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I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house. She bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

Seems this is the first time she has thrown such tantrums...


Better put your foot 🦶 down if you don't want it to continue.


If you are the one from whose pocket the rent is coming from and the one wearing the pants then this matter shouldn't confuse you as to what to do.

The sooner you recover and stand your ground the better for you. Give in and be ready to always have to bow to her tantrums


There are just some things that a man shouldn't tolerate or accept!

brain54:
Seems this is the first time she has thrown such tantrums...


Better put your foot 🦶 down if you don't want it to continue.


If you are the one from whose pocket the rent is coming from and the one wearing the pants then this matter shouldn't confuse you as to what to do.

The sooner you recover and stand your ground the better for you. Give in and be ready to always have to bow to her tantrums


There are just some things that a man shouldn't tolerate or accept!

Thanks, I have not experienced this kind of thing in my life, what an effrontery, some will will say the person is weak but when one person goes physically tendency of going for weapons, I have to calm to understand what is happening

Stay calm and tell her it's okay as long as she is going to provide the money. Tell her we are going to stay her one or two years more and stop behaving like a kid but stay cautious

ayoncox:
Stay calm and tell her it's okay as long as she is going to provide the money. Tell her we are going to stay her one or two years more and stop behaving like a kid but stay cautious

I told her that and that was what provoked her and she insisted I must pay it and she goes physical look for kitchen knife and going physical. She had been begging but i still confused.

The kind of rubbish people tolerate, all in the name of marriage!

Odingo1:
I told her that and that was what provoked her and she insisted I must pay it and she goes physical look for kitchen knife and going physical. She had been begging but i still confused.

Are you sure you're actually the one who is paying the rent and feeding her in that house.

Odingo1:
I told her that and that was what provoked her and she insisted I must pay it and she goes physical look for kitchen knife and going physical. She had been begging but i still confused.

keep your stance but ask her why, does she want you dead. scold her bad behaviour but also forgive her and pick out a paper to show her your plans, tell her it's in your plan for you both to move into a better environment but we can't achieve that if we are not creating a system for that. Ladies are moved by pictures you paint,

brain54:
Seems this is the first time she has thrown such tantrums...


Better put your foot 🦶 down if you don't want it to continue.


If you are the one from whose pocket the rent is coming from and the one wearing the pants then this matter shouldn't confuse you as to what to do.

The sooner you recover and stand your ground the better for you. Give in and be ready to always have to bow to her tantrums


There are just some things that a man shouldn't tolerate or accept!

End the marriage now.
Imagine giving her 120k monthly for upkeep for only two of u

She threatened you to leave or she will stab you? She's damaging things?

I don't know how you do it but inasmuch as I don't hit women, if you pick a knife to threaten me in my house, you will be humbled immediately.

Sirchiboy:
End the marriage now.
Imagine giving her 120k monthly for upkeep for only two of u

That is the most surprising thing for me, she contribute nothing financially in the house

chatinent:
She threatened you to leave or she will stab you? She's damaging things?

I don't know how you do it but inasmuch as I don't hit women, if you pick a knife to threaten me in my house, you will be humbled immediately.

Not that one can react but I was dumbfounded first and to calm the situation having seen news of couple stabbing theirselves.

MiamiLord:
I dey feed you, i dey cloth you, open good bussiness for you with my hard earned money and you get mind dey threaten to damage my stuffs over irrelevant issue.

Omo married men una dey see things o because i can never tolerate such attitude even if it's her first time.

I go humble her

Omo you don see am, for Nigerians settings men try to be a good husband as a provider as far as the cash is coming but surprising a woman that one is shouldering everything for will have the effrontery to physically be pushing his husband around and threatening him just to move to a more modern house at all cost.

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. And bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

This post of yours is just rage bait.

Did you not recite vows during your wedding? Na only traditional marriage you do? What God put together, no man can put asunder. Stay and carry your cross. At least if she goes through with her threat, I will come to debate with others in the thread regarding her arrest.

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. And bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

meobizy:
Did you not recite vows during your wedding? Na only traditional marriage you do? What God put together, no man can put asunder. Stay and carry your cross. At least if she goes through with her threat, I will come to debate with others in the thread regarding her arrest.

Yea that is why i am looking for opinions because someone is trapped

Odingo1:
➜I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. And bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve. I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

I suggest you separate yourself immediately from the environment, and consider ending the marriage as well. If you need to, move back immediately with your parents and stay there until you have successfully ended the marriage. Abuse is not acceptable under any condition. Also, begin working on paying her back the money you owe her. You should both, individually, seek counseling before considering any chances of reconciliation in the future.

React.

I give you the go ahead.

Odingo1:
Not that one can react but I was dumbfounded first and to calm the situation having seen news of couple stabbing theirselves.

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. And bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

. Go and Write today's date down ...You already have the Person that Would kill you under your Roof ...it's a matter of Little time ..Keep Harbouring her ,You love her right ...Na that same love Go kill U ...What a funny Question you are asking ..Instead of you to Quietly take your things and move out of that House right away and go and look for a other Apartment in a Different Environment that she doesn't know only you would stay to save your life ,You are still Planning with her ..Don't Worry ,You hear ..

Deepspirituals:
. Go and Write today's date down ...You already have the Person that Would kill you under your Roof ...it's a matter of Little time ..Keep Harbouring her ,You love her right ...Na that same love Go kill U ...What a funny Question you are asking ..Instead of you to Quietly take your things and move out of that House right away and go and look for a other Apartment in a Different Environment that she doesn't know only you would stay to save your life ,You are still Planning with her ..Don't Worry ,You hear ..

Hmm ok thanks, nobi small thing, is so sudden for me

Odingo1:
I told her that and that was what provoked her and she insisted I must pay it and she goes physical look for kitchen knife and going physical. She had been begging but i still confused.

trust me, one day she will surely kill you

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. And bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

Well if your story is true, I will advice you use your common sense and take the right decision. But from experience, once your spouse start using weapon or threatening you with one, it's doesn't stop and the result is catastrophic.

Who sleeps when fire is on their roof?probably she owns the house she wants you to rent. By now ona ways should have been divided like red sea

Man is like you are begging her to stay in your life after this attitude without consequences.

Life nor get duplicate remember and know peace.

Women pretend a lot and that’s one of her attitude there’s is more to come. How can she even negotiate for a new house without your approval?

Be calm and act with what the man in you is telling you, I know your heart is made up.

Wish you good lock

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, but
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

It's not just to move to a location far from town. Availability of basic social amenities have to be considered. Hospitals, markets , emergency services, etc etc

If your wife is insisting, what is her driving factor?. If it is POP, get POP to be fixed in your current place.

For the violence part, There must be something apart from the POP that is making your wife violent. You will get the answer from whoever she is chatting with on her WhatsApp.

Your wife don see say you be Pita Obuko’s supporter. She don see you finish say you be Mugun..

brain54:
Seems this is the first time she has thrown such tantrums...


Better put your foot 🦶 down if you don't want it to continue.


If you are the one from whose pocket the rent is coming from and the one wearing the pants then this matter shouldn't confuse you as to what to do.

The sooner you recover and stand your ground the better for you. Give in and be ready to always have to bow to her tantrums


There are just some things that a man shouldn't tolerate or accept!

Put which foot down? Devu don show herself and you are telling your brother to hang around?

Deepspirituals:
. Go and Write today's date down ...You already have the Person that Would kill you under your Roof ...it's a matter of Little time ..Keep Harbouring her ,You love her right ...Na that same love Go kill U ...What a funny Question you are asking ..Instead of you to Quietly take your things and move out of that House right away and go and look for a other Apartment in a Different Environment that she doesn't know only you would stay to save your life ,You are still Planning with her ..Don't Worry ,You hear ..

Maybe it is his punishment. How does a person end up being hooked to a devu?

Odingo1:
I told her that and that was what provoked her and she insisted I must pay it and she goes physical look for kitchen knife and going physical. She had been begging but i still confused.

When it involves kitchen knife then you have to be very careful, no one should brandish kitchen knife at you for the second time without consequences. You know setting a bad preference in this matter will mar you in the future you know right? So do not set a bad preference as regards to this. Standing firm will make her want to repeat that nonsense threat to life she dished out earlier (If I am in your shoes ai would have reported her to the police and obtain a signed undertaking from her regarding to this). You know why I said this? Virtually all deaths associated with knife done by women are heaped on self defense so which we al know are all lies, making this step will permanently shut the abuser from ever trying this act because she knows that the issue of self defense will never fly for once. Abusers love it when you hide their abusive story so that they aren't held accountable for their actions.

For me even if I avoid family I won't avoid the police, anymore who has brandished a weapon and threatened her spouse the first time will do it the second time when the opportunity arises. Protect yourself before you be in a precarious situation. As for the emotional laden decision of your wife it shouldn't fly for once.