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Freshandfitpod:
Guys I'm married please do not get married it's a waste of time and energy

motymop:
If you marry the wrong partner then all your time will be spent on exhuming the devil in you.

kushme:
My elder bro changed after he got married, I dey mostly sense contempt when we talk. He just dey try hide am just for humanity, and probably blood sake. I think the wife did a good job on the divide. She basically sabi many things about we his siblings. Afterall, I just be math teacher wey no get level to them...

Babatunjo:
So I was at dinner with a friend this week. Guy has been married for about 8 years now... married almost immediately after uni. Tall guy, always had fine girlfriends back in school. You’d think na him go dey hype marriage pass.

Out of nowhere, he just sighed and said he regrets marrying… apart from the kids.
His advice shocked me.

He said if he were single again in 2026 Nigeria, he would never marry. That I should just find a woman, have between 1 to 3 kids if I want, make her comfortable, take care of my responsibilities... but avoid marriage completely.

I laughed it off, but then it hit me:
My boss had told me something very similar some time ago.
Then I remembered a former neighbour... fine wife, two kids, lovely family pictures on social media... he also warned me not to rush into marriage.

These are not bitter, broke men o. These are men society would call “successful”.

So now I’m asking myself (and una): Wetin really dey happen?
Is marriage quietly becoming something different from what we were sold?

Orlandoo:
Even if you marry the right person, it is women that benefits the most in marriage.

Orlandoo:
That gender is evil.

Tenses:
Be it wrong or right. Marriage is not for the weak.

2mch:
Small sense dem no get. If someone is advising you not to have what they have or progress in life like them, I think it’s time to check if that friendship is a good one and find people who are successful in what you want to achieve so you too will choose right and become successful. Only a very wicked friend will advise you against something he’s unwilling to leave to prove his point.

Manculated:
Anything short of a kind, trustworthy, good looking, well to do, good character lady from a good and well to do background.

Abeg count me out because I'm very happy with my singlet position.

kushme:
She looks kinda innocent. Always acting like she knows nothing. Guy even borrowed huge funds for her lately. Wetin my bro no go do for you to balance.

Idaytesj29:
With the way you addressed him, baby Mama is better. If he is single, and you address him like this, you will make him more determined to remain single

Orlandoo:
One of my guy married a very beautiful girl. They have three kids. People envy his marriage. He built upstairs. Have his own car. Doing very well in biz. I was shocked to the marrow the night we were having a drink and this my guy, after some bottles, was literally crying, telling me what he is passing through in the hands of his wife and her family. The worst thing is that the wife created problem between him and his siblings. Now he is dying inside without any of his siblings caring about him. This is someone that people wish to be in his shoes.

dominique:
Una no dey ever tire to paint marriage as gloom and doom

Inyaky:
Well, speaking to him that way does not show good character either












He should better remain single, most Nigerian men have bad character but are busy looking for a woman that will lick their ass.

SnoppyG:
If only i know what i know right now, i won't marry. marriage na stress and it doesn't favour men. so many things to endure to make it work. you won't understand until u go into it

cassyrooy:
It's not easy but one battle I've seen, fought against and can boldly fight again is the preservation of siblings bond, whether married or outside of it.

If his wife successfully separated him and his siblings, he has a sacred duty to dismantle her works and seek reunification with his siblings because he'll end his life as a wasted and worthless person.

Orlandoo:
Bro, even the siblings are speechless. Someone that that doesn't joke with them suddenly became their enemy immediately after marriage. You think it is ordinary.

cassyrooy:
Its a deeply mysterious psychological manipulation that has been woven and cast into him to keep him isolated and powerless.

He can break free and dismantle those threads that seems like chains if he can become courage and brave, and then apply wisdom in this reconciliation, reconnection and reunification process.

There will be consequences for him that will threaten him to not proceed but he has to defy the odds and hold firmly onto his siblings, until the psychological manipulation wanes/fades and he recovers his true sense and self.