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Some dude will say but my wife is "evil and wicked" , my to such dude is; WHY did you marry her?
Didn't you see the signs?
If you didn't see the signs then you are not a real man. You play too much and you aren't focused on the important things of life.
There are many ways to spot redflags in women even without talking to them. The number one thing to look out for is when a woman is complimenting her appearance with artificial attachments, secondly if she follows popular Culture, thirdly if she is overly religious without an understanding of church history... there are many more.

So now that you are married, these are the reasons why you shouldn't cheat or maltreat her;
I always wondered why women should be accorded so much respect, in my mind when I see a woman being stubborn or arguing with a man, I always imagine that I can actually cause life threatening damage to her, I can hurt her badly but what gave her the power to stand before me and talk?
I still don't have much respect for women but I have learnt that they are a liability we cannot do without as men. In my life I have been with countless women and that has informed my knowledge of them.

1. Women are more of spiritual beings than physical, they are powerless in this realm and they weren't created out of dust like us men so you as a man MUST BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL WITH WHERE YOU PUT YOUR MANHOOD BECAUSE WOMEN ARE LIKE ORACLES and you can't serve two masters at a time. If you don't like her, divorce her and remarry. Don't end it on a sad note.

2. SOME IGNORANT DUDE WILL BE SAYING SOMETHING LIKE "OH MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS IN NATURE.." the first red flag you should look out for in a man is when he utters such rubbish, that tells you that such man can't lead you anywhere. He is barren intellectually and only relies on gehgeh and Andrew Tate for his knowledge. They will normally cite the Bible or Quran to support polygamy. Tell them to show you one POLYGAMOUS man that died a happy and peaceful death in the Bible. 99% of men will not even be rich enough to handle polygamy. Look at Ned Nwoko, he tried his best but now Regina Daniels is giving him headache, her children will support their mom.

When you start beating your wife or cheating on her, even if you start getting romantically involved behind your wife's back to some girl online without physically meeting her them it means you have lost your glory in that family, it's only a matter of time before your wife will start disrespecting you. When you start beating your wife.. hmm you might die early or your wife will be put ahead of you financially. As a kid I remember one girl(she is late now) she was bigger than the rest of us boys in the area and she tried to always bully us, we will run away from her, she was my age mate but one day I saw her trying to bully my younger sister so out of anger I rushed her with a flying kick to the stomach and while she was down I struck her severally from that day I stopped arguing with women. This girl always claim to be a bully but her body was to soft, when I kicked her I couldn't believe how soft and weak she was, fighting or arguing with women is always a messy situation. I will never allow it and its leads to carrying a scandal, and alot of women stink, they menstruate... it's hard to take them seriously so one must choose their liability wisely. Try as much as possible to avoid simple minded women, Those unintelligent and ill mannered ones. It's not worth it at all. But if you insist, then go ahead.. but be rest assured, YOU WILL CRY LATER!

Letme tell you, a wife that respects her husband and allows him to chopulate when he wants will never be maltreated or cheated on.

When you start acting like an agbero as the wife of the house because you think you can bully your husband into getting what you want, you will get paid back in spades.

When you nor dey give oga chop regularly, oga go find anoda person wey go give am chop. Very very few men are unrepentant women wrappers and even those, the women know that about them before marriage.

So every action has a reaction, don't plant beans and complain when you don't get tubers of yam.

aswani:
Letme tell you, a wife that respects her husband and allows him to chopulate when he wants will never be maltreated or cheated on.

When you start asking like an agbero as the wife of the house because you think you can bully your husband into getting what you want, you will get paid back in spades.

When you nor dey give oga chop regularly, oga go find anoda person wey go give am chop. Very very few men are unrepentant women wrappers and even those, the women know that about them before marriage.

So every action has a reaction, don't plant beans and complain when you don't get tubers of yam.

Oga suppose to know that from beginning. He for marry woman wey like kpanshing.
Let's assume you weren't able to detect her lack of interest for sex with you from the beginning, what is stopping you from divorcing her now?

melechpilusof:
Oga suppose to know that from beginning. He for marry woman wey like kpanshing.
Let's assume you weren't able to detect her lack of interest for sex with you from the beginning, what is stopping you from divorcing her now?

Na you dey tok like dis?

You nor know say women go gree you chopulate well well until marraige wen dem go start to form SU.

Obviously childbirth too which is understandable.

aswani:
Na you dey tok like dis?

You nor know say women go gree you chopulate well well until marraige wen dem go start to form SU.

Obviously childbirth too which is understandable.

Bro I have met 3 girls this month, I am looking to get married soon but once I notice any red flag, it doesn't take me 1 seconds to delete and block. So anything you hear me say is exactly what I would if i were married. If my wife starts denying me sex without any tangible reason, then I will divorce her even if she decides to change her attitude.. unless she gives me a tangible reason e.g after child birth, I will not touch her for good 8-12 months.

aswani:
Letme tell you, a wife that respects her husband and allows him to chopulate when he wants will never be maltreated or cheated on.

When you start asking like an agbero as the wife of the house because you think you can bully your husband into getting what you want, you will get paid back in spades.

When you nor dey give oga chop regularly, oga go find anoda person wey go give am chop. Very very few men are unrepentant women wrappers and even those, the women know that about them before marriage.

So every action has a reaction, don't plant beans and complain when you don't get tubers of yam.

Bros, you said it all..

Hmmm, my brother talks is cheap till you get there.
Kindly seek opinion from those that are married for twenty years, because experience is the best teacher.

Hmmm, my brother talks is cheap till you get there.
Kindly seek opinion from those that are married for twenty years, because experience is the best teacher.

melechpilusof:
Bro I have met 3 girls this month, I am looking to get married soon but once I notice any red flag, it doesn't take me 1 seconds to delete and block. So anything you hear me say is exactly what I would if i were married. If my wife starts denying me sex without any tangible reason, then I will divorce her even if she decides to change her attitude.. unless she gives me a tangible reason e.g after child birth, I will not touch her for good 8-12 months.

melechpilusof:
➜Oga suppose to know that from beginning. He for marry woman wey like kpanshing.
Let's assume you weren't able to detect her lack of interest for sex with you from the beginning, what is stopping you from divorcing her now?

Why should he use common sense in these things? The only way people like him reason they get respect from a woman is by coercing or forcing her to go against her will. It's all about gaining control over the woman, chipping away at her being to carve her into an idol for the man's own egotistical glory.🥱🥱🥱

kelechi50:
Hmmm, my brother talks is cheap till you get there. Kindly seek opinion from those that are married for twenty years, because experience is the best teacher.

You mean those who are married 20 years with wives who are literally a shell of their former selves at this point, right? Wives whose self-esteem, confidence, and self-awareness have been so eroded to the point that they literally have no life of their own left except for that which their husbands have scraped them down to in all that period? 🥱🥱🥱

Yes, experience is the best teacher, but that doesn't mean people learn best from experience.(The vast majority never really learn from their own experiences.) It is usually those who learn from the experience of others who come out at the top every time. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
➜Some dude will say but my wife is "evil and wicked" , my to such dude is; WHY did you marry her?
Didn't you see the signs?
If you didn't see the signs then you are not a real man. You play too much and you aren't focused on the important things of life.
There are many ways to spot redflags in women even without talking to them. The number one thing to look out for is when a woman is complimenting her appearance with artificial attachments, secondly if she follows popular Culture, thirdly if she is overly religious without an understanding of church history... there are many more.

This is your personal red flag, by why are you bent on making it everyone else's red flag? Why do you feel the need to project? That is a you issue that you should probably tackle before you move forward. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
➜So now that you are married, these are the reasons why you shouldn't cheat or maltreat her;
➜I always wondered why women should be accorded so much respect, in my mind when I see a woman being stubborn or arguing with a man, I always imagine that I can actually cause life threatening damage to her, I can hurt her badly but what gave her the power to stand before me and talk?
➜I still don't have much respect for women but I have learnt that they are a liability we cannot do without as men. In my life I have been with countless women and that has informed my knowledge of them...

1. All human beings should be accorded the same level of respect, regardless of gender, race, age, color, creed. That is why women should be accorded respect, even by you, especially since you desire for them to respect in exactly the same way. Yes, and even children, all of them, deserve respect. 🥱🥱🥱

2. If you think that being able to physically hurt someone means you should not give that person respect, then you are still an immature adult. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Interesting! I think you should stay away from all women... until you learn to respect women the same way you supposedly respect men. If you cannot do that, you will definitely have nothing but regret in your relationships with women, particularly marriage. And no, it ain't the woman's fault that you value them as less than you. It is yours.. 🥱🥱🥱

By the way, study after study have shown that men who don't value other humans equally, end up miserable and unhappy.... blaming others for their folly. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
Bro I have met 3 girls this month, I am looking to get married soon but once I notice any red flag, it doesn't take me 1 seconds to delete and block. So anything you hear me say is exactly what I would if i were married. If my wife starts denying me sex without any tangible reason, then I will divorce her even if she decides to change her attitude.. unless she gives me a tangible reason e.g after child birth, I will not touch her for good 8-12 months.

You're not married yet, and you're boldly giving advice about detecting red flags??
A lot of women change after marriage
Don't say what you don't know

kelechi50:
Hmmm, my brother talks is cheap till you get there.
Kindly seek opinion from those that are married for twenty years, because experience is the best teacher.

I'm not disputing the fact. Any man that goes into marriage unprepared might not survive it.

aswani:
Letme tell you, a wife that respects her husband and allows him to chopulate when he wants will never be maltreated or cheated on.

When you start acting like an agbero as the wife of the house because you think you can bully your husband into getting what you want, you will get paid back in spades.

When you nor dey give oga chop regularly, oga go find anoda person wey go give am chop. Very very few men are unrepentant women wrappers and even those, the women know that about them before marriage.

So every action has a reaction, don't plant beans and complain when you don't get tubers of yam.

If your wife denies you anything, infact if you notice any sign of disrespect, even something as simple as talking while you her husband is talking, making condescending facial gestures, raising her voice.. you must divorce her immediately. Never tolerate disrespect. You don't argue or fight or show anger just quietly end the marriage. Even if she apologizes don't listen. Don't ever tolerate disrespect, except your parents.
Any other person that start disrespecting you must go. No negotiations. The place I live right now there is a lady that cleans the compound, she is a cleaner, a one day she left dirt in front of my car, I called her to remove it and when she came I asked her if she forgot to pack it and she didn't respond she just packed it and left. It been 12 months and I haven't spoken to her or greeted her. First of all she is a cleaner, I manage bsc and MSc holder and I have two cleaners and 3 security men on my payroll, so me talking to her in the first place was a privilege to her. Now I have withdrawn the privilege and she's still a cleaner, still cleans my car park but she can't approach for anything like before. I can live 100 years here and not have any need for her. That's just the irony of life. KNOW YOUR PLACE AND WHAT YOU BRING TO THE TABLE SO YOU ARE NEVER AFRAID OF EATING ALONE. On many occasions, she has had the need to approach me for one thing or the other.. sometimes she's asked to deliver a message or collect money but she can't come close until the night shift guy comes.

Kobojunkie:
You mean those who are married 20 years with wives who are literally a shell of their former selves at this point, right? Wives whose self-esteem, confidence, and self-awareness have been so eroded to the point that they literally have no life of their own left except for that which their husbands have scraped them down to in all that period? 🥱🥱🥱

Yes, experience is the best teacher, but that doesn't mean people learn best from experience.(The vast majority never really learn from their own experiences.) It is usually those who learn from the experience of others who come out at the top every time. 🥱🥱🥱

True

Kobojunkie:
This is your personal red flag, by why are you bent on making it everyone else's red flag? Why do you feel the need to project? That is a you issue that you should probably tackle before you move forward. 🥱🥱🥱

So all you are doing right now is going in circles.
Another red flag to look out for is a woman who smokes, an alcoholic and a drug addict.
Can you justify this red flag as a "you" issue?
Is it a general red flag or just me trying to project?

Kobojunkie:
1. All human beings should be accorded the same level of respect, regardless of gender, race, age, color, creed. That is why women should be accorded respect, even by you, especially since you desire for them to respect in exactly the same way. Yes, and even children, all of them, deserve respect. 🥱🥱🥱

2. If you think that being able to physically hurt someone means you should not give that person respect, then you are still an immature adult. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Interesting! I think you should stay away from all women... until you learn to respect women the same way you supposedly respect men. If you cannot do that, you will definitely have nothing but regret in your relationships with women, particularly marriage. And no, it ain't the woman's fault that you value them as less than you. It is yours.. 🥱🥱🥱

By the way, study after study have shown that men who don't value other humans equally, end up miserable and unhappy.... blaming others for their folly. 🥱🥱🥱

You didn't read to understand, you are only here to argue and stir confusion.

1. Everyone should be accorded respect, yes.
But what happens when a woman, a weakling physically and verbally assaults a strong man?

2. What should give any woman the guts to insult or assault a man know fully well that if assaulted back it could lead to permanent bodily damage?
I know a girl who lost an eye for try to fight a man.

3. Seeing that 99% of men and women are damaged, I am okay with disliking them all equally.

Your last paragraph is devoid of any evidence, if you doubt it then provide evidence of the study you cited. BTW I can get any girl I want, but it never last because I can't be manipulated, I'm a alpha/sigma, I am very intentional and focused with my life, no woman can just come and tell me anything, for instance "honey buy me the new iPhone 17" even if I have money like Dangote I will not buy, if she really needs a phone then A midrange Samsung will do. If she refuses then ICE BLOCKT! GTFOH

ChybuzzDD:
You're not married yet, and you're boldly giving advice about detecting red flags??
A lot of women change after marriage
Don't say what you don't know

Not married but I have more experience with women than anyone else on this forum and that's why I know alot.

ChybuzzDD:
You're not married yet, and you're boldly giving advice about detecting red flags??
A lot of women change after marriage
Don't say what you don't know

My ex girlfriend has been chatting me recently, but now she is fat and robust and unattractive so I told her that No man, especially not me will look at her unless she regains her old shape. I told her how to lose weight in 3 months without going to the gym. when I met her first, she was built like a footballer, she had stamina, very solid build, i even made it known to her that i loved her legs but now she eats too much, belly fat and is now shorter.
Learn to tell your wife what is bothering you, reduce the way you lie so that its easy for her to knowwhenþ, the problem is that many of you talk and play with these women alot, so they don't know when you are serious. Relate with her tge way you relate with a kid if not na see finish go be your case.

melechpilusof:
✓ You didn't read to understand, you are only here to argue and stir confusion.
1. Everyone should be accorded respect, yes.
But what happens when a woman, a weakling physically and verbally assaults a strong man?
2. What should give any woman the guts to insult or assault a man know fully well that if assaulted back it could lead to permanent bodily damage?
I know a girl who lost an eye for try to fight a man.
3. Seeing that 99% of men and women are damaged, I am okay with disliking them all equally. Your last paragraph is devoid of any evidence, if you doubt it then provide evidence of the study you cited. BTW I can get any girl I want, but it never last because I can't be manipulated, I'm a alpha/sigma, I am very intentional and focused with my life, no woman can just come and tell me anything, for instance "honey buy me the new iPhone 17" even if I have money like Dangote I will not buy, if she really needs a phone then A midrange Samsung will do. If she refuses then ICE BLOCKT! GTFOH

When respect is based, not on creed, gender,age, religious affiliation or status, but on the simple fact that one presents as a member of the species, what do you think that means? It means you respect that person regardless of everything else.

When you base respect instead of shifting goalposts x then what you give is not respect but something more slimy and disgusting like the kind of respect you see among Nigerians who claim they respect the very politicians who ruined their future and of their unborn children. 🥱🥱🥱

2. The same guts a man would think to have to insult a woman is the same guts it requires for a woman to insult a man. That the man can choose to then violently assault the woman for doing that which he too has capability of is absurd and telling, not on her character but on his. A woman is never to blame for a man's lack of emotional regulation skills. 🥱🥱🥱

Also, know that there are just as many women out there capable of inflicting bodily damage on men. But do you know why many of them do not fall that far? The simple reason is that they have better emotional regulation and management abilities than men who let their anger(emotions) get the better of them. 🥱🥱

So, if you came here to brag about being able to beat some women up and expecting we should see that such women should be denied a voice around you, all you do is reveal yourself as a bully and loser. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Rather than leveling up on your emotional and social skills, you take that adopting a posture of hate for all? It's ok. Society won't miss your kind. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
✓ My ex girlfriend has been chatting me recently, but now she is fat and robust and unattractive so I told her that No man, especially not me will look at her unless she regains her old shape. I told her how to lose weight in 3 months without going to the gym. when I met her first, she was built like a footballer, she had stamina, very solid build, i even made it known to her that i loved her legs but now she eats too much, belly fat and is now shorter.
✓ Learn to tell your wife what is bothering you, reduce the way you lie so that its easy for her to knowwhenþ, the problem is that many of you talk and play with these women alot, so they don't know when you are serious. Relate with her tge way you relate with a kid if not na see finish go be your case.

1. Wow... You resorted to body shaming her, yet you think yourself better than shs is? Wow ..🥱🥱🥱

2. Well, I am for honesty, but body shaming is a whole nother thing entirely. It is bully behavior. Also, if your so-called love for others is based on what they look like, isn't it ok to say that you should probably stay completely away from marrying any women at all since women's bodies are known to change after marriage, childbirth, abuse, etc,. Basically, the more life is sucked out of a woman, the more her mind is impacted and eventually her body. What I am saying is that if a woman gets with a man who sucks the life out of her, she will be mentally and physically impacted by it. Rather than complain to the woman, ask yourself what you are doing wrong that is caught her to loose her mental composure and eventually her body around you. You are most likely the problem, not the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
✓ So all you are doing right now is going in circles.
✓ Another red flag to look out for is a woman who smokes, an alcoholic and a drug addict.
Can you justify this red flag as a "you" issue?
Is it a general red flag or just me trying to project?

Again, your personal issues do not red flags for others.🥱🥱

Smoking is not an addiction but a preference for many people out there. If you don't know that much by now, you should probably stay away from relationships altogether. 🥱🥱

Addictions on the other hand are mental illnesses of the burdensome kind for those affected and so would be something everyone should do well to avoid. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Again, your personal issues do not red flags for others.🥱🥱

Smoking is not an addiction but a preference for many people out there. If you don't know that much by now, you should probably stay away from relationships altogether. 🥱🥱

Addictions on the other hand are mental illnesses of the burdensome kind for those affected and so would be something everyone should do well to avoid. 🥱🥱🥱

I mentioned drug addiction, kindly throw more light on that too.

Kobojunkie:
1. Wow... You resorted to body shaming her, yet you think yourself better than shs is? Wow ..🥱🥱🥱

2. Well, I am for honesty, but body shaming is a whole nother thing entirely. It is bully behavior. Also, if your so-called love for others is based on what they look like, isn't it ok to say that you should probably stay completely away from marrying any women at all since women's bodies are known to change after marriage, childbirth, abuse, etc,. Basically, the more life is sucked out of a woman, the more her mind is impacted and eventually her body. What I am saying is that if a woman gets with a man who sucks the life out of her, she will be mentally and physically impacted by it. Rather than complain to the woman, ask yourself what you are doing wrong that is caught her to loose her mental composure and eventually her body around you. You are most likely the problem, not the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

From the way you write it is easy to tell that you are either a female, a teenager or an effeminate man.

melechpilusof:
➜I mentioned drug addiction, kindly throw more light on that too.

You didn't read, did you?

Kobojunkie:
...Addictions on the other hand are mental illnesses of the burdensome kind for those affected and so would be something everyone should do well to avoid. 🥱🥱🥱

melechpilusof:
➜From the way you write it is easy to tell that you are either a female, a teenager or an effeminate man.

All this because I pointed out that a man who thinks brute force is the way to win arguments over women is nothing but a bully, a coward, and a loser. Heck, try the same with women who can literally pound you down. Try to use the same brute force argument against men who disagree with you? 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
You didn't read, did you?

So is drug addiction a "you" thing or is it just me projecting?

Kobojunkie:
All this because I pointed out that a man who thinks brute force is the way to win arguments over women is nothing but a bully, a coward, and a loser. Heck, try the same with women who can literally pound you down. Try to use the same brute force argument against men who disagree with you? 🥱🥱

You are the same person that said wearing fake hair and bbl is not a universal red flag.
You invalidated yourself already and the only reason we are still talking is cos you are a bit reasonable, you haven't insulted me yet and that's rare here on Nairaland.
So you think I can't challenge men? Ignorant, new age, and half baked intellectuals are my worse enemies. Man or woman doesn't matter, if you don't come correct and ready, I will trash you out very quickly.

Kobojunkie:
Why should he use common sense in these things? The only way people like him reason they get respect from a woman is by coercing or forcing her to go against her will. It's all about gaining control over the woman, chipping away at her being to carve her into an idol for the man's own egotistical glory.🥱🥱🥱

Before you comment about me, I suggest you read the full text of the conversation I am having with the response I received.

Refrain from jumping into conversations half way through and putting your opinion down without the proper context.

At no point did my post talk about controlling a woman, if anything, my post stated clearly how a woman could have the man wrapped around her fingers.

melechpilusof:
From the way you write it is easy to tell that you are either a female, a teenager or an effeminate man.

She is actually an older female with a warped sense of reality as regards men and womrn being in a healthy, respectful and vibrant relationship together.

As long as the man is not being a slave in a relationship, she is not happy.

In real life, Lord knows how many relationships she might have destroyed with her advice to younger women who then end up bitter and single.

Kobojunkie:
All this because I pointed out that a man who thinks brute force is the way to win arguments over women is nothing but a bully, a coward, and a loser. Heck, try the same with women who can literally pound you down. Try to use the same brute force argument against men who disagree with you? 🥱🥱

He sounds sensible enough to know when to step away from an argument against Women who can"pound him down" or fellow men.

This is unlike some women who involve themselves in needless arguments with some men, see the red flags for the argument about to turn physical and not step away (there and then) from what could be a life threatening situation because they believe they will get the sympathy and the man will get the blame when the dust settles and they show their bruises. This is despite them helping to pour fuel into the fire of the argument.

Stop trying to make people out to be misogynists because they have a different opinion to you, Anti, it is very wrong.