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Not easy to be a man in this crazy world.

Dtruthspeaker:
Is it not because she truly is an oloshee? How many woman married a man when he had nothing? Do you not see how well treated the ones who married their men when they had nothing?

https://www.nairaland.com/6854526/met-wife-when-nothing-nigerian#107705723

https://www.nairaland.com/4325003/man-shares-throwback-photos-himself#64711685

But when a man does same thing he is praised as odogwu and no one calls him olosho. That's the unfairness.
Men also dump the mgbeke they married when poor and marry a stylish slayer that fits their new status, or marry second wife, or dump a woman after sleeping with her 7 years and marry someone he just met!

FreeIgboho:
But when a man does same thing he is praised as odogwu and no one calls him olosho. That's the unfairness.
Men also dump the mgbeke they married when poor and marry a stylish slayer that fits their new status, or marry second wife, or dump a woman after sleeping with her 7 years and marry someone he just met!

They are actually also abused only that, they will attack you with their riches.

And for the poor man who got rich, even you realise that they are an insignificant category of which they are very much condemned and abused. So, it's not the same

A woman is born with value but a man is expected to build value. The system is rigged against men. The expectations society have for men are too high. Men are not loved,only women and children are loved. When a man talks about the harsh reality of life,he is called weak but when a woman does that,she gets sympathy and favour.My advice to men is to help themselves and put themselves first. We matter too and deserve love,care, support and respect. Do not let the society tell you how to be a man cos most times you are getting programmed to become useful to others and useless to yourself. It's a cold world out here menh!!!.

virginboy1:
Hmmm..go to obalende bridge at night or early morning and see so many fallen men, abandoned men , men been spat on... because they failed, because they have no value ..no body send them .. they sleep untop the bride and rain fall on them... It's a cold world for men.
No value... society hates him, women hates him, even his fellow men hates him.

Then go there tomorrow and help them.
Nobody will stop you and you can be accompanied by 5 men on this thread. God bless you as you do so.

Dtruthspeaker:
They are actually also abused only that, they will attack you with their riches.

And for the poor man who got rich, even you realise that they are an insignificant category of which they are very much condemned and abused. So, it's not the same

Just admit that life is unfair to women BECAUSE IT IS MEN THAT SET UP THE SYSTEM!
A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers.
Unfairness everywhere.

Even the Bible says a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife. Society changed it to a woman should leave her parents - because it is men that set it up!
And he can tell her to pack and go back to her parents anytime.
There are countless other unfairness. Just go the villages

thank bro

GrammarNazi1:
May we never fall.

We must create value.

Don't say that. It is natural to fall. Not everyone would fall, but when it happens, it has a way of teaching us what we don't know. It redirect our lives.

I was once in such situation. I never knew life could become harsh and unfriendly. Closest friends turned their backs on me. Even family would abandon you in some cases. I became a laughing stock. It wasn't a good experience for years but it thought me a lot. However, it brought me closer to God. We all seek his face in difficult times and he never fails. I'm not a born again, Infact you don't need to be a born again for God's mercies and grace. He is so loving.

Eventually I rose again, this time, more better than I was before. I rediscovered who I am. I conquered territories and broke boundaries and achieve a lot that seemed impossible before now.
To fall is to learn and rise with full force. It will unleash the hidden potentials in you which you never knew was there before.

Unfortunately many people fall and just accept their fate that way. It's not supposed to be so

vdestro:
You know the craziest part of it? It is that he is mocked and ridiculed by his fellow men and not just by women, alone.

Then when the tables turn, it is still men who do the excuses and sympathies for a woman. You will hear leave am now, na woman she be.

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Diamond098454:
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Funny how?

qtx:
See wisdom! Blunt and honest truth. Thumbs up, bro, for a good piece.

You are welcome and thanks for reading.

FreeIgboho:
Just admit that life is unfair to women BECAUSE IT IS MEN THAT SET UP THE SYSTEM!
A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers.
A man will dump the mgbeke he married when poor and marry a stylish slayer that fits his new status, or marry second wife, or dump a woman after sleeping with her 7 years and marry someone he just met!
Unfairness everywhere.
Even the Bible says a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife. Society changed it to a woman should leave her parents - because it is men that set it up!
And he can tell her to pack and go back to her parents anytime.
ETC.!!!

Go back to the basis, you would see that It is women who first set it up before God scattered their ivu plans by tilted it by carrying the men up.

For first it is your mother telling you the boy that you must do everything to be rich (note everything whether rituals or drugs or armed robbery and today kidnapping without expressly saying so) while telling the girls to do everything to catch and hook a rich man which is oloshee bizn.

And here she toys and deceives the poor unfortunate boy who did not listen to his mother's silent pressure to go and make money who now fell in love with her after she has agreed to carryout her mother's advice.

And now she deceives him and breaks his heart and then he sees that it is because he has no money.

So, how do you now think that he won't turn the tables when he has done everything. (rituals, drugs, yahoo etc) to be rich and must deal with any woman who jumps for him? Doe he not know that it is because he has money?

And of course, it is still on this basis why girls do not get to inherit from their father for they marry a man who is even richer than her brothers at an early age. And then she already has possessions while the boys keep on working and working and only start getting some one or two things when they are 40. Meanwhile in those 20years their younger sister and her rich husband have gone over far

oyeb15:
When a man makes money,he believes he needs more women but when a woman makes money,she believes she need no man.

The moment your wife get richer and greater than you, then u are gone.

Okay, according to your analogy, the husband of Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala should do what then?! look for a way to drag her down, lower than his level in order to massage his ego??!

Women who ends up with men of your mentality, are always in perpetual bondage, because - every attempt the woman makes to rise and prosper are always antagonized and stepped-down by the man, due to his insecurities.

SIRTee15:
guy quit this boring and unnecessary rhetoric
women also suffer double standard.
They are shamed for body counts and having multiple sexual partners.
no one cares if a x video of a man is leaked, he may even be hailed for his performance in the video. a woman's leaked x video is a disaster for her and her future.
An ugly man can compensate with money, charm and good humour. not the same for an ugly woman- even if she has good character and well domesticated. a woman's first and ultimate attraction is her beauty irrespective of lies peddled by men.
a woman that has big yansh and breast and fair has made it in life courtesy of men.

women have biological clock, a man at 40 can get married to 21 yr old princess. a woman at 40 has very little choices for suitors. baby daddy is not a limitation in anyway, he can even get married to a virgin girl. A single mother already have a hard life by virtue of that tag.

Nature deals with us all in different ways, instead of moaning and sounding irritating, each gender should embrace his/her role in life and be ready to be accountable for his/her action.

Hmmmm...Not too far from the truth but lets examine some of the points you listed.

1. A girl with multiple body counts is as a result of her own decision to ha e multiple body counts. Some dont want to work now but after easy and soft life.

2. Dont you think an "ugly" woman can compensate for her value? Any serious guy that wants to settle down with a lady will look beyond brea*t and a**

3. Ladies at 40 with no man wont tell me during their early 20s and late 20s...no single man approached them. They set high standards and waste their youth pursing guys with no intention to settle with them.


Most of the points you highlighted are debatable....life is not perfect.

FreeIgboho:
Life is unfair to women.
Men don't have to worry about periods, and pregnancies, and childbirth, and breastfeeding, and being called olosho for wanting variety in sex, etc. On top of everything, after all her suffering the child belongs to the man and bears his name and her own line disappears.
Life is indeed so unfair to women.
A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers.
Life is unfair to women simply because it is men that set up the system.

A man will dump the mgbeke he married when poor and marry a stylish slayer that fits his new status, or marry second wife, or dump a woman after sleeping with her 7 years and marry someone he just met!
Unfairness everywhere.
Even the Bible says a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife. Society changed it to a woman should leave her parents - because it is men that set it up!
And he can tell her to pack and go back to her parents anytime.
ETC.!!!



See my write-up above. Do you still think it is a woman’s world?

I get what you are saying but this post is specific to men challenges. You saying this here is trying to undermine men's daily challenges.

alphaconde:
How gender equality doesnt distribute life torture equally

How can there exist gender equality when the ones most against that are men? 🥱🥱🥱

Dpsychologist:
I get what you are saying but this post is specific to men challenges. You saying this here is trying to undermine men's daily challenges.

The system itself is unfair to women. With men it is an individual thing.
Which is understandable because it is men that set up the system, with no female input whatsoever

FreeIgboho:
The system itself is unfair to women. With men it is an individual thing.
Which is understandable because it is men that set up the system, with no female input whatsoever

Seems you want me to derail the thread now focusing on women not men.

FreeIgboho:
Just admit that life is unfair to women BECAUSE IT IS MEN THAT SET UP THE SYSTEM!
A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers.
Unfairness everywhere.

Even the Bible says a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife. Society changed it to a woman should leave her parents - because it is men that set it up!
And he can tell her to pack and go back to her parents anytime.
There are countless other unfairness. Just go the villages

Wake up, this is 2025 not 1990! Many educated wealthy men now have wills that takes care of their daughters, some are even giving their daughters the inheritance while they're still alive. The growth from 1990 to 2025 is astronomical and truly wealthy parents are not leaving anythhing to chance or societal whims!

Kobojunkie:
How can there exist gender equality when the ones most against that are men? 🥱🥱🥱

He's actually right. Nature did not distribute torture equally. Women bear all the nastiness while men are left free. It would have been more fair if, for example, men bore monthly periods while women bore pregnancy and childbirth

alphaconde:
How gender equality doesnt distribute life torture equally

You are right

FreeIgboho:
He's actually right. Nature did not distribute torture equally. Women bear all the nastiness while men are left free. It would hace been more fair, for example, if men bore monthly periods and women bore pregnancy and childbirth

The pain of pregnancy or monthly period is periodic compared to the constant pain men go through on daily basis just to survive. Have you seen some kind of dangerous jobs that men do to put food on the table for women and children yet they get zero or less appreciation for their efforts and sacrifices? To every man out there going through hell,I feel your pain.

FreeIgboho:
➜He's actually right. Nature did not distribute torture equally. Women bear all the nastiness while men are left free. It would have been more fair, for example, if men bore monthly periods while women bore pregnancy and childbirth

. He is wrong, and so are you in this.

We are talking of equality in terms of human experience as curated by humans(society), not nature. Yes, nature gives women more to bear than men— periods and childbearing among them— however, that does not present a reason why human society should not consider women respectable enough to enjoy the same/equal rights as men in society. And we all know that the ones who baulk against women having equal rights in society are men.

FreeIgboho:
➜Just admit that life is unfair to women BECAUSE IT IS MEN THAT SET UP THE SYSTEM! A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers. Unfairness everywhere.
➜Even the Bible says a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife. Society changed it to a woman should leave her parents - because it is men that set it up! And he can tell her to pack and go back to her parents anytime. There are countless other unfairnesses. Just go the villages

Indeed! We need to separate Nature from society! Society, led by men, has systems set up to place the woman beneath the man. 🥱🥱🥱

2. When I tell Christians that this is one of the primary reasons that their marriages have nothing to do with the content of that book, they lose their heads and flail around like mad folks for it. Religion is a societal construct, a system created by men with which to corral, like animals, the gullible men and women out there. 🥱🥱

abbey621:
Wake up, this is 2025 not 1990! Many educated wealthy men now have wills that takes care of their daughters, some are even giving their daughters the inheritance while they're still alive. The growth from 1990 to 2025 is astronomical and truly wealthy parents are not leaving anythhing to chance or societal whims!

See your conditions for the female to get what should be naturally hers - "Many educated wealthy men now have wills". How about no education, no wills? How about traditionally?
Check the villages. A woman can't be seen with a man for years after her husband dies, while a man can be sleeping with his second wife same night! In the old days the alive wife actually gets buried alive with her husband!
Just admit things are unfair to women because it is men that set it up!

Kobojunkie:
Indeed! We need to separate Nature from society! Society, led by men, has systems set up to place the woman beneath the man. 🥱🥱🥱

2. When I tell Christians that this is one of the primary reasons that their marriages have nothing to do with the content of that book, they lose their heads and flail around like mad folks for it. Religion is a societal construct, a system created by men with which to corral, like animals, the gullible men and women out there. 🥱🥱

And you can't blame the men. If it were women that set things up they'd also cheat men!

Kalatium:
Its a hard world for a man.

Yet the same man makes it harder for a woman by way of societal systems put in place to settle the woman beneath the man who already thinks it hard for him. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
. He is wrong, and so are you in this.

We are talking of equality in terms of human experience as curated by humans(society), not nature. Yes, nature gives women more to bear than men— periods and childbearing among them— however, that does not present a reason why human society should not consider women respectable enough to enjoy the same/equal rights as men in society. And we all know that the ones who baulk against women having equal rights in society are men.

Well, because it is men that set things up with no female input whatsoever. There's a saying - if you're not around you'd be cheated. That saying applies here!

FreeIgboho:
➜And you can't blame the men. If it were women that set things up they'd also cheat men!

I disagree because the few matriarchal systems that exist in this same world, including those found in the animal kingdom, show that women actually tend more towards systems that benefit all — children, included—, not just women or men.

Hhh4444:
The pain of pregnancy or monthly period is periodic compared to the constant pain men go through on daily basis just to survive. Have you seen some kind of dangerous jobs that men do to put food on the table for women and children yet they get zero or less appreciation for their efforts and sacrifices? To every man out there going through hell,I feel your pain.

Unfairness to women is built into the system - because it is set up by men alone.
With men it is on an individual basis - if you're poor, just as if you're unappealing as a woman

Kobojunkie:
I disagree because the few matriarchal systems that exist in this same world, including those found in the animal kingdom, show that women actually tend more towards systems that benefit all — children, included—, not just women or men.

There is no human matriarchal system that has no male input or not built on traditions previously set up by men. Therefore women can't set up a system that cheats men

FreeIgboho:
➜There is no human matriarchal system that has no male input or not built on traditions previously set up by men. Therefore, women can't set up a system that cheats men

. There are!