₦airaland Forum

Good evening everyone.


My friend's younger brother that lives with his mum as the last child trying to figure out things called him last night and was complaining bitterly about the neighbors were they live.


The neighbors are harassing he and his mum but he is trying to be cool as he doesn't want to involve the police or a lawyer.

He has reported to the caretaker concerning the neighbors who live above them ; the neighbors wash their clothes and keep it directly under their solar panel and the dirty water begins to drop on the panels which is not good for the panel.

He said he told the caretaker to tell the neighbors that if they wash they can keep it in the "middle" were it can touch their clothes but not the panel .He said he doesn't mind Washing off the stain from the clothes but for the panels, for the water from the rinsed clothes would be causing damage to the solar.
He suggested this after reporting thrice to the caretaker. When they still continued he told the caretaker to inform the Management of the building and the caretaker said he has done so but according to what he said, today would make it one month since the caretaker said he reported to the management and that the Management called them but there is no changes.

He said he endured it for over 6 months before making first complaint.


Secondly, a young lady who might not be older than him harassed him on his way back from work, by saying to his hearing " don't greet him, he doesn't answer greeting" he had answered the boy ( her son( and was about greeting the lady . He had already said good ... Before he could finish she interrupted with that speech.

He had to address the issue there by telling her it by telling her it was wrong to tell a child not to greet an elder no matter what.

He also emphasized that he was about greeting her as she could see before she made that comment.
He told her that she should not expect greetings everytime they see in the compound as he has other things to worry about


He greeted the lady for about a week but felt it was good to report to the caretaker once more as someone had done something similar in the presence of the caretaker and he told the person if you greet someone and the person doesn't answer you would you still greet the person. The person said to his hearing after he walked past and waved at the caretaker without the person knowing "As he passed, did he greet anyone"

He said the mum also complains of people making similar comments about she not responding to their greetings.

He has reported to the caretaker just so that he is on the know.


Forgive my long write up.

I like saying things without omitting a person's word in situations like this.

Kobojunkie I think you are very sound in giving true advice in scenarios like this.
I would appreciate if you can drop a word of advice for him to tell the " lil bro" .

Rightpathtogo:
➜Good evening everyone. My friend's younger brother that lives with his mum as the last child trying to figure out things called him last night and was complaining bitterly about the neighbors were they live.
The neighbors are harassing he and his mum but he is trying to be cool as he doesn't want to involve the police or a lawyer. He has reported to the caretaker concerning the neighbors who live above them ; the neighbors wash their clothes and keep it directly under their solar panel and the dirty water begins to drop on the panels which is not good for the panel.
He said he told the caretaker to tell the neighbors that if they wash they can keep it in the "middle" were it can touch their clothes but not the panel .He said he doesn't mind Washing off the stain from the clothes but for the panels, for the water from the rinsed clothes would be causing damage to the solar.
He suggested this after reporting thrice to the caretaker. When they still continued he told the caretaker to inform the Management of the building and the caretaker said he has done so but according to what he said, today would make it one month since the caretaker said he reported to the management and that the Management called them but there is no changes.
He said he endured it for over 6 months before making first complaint.
➜ Secondly, a young lady who might not be older than him harassed him on his way back from work, by saying to his hearing " don't greet him, he doesn't answer greeting" he had answered the boy ( her son( and was about greeting the lady . He had already said good ... Before he could finish she interrupted with that speech. .

1. Damage to private property is a police issue; He has already reported several times, yet the neighbor continues to ignore the problem. If he does not have an audio/video recording of the complaints, what he can do is go back to the neighbor to confirm, while recording the conversation, that, after many complaints, the neighbor refuses to stop damaging the property. He should also record the level of damage the water from the washing has done to the panels on video.

About the caretaker, why not bypass him entirely and go speak to management by yourself? And if management gives you the silent treatment, you bring in the police to let them all know you are not an idiot. The caretaker is obviously not doing anything about the problem, and you are not helping yourself by being silent about it. I know Nigerian police is nothing to write home about, but what other option is here? You want to continue suffering in silence?

2. This is a non-issue. If a person doesn't like you or care to respond to you when you greet 'em, that is not a you problem but them problem. There is no reason why you should feel you need to bend yourself over backwards to appease them or make them like you. That is fake as hell a thing to do.

The woman, sadly, has the right to teach her kids to disrespect others if that is what she wants. You can't do much about that. The only power you have is if it leads the child to violate your right or property. Then you can easily report him and his mother to the police... or sue them for whatever damage they caused by their nonsense.

Kobojunkie:
1. Damage to private property is a police issue; He has already reported several times, yet the neighbor continues to ignore the problem. If he does not have an audio/video recording of the complaints, what he can do is go back to the neighbor to confirm, while recording the conversation, that, after many complaints, the neighbor refuses to stop damaging the property. He should also record the level of damage the water from the washing has done to the panels on video.

About the caretaker, why not bypass him entirely and go speak to management by yourself? And if management gives you the silent treatment, you bring in the police to let them all know you are not an idiot. The caretaker is obviously not doing anything about the problem, and you are not helping yourself by being silent about it. I know Nigerian police is nothing to write home about, but what other option is here? You want to continue suffering in silence?

2. This is a non-issue. If a person doesn't like you or care to respond to you when you greet 'em, that is not a you problem but [i]them[/i] problem. There is no reason why you should feel you need to bend yourself over backwards to appease them or make them like you. That is fake as hell a thing to do.

The woman, sadly, has the right to teach her kids to disrespect others if that is what she wants. You can't do much about that. The only power you have is if it leads the child to violate your right or property. Then you can easily report him and his mother to the police... or sue them for whatever damage they caused by their nonsense.

The one bringing up the greeting drama is different.

Rightpathtogo:
➜The one bringing up the greeting drama is different.

I know. Whatever her reasons for concluding that your friend's brother and mother are not worth her greeting is entirely hers and nothing to do with them. Nothing wrong with that. Tell him not to bother himself about such small-minded individuals. 🥱🥱

My own advice to the elder brother was" If it were me I would continue reporting the issue and avoid any police or lawyer inclusion.

That money for police or lawyer can replace the panel and show he is bigger than them without saying it.


Although it is very hard to do but it is my own thought.

Rightpathtogo:
➜My own advice to the elder brother was" If it were me I would continue reporting the issue and avoid any police or lawyer inclusion. That money for police or lawyer can replace the panel and show he is bigger than them without saying it.
Although it is very hard to do but it is my own thought.

If reporting to the police or a lawyer would cost that much money, then maybe he should simply also save himself from reporting the issue. The stress of it all is also not healthy for him. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
If reporting to the police or a lawyer would cost that much money, then maybe he should simply also save himself from reporting the issue. The stress of it all is also not healthy for him. 🥱🥱🥱

He hoped they would stop but their actions after his reports appears asil if their actions are intentional.

I feel bad for him though.

Rightpathtogo:
➜He hoped they would stop but their actions after his reports appears asil if their actions are intentional.
I feel bad for him though.

If you already know this, why then did you advise him to continue pouring water into a basket? 🥱🥱