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EndBuhariNow:
yes they open the chamber and clear everything, now this is the second time she complained

Okay. The thing to confirm now is whether any other apartment is also using the same chamber.

EndBuhariNow:
bro are you suggesting he stay back because he married a young ovulating wife . Me I left mine immediately after marriage, she insisted I stay back but I told her can U manage any amount I brought home at the end of the month she allow me to go.. it's now easy men here are faithful but U don't have such time to start flirting around and moreover it's too expensive here.. why can't she zip up sexxxxx it not everything

No I am not suggesting he should stay back home since he is based abroad. What I am saying is that 2 years is too long to leave a young woman without intimacy. And I am speaking from experiences around me.

Husband and wife leaving apart must make alternative arrangements to spend time together more often than that. It could be once in 2 or 3 months or maximum 6 months. They can rotate who travels to see each other if that's more convenient.

I have lots of bad stories of women messing around if their husbands are abroad and stayed too long to see them. In fact, most of these women are decent ladies ooo. It's just nature calling and they answered.

It also happens to some of my friends in Nigeria that keep their wives and kids abroad for too long. Most of those wives are sleeping with another men abroad. In fact, some of those marriages are broken now.

Helpout12345:
No I am not suggesting he should stay back home since he is based abroad. What I am saying is that 2 years is too long to leave a young woman without intimacy. And I am speaking from experiences around me.

Husband and wife leaving apart must make alternative arrangements to spend time together more often than that. It could be once in 2 or 3 months or maximum 6 months. They can rotate who travels to see each other if that's more convenient.

I have lots of bad stories of women messing around if their husbands are abroad and stayed too long to see them. In fact, most of these women are decent ladies ooo. It's just nature calling and they answered.

It also happens to some of my friends in Nigeria that keep their wives and kids abroad for too long. Most of those wives are sleeping with another men abroad. In fact, some of those marriages are broken now.

that 2 years absence gave her the luxury she's enjoying today, so do you think abroad is easy you go and return every six months it doesn't work that way, only if you can see the pain ,the suffering, the frustration, meeting unknown rude colleagues, challenges, loneliness men face abroad so they can provide for the family, can she live the luxury shes enjoying today so the husband will stay back in because she can abstain from sex for long... 90% of men abroad celibate, and believe me all masturbate to keep pressure off their neck, U think sex is cheap here... If the he can hold on for long as a man , why can't she do the same ... Is not easy bro because relationship here is expensive, if U check how much U will spend , U go know the money fit buy bags of cement, what every her husband owns the man is her Loyalty...

Helpout12345:
Okay. The thing to confirm now is whether any other apartment is also using the same chamber.

he said all the flat have seperate chambers, 🤣 bro the thing is from the guy's apartment, because all the chambers are separate

EndBuhariNow:
he said all the flat have seperate chambers, 🤣 bro the thing is from the guy's apartment, because all the chambers are separate

Hhm. Boys have been weeding in your guy's farm. He should do DNA test to be sure of his children if they don't resemble him.

EndBuhariNow:
that 2 years absence gave her the luxury she's enjoying today, so do you think abroad is easy you go and return every six months it doesn't work that way, only if you can see the pain ,the suffering, the frustration, meeting unknown rude colleagues, challenges, loneliness men face abroad so they can provide for the family, can she live the luxury shes enjoying today so the husband will stay back in because she can abstain from sex for long... 90% of men abroad celibate, and believe me all masturbate to keep pressure off their neck, U think sex is cheap here... If the he can hold on for long as a man , why can't she do the same ... Is not easy bro because relationship here is expensive, if U check how much U will spend , U go know the money fit buy bags of cement, what every her husband owns the man is her Loyalty...

I agree. I know and understand all the challenges men face abroad as I am also based abroad. But I also know the challenges women face when leaving apart from their husbands. Yes I agree they should be faithful to their husbands, and that's the least they can do to show appreciation for the man's sacrifice. BUT they are also humans and no human is perfect most especially in face of temptations. This is why open communication is key between couples.

Both husband and wife should be free and open to discuss their sexual needs with no judgement or dismissal from either party. Wife should be free to call her husband "o boy I am hornieee today, I miss your odogwu...". But that's not the case with lots of couples.

Libido levels are also different in people. You need to know the libido of your partner. Some people can stay for only weeks, some for months and some for years.

In open communication, and if you know either party
cannot stay for long, the best solution is to shorten the length of absence or relocate the family (if the woman is good ooo because that's another risk to the man, when she gets abroad).