeds.

I definitely would be worried if my sons listen to him, and moreso if my daughters do.

this is serious.