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Ishilove:
You are full of wisdom.

I dey tell u. Very wise post

everythingtall3:
some ladies just gets very comfortable with you and see you as part of them. Not in all cases though, but once your girlfriend stop saying thank you, it may also mean she feels like one with you.....

Talk to her about it

What about a partner that you claim to love and you're comfortable with telling you "he is going through a lot and needed space" then what you can do is to leave immediately? No probe at that point to know what is the challenge he is facing, how you can help, showing care etc??

Any man or woman that tells his or her spouse that they need space, that person doesn't love you at all.

Inspirer1:
What about a partner that you claim to love and you're comfortable with telling you "he is going through a lot and needed space" then what you can do is to leave immediately? No probe at that point to know what is the challenge he is facing, how you can help, showing care etc??

Helpout12345:
Those people influencing her can now help her financially. Or is it only to influence her to bite the finger that feeds her they know how to do

The girl no love the man.

I can see you are still a kid from your comment. Go back to sleep boy.

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.

I think you made a hasty decision, according to you, she loves you and you love her too. Since you already knew she was being influenced by her friends at the saloon, you ought to have had a long conversation with her and tell her explicitly that you don't like the way she has changed and the things she has started doing to you especially when it comes to money. Make her understand that whatever counsel her colleagues gave her was a wrong one that would land her in an ocean of tears. Make her understand that lovers don't take advantage of each other but rather they help each other grow.

I'm

OKOATA:
Women are like kids, you correct them the way you correct a child. Whether hardly or subtly. You said it yourself someone is influencing her. And from your write up you didn't even tell her your reasons for ghosting her. As a man try to be matured, you said shes an orphan so she also wants the best for herself.

If you talked to her about it and she didn't listen then you can bounce but you just don't bounce on someone you can still correct. If a girl dips her hand in your wallet. Tell her straight up you don't like it. Thats how Alphas do, if she does it again then you have the right to end it. Everything no be to dey show muscle and power on top women.

My thoughts exactly, I suspect that the girl is young and really naive. And again being an orphan didn't help the matter at all. I think a good conversation could have helped.

Inspirer1:
What about a partner that you claim to love and you're comfortable with telling you "he is going through a lot and needed space" then what you can do is to leave immediately? No probe at that point to know what is the challenge he is facing, how you can help, showing care etc??

Did you also consider the tone/mode of communication?

OKOATA:
I can see you are still a kid from your comment. Go back to sleep boy.

See how you stoop so low just to fight dirty, simply because you both are having contrary opinions on the topic. You lots should desist from this habit of resulting to throwing tantrums when others refused the food you're trying to sell, your favorite food is swallow does not mean it should be same for everybody..

Now, sentiment aside, from you both comments so far, who is really "still a kid" between you two..?

OKOATA:
Women are like kids, you correct them the way you correct a child. Whether hardly or subtly. You said it yourself someone is influencing her. And from your write up you didn't even tell her your reasons for ghosting her. As a man try to be matured, you said shes an orphan so she also wants the best for herself.

If you talked to her about it and she didn't listen then you can bounce but you just don't bounce on someone you can still correct. If a girl dips her hand in your wallet. Tell her straight up you don't like it. Thats how Alphas do, if she does it again then you have the right to end it. Everything no be to dey show muscle and power on top women.

when I read the guys write up I was just wondering what he would do in marriage. Its quite unfortunate we want the best behaviour in girls but never in guys. Just abandon a relationship without making an attempt to correct d individual or drawing boundaries

everythingtall3:
some ladies just gets very comfortable with you and see you as part of them. Not in all cases though, but once your girlfriend stop saying thank you, it may also mean she feels like one with you.....

Talk to her about it

She feels "one with him" but she's not spending money.

She feels "one with him" but she's not reciprocating care and respect.

She feels "one with him" but nothing concern her and his financial stand.

She feels "one with him" but her only form of love is parasitism.

She feels "one with him" but she's entitled to resources she never worked for.

No mutuality. No gratitude. No reciprocation.

Only full blown entitlement. Because they are having sex I guess. As if the man's body is firewood.

The way most of you reason irks me.

Mtcheeeew.

This is why character and an independent but teachable mindset is most important in a person or partner.

Some girls are in love with being in a relationship so they can just have that status of somebody's girlfriend and getting girlfriend treatment but they are definitely not inlove with u cos if someone love u they want to know more about u especially what u like and don't like so u both get along and build a real Relationship.

I will only fault u in one area. when someone u care about is doing something wrong u have to 1st tell them and see if they are willing to take correction and change genuinely.

Don't just cut them off without them knowing the reason. That's toxic.

in her mind she thinks u stopped liking her or maybe found someone else whereas it was because of her change in character.

U also didn't give her a chance to correct herself and learn if she was willing to do so.

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.

Mrdealer4all:
The universe will never forgive you if any thing happens to her.
This is how I met girl too schooling.
Her parents and her siblings nothing to write home about.
I wanted to dump her but my chi warn me never to do it.
I called her and pour my mind to her..
Gave her rules and set boundary.
I opened fashion shop for her and told her to use that to sponosor herself and establish

Hope the mods will serve free popcorn when you come here to cry that you saw her wedding photos online getting married to one Pablo from Europe.

You are a smart guy bro. Tuale for you .

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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My guy, i don't blame.

I think it's best you call and advise her. Let her know why you chose to end the relationship.

So this rubbish made it to front page?

Meobizy is coming for that mod. 😧

The part he said
He cannot train a baby tiger
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🤣🤣😅😅😂😅😅😅😅
Thank God you borrowed yourself brain
Wertin you go hear last last be say
I never forced you to help me na....
She for serve breakfast iced and chilled.

I support you for this one
I dey your back like Emilokan dey for Buhari.
If you like, make Dem beg you enter trap back, your own don finish be that.

tommy589:
It took me a long time to realize that God has no time for stupidity or reward nonsense. My own mumu no be here,me that my wife,now ex was relocating from Nigeria without my knowledge.
I married a simple girl that I set up in business.She started having ideas when decent money started coming in for her.
To avoid untimely death from broken heart,some people are not meant to be empowered. Just leave them as you found them

Did she eventually relocate? Did you seize d business?

If this is the case there is no yet enough to dump her.I advise you to keep the communication line open and sort out you differences.

I dare say you haven't actually broken up with her, what that is called is ghosting.
The breakup is yet to happen.

israelmao:
If this case there is no yet enough to dump.I advise you to keep the communication line open and sort out you differences.

If only he will listen!

Theres no wrong acts that cant be corrected or eradicated. He dint even make an attempt, since the girl is 21, hes probably young too. They are young, wild, free!

Goodmarlian:
See this one?
No be only universe na galaxy, I should keep being a fool and being used by a small girl that will dump me later because of universe abi? If she is in my shoes will she date an orphan boy answer me.

Goodmarlian:
See this one?
No be only universe na galaxy, I should keep being a fool and being used by a small girl that will dump me later because of universe abi? If she is in my shoes will she date an orphan boy answer me.

She can never date u if u were in her shoes......Nice decision u took

In my opinion, she is young and prone to make errors, did you try talking to her about her friends you weren’t comfortable with? Did you address her not appreciating your efforts? If not I think that should have been your first line of action rather than just ghosting her!

Right now it seems like you feel you have had enough of her and decided to move to the next.. if you genuinely cared you would have tried fixing it first.
You have sent her back to worst place than you met her in my opinion

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Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.


You see my bro. This is what I told my wife to avoid female friends completely if not wahala go de. Women are a very bad influence to their fellow gender. I told her the only friends you make is my family and your family. In my opinion if she was a nice lady, once you noticed her behavior was deteoriating, you could have warned her sternly to mind her own business at work avoid bad company.



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Pls extend it to thirty,at 25 Dem still never get sense

Sirchiboy:
Avoid girls between 18 to 25

tommy589:
It took me a long time to realize that God has no time for stupidity or reward nonsense. My own mumu no be here,me that my wife,now ex was relocating from Nigeria without my knowledge.
I married a simple girl that I set up in business.She started having ideas when decent money started coming in for her.
To avoid untimely death from broken heart,some people are not meant to be empowered. Just leave them as you found them

City girls go show you shege!!

Bro one thing u don't know about desperate poor girls in need is that they never love, they only try to survive, trust me I have been there.. Let's avoid very poor girls as men, they can't love u and u won't blame them, one has to survive and afford the basics before thinking of love... I had one like that, an orphan and all, very cute girl, her billing no be here, I don't blame her but I can't cope, omo the babe was draining me literally I had to give myself brain....

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.

I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.


One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.



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So long as you're having sex with her she's going to view the relationship as transactional, in Nigeria most ladies are raised in an environment where sex is literally a commodity.

Traditionally the women are circumcised, they don't enjoy the thing and the men obviously enjoy it, they actively hunt it up and down, it's valuable!

My guess is you aren't doing enough for her (considering the fact she's an orphan) yet you're chopping her opueh

You need to do better