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saphiere:
I am not about him being bitter that u are successful. My concern is the fact that you didn't greet him. When he patted u at the back or even beat you, u wouldn't have beaten him back

I wonder why you are blind to his transgressions but sensitive to mine, you're even not ashamed to admit selective justice, i don't respect people who practice biased judgement, you should be neutral because one day you'll also find yourself a victim as well.

12345baba:
but u didn't die. Learn how to control ur temper. This ur experience reminded me of my late brother , always ready to beat any elder that steps on him, e no end well fr am sha cos he died at age 36 leaving 2kids and a wife. Honour ur father and mother so ur days will be long, na my bro case b that. Try dey ignore those elder guys.

Don't use your life to judge other people's life and circumstances, we're not same people, that it happened to one okoro doesn't mean it will happen to everyone, travel and see, the world is bigger than your belief in that little village you exist.

Lexzeey:
the family that is immensely helpful I need them to live abi, advice full ground but shishi they no go contribute to your life.

Your family is like mine exactly. In fact most families in Nigeria these days are that way

But I tell you that people are owned. The day you want to do something great and be village gathers or the town comes together and they asked you who are your people that is when you don't understand

Lexzeey:
STFU BRO, JUST SHUT IT.

I smile

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.
The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom,and humility comes before honor.
Proverbs 15: 31-32

As much as I know that OP should have had some restraints and handled it a bit better since it was his uncle,I just believe the uncle had it coming for a long time as this may not have been the first time he is doing this!

The uncle has absolutely not F-ing right to hit an adult from behind and not expect the consequences!

Just because you are an uncle doesn't give the right to assault a relative simply because you are older in age!
He who demands respect must earn it not force it!

Action begets reaction. I don't condone this though. You could have warned him or reported him to someone that'd put him in his place. But he had it coming too.

ibechris:
Wetin concern me...na advice I give am so.

He is wrong that is all.

On what grounds.....ur opinion right?.

illicit:
I know but two wrongs dont make a right

Even students are not encourage to fight teachers even when a teacher beats them

I am not encouraging anyone to beat up his/her elder. After honoring your parents, african elders need to know that ephesians 6:4 says " Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but raise them up in the discipline and instruction of the lord." WE AFRICANS NEED TO THROW AWAY OUR HIDDEN HYPOCRISIES AND FACE THE CHRISTIANITY WE ACCLAIM TO ADHERE TO.

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Google image[/quote]The hitting he gave you is not worth the curses you have involved on yourself. O boy try to beg him and ask God for forgiveness cos his own children won't understand what transpired , they go hold you one day ooo and everyone will try to avoid you cos how many people you want explain give

LordIsaac:
Self defense and retaliation are not the same. Check your dictionary.

So what the heck is retaliation? You slapped me I slapped you back what law is against that?

Take advice...

Kobojunkie:
1. I am not you, so I will stick with using "everyone" in this case.

2. It does not matter your personal opinion on this. What is utmost is that there is a legal code and every citizen is required to, to the best of their ability, abide by it and enforce it where authorized by the law to do so. 🥱🥱

3. Are you merely here to waste your time thinking you waste mine by it? 🥱🥱

4. Are you merely here to waste your time thinking you waste mine by it? 🥱🥱

5. Please endeavor to avoid me with this ridiculous nonsense! 🥱🥱

I am not here to banter words with you okay, you quoted me first.

You could have just conveyed your message without throwing tantrums here and there.

You carry matter for head as if na you and the Op dey village together.

Well no be your fault na, shebi na me reply u na.

"He who hits his neighbour’s knee curls up his own legs".

chatinent:
There were still better ways to solve the problems..

chatty you re trying to gaslight /guilt trip the op.


I would do same if it were me.

saphiere:
You actually dressed or acted like a yahoo boy. I work online too and nobody has ever called me yahoo girl. Secondly whether he contributed to your upbringing or not, you owe him respect. Do you know his financial condition when u were coming up.

Respect is earned not demanded!

I find it preposterous and somewhat annoying that most of the comments blaming OP haven't held the uncle accountable for his obviously reckless behavior!

For starters,you don't physically assault someone and expect restraint from the person!
Not everyone can control their anger in such situations!
The OP simply left that area and decided to go purchase something only for the irresponsible uncle to follow him and physically assault him from behind according to the OP!
This isn't a kid but a full grown adult oh!

Interestingly this same issue of respect is one of the reasons why elders who should respect their age keep misbehaving and expect the younger ones to respect them all because of customs and traditions!

It has even metamorphosed into the political arena where old polticians embarrass themselves in the public space and demand respect from all and sundry!

If you must be respected,you must earn it by being responsible and accountable!
Even our customs and traditions suggests or insinuates that respect is reciprocal!

Kobojunkie:
Keep your shame for you and your parents, abeg!

If having a clue means reasoning like you and your ilk, I am glad I and my blood refused to tread that path in life. 🥱🥱🥱

Most times I've agreed with many of your controversial stances on this forum but this time I beg to differ.
There should be a clear difference between human behavior and gorilla behavior. Firstly the o.p cannot be trusted to have provided us with all the facts as he operates outside societies moral code. Slapping his uncle is a symptom of his moral bankruptcy and other atrocities lurk in his being. He is capable of much more since he has no brakes.
I used to know a guy like that without a reasonable moral compass,he used to forcefully sleep with any woman that entered his flat. He defended himself by arguing that he did not hold a knife to their throats. He even raped a fourteen year old girl.
Slapping your uncle is completely verboten unless you are a gorilla.
You can write whatever you want on the Internet but I'm sure you will not want your daughter to marry a man that slaps his uncle.
He should have called a family meeting..A man without control is an animal.

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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My candid advice.... After God, fear village people....if u knw u knw...ke kwanu

Lexzeey:
I wonder why you are blind to his transgressions but sensitive to mine, you're even not ashamed to admit selective justice, i don't respect people who practice biased judgement, you should be neutral because one day you'll also find yourself a victim as well.

I am not talking about justice here. Yes, the man was wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right. You were equally wrong.

tunjijones:
Go and mark it today, your nephew or your niece will slap you too back.

nothing like that the uncle is looking for trouble from all indication

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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just your back some uncles are evil
Just be prayerful

Babalegba:
➜Most times I've agreed with many of your controversial stances on this forum but this time I beg to differ.
➜ There should be a clear difference between human behavior and gorilla behavior.
➜ Firstly the o.p cannot be trusted to have provided us with all the facts as he operates outside societies moral code.
➜ Slapping his uncle is a symptom of his moral bankruptcy and other atrocities lurk in his being. He is capable of much more since he has no brakes.
➜ I used to know a guy like that without a reasonable moral compass,he used to forcefully sleep with any woman that entered his flat. He defended himself by arguing that he did not hold a knife to their throats. He even raped a fourteen year old girl.
Slapping your uncle is completely verboten unless you are a gorilla.
You can write whatever you want on the Internet but I'm sure you will not want your daughter to marry a man that slaps his uncle.
He should have called a family meeting..A man without control is an animal.

1. If you know me so well, then you should also know that I stick to the facts, but meaningless things and gobbledegook like non-codified traditional ideas, which seem more like an entitlement-driven system that is so far away from justice and truth at the end of the day. (Your traditional systems rarely seem to benefit or stand on the side of victims but perpetrators.)

2. Research shows that humans are actually so many times worse than gorillas and other primates in the way they deal with each other. 🥱🥱

3. OP has not asked for your trust and does not need it. Unless you yourself have a way of going around him to privately investigate the facts for yourself, you and I have no alternative but to address the situation as presented by OP. 🥱🥱🥱

4. I don't believe in any of your standards of morality. To this day, your pastors/imams/traditional leaders/elderly/etc happen to be some of the most vile beings who walk the planet. But guess what? Your morality nonsense presents them with excuse after excuse for why they should continue to prey on the weak and the low. That is wickedness to me. 🥱🥱🥱

5. Please spare me the meaningless stories. I have read enough of those same bullsheet that I heard so many times during my childhood, only for me to realize later on that these stories never applied to the rich and/or powerful in the communities. Against the poor and helpless, tradition is a literal weapon of subjugation and misery! 🥱🥱🥱

saphiere:
I am not talking about justice here. Yes, the man was wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right. You were equally wrong.

Wrong is as defined by the law when two adults— strangers in particular — are involved. The uncle committed a misdemeanor, and OP was well within his legal right to retaliate as he did. 🥱🥱🥱

saphiere:
➜You actually dressed or acted like a yahoo boy. I work online too and nobody has ever called me yahoo girl. Secondly whether he contributed to your upbringing or not, you owe him respect.
➜ Do you know his financial condition when u were coming up.

Given OP's age, I am probably around the same age as his uncle. And I can tell you for free that even back in the 70s and 80s, we were raised to realize the importance of obeying the law. Yes, we knew to abide by the law in our dealings with each other and even with family. Telling someone that respect is especially owed to some individuals is the reason why people don't realize that respect belongs to all and not a special gang or select few.

Yes, every human ought to know to respect every other human. Some of us were taught this from as far as the 70s -80s. I can confirm this. But you see, because people continue to insist on what you have there. This is why a grownarsed uncle who should have known better took it on himself to assault his stranger nephew; OP rightly reciprocated the respect his uncle gave him, though. 😂😂😂

2. What in the world does his financial condition have to do with anything? 🥱🥱🥱

victoryenergy:
one thing is sure about this your act, in your life time, a hot tempered younger person, will surely serve you karma, just relax for now, time will tell.

That means the uncle also probably did it to his own uncle and this is his own karma? Right?

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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I still blame you totally for losing it

Since you have been able to ignore him up to that point, why then couldn't you control yourself?

Now you have given them something really really unforgettable to talk about generations to come, Except you don't know really know how this village seniority/elders thing really works

I don't believe your angle of your response being more of a reflex action at all

Because if it was a soldier that tapped you on the back in the manner you said he did, you wouldn't have slapped the soldier, out of reflex action

Reflex action my arsę!

You fuçked_ up so badly

So you have to atone it for, and the earlier you do that, the better for you...

Nonsense

1MILLIONLiGHTS:
I am not encouraging anyone to beat up his/her elder. After honoring your parents, african elders need to know that ephesians 6:4 says " Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but raise them up in the discipline and instruction of the lord." WE AFRICANS NEED TO THROW AWAY OUR HIDDEN HYPOCRISIES AND FACE THE CHRISTIANITY WE ACCLAIM TO ADHERE TO.

Christians dont raise the best kids


Africans do...

illicit:
➜Christians dont raise the best kids
Africans do...

That is also a bloody arse lie! Africans, in general, don't have great parenting skills and don't raise the best skills.🥱🥱🥱

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Braahh you for just avoid am na so my matter dey always be most times.

Lexzeey:
His lilly livered sons? Lol, people like me who hardly talk always have something sinister brewing inside, I beg them to prod me bro, and yes I came here to vent but it seems there's more of my uncle on nairaland too, y'all don't see anything wrong with the drunk hitting an adult first for no apparent reason.

LoL.. u ar lucky. Your uncle's children are probably too young or have no street cred in the village. You try that with my father. Nnam afa go but sorry