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So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

How old are the both of you?

The both of you seem very young and naive

rickpat:
How old are the both of you?

The both of you seem very young and naive

We are actually young at heart 💜

You two should focus on better things,thats the only advise for you guys..good luck

mmadu4:
We are actually young at heart 💜

So you never hear say most women don't like peace everytime?.. sometimes they want brutality.. either verbally, physically or both.


If you don't gehh it.. check nkem owoh and Jim Ike old Nollywood movies probably 90s or early 2000s

mmadu4:
➜So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried.
➜ What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

So, you physically assault the woman you are dating, and then try to make us believe it is all for a good cause? Nigeria is f-cked up. That there is no way to report your arse to the police who would, in turn, relatively assault you is what infuriates me the most in all of this. 🙄🙄🙄

2. Common sense would have been to abandon the relationship entirely. The girl trauma trauma-bonded with her abuser, and you think coming here to boast of such brain damage makes you a better person? 🥱🥱🥱

And you beat her? Anyways, I no really get much to say than to encourage una to marry all these girls wey una don damage emotionally, financially, physically and sexually. I refuse to inherit another man's leftover. Some of una wey go like this comment married non-virgins, others dey date non-virgins and una dey like the comment. Isn't that hypocrisy? If majority of una know the number of preeq wey don enter una partners because una inherit am, una for decide to buy LUX soap and do the needful. Anyways, I no get much to say than to advise men wey marry non-virgins aka leftovers to go for DNA test.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Kobojunkie:
So, you physically assault the woman you are dating, and then try to make us believe it is all for a good cause? Nigeria is f-cked up. That there is no way to report your arse to the police who would, in turn, relatively assault you is what infuriates me the most in all of this. 🙄🙄🙄

2. Common sense would have been to abandon the relationship entirely. The girl trauma trauma-bonded with her abuser, and you think coming here to boast of such brain damage makes you a better person? 🥱🥱🥱

I was seeking for some advice sir no need for the insults

mmadu4:
➜I was seeking for some advice sir no need for the insults

Oh! So, you physically assaulted your girlfriend, and meant for us to consider that as some understandable eejiocy, but my insisting that the police should give you the same treatment... You take it to be an insult? 🥱🥱🥱

Relationship goals! I hope you enjoy prison, jungle justice, and curses from the heavens because that awaits you in your future with bae ❣️

Both of una no just well..

As for me, I have no pity for GBV enablers, which is what your woman is, she's certainly not a victim in this because if she was, she'd have left.

So I wish her all the best with the slaps, punches, and kicks.

I can't be respecting and defending someone who lacks self respect and love, our society is just messed up... And why are you still with someone who's always adamant to bring the worst in you? Are you waiting for the day that you'll finally unalive her and recieve either a life or death sentence yourself? It's like the both of you are from toxic and dysfunctional backgrounds.

Samantha125:
As for me, I have no pity for GBV enablers, which is what your woman is, she's certainly not a victim in this because if she was, she'd have left.

So I wish her all the best with the slaps, punches, and kicks.

I can't be respecting and defending someone who lacks self respect and love, our society is just messed up... And why are you still with someone who's always adamant to bring the worst in you? Are you waiting for the day that you'll finally unalive her and recieve either a life or death sentence yourself? It's like the both of you are from toxic and dysfunctional backgrounds.

I have actually done alot of talking with her but still .

Beating

Someone enjoying hitting on her skin hmmmmm what if her skin color change



Cheneke

Talking? What's still there to talk about when the both of you are obviously toxic and should have parted ways long time ago? Is she holding you hostage or are you waiting for death to do you apart? Because trust me when I say it's around the corner.

mmadu4:
I have actually done alot of talking with her but still .

Samantha125:
Talking? What's still there to talk about when the both of you are obviously toxic and should have parted ways long time ago? Is she holding you hostage or are you waiting for death to do you apart? Because trust me when I say it's around the corner.

It's never easy to let go. We have tried ,at this point just need some mature advice on how to avoid being violent

Wonder what the govt do with its budget.

The police is supposed to do the needful here.
Social media is not anonymous at all.

How do one tag Nigerian police?

mmadu4:
➜It's never easy to let go. We have tried ,at this point just need some mature advice on how to avoid being violent

. An abuser declaring it is never easy to let go of his abuse victim? Where have we not heard that before? Kidnappers and co say the very same. 🥱🥱🥱

It is almost never the abused coming to tell us she enjoys being abused ; Almost always it is the abuser coming to beat his chest about how his victim loves being abused by him.

The only way to avoid being violent is by going your separate ways and seek professional help by attending anger and stress management programs, both of you need help as it seems like you have some unresolved past traumas that you haven't dealt with yet... It's never easy until one of you is six feet under and the other is behind bars or even gone as well.

Both of you are incompatible and recipes for disaster... Do you think all those cases of GBV murders started over night? You might as well start paying for a funeral policy.

mmadu4:
It's never easy to let go. We have tried ,at this point just need some mature advice on how to avoid being violent

Diamond098454:
Beating

Someone enjoying hitting on her skin hmmmmm what if he skin color change



Cheneke

Nobody enjoys to be Beaten. That story may not be true, dear.

OP ..Doris Ogala type of woman is waiting for you. Become successful and see what will happen to you.

mmadu4:
So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

You never tire

When you tire you no go need advice

Lalami3232:
And you beat her? Anyways, I no really get much to say than to encourage una to marry all these girls wey una don damage emotionally, financially, physically and sexually. I refuse to inherit another man's leftover. Some of una wey go like this comment married non-virgins, others dey date non-virgins and una dey like the comment. Isn't that hypocrisy? If majority of una know the number of preeq wey don enter una partners because una inherit am, una for decide to buy LUX soap and do the needful. Anyways, I no get much to say than to advise men wey marry non-virgins aka leftovers to go for DNA test.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Tell them, marrying leftover has lot of disadvantages. May God save us from this present generation ladies

nnamdi640:
Tell them, marrying leftover has lot of disadvantages. May God save us from this present generation ladies

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

mmadu4:
So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

That's not love. That's a big red flag. Run

mmadu4:
So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

Until one of you land in the hospital Una eye go clear. Toxicity dey start small small

I honestly don’t get some of the relationship choices people are making these days—it’s pretty frustrating to watch. Is it really that hard to just walk away? It makes me wonder why some people refuse to use their heads.

Do you seriously think you’ll find peace by taking things to a violent extreme and ending up in prison? It’s simple: if a woman doesn't align with your purpose, you let her go. You shouldn't need a bunch of strangers on the internet to tell you that.

If you keep going down this path of toxicity and abuse, don't be surprised when you end up on frontpage . Use your head and move on.

After you will be here castigating men who beat women. Na una way for Nairaland.

So, what is the problem? What I read was a happy relationship.

mmadu4:
So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

mmadu4:
So I have been worried lately with the ongoing craziness in my relationship with my babe . I noticed that anytime we are having a good moment or peaceful time she doesn't seem to be happy . She might just provoke me or try to insult me or say and do things that might make me beat her not serious beating but very low edge she will fall into depression afterwards and ignore me for as long as it takes she will won't even near me then I will have to beg her forgiveness before everything returns to normal of course with some love making . But this has happening for over a year now I'm becoming worried. What can I do in this situation pls need some advice

I explained it in my thread. See the person you are fornicating with

"This guy's response

Just reminded me of this wonderful thing we have been seeing where a girlfriend/wife continues staying and living with a man who treats her very badly and Wike. ly.

It is a thing I have never understood but I kept on studying and taking notes and now I think I understand it all.

See, what brother said and thinks

Moveittothem:
Look, women don't respect men that are not mean...."

https://www.nairaland.com/8564377/why-women-stay-marry-wike#137521556

essentialone:
Nobody enjoys to be Beaten. That story may not be true, dear.

Who says? I've heard some ladies say that if their guy don't beat them, they can never regard him as a real man. I'm not reporting this, I'm saying this like I've heard 3 ladies say this. Just exactly like the Op, they said the makeup sex after the beating is always explosive.

Why do you think they remain with an abusive partner instead of finding their way after the first slap? Bros you can never fully understand that gender.

Julibet:
Who says? I've heard some ladies say that if their guy don't beat them, they can never regard him as a real man. I'm not reporting this, I'm saying this like I've heard 3 ladies say this.

Why do you think they remain with an abusive partner instead of finding their way after the first slap? Bros you can never fully understand that gender.

That is weird and abnormal.