₦airaland Forum

Dogalmighty17:
Withholding intimacy unto say na gold you carry for there? Any wife who does this is an unserious person.
I will keep saying this. Side chicks are the greatest contributors to the economic health of Nigeria. Side chicks are the reason why a great majority of marriages last long.

For crying out loud, all the men in the bible God loved had side chicks. Jacob carried OS. God told Hosea to go and get down with OS (Hosea 1:2). Abraham was given a loot. David had multiple women. Abi na Solomon own I go talk? Dude had more p--sy lying around than days in a year and yet him and God were leveling up. So WTF?

The same God that gave Moses the commandment against adultery ordered his prophet to go f--ck a prosti**te.

If she close leg, dem plenty outside. Go run your thing. No time for rubbish.

Father4all:
women don't have standards. They set it for men they don't like

DMCA:
if u are not pleased why stay?

MasterTeeUSA:
Applies both ways..sefini

dahunsi12:
You dey mind that wicked-being?

After providing food, shelter, children schools, buy them clothes, send money to their parents etc they will still deny you intimacy and if their husband wish to go to the street they will still call their husband names. Most married women are just too wicked.

Jman06:
Sometimes I wonder how people enjoy sex without the full consent and participation of their partners. Before making love to your wives, guys, learn how to put her in the mood first. This may require prepping her psychologically by being more romantic prior and during the period

Eagleways:
Byjust satisfy his or her urge and save us your wicked manipulative logics. If you respect him yourself, you should know that his urge in marriage is his right

Winterhaven:
You probably didn't read the full article, you must have read only the heading

Teymanhenry:
You'll understand when he goes out to mount another woman. You can only use that against a broken husband... You are not happy with him and will allow him to mount you but will collect money when he hands it over to you right?

omooba969:
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Why can't she prepare the man psychologically as well, by being more romantic. This is her matrimonial role...c'mmon na! 😡

budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!

Kobojunkie:
. Why should she, particularly if she is not happy in the relationship, as the other commentator suggested? The manipulation here is the expectation that the man should have his urges satisfied even when he is clearly not reciprocating the energy she has been pouring into the relationship. Even the prostitutes that the man probably runs off to on the side get so much more out of their encounters with him than the wife, so what incentive does she have to give her body to him? 🥱🥱


You just bringing up things the writer never wrote.. where did the writer say the woman shouldnt be respected. You have just manipulatively added the man not respecting his wife.. which is another topic entirely... your type will always find excuses to always do as you please

2. Respect in marriage is meant to be both ways, not one way, even in your marriage. So, why insist it is OK when the man does not respect his wife, but expects her to respect him regardless? 🥱🥱🥱

drsibz66:
No human can ALWAYS be pleased with another human.There are always going to be times when you wont be happy with your partner, spouse or husband.. but resorting to withholding .....

drsibz66:
Its like saying the man when he is not pleased with his wife ,therefore has the right to withdraw his responsibility to his family. PEACE

budaatum:
Is mounting your main issue when either of us is not pleased with the other?

Man, will you let me mount you when you are not pleased with me?

Wouldn't we both want to mount each other and enjoy the mounting if we first resolve whatever it is that makes either of us withhold mounting?

Do you really love and care and respect me if we do not first resolve whatever it is that makes you want to mount when I am withholding?

And do you sincerely think you are in a healthy worthwhile marriage if I let you mount when I am displeased with you?


You have already withdrawn your responsibility to your family when you show no concern for the member of your family you want to mount without finding out why said family member is withholding!

And to be honest, I must ask myself why I married immature you to whom mounting means more to than whether I'm pleased or not.

I can just about imagine your mounting too. You'd climb on top of me and grunt a couple of times and come and be done in 5 minutes with no concern or consideration for my own coming or enjoyment.

Trust me husband, when I say I'd rather give you money to go mount olosho just so I can have peace!

Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop dancing around uncomfortable truths.

Marriage is a partnership, not a power game.
And when one partner deliberately withholds intimacy not for health, safety, trauma, or mutual agreement, but as leverage that’s not “setting boundaries.”

That’s control.

We rightly call it Financial Abuse when one partner withholds money to dominate or punish.
The same logic applies when emotional or physical connection is weaponized to manipulate behavior.

This isn’t about entitlement.
It’s about mutual responsibility.

Marriage operates on shared access, shared duty, and shared care. When one partner unilaterally shuts down a core pillar of the relationship without justification, the system breaks. Trust erodes. Resentment compounds. Stability collapses.

Let’s be clear about these:

Consent is non-negotiable.
Health and safety come first.
No one owes performance.

But patterned deprivation used as punishment is not consent culture, it’s coercion.

Healthy marriages don’t run on ultimatums. They run on communication, empathy, compromise, and alignment.

If intimacy disappears, the question isn’t “Who’s wrong?” It’s “What’s broken and are both parties willing to fix it?”

Because marriage isn’t sustained by silence, avoidance, or moral grandstanding. It’s sustained by adult conversations and shared accountability.

Power plays destroy partnerships.
Honesty repairs them.

Choose maturity. Choose repair. Choose partnership.

#Marriage #EmotionalIntelligence #HealthyPartnerships #ConflictResolution #Adulting

budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!

Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop dancing around uncomfortable truths.

Marriage is a partnership, not a power game.
And when one partner deliberately withholds intimacy not for health, safety, trauma, or mutual agreement, but as leverage that’s not “setting boundaries.”

That’s control.

We rightly call it Financial Abuse when one partner withholds money to dominate or punish.
The same logic applies when emotional or physical connection is weaponized to manipulate behavior.

This isn’t about entitlement.
It’s about mutual responsibility.

Marriage operates on shared access, shared duty, and shared care. When one partner unilaterally shuts down a core pillar of the relationship without justification, the system breaks. Trust erodes. Resentment compounds. Stability collapses.

Let’s be clear about these:

Consent is non-negotiable.
Health and safety come first.
No one owes performance.

But patterned deprivation used as punishment is not consent culture, it’s coercion.

Healthy marriages don’t run on ultimatums. They run on communication, empathy, compromise, and alignment.

If intimacy disappears, the question isn’t “Who’s wrong?” It’s “What’s broken and are both parties willing to fix it?”

Because marriage isn’t sustained by silence, avoidance, or moral grandstanding. It’s sustained by adult conversations and shared accountability.

Power plays destroy partnerships.
Honesty repairs them.

Choose maturity. Choose repair. Choose partnership.

#Marriage #EmotionalIntelligence #HealthyPartnerships #ConflictResolution #Adulting

drsibz66:
You just bringing up things the writer never wrote.. where did the writer say the woman shouldnt be respected. You have just manipulatively added the man not respecting his wife.. which is another topic entirely... your type will always find excuses to always do as you please

budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!

Kobojunkie:
. Thinking a woman's body is there to serve your sexual pleasure is disrespectful,if you don't know this already, I suggest overhauling your mindset.🥱🥱🥱

drsibz66:
➜So where was that written in my write up. Or you also control my thoughts.. your gender ,assumptions and manipulations are 5 &6 . You just bring out a statement from anywhere and start dwelling on it.. What part of my statement portrays and says a womans body is meant to serve mens sexual pleasure. You are irredeemable ... Do what suits you cos you devoid of any reality or rational thoughts.

drsibz66:
You are either a bitter person , hiding under the delusion of strong woman or you lack basic reading and comprehension skills.

WHY...

BECAUSE YOU LEFT OUT THE PART OF THE WRITE UP WHERE I SAID IN TIMES ISSUES... COMMUNICATION AND RESETTLEMENT SHOULD BE THE GOAL AND NOT REFUSING SEX OR WITHHOLDING RESPONSIBITY..
And you still come here to ask same questions.

Nnamdipapa:
The same goes the other way, you constantly make me angry, and if you want sex, I have advised her to get a Love Machine as I am never having a conjugal congress when not happy with you. Never!

Nnamdipapa:
➜The same goes the other way, you constantly make me angry, and if you want sex, I have advised her to get a Love Machine as I am never having a conjugal congress when not happy with you. Never!

joseph1832:
so the only reason why you'd want your husband to mount you, is when you're please with him?

MKPUOGALIGA:
Why get married if you are not ready.

This issue of denying your husband s3x has ruined marriages.

Kobojunkie:
She gets a lovemachine, while you get yourself a sidechick? Abeg, declare that marriage an open marriage or you two should divorce already! 😑😑😑

budaatum:
No, the only reason why I'd want my husband to mount me, is not only when I am pleased with him, though I definitely will not be mounted when he makes me unhappy.

I want to mount my husband because he is the man I love and married, which I did because he is kind and respectful and loving and caring and considerate, and I want to show him I care for him and love him in return. After all, another word for mounting is to make love to each other in a caring loving relationship.

And in fact, when I don't want to be mounted, he will understand and wait until I am ready, because he is not some selfish pig who thinks of his own enjoyment alone, or I wouldn't have married pig in the first place.