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I’ve been thinking about something and I’d like honest opinions, especially from ladies and men with real-life experience.

There’s this popular belief that a girl never truly forgets the guy she lost her virginity to — that no matter how many relationships she has later, that first sexual experience leaves a permanent emotional mark.

But here’s where it gets confusing:

What if the guy she lost her virginity to wasn’t her first relationship?
What if he was her second or even third boyfriend, while the first relationship never became sexual?
So my questions are:
First, is emotional attachment usually stronger to the first sexual partner, or to the first serious relationship, even if that relationship did not involve sex?

Second, does losing one’s virginity automatically create a deeper or more unforgettable bond than a relationship built on love and emotional connection without sex?

Third, can a woman completely move on from the man she lost her virginity to, especially if that relationship later failed or ended badly?

Finally, in real life, which tends to leave a longer-lasting emotional imprint: first love or first sex?

Ladies, feel free to share your honest experiences.
Guys, what have you observed?

Yes

I am sure the lady I did it to back then don forget me

When we are not whiteys .. hanging on to sentimental things that don't make sense

Yes. You forget them all eventually and move on.
First love and first sexual partner can both be eclipsed by love and sexual encounters that you experience later.

Sometimes when I see the kind of topics that comes to minds, I just wonder if you can't come up with solutions to the problems that faces society everyday instead of all these useless relationship talks.

Yes

Drstranged isonu re oo

Yes and yes. How many women today you hear talk about who disvirgined them??

Get busy with your life and stop all this irritating topics

It's not possible cos the experience na life time memory

With the way I nearly ran out of the house naked, I don't think I'd have forgotten him had fate not brought us back together...😂😂😂

Ladies, if you're reading this and you're still a virgin, make sure you check what you'll be dealing with before agreeing to go all the way, familiarise yourself with that eggplant first and thank me later...😂😂😂

BlueEyedBabe:
➜Yes. You forget them all eventually and move on. First love and first sexual partner can both be eclipsed by love and sexual encounters that you experience later.

It can also be eclipsed by so many other things in life, such as self-love, acquisition of strong emotional and social intelligence, mental illness, stress, memory loss, etc. There are so many things that can literally erase all of the stewpid sentiments that one first held fast to. 🥱🥱

If a girl can forget who took her to Dubai,E come be you wey chop opueh..

Dzzzzz....... Happy new year...........

Dzzzz:
If a girl can forget who took her to Dubai,E come be you wey chop opueh..

See question

Howmany girls are still dating the guy that disvirgined them?

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Why did I even comment on this topic

drstranged:
I’ve been thinking about something and I’d like honest opinions, especially from ladies and men with real-life experience.

There’s this popular belief that a girl never truly forgets the guy she lost her virginity to — that no matter how many relationships she has later, that first sexual experience leaves a permanent emotional mark.

But here’s where it gets confusing:

What if the guy she lost her virginity to wasn’t her first relationship?
What if he was her second or even third boyfriend, while the first relationship never became sexual?
So my questions are:
First, is emotional attachment usually stronger to the first sexual partner, or to the first serious relationship, even if that relationship did not involve sex?

Second, does losing one’s virginity automatically create a deeper or more unforgettable bond than a relationship built on love and emotional connection without sex?

Third, can a woman completely move on from the man she lost her virginity to, especially if that relationship later failed or ended badly?

Finally, in real life, which tends to leave a longer-lasting emotional imprint: first love or first sex?

Ladies, feel free to share your honest experiences.
Guys, what have you observed?

The thing is the man the lady will marry, like or date will be similar to the man she lost her virginity to. For example a girl that liked said she did so because I resembled her first boyfriend that disvirgined her. So the thing is the men the lady dates after that will resemble the man that disvirgined her.

Philosopher1979:
➜ The thing is the man the lady will marry, like or date will be similar to the man she lost her virginity to. For example a girl that liked said she did so because I resembled her first boyfriend that disvirgined her. So the thing is the men the lady dates after that will resemble the man that disvirgined her.

Wrong! And by the way, did you actually see the first boyfriend to confirm she was not, instead, trying to inflate your obviously fragile ego in some way?

Diamond098454:
Dzzzzz....... Happy new year...........

Happy New Year Diamond..We no see Christmas and New year rice!!

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! And by the way, did you actually see the first boyfriend to confirm she was not, instead trying to inflate your obviously fragile ego in some way?

She wasn't. I mean she said it in a sincere way. I did not ask her before she said it. When someone is sincere you will know.

Philosopher1979:
➜She wasn't. I mean she said it in a sincere way. I did not ask her before she said it. When someone is sincere you will know.

🤣🤣🤣

IT TAKES TIME

Kobojunkie:
It can also be eclipsed by so many other things in life, such as self-love, acquisition of strong emotional and social intelligence, mental illness, stress, memory loss, etc. There are so many things that can literally erase all of the stewpid sentiments that one first held fast to. 🥱🥱

You as a girl, you don forget person wey first tear your rubber?

PulaPower:
➜You as a girl, you don forget person wey first tear your rubber?

Let me see if I can help you begin to reason in the right direction ... Do boys and girls have different kinds of brains that store memories in different ways and process emotions and experiences differently?

Do not rush to respond. Go straight to Google to do some research. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Let me see if I can help you begin to reason in the right direction ... Do boys and girls have different kinds of brains that store memories in different ways and process emotions and experiences differently?

No, I don’t think so. Me for example, I still remember the first girl I knack till date..

So I’m asking you, do you still remember yours or you don forget?

They can never. So if you are married and you were not the one who deflowered your woman, never allow her for any reason to have anything to do with her first love or you will have yourself to blame. Pussy knacked can still be renacked. All that is needed is conducive environment.

PulaPower:
➜No, I don’t think so. Me for example, I still remember the first girl I knack till date.. So I’m asking you, do you still remember yours or you don forget?

First, I am not a girl. Second, I sorta kinda remember vaguely... but bad memory problems over the years have taken much of what happened around that time away from me. So, I can't really tell you for a fact that I do.

Wealthyonos:
Sometimes when I see the kind of topics that comes to minds, I just wonder if you can't come up with solutions to the problems that faces society everyday instead of all these useless relationship talks.

Na romance section be this bro

if you want solutions to societal problems...go and mingle with them in the tech section

You enter bakery ...dey ask price for bag of rice.

Kobojunkie:
First, I am not a girl. Second, I sorta kinda remember vaguely... but bad memory problems over the years have taken much of what happened around that time away from me. So, I can't really tell you for a fact that I do.

Okay

I’m surprised that you’re not a girl o

PulaPower:
➜Okay ...

Anyways, what was the significance of getting my response to your question?

Kobojunkie:
Anyways, what was the significance of getting my response to your question?

Why do you wanna know?

PulaPower:
➜Why do you wanna know?

Probably because I thought you had a point to bring forward. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Probably because I thought you had a point to bring forward. 🥱🥱

Oh yeah

I kinda believe it’s impossible to forget such things. But then, I understand your response so it’s cool

PulaPower:
➜Oh yeah. I kinda believe it’s impossible to forget such things. But then, I understand your response so it’s cool

. My situation is in no way unique. There are so many reasons why people don't always remember their first time... trauma, insignificance of the experience, tragedy, stress, PTSD, etc, that could rob people of such memories. And there is no difference along gender lines. (The mechanism for storing, accessing, and retrieving memory is pretty much the same in both men and women.)