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StillDtruth:
Put which foot down? Devu don show herself and you are telling your brother to hang around?

Ok. Let him carry his foot up then...

You could have told him that yourself instead of quoting me. Because that's my opinion.

The floor is wide open for you to give whatever advice you want without quoting me na.

I doubt you even know putting "ones foot down" is a figurative expression talk less of what it means. But everyone would quote me out of the blue to talk to pick holes in whatever I say with little or no comprehension!

I think it's the POP design that's attractive to her
Aesthetic accomodation for you

Anyway just find a way round it... Because you can only enjoy your home when your wife is happy

Fact

I am a man

Odingo1:
Thanks, I have not experienced this kind of thing in my life, what an effrontery, some will will say the person is weak but when one person goes physically tendency of going for weapons, I have to calm to understand what is happening

Lol. You have to involve someone, your family.
Truth is, your marriage cannot work. Someone has made arrangements and is telling you that you must pay that day or she will stab you and smash your stuff. Next time, she will tell you to buy a car for her or she will stab you. Unfortunately, this marriage should end. People don't change when it comes to violence. If you want to manage it, it's either she kills you or you kill her because this is just the beginning. Later she will come and beg and say sorry but that is what every abuser does, including the late Osinachi's husband that ended up killing her

duduade:
I think it's the POP design that's attractive to her
Aesthetic accomodation for you

Anyway just find a way round it... Because you can only enjoy your home when your wife is happy

Fact

I am a man

You are right to certain extent but, using knife as a means to show her anger is totally wrong, that action shouldn't come from a normal married woman. If he over look it and try to do what she wants, she will repeat thesame action again.

Kobojunkie:
I suggest you separate yourself immediately from the environment, and consider ending the marriage as well. If you need to, move back immediately with your parents and stay there until you have successfully ended the marriage. Abuse is not acceptable under any condition. Also, begin working on paying her back the money you owe her. You should both, individually, seek counseling before considering any chances of reconciliation in the future.

I am not owing her a dime, I have a profitable business and I am a sole provider in the union

duduade:
I think it's the POP design that's attractive to her
Aesthetic accomodation for you

Anyway just find a way round it... Because you can only enjoy your home when your wife is happy

Fact

I am a man

And yet they say men are narcissist. If people actually understand what this sentence mean... a happy wife, a happy home. It's just a home full of discomfort for the man.

MarketDispatch:
It's not just to move to a location far from town. Availability of basic social amenities have to be considered. Hospitals, markets , emergency services, etc etc

If your wife is insisting, what is her driving factor?. If it is POP, get POP to be fixed in your current place.

For the violence part, There must be something apart from the POP that is making your wife violent. You will get the answer from whoever she is chatting with on her WhatsApp.

Being close to better services is the reason I prefer paying 1m to already good place we are staying. There is nothing apart from POP that is driving her, she just want to stay in a designer house that she sees on social media, not that the place we are staying now is not fine, it has fine tiles, 1 master bath and visitor bath. The new place is smaller and one have drop at a junction and use Okada to reach home, so commuting will be quite difficult. I can’t do POP because it not my house whereas the house have fine designer ceiling although not POP and house was a modern house built 4 years ago.

larryUG:
Lol. You have to involve someone, your family.
Truth is, your marriage cannot work. Someone has made arrangements and is telling you that you must pay that day or she will stab you and smash your stuff. Next time, she will tell you to buy a car for her or she will stab you. Unfortunately, this marriage should end. People don't change when it comes to violence. If you want to manage it, it's either she kills you or you kill her because this is just the beginning. Later she will come and beg and say sorry but that is what every abuser does, including the late Osinachi's husband that ended up killing her

Ok thanks noted because she has been begging since yesterday because i left the house, she have call 100 times and said it was devil 😈 that entered. That she will never try it again. That she can now stay in the house as I want it.

duduade:
I think it's the POP design that's attractive to her
Aesthetic accomodation for you

Anyway just find a way round it... Because you can only enjoy your home when your wife is happy

Fact

I am a man

Yes she wants a more modern house but the place is far from town and requires entering Okada to reach the place. I am not ready to jumping on okada here and there to reach home.

If you want to live divorce her ASAP, if you want to die keep her. Your choice

Odingo1:
Ok thanks noted because she has been begging since yesterday because i left the house, she have call 100 times and said it was devil 😈 that entered. That she will never try it again. That she can now stay in the house as I want it.

Involve her family and yours or a close friend. But first threaten her to leave.
If you allow it to go like that, believe me you are harboring the monster in her.

If possible she should sign under taken before both family

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. And bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

Knife 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩.
Run for your life

Odingo1:
Ok thanks noted because she has been begging since yesterday because i left the house, she have call 100 times and said it was devil 😈 that entered. That she will never try it again. That she can now stay in the house as I want it.

Involve family members as witnesses oOoOO

Odingo1:
Ok thanks noted because she has been begging since yesterday because i left the house, she have call 100 times and said it was devil 😈 that entered. That she will never try it again. That she can now stay in the house as I want it.

I told you. She will beg and blame the devil. That is what every abuser,man or woman, does. Now it will cool down, but something else will trigger her. What kind of anger will make a human being start looking for a knife? May you not end up like Maryam's husband or that military guy who was killed by his wife

You don dey see shege when she never born piking for you...if she born omo just run be that..

Odingo1:
Being close to better services is the reason I prefer paying 1m to already good place we are staying. There is nothing apart from POP that is driving her, she just want to stay in a designer house that she sees on social media, not that the place we are staying now is not fine, it has fine tiles, 1 master bath and visitor bath. The new place is smaller and one have drop at a junction and use Okada to reach home, so commuting will be quite difficult. I can’t do POP because it not my house whereas the house have fine designer ceiling although not POP and house was a modern house built 4 years ago.

I suggest you do a section of the house ..either your seating room with POP and those type of room design you see on social media from part of the savings if you do not go to the 1.6m house.

I would guess your wife wants to be doing content and show off...that's why she is insisting on moving.

Baronthecelebri:
If you want to live divorce her ASAP, if you want to die keep her. Your choice

Nawaoo, she had been begging

Belurved1:
Do you dey see shege when she never born piking for you...if she born omo just run be that..

Nobi small thing, it may go worse

larryUG:
I told you. She will beg and blame the devil. That is what every abuser,man or woman, does. Now it will cool down, but something else will trigger her. What kind of anger will make a human being start looking for a knife? May you not end up like Maryam's husband or that military guy who was killed by his wife

That is my fear, although she is begging there might be a tendency for her to repeat it

MarketDispatch:
I suggest you do a section of the house ..either your seating room with POP and those type of room design you see on social media from part of the savings if you do not go to the 1.6m house.

I would guess your wife wants to be doing content and show off...that's why she is insisting on moving.

I opened a lab business for her because she is lab scientist so she have no intentions to be a content creator because her lab activities is busy. For POP one can’t just rebuild someone house beside I am building my own house in same city gradually not at fast pace.

Gotocourt:
Involve family members as witnesses oOoOO

Had been thinking about it but if I involved family members the marriage will end. No family will ever accept a woman that threatens the husband, even going to an extent of bringing a lighter threatening to set the house ablaze with fuel.

Gotocourt:
Knife 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩.
Run for your life

She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house.

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house. She bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

Run ooo!!!!! Run for ur life, while u can......
Half word is enough for the wise........ It will only get worse.
Don't give second chance, 'cos that will only make her get wiser.

What did you do? Your wife can't do that if you didn't do something that hurts her so bad.

You married men don't stay one place

You better go an apologize to your wife

Who knows, maybe you are giving your third leg to every girl out there.

You don marry Psycho.

Some of huna go marry Psycho....u go still say u don marry well.

Ok now....wetin cause the need for knife for the explanation....

I don date psycho before... so i know wetin my eyes see

Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house. She bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

This is serious, why will she do all this things just because of changing of house or there is an underlying issues before.
I hate domestic violence with all my might, be it from the husband or from the wife.

I think you should involve someone you both look up to or get a Marriage counselor because if you don't nip this at bud at this early stage, it will lead to a more serious problem, using knife or fire in a argument is a very serious situation.
Try to talk to someone you both respect or a counselor but if your wife have been showing aggression even during dating stage then you should reconsider the marriage before you start having children.

Diamond098454:
What did you do? Your wife can't do that if you didn't do something that hurts her so bad.

You married men don't stay one place

You better go an apologize to your wife

Who knows, maybe you are giving your third leg to every girl out there.

Bird of the same feather.
I pity that innocent man that will keep you in the house in the name of a wife

Odingo1:
✓ I am not owing her a dime, I have a profitable business and I am a sole provider in the union

You stated that the business was set up with her 3 million, did you not? 🥱🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
What did you do? Your wife can't do that if you didn't do something that hurts her so bad.

You married men don't stay one place

You better go an apologize to your wife

Who knows, maybe you are giving your third leg to every girl out there.

Nothing like that, no cheating so far in our union, her anger is that she wasted time and alot 5k to agents to make arrangement for the new house and I turn it down. She has been begging and said she have anger issues that can lead her in brandishing weapons including destroying properties.

Kobojunkie:
You stated that the business was set up with her 3 million, did you not? 🥱🥱🥱

Is my own money that is use to start the business for her

Odingo1:
➜Is my own money that is use to start the business for her

Oh, my mistake! 🥱🥱

Abuse, particularly physical abuse, should mark the end of any relationship the very first time it occurs. You both should end the marriage immediately, and each should consider seeking individual mental health therapy to help you each process what took place during your marriage, and resolve any burdens that may be a problem for each. She can also seek treatment to help her understand why she resorted to violence against you and work on resolving those issues, too. 🥱🥱

Sandralight:
This is serious, why will she do all this things just because of changing of house or there is an underlying issues before.
I hate domestic violence with all my might, be it from the husband or from the wife.

I think you should involve someone you both look up to or get a Marriage counselor because if you don't nip this at bud at this early stage, it will lead to a more serious problem, using knife or fire in a argument is a very serious situation.
Try to talk to someone you both respect or a counselor but if your wife have been showing aggression even during dating stage then you should reconsider the marriage before you start having children.

As far as I know, there is no underlying issues, the argument started when he first told me about the new house and I gave her reasons to retain the the place we are living, only for her to go ahead with agents and make arrangements for the new one and I refuse to pay and argument degenerated into her pushing me in a physical combat. Looking for kitchen knife and eventually took up a lighter and threatened to pour fuel from the Gen and light up the house, before then she have lock the the house, had she pour the fuel and light up the house the only option I have is to jump from the two storey building. Although while begging she have said she have anger issues that can destroy things, i dated her for 4 months before marriage I didn’t notice it.