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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Nodogragra4me(m): 10:15am On Jan 31

What is love and from what culture is your idea of love rooted?

Explain marriage and love from the oriental culture or The Arab background.

Why do you embrace a cultural practice that regards parents as "weights" to be offloaded into "homes" above yours?

EmperorIsaac:
Truth is what we call marriage in Nigeria is pure nonsense....heavily transactional and bereft of the concept of love in its essence. Quote me daily!

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by DeltaBachelor(m): 10:16am On Jan 31

lol. Aeon woke mentality people. Una never see anything

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Don27tiky(m): 10:17am On Jan 31

Dtruthspeaker:
The question is do women want to work here? No.

The Uk terrain makes it impossible for a man to do all the work while the wife caters only to the domestic affairs.

Then to destroy marriages, they then unjustly favoured the woman to the suffering of the men. Thus, the ukians already had broken marriages so how Nigerian won carry e marriage go there wey e no go break?

trying to change the biological order will only destroy humanity. Even in animal the male is the dominant one. When you allow women to lead you end up creating weak men. The enlightened know this but want to deceive you to raise weak men while they raise their kids to become strong men to rule. We are havie more of weak men in the society today because men allow women to raise their kids

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by greatermax77(m): 10:28am On Jan 31

A union where both couples understand and respect eachother and have the seal to make the marriage work is the best, and couples in such marriage will atteste to the fact that marriage is sweet. Don't ever take UK marriage to be the best, because, it's their way of life, I only blame some Nigeria that were caught in the web of UK marriage culture. Many of those divorced women, the poster called strong women are actually suffering loneliness and in actual sense not strong.

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by udemzyudex(m): 10:29am On Jan 31

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Don27tiky(m): 10:31am On Jan 31

Host78:
I think the UK exposes women for the leeches they are in marriage rather than men being the problem.

For one, a man marries a woman because he loves and cared about her.

When she had nothing he married her, gave her his own money, feeds and clothes her as much as he could.

And when he has hustled enough, he saves and saves and deny himself a lot of things so that he'll be able to cater to this woman and the child she'll later born.

But that's still not enough. He wants to improve their overall quality of life. He wants more for them.

So he saves even more and then travel to the UK.

In the UK, he picks up odd jobs and even though he's stressed, he works harder to ensure his family could join him one day.

Then finally his wife and kids are able to join him in the UK.

Suddenly on getting there, she found that she could now work and earn as much as the husband.

He's happy. She's happy. He's happy that finally his loved ones are with him now and they could continue building the home they started.

She's happy she's here now and could finally get rid of her husband and her family.

On the one hand, when he had everything, he gave her everything and brought her over.

On the other hand, when she had everything, she wants to give him nothing and to send him away.

So, no, the UK does not expose how terrible men are but how terrible and ungrateful women are to the men who gave them everything.

On her own, she'll never have dreamt of a day she'll cross the Nigerian border. It was the man who gave her wings.

But the very moment she felt the air, she turned around and call him a misogynistic bastąrd who had been maltreating her all along.

He was maltreating her yet he brought her over to the good life. He was maltreating her, yet he married her and gave her the wedding of her dreams.

He was maltreating her, yet he helped her find a job, helped her complete her course or paid for her schooling.

What did he get in return? Or more put what did she give him in return?

It's like God after giving you air and life and suddenly you say now you have the freedom to say God was evil.

Nah, Nigerian women are selfish, self-centered and ungrateful and the UK exposes their true nature.

And save me the excuse of this women getting married to men they don't like because they need to survive.

Isn't that the selfishness we are talking about? You married someone you don't like because you wanted your own survival not caring about the man's survival.

@image. Yet this same hopeless and poor, starving-to-death girl, whose own parents could not help her situation, the moment you take her over there and she gets good work, you, suddenly you're a misogynistic băstård who has been maltreating her

thats what people with the 3rd sense preach to people to gain control over others. They give advantage women because women raise weak men. They do all these but allow their men to raise their children to be strong men so they can rule your own. Most black women have been deceived over time to separate from their husbands and are given custody of the kids because they want their society to be full of weak men they can control. Nigerian men have become so busy that they abandoned child raising to their mothers and the result, bunches of weak men our society that cannot defend their own families . Reason it’s so hard to control the Arabs is because they have strong men.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Kukutente23: 10:34am On Jan 31

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0WD1eDtB3GjQFqrnhHjcZQHjBEZWriUL3W2ibwEpqiQZ9t3X19qsNDfAcjBeAJmh9l

You write as if only Nigerian marriages are destroyed in UK.
Even the UK citizens themselves, men now marry men and women marry women in a bid to escape the frustration that the so-called battle for equality brings
But even that has not cured the destruction of UK marriages

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Passionate1(m): 10:40am On Jan 31

Dis matter dey deep! Una carry women weh dey manage una go abroad. .Naija women no dey capable of true love. .

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by budaatum: 10:43am On Jan 31

SpaceX:
I strongly advocate for women to stop getting married, marriages doesn't benefit women in anyways.

That's your opinion and choice.

When a good woman finds a good man who respects and regards her, they might marry because they benefit each other, is my opinion.

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by ThunderFireAgba: 10:44am On Jan 31

EmperorIsaac:
Truth is what we call marriage in Nigeria is pure nonsense....heavily transactional and bereft of the concept of love in its essence. Quote me daily!

because you dey look for big ynash and fine face while she dey look for any man who is ready. Don't feel it's lost course cos you missed out or played your game woefully.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Host78: 10:44am On Jan 31

Kukutente23:
You write as if only Nigerian marriages are destroyed in UK.
Even the UK citizens themselves, men now marry men and women marry women in a bid to escape the frustration that the so-called battle for equality brings
But even that has not cured the destruction of UK marriages

and you know the funniest part of this discussion. when men marry men, they tend to have less problem. Their divorce rate is almost zero, domestic violence is almost zero.

But when women marry other women, guess what, their divorce rate is higher than when a man marries a woman and the domestic violence is higher than gay marriage and heterosexual marriages.

Yet, these women want us to see them as the saints and the partner that is always without faults.

Yet marriages between two women results in the highest divorce and highest domestic violence.

Again, i stand by my earlier truths: women are inherently selfish and terrible as humans

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by budaatum: 10:47am On Jan 31

Dtruthspeaker:
This is not true. It is the women who brought it on themselves when they became oloshoos crying "love kwa. Who love hep? Every one knows that men love to love and are looking for love but women have over exploited and abused it, so why would men love? Even at that the guy still loves until the woman burned him

Sorry dt, but the bold sounds like 'who square root help', and you already know my view on that.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Don27tiky(m): 10:50am On Jan 31

Julibet:
This post is laughable. If most men in Nigeria were given the choice and not pressured by society to be 'responsible' by marrying, they will remain single and just have kids to cater for.

Marriage favors the women more than men, what does a man demand in marriage? Loyalty and respect from a woman that he works his ass off into early grave for but nahhhh, men are always the villain

the whites are very smart. They give women power because they know women will raise weak men they will easily control. Empowering women and weakening the men is a way of ensuring women solely raise the kids, the result is weak men. They struggle to control Arabs because they have more strong men. In Nigeria today the case is same. Men are either too busy or separated and leave the children with their mothers. These children will grow up and cannot even protect their families not to talk of society. Powerful men always keep their kids even after divorce.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by CHoccolaTE: 11:04am On Jan 31

Host78:
Again, i stand by my earlier truths: women are inherently selfish and terrible as humans

Really?
Is that why there are more male criminals and more male murderers and kidnappers?

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by musicwriter(m): 11:08am On Jan 31

As an extreme supporter of women right that I am and with due respect to the author of that piece, but he/she doesn't understand the reason for the change when Nigerian women get to the UK.

The reason is that we don't have a strong sense of culture. We have eaten our cake over here and can't have it. And the man is to be blamed.

Ask yourself why it doesn't happen for Arabs, Indians, even for other African countries.

It doesn't happen for other countries with strong sense of culture. There's something wrong with us over here that makes that the case when we get to the UK

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Host78: 11:14am On Jan 31

There are more female ashåwo, more female onlyfåns.

But then again, how does this relate to this thread or whatever I talked about earlier on? undecided

CHoccolaTE:
Really?
Is that why there are more male criminals and more male murderers and kidnappers?

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by CHoccolaTE: 11:17am On Jan 31

Host78:
and you know the funniest part of this discussion. when men marry men, they tend to have less problem. Their divorce rate is almost zero, domestic violence is almost zero.

But when women marry other women, guess what, their divorce rate is higher than when a man marries a woman and the domestic violence is higher than gay marriage and heterosexual marriages.

Yet, these women want us to see them as the saints and the partner that is always without faults.

Yet marriages between two women results in the highest divorce and highest domestic violence.

First of all, gay men don't experience less domestic violence, they only report it less. Secondly, there are less gay divorces because a lot of gay marriages are open marriages.

You have been all over the thread complaining about women. Haba calm down, nobody is forcing you to be with them, avoid women if you dislike them so much, all this bitterness isn't necessary.

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by buJu234: 11:17am On Jan 31

marriage in Nigeria now is[b] Poverty alleviation Program[/b] for alot of Nigerian ladies oo..

thats why they will tell you I LOVE YOU, immediately the guy mistakely replied them back I LOVE YOU too, the next she will tell him to proof it via spending/ billing him.

can you see it now?

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Merry100: 11:18am On Jan 31

Wonderful post. More posts like this are needed.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by CHoccolaTE: 11:19am On Jan 31

Host78:
There are more female ashåwo, more female onlyfåns.

But then again, how does this relate to this thread or whatever I talked about earlier on?

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by cococandy(f): 11:20am On Jan 31

It’s best if you guys marry other men 😊

Host78:
and you know the funniest part of this discussion. when men marry men, they tend to have less problem. Their divorce rate is almost zero, domestic violence is almost zero.

But when women marry other women, guess what, their divorce rate is higher than when a man marries a woman and the domestic violence is higher than gay marriage and heterosexual marriages.

Yet, these women want us to see them as the saints and the partner that is always without faults.

Yet marriages between two women results in the highest divorce and highest domestic violence.

Again, i stand by my earlier truths: women are inherently selfish and terrible as humans

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by zinaunreal(m): 11:34am On Jan 31

It exposes how evil women are 😆

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by novodecipher: 11:39am On Jan 31

Let's call a spade a spade ... Yes, Nigerian marriage institution is patriarchal (our culture made it so) but we should also say it as it is...The UK or Western culture marriage institution is also matriarchal. Let's not sugar coat it by saying it gives everyone equal right.

The advice will be respect each country's law and institution. Nobody should force anyone to accept what he/she doesn't want in their own country. If you find yourself outside your country, then keep their laws for them or come back home. QED

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by joseph1832(m): 11:48am On Jan 31

cococandy:
It’s best if you guys marry other men 😊

Its also best if you women stop being.

Fancy that ever happening. Lmfao.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by pocohantas(f): 12:14pm On Jan 31

cococandy:
It’s best if you guys marry other men 😊

We are looking forward to that day. Jman type pass like that and e done go do introduction.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by GreenMavro: 12:21pm On Jan 31

Some times I wonder who gives the gold standard for marriage. The UK used here as a reference point has not recorded healthy marriages.
Only those who migrate to other climes suffer this fate.
African marriages are patrilineal while EU are matrilineal. Imposition of their way of life on others is uncalled for. Just imagine if the reverse happens, will they accept it?

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Jman06(m): 12:22pm On Jan 31

Philosopher1979:
i THINK THE PROBLEM IS THAT MOST NIGERIAN WOMEN DO NOT MARRY WHO THEY LOVE.
THEY MARRY DUE TO 2 REASONS 1. SOCIETAL PRESSURE 2. FINANCIAL REASONS.
I THINK THE ISSUE IS THAT IF YOU TELL A LADY TO MARRY ON TIME THE USUAL THING IS THAT THE MAN
SHE IS ATTRACTED TO AND FEELS LIKE HAVING SEX WITH IS NOT FINANCIALL READY.
WHEN CLOSE TO 30 OR DUE TO SOCIETAL PRESSURE OR BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE THEY SETTLE FOR MR AVAILABLE
AND NOT MR RIGHT
THIS MAY BE WHY PATERNITY FRAUD HAPPENS.
WHEN THEY GO ABROAD THEY HAVE MORE RIGHTS AS THE LAW AND CULTURE OF THE WESTERN WORLD EMPOWERS THEM
AND THEN THEY CAN DO WHAT IS IN THEIR MIND

Stop spreading this falsehood! Women's 'love' is never static! That girl that claims to love you today can unlove you tomorrow. Same thing happens in marriages here. These days, you rarely see ladies being forced to marry any man. They choose their men nowadays sometimes without the consent of their families. Yet, it is still now that they now choose their men that marital problems and divorces have become so high! What does that tell you? Of course, that should make any reasonable person understand the fact that women's love is never static. It takes well-raised and disciplined girls to keep their marriages nowadays.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Kaczynski: 12:25pm On Jan 31

I'd say the more educated, financially endowed and experienced a woman is, the more she tends to value her independence. We see this in Gen Z women who are more liberal than women of previous generation.

I'd take an independent women over everything, that one won't stick to me like a chewing gum on a desk. I prefer a woman not too conservative and not too liberal , somewhere in between .

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by 29Ade07: 12:27pm On Jan 31

So what obtains in the western world where 50% of their faultless marriage end in divorce is now the desirable. Before we imbibe something let us take a holistic view for informed decision making.Wisdom demands that we don't create more problem in a bid to solve one.

EmperorIsaac:
Truth is what we call marriage in Nigeria is pure nonsense....heavily transactional and bereft of the concept of love in its essence. Quote me daily!

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by Host78: 12:30pm On Jan 31

I don't see you countering my points in any way.

CHoccolaTE:
First of all, gay men don't experience less domestic violence, they only report it less. Secondly, there are less gay divorces because a lot of gay marriages are open marriages.

You have been all over the thread complaining about women. Haba calm down, nobody is forcing you to be with them, avoid women if you dislike them so much, all this bitterness isn't necessary.

Re: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by cococandy(f): 12:42pm On Jan 31

joseph1832:
Its also best if you women stop being.

Fancy that ever happening. Lmfao.

If we women stop being what?

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