₦airaland Forum

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

chatinent:
There were still better ways to solve the problems..

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! No one is providing him justification; what someone like me Instead did is assert that based on his story that he merely returned the favor, and what the law says, he is not in the wrong. 🥱🥱

If the uncle hadn't hit him -- and yes, there is a culture of hitting if younger individuals among the elderly in Nigeria -- the law would have been squarely against OP. 🥱🥱

The fact that the man may have been drunk at the time does not change anything of what the law says of this issue. Neither does his age matter for anything where the law for all adults is concerned. Both the elder and young are held equal where the law is concerned and hence expected to adhere to the letter of the law no matter what. Anyone of advanced age ought to understand and know this. 🥱🥱

GboyegaD:
How about he is his uncle's karma? Stop creating unnecessary fears for him.

GboyegaD:
You don't have to use the word pride before you are proud about what you say.

Mcslize:
What is wrong is wrong. Stop encouraging bad habits. Will you slap your father or mother even as a wayward child?

Na people like u dey spoil our society so.

SpencerForbes:
Okay if you choose to misquote or misunderstand anything I wrote, that’s your problem. Even Jesus wasn’t understood all the time. Stay blessed👍✌️

GboyegaD:
Oga nairaland Jesus, no vex ooo. Go read your posts again and decipher what it is you said.

Mcslize:
Don't mind the young man. It's a tap. The moment I started reading his post, I knew it was a tap and not a slap as he claimed.

Mo na leave the young man. Life go humble am. Life has a way of humbling arrogant brats like that. He is a spoiled brat and life will teach him a great lesson in the future that is if he will be alive to tell the story.

Everybody dey advice am but he is still forming capon. He will surely learn the hard way trust karma and nature for this. He is not wiser than those that had walked across the surface of the earth and beyond.

Life always has a way of teaching people like that a big lesson. Mo na leave am.

goslowgoslow:
That was self defense, the uncle slapped him first.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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SpencerForbes:
When you’re in Rome, you act like the Romans. An American kid might tell his mom to shut up, but that logic doesn't fly here in Africa. This was a test of your character, and you failed woefully. Don’t be surprised if this comes back to haunt you; some people are just waiting for a reason to go diabolical, and if your uncle is that type, you’ve just handed him the perfect excuse.

In our culture, your uncle is essentially your father. There were a hundred better ways to handle the situation than resort to a slap. If I were in your shoes, a stern, serious warning would have sent the message clearly. Now, you’ve lost the respect of the entire family and the village. Trust me, news like this spreads like wildfire, and it will take more than just time to fix your reputation. As adults, some confrontations are just better avoided.

Lexzeey:
So I should have fled like a wimp after he hit me first, wow, too bad I'm hot tempered and no one would trample upon me, maybe he should look for you and practice the whole uncle thing on you next time.

chatinent:
What if he wasn't talking to you? What if it was intoxication?


What if he was talking to you? Did the shoe fits so badly you wanted to hit him before you did?


If it didn't matter to you, you wouldn't have raised your hand. A better option was leaving. It works for me...since I'm hot-tempered.

SpencerForbes:
In my family alone, I have at least five people in my age bracket, and some are already running big businesses. I also have many seniors because I come from a large family; we move like a full squad if we travel, so you’d have to leave immediately to avoid the comeback. I can’t even dream of slapping the last born of my father’s siblings, let alone a brother.

Even the youth organization in my village would have called me to order. I remember correcting my dad as a boy and getting a stern warning for it—we don't joke with respect where I’m from. It’s clear this guy doesn't have a functional youth organization in his village, or maybe they’re all just stagnant. If he came from a place with structure, this matter would have been settled at the village council by now.

Lexzeey:
So I should have fled like a wimp after he hit me first, wow, too bad I'm hot tempered and no one would trample upon me, maybe he should look for you and practice the whole uncle thing on you next time.

saphiere:
You actually dressed or acted like a yahoo boy. I work online too and nobody has ever called me yahoo girl. Secondly whether he contributed to your upbringing or not, you owe him respect. Do you know his financial condition when u were coming up.

Beremx:
guilty conscience made it seem as if he was talking about you. He didn't mention your name and you felt guilty. You now took the anger and slapped him.

GboyegaD:
How about he is his uncle's karma? Stop creating unnecessary fears for him.

GboyegaD:
My parents aren't stupid to cross boundaries. Truth is the uncle crossed boundaries and that is what should be addressed. You don't cross boundaries and tell the person whose boundaries you crossed how to address you.

silaswills01:
All this ur cho cho cho changes nothing

You're disrespectful and have bad character
Saying nigeria is backward then leave na go another country mtcheeeew

And about that even if it's in America if u slap ur uncle it won't go down well for u

MadamVanessa:
Rest , you've slapped him and you still see nothing wrong with that, but i put it clearly to you that karma always has it sneakers on ready to catch up even with the fastest sprinter. This has nothing to do with whether he was there in your life or knows how you survived till adulthood so far you lay your hand on someone far older than you, that alone is a curse. A pay back day is coming just go and prepare and this pay back may not be inform of a slap from a nephew, it can just come in many form. That chicken change money you claimed to have will soon finish, that's if you have any at all or just bragging. Go away from you here you bitter sore loser.

Oomardesigns:
Oga you lack respect. Just becaue he didn't contribute to your upbringing doesn't mean you should disrespect him that way.