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Onegai:
Go to Lagos Island, they are there, a big building somewhere around Broad Street.

I just called them to confirm, it’s actually N290k

Thank you

Nahimm:
I recently cl@ned her WhatsApp to see if there’s something going on with her that i need to know and I discovered this contact that has disappearing messages turned on. No chat history but he messaged recently so I saw it and my attention was drawn to the picture of the guy. I searched deeper on other social media platforms to see the guys pictures and my baby has about 85% resemblance with this guy, bald head, open teeth, V chin shap, and one wrinkle line when she smiles, unlike me, I have full hair on my head, my chin is oval or U shaped.
This guy stays at a place she occasionally goes to for business purposes.
I feel very helpless now, I just need to do a DNA test
I asked for the cost and it’s around 1.3m
I don’t have any money now.
The thing is really disturbing me.

I said it. That woman didn't love you. You were just a plug-in and your usefulness to her is over. Dig more on her relationship with that guy.

Are you still on the WhatsApp? Or is it disconnected?

Helpout12345:
I said it. That woman didn't love you. You were just a plug-in and your usefulness to her is over. Dig more on her relationship with that guy.

Are you still on the WhatsApp? Or is it disconnected?

I’m still on the WhatsApp

Nahimm:
I’m still on the WhatsApp

Make sure you don’t initiate any action like chat, delete or anything at all so that she will not suspect.

2. Whatever you are seeing there, DON'T use it to talk or react to her or anyone so that she will not suspect

3. Keep screenshot of any evidence from the WhatsApp.

4. You will need patience on that WhatsApp. It might take months before you see anything important. Don't be in a hurry.

Helpout12345:
Make sure you don’t initiate any action like chat, delete or anything at all so that she will not suspect.

2. Whatever you are seeing there, DON'T use it to talk or react to her or anyone so that she will not suspect

3. Keep screenshot of any evidence from the WhatsApp.

4. You will need patience on that WhatsApp. It might take months before you see anything important. Don't be in a hurry.

Ok I will do that.

My major problem now is to do the DNA test.
As long as I am yet to be sure about the baby’s paternity status, my mind won’t rest. It’s not easy trying not to let it influence my behaviors as well.

Maybe I should save up money and do it in 3-4 months time

Op. I sent you a mail request. Let's discuss

Mee346:
Op. I sent you a mail request. Let's discuss

Ok I just responded

GboyegaD:
Could she be she's confused and not ready for marriage? A friend once dated a lady who when he asked where she see them in a couple of years told him she sees them being separated and the children in her custody. With that, my friend silently withdrew, and she kept saying he broke the relationship without any good reason. I brought this up because from the way she is acting, she might be one of those who feel the husband is only useful for childbearing. If that is the case, it will be challenging for her to change.

You mentioned she was earning better than you at first. What is she using her salary for now? Why do you have to take on so much more responsibilities?

She still earns more than I do. She keeps saying she is spending her money and that I am not appreciative. She told her mother that I do not give her enough money, that I do not support her business financially, and that I do not buy things for our baby. I felt ashamed when her mother confronted me about it.
I have decided to handle things differently. I will be buying food items and getting things for our baby myself instead of giving her money. However, I have told her that if she leaves the house again, it will be the end of our relationship as a couple.
I refuse to put myself under financial pressure to meet expectations that are unfair. I work remotely, and she is also unhappy that I stay at home while she goes out to work.
I want to do a DNA test so I can know what steps to take next. That way, even if we separate, I will know whether I am legally responsible for paying child support.
At this point in my life, I need peace of mind and focus so I can build my future, not deal with constant distractions. If I had known things would turn out this way, I would have refused to get married or suggested that we delay it. That said, I would never deny my child.

Nahimm:
I turned 29 about a month ago. I met my wife in the first quarter of 2024. We dated for a short period—about three months—before she became pregnant....

How old is your wife? 🥱🥱🥱

Nahimm:
She still earns more than I do. She keeps saying she is spending her money and that I am not appreciative. She told her mother that I do not give her enough money, that I do not support her business financially, and that I do not buy things for our baby. I felt ashamed when her mother confronted me about it.
I have decided to handle things differently. I will be buying food items and getting things for our baby myself instead of giving her money. However, I have told her that if she leaves the house again, it will be the end of our relationship as a couple.
I refuse to put myself under financial pressure to meet expectations that are unfair. I work remotely, and she is also unhappy that I stay at home while she goes out to work.
I want to do a DNA test so I can know what steps to take next. That way, even if we separate, I will know whether I am legally responsible for paying child support.
At this point in my life, I need peace of mind and focus so I can build my future, not deal with constant distractions. If I had known things would turn out this way, I would have refused to get married or suggested that we delay it. That said, I would never deny my child.

Do you guys have a budget you go by? I would suggest you draw out one and agree on what percentage each party contributes. Whoever buys the food will not solve the problem if there are no accountability and transparency in the marriage. As for she moving out again in the future, your stance is very good provided there is no form of physical abuse going on.
Why did you wait if you ever had an iota of doubt on the child? Go do the DNA and give yourself the rest you desire knowing your truth. Lastly, what does the marriage law/act says about a child born within a marriage in Nigeria?

Kobojunkie:
How old is your wife? 🥱🥱🥱

she said 25 but I’ve seen an old document of hers that says 27, and also her antenatal form carries 27. I know ladies don’t always feel comfortable giving their actual age, there’s usually about -2 difference in the age they tell other people.

Nahimm:
➜she said 25 but I’ve seen an old document of hers that says 27, and also her antenatal form carries 27. I know ladies don’t always feel comfortable giving their actual age, there’s usually about -2 difference in the age they tell other people.

Wrong! Don't use your erroneous assumptions regarding women to excuse your ignorance of your wife's age. Find out from her why the discrepancies between records. If you insist on interrogating her, then be sure you will have failed even before you start.

GboyegaD:
Do you guys have a budget you go by? I would suggest you draw out one and agree on what percentage each party contributes. Whoever buys the food will not solve the problem if there are no accountability and transparency in the marriage. As for she moving out again in the future, your stance is very good provided there is no form of physical abuse going on.
Why did you wait if you ever had an iota of doubt on the child? Go do the DNA and give yourself the rest you desire knowing your truth. Lastly, what does the marriage law/act says about a child born within a marriage in Nigeria?

Thank you for this advice, I will work on having a budget for the family and try to convince her to commit a certain percentage as contribution. Accountability is necessary.

I will have the DNA done within the year, I’ve wanted to do it for a while now but when I think of the amount I just feel reluctant and most times when there’s no serious issues, I don’t prioritize it.
I never expected there would be reasons for doubt on that that’s why I delayed. I met her as a church girl and she constantly gives the impression that she isn’t that type of person. She hardly replies her WhatsApp messages when it’s not business related.
However, in order to be have peace of mind and trust.. I will do the DNA test.

I don’t really get the context of the question about what the law says about a child born within a marriage in Nigeria sir. Please make it clear

Fake ass story.. 2M for selfcon

Onegai:
This story sounds one kind o.

This is a new NL account, your wife is from a "broken home", you dated 3 months, got her pregnant and married, you're not financially buoyant, she's turned into a witch allovasudden, her single mum is fighting you, divorce talk has already come up, your loyal mama don wear her armour and summon her dragon, Japa gist has started (even though you're stretched thin financially), suddenly suddenly you've discovered suspicion of infidelity and paternity fraud ...

And sharp sharp, you're asking the mods to move this very personal, private topic to the Front Page of Nairaland...

🧐🤔🤨

Thought we all agreed to leave such behavior in 2025...🤨😑

Anyway if I'm wrong, I do apologise🤗, though this sounds like a prescription of NL Redpill, 2 tablets, to be swallowed with a cup of water or eba.

you forgot self con for 2M lol

Memberclub:
Fake ass story.. 2M for selfcon

I said close to 2M, yes for two years, including agent and other fees.

In Lagos yes.

From all indications it appears :
1. DNA test is urgently needed. Go borrow money and do it today
2. Your wife appears older than you but she is hiding her real age
3. She married you because of pregnancy
4.If the DNA confirms the child is yours , you need to move to new location otherwise you will not have peace
5.When a woman constantly refuse her husband sex ,it is clear there is someone who is doing the job for the husband
6. You rush to marry her without due investigation
DNA is needed now not later in the year ,it must be done now now

Spainever:
From all indications it appears :
1. DNA test is urgently needed. Go borrow money and do it today
2. Your wife appears older than you but she is hiding her real age
3. She married you because of pregnancy
4.If the DNA confirms the child is yours , you need to move to new location otherwise you will not have peace
5.When a woman constantly refuse her husband sex ,it is clear there is someone who is doing the job for the husband
6. You rush to marry her without due investigation
DNA is needed now not later in the year ,it must be done now now

Thanks for the advice. Once I see the money I go do the DNA test

Don't take her abroad with that her behaviour though..