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I have thought over and over again to determine what marriage benefited to men.

Marriage is the coming together of two people to become a partner together forever.

But the men shoulder all the responsibilities of nurturing the home ranging from house rent, feedings, school fees etc while the women kept their money for their own family or party.

Men shoulder this responsibility to the extent of losing their life on high risk job while the women would still move on after one or two years with another man.

What we called a partner responsibilities is later left for men to carried alone.

Women are deceitful and wicked who only cares about their well-being alone and survival.

This life is unfair to the men and it is high time men see women as been deceitful and wicked to them.

If you never have any problems you will think the women love the men,just have a problem the would unabled you provide for the family,you would face a lot of insults,abuse, sex starve, mormoing and pressure from the women that could force men to think of suicide or abandon their home.

Women are looking for already made men,while the men would build them up for success.

It is high time men also stop investing on an ungrateful, selfish fellow.

Minus me. I don't share in that your ideology.
Personally for me if not for women I for don excuse una for this world.

Ehn! So I will just be looking at all these strong faces and bony structures.
My God! No woman no life!

Forget certificates my wife is almost my greatest reward, she gave me my beautiful kids and don't tell me any woman can do that cos I don't do that nonsense "my baby mama kind of thing.

I will always choose one ugly woman over 10 handsome guys.
I will always choose one good woman over 10 foolish guys.

Hellooooooo SIR, spare me that crap!

Felimax:
Minus me. I don't share in that your ideology.
Personally for me if not for women I for don excuse una for this world.

Ehn! So I will just be looking at all these strong faces and bony structures.
My God! No woman no life!

Forget certificates my wife is almost my greatest reward, she gave me my beautiful kids and don't tell me any woman can do that cos I don't do that nonsense "my baby mama kind of thing.

I will always choose one ugly woman over 10 handsome guys.
I will always choose one good woman over 10 foolish guys.

Hellooooooo SIR, spare me that crap!

if marriage favour you you're lucky. I've seen married men facing hell because of no money to cater for family.

For me to be able to groom my offsprings well and prepare dem mentally is a benefit for me.

Felimax:
Minus me. I don't share in that your ideology.
Personally for me if not for women I for don excuse una for this world.

Ehn! So I will just be looking at all these strong faces and bony structures.
My God! No woman no life!

Forget certificates my wife is almost my greatest reward, she gave me my beautiful kids and don't tell me any woman can do that cos I don't do that nonsense "my baby mama kind of thing.

I will always choose one ugly woman over 10 handsome guys.
I will always choose one good woman over 10 foolish guys.

Hellooooooo SIR, spare me that crap!

Who no go no go know,some men talked the same thing,they have changed their ideology today.

Many men were raising a bastard without knowing.

I have seen a man that doesn't have any child out of all the four children.

This was someone that did not travel out because of love for his wife.

I don't tell anyone not to love their wife duly,but nobody should cry foul online when the truth later revealed.

Cum4me:
if marriage favour you you're lucky. I've seen married men facing hell because of no money to cater for family.

So women are not suffering also?
So you haven't seen a woman selling pure water, carrying a baby on her back and still looking for a way to breastfeed the baby? The man responsible for that will still shift her pants when night comes o.

The man will come in at 10:30pm and drop #1000 for a family of 6 and in the next 20mins he demand for pounded yam and cow head Ogboni soup.

Women suffer more in marriage that anyone else. I have been chanced to witness the delivery of three of my kids and you don't want me to continue.

Women suffer more in marriage don't get it twisted. Some women goes into prostitution because their spouses are lazy.

Don't be ignorant or selfishly biased; there is pressure on both men and women. Some women are also scared and trying to avoid marriage.

Just as men often feel societal pressure to provide, women face career sacrifices, societal judgments, and family expectations.

Marriage works best when both partners communicate and share responsibilities. It is about how you set the rules for your relationship.

Marriage can sometimes be scary, but for many, it brings great impact and can even turn their lives around. If you treat your marriage as a partnership, supporting each other in different ways, you can truly enjoy it.

ridwintin89:
Who no go no go know,some men talked the same thing,they have changed their ideology today.

Many men were raising a bastard without knowing.

I have seen a man that doesn't have any child out of all the four children.

This was someone that did not travel out because of love for his wife.

I don't tell anyone not to love their wife duly,but nobody should cry foul online when the truth later revealed.

I beg make we hear word! You guys don't know how dumb it sounds to claim that out of four kids non is the husbands own. Show me that man and I will show you a woman who did that to make her husband a proud father.

I have a very good friend and a colleague who are practical example. You guys should go and get married and stop disturbing the marriage space.

How can a sensible man be with a woman in the house and will not know that all kids are not his own? You think marriage is a secondary school classroom.

I can vehemently tell you there is non of our pregnancy that I am not always the first to know that my wife is pregnant and she will be surprised.

If you don't want to get married it's fine don't juxtapose what you don't know.

I cannot imagine carrying and dangling my d*ck all over the place running from one hole to another. Like I don't get but that is me. Other guys may not share the same ideology and that should not be my headache.

A lot of you barely talk of the multiple bastards some married men has outside wedlock and the wife will not know until the day the man dies. Who will you blame?

Lopsided analysis everyday by baby men! Tah! Make una comot.

Felimax:
Minus me. I don't share in that your ideology.
Personally for me if not for women I for don excuse una for this world.

Ehn! So I will just be looking at all these strong faces and bony structures.
My God! No woman no life!

Forget certificates my wife is almost my greatest reward, she gave me my beautiful kids and don't tell me any woman can do that cos I don't do that nonsense "my baby mama kind of thing.

I will always choose one ugly woman over 10 handsome guys.
I will always choose one good woman over 10 foolish guys.

Hellooooooo SIR, spare me that crap!

Indeed I second your opinion... Moreover only naivity go make man dey post like OP

A FUNCTIONAL SYSTEM is a group in which individuals have rules, roles, and relationships.

DYSFUNCTIONAL is the extent to which an individual cannot get his/her needs met within a system.

To become a fully functioning adult, one moves developmentally from being dependent to being independent to being interdependent. Stephen Covey (1989) calls it the maturity continuum, and John Bradshaw (1988) refers to it as becoming whole.

Regardless of the terminology, it basically means moving from being dependent on others to being able to work together with other adults, each independent of the other, but jointly, as equal partners.


NOTE:
In generational poverty, the primary role of a real man is to physically work hard, to be a fighter, and to be a lover. In middle class, a real man is a provider.
If one follows the implications of a male identity as one who is a fighter and a lover, then one can understand why the male who takes this identity (of fighter and lover as his own) cannot have a stable life. Of the three responses to life-to flee, flow, or fight-he can only fight or flee. So when the stress gets high, he fights, then flees from the law and the people closest to him, leaving his home. Either way he is gone. When the heat dies down, he returns-to an initial welcome, then more fights. The cycle begins again.


Being in poverty is rarely about a lack of intelligence or ability. ? Many individuals stay in poverty because they don't know there is a choice-and if they do know that, have no one to teach them hidden rules or provide resources. ? Schools are virtually the only places where students can learn the choices and rules of the middle class. The culture of poverty has some universal characteristics which transcend regional, rural-urban, and even national differences ... There are remarkable similarities in family structure, interpersonal relations, time orientations, value systems, spending patterns, and the sense of community in lowerclass settlements i

Cum4me:
if marriage favour you you're lucky. I've seen married men facing hell because of no money to cater for family.

This guy you mention just dey respond like broken record. He’s an understanding man. Na their type dey wear rags and him pikin with wife Dey shine. He’s working in progress for his family😂

ridwintin89:
Who no go no go know,some men talked the same thing,they have changed their ideology today.

Many men were raising a bastard without knowing.

I have seen a man that doesn't have any child out of all the four children.

This was someone that did not travel out because of love for his wife.

I don't tell anyone not to love their wife duly,but nobody should cry foul online when the truth later revealed.

You Dey mind am, make he dey yan dust for there. Defender of the universe, my wife, my life😂😂😂

Apart from access to regular supply of to.to there is no benefit for men

ridwintin89:
I have thought over and over again to determine what marriage benefited to men.

Marriage is the coming together of two people to become a partner together forever.

But the men shoulder all the responsibilities of nurturing the home ranging from house rent, feedings, school fees etc while the women kept their money for their own family or party.

Men shoulder this responsibility to the extent of losing their life on high risk job while the women would still move on after one or two years with another man.

What we called a partner responsibilities is later left for men to carried alone.

Women are deceitful and wicked who only cares about their well-being alone and survival.

This life is unfair to the men and it is high time men see women as been deceitful and wicked to them.

If you never have any problems you will think the women love the men,just have a problem the would unabled you provide for the family,you would face a lot of insults,abuse, sex starve, mormoing and pressure from the women that could force men to think of suicide or abandon their home.

Women are looking for already made men,while the men would build them up for success.

It is high time men also stop investing on an ungrateful, selfish fellow.

If you are an aspiring blogger or journalist or anything of that nature, you can't make headways because your submission is one-sided, lacks objectivity and not well-researched. It reeks of misogyny; its a Fallacy of illegitimate generalisation. Choose another route!

Having a good and supportive woman is a big plus but you see those other mbeke them.Those ones are Jezebels and patient ozorkwo in nature..

Felimax:
I beg make we hear word! You guys don't know how dumb it sounds to claim that out of four kids non is the husbands own. Show me that man and I will show you a woman who did that to make her husband a proud father.

I was almost agreeing with some of your submission till you typed this nonsense.

Please love your wife, it's good for the society but don't come here and defend nonsense.

A woman should give her husband 4 kids that aren't his own to make him 'a proud father?'
Please wish that on yourself and your male family members

Julibet:
I was almost agreeing with some of your submission till you typed this nonsense.

Please love your wife, it's good for the society but don't come here and defend nonsense.

A woman should give her husband 4 kids that aren't his own to make him 'a proud father?'
Please wish that on yourself and your male family members

Be civil try to read and understand. Where you don't understand ask questions.

I pointed out that I know a colleague who was a practical example.

A lot of men will marry a woman knowing fully well they cannot impregnate a woman only for the woman to faced with the embarrassment of childlessness.

My second example happens to be a nurse and her marriage is suppose to be seven years this year but the man does not produce sperm and this is not a case of low sperm count. Very scanty sperm. The painful part is that the husband knew even before they got married. If that is your sister will you ask her to stay in the marriage?

If that is your brother will you allow him to do that to another man's daughter? In this case the husband pleaded that his wife should cover his shame and we all refused. Late last year the marriage was terminated.

People go into marriage for different reasons. I have a friend who currently is saying he will only marry if the lady will accept that they will not have children. Will you give your sister to such a man?

No one is wishing evil on anyone but these things happen on a daily.

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Apart from access to regular supply of to.to there is no benefit for men

How far. You still dey come Festac come hunt? Buzz me when you around next

placeofallure:
If you are an aspiring blogger or journalist or anything of that nature, you can't make headways because your submission is one-sided, lacks objectivity and not well-researched. It reeks of misogyny; its a Fallacy of illegitimate generalisation. Choose another route!

This is not about aspiration but the reality of the situation in marriage.

Both partners need to build their life together not being partial as the women would keep saying I want a man that would take care of me,pays my bill.

Marriage should not be seen as job opportunity for women.

Hardly women finance and support men for success even if they mistakenly did,they would keep monitor the man expenses, activities until the man would got provoked.

We have many single ladies of 30s plus because of them looking for already made men.

Many of these ladies were millionaires but they can never assisted their partner in any form be it business support.

Always looking for someone to shoulders their finances while claiming guys are not ready for marriage .

A lady could put expenses of 150k on your 300 or 400k salary,some are stupid to the extent of setting the amount you must be giving them monthly for upkeep.

I don't see marriage as a partnership except things are working together in all ramifications.

Marriage should be based on love not only on financial power of men.

I knew some women that travelled abroad leaving their husband back home,are they sending upkeep for the husband in taking care of the children definitely No.

They save to build their future in selfishly manner while the men on the other side would keep on rendering the financial obligations.

Love is when you have empathy and wanting the best for your partner not only for yourself.