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Women are use....le.s.s creatures but when u get married to the right woman, you are set for marital bliss..God bless my current gf Ngozi.

tobenuel:
this warri man on the beat. enough doings dey your CV. shaa invite us to your trad or tell us when e don finally sup

Noted bro.

completed:
a lady that cheats don't bother if the husband is cheating. That's why as a man, if you are cheating and your wife doesn't bother,accuse or fight you over it even when she knows, please check, she is cheating also 💯

Not necessarily. Some women just don't want to stress themselves over a problem they can't solve. The only issue is that they may endure while planning for a future without the man in case he flips to the other side. That plan may have nothing to do with another man.

Sirchiboy:
I have a friend that married in 2019 and got separated in 2024.
Just five years of marriage.
When I asked him what really happened.
He said she is tired of his wife's constant nagging.
Always accusing him of cheating without evidence.
He had to divorce her.

He's guilty. Women don't just nag without seeing signs

He should improve on himself if he still have plan to remarry

Stop
Complaining
You might be with the wrong woman.
This Woolf makes you think
Marriage is nonsense and hopeless
When u are with the right person
Marriage would be sweet.
Let’s be real

Sonnobax15:

On behalf of my neighbor who married the greatest female werey .

The dude keeps complaining to me about how his wife's family was the main reason why their marriage didn't last...

Sometimes I begin to thank God I didn't used the money i used in buying my refrigerator last year to do the small low-key marriage I almost did last year

If not,by now,my water for no dey cold..

completed:
a lady that cheats don't bother if the husband is cheating. That's why as a man, if you are cheating and your wife doesn't bother,accuse or fight you over it even when she knows, please check, she is cheating also 💯

Let me add to the ongoing confusion...

A lady who constantly accuses her husband of cheating probably cares a lot about him or about what he's bringing to the table.

Her insecurity is borne out of a deep feeling of not wanting to share or lose him or whatever he's bringing to the table. E get as man go dey irresponsible reach, the wife won't even bother herself if he's cheating.

She will be like; "yeye man wey I dey feed na him dey knack you and you think sey you don jam sugar daddy..."

Meanwhile, all these people wey dey complain sey marriage hard, na where una take meet una own wives? My own wife is like the best thing that happened to me o. Hanty no get wahala, other than the occassional wires wey dey touch for her head, she's a good wife.

Somebody that I posted about my mum's death anniversary and how I missed her. She said shuo; "Haven't I been taking care of you enough?". I nearly choked with laughter.

HeadNigga:
People will stop getting married in less than 100 years to come coz marriage these days is no longer what it used to be. I mean, these days our ladies leave their homes coz their husbands can't do what their father couldn't do for their mother. Social media makes the comparison too much and they forget that most good things we see online aren't true especially now that almost every body is into content creation of "catching cruise"

Take away social media and marriages will start to last like the good old days...pre 2010s

Indeed, cos there won't be any medium for the women to rant again when domestic abuse happens.....
U tink say u wise

There's no perfect marriage anywhere but as a man set your priorities right. I have been there twice until I applied the following principles


​1. Visionary Compatibility: Clearly define the qualities and values you envision in a life partner. Without a mental blueprint, you risk building a future on an unstable foundation.


​2. Unwavering Standards: Establish your boundaries and tolerance levels early. True character is found in the discipline to uphold your standards rather than compromising them for temporary convenience.


​3. Spiritual Alignment: Seek a woman of prayer and spiritual depth. A partner with a strong moral and spiritual compass provides a sense of peace and resilience that sustains a home through adversity.


​4. The Weight of Integrity: Recognize that a history of infidelity or involvement in "hook-up culture" often signals a fundamental misalignment with the commitment required for a sacred covenant. Some lifestyles are inherently incompatible with the sanctity of marriage.


​5. The Reality of Individual Paths: Conduct an honest self-assessment. Not every individual is wired for the domestic responsibilities of family life. It is more honorable to choose a path that suits your nature—whether that is marriage or independence—than to force a fit that isn't there.


Marriage to me is a blessing, be with someone that wants you. Spending time with family at your old age is the greatest feeling money can't buy.

Thanks.

Sonnobax15:

On behalf of my neighbor who married the greatest female werey .

The dude keeps complaining to me about how his wife's family was the main reason why their marriage didn't last...

Sometimes I begin to thank God I didn't used the money i used in buying my refrigerator last year to do the small low-key marriage I almost did last year

If not,by now,my water for no dey cold..

Hahahaha bhad Guy

tobore4u:
Women are use....le.s.s creatures but when u get married to the right woman, you are set for marital bliss..God bless my current gf Ngozi.

Ovioko

Times have changed

Marriage are prone to separation more now because of many artificial, digital, tangible reasons

femi4:
He's guilty. Women don't just nag without seeing signs

He should improve on himself if he still have plan to remarry

This is false

Just get children the rest na jara story.
Main goal is having kids

danhans:
If you experience nagging woman,then you will understand how hell fire looks like,it is better to stay alone than to stay with a nagging woman

What are the characteristics of a nagging woman

femi4:
He's guilty. Women don't just nag without seeing signs

He should improve on himself if he still have plan to remarry

That's not true all the time, some women are simply insecure.

I had one that never trusted me even though I wasn't cheating.
Whenever I traveled for work, she is busy thinking something else.
Even with her doing video calls with me while I'm in my hotel room, she will still say she wants to see if one sidechick is hiding in the bathroom.

That's same person that would accuse me whenever I'm watching news on TV when she's not there with me. As long as the newscaster is a lady, she hears a female voice on TV, she says there's a girl with me in the room. I mute the TV, she says I just told the girl to shut up which is not true.

Everything in her head is girls, girls, girls, while everything on my head is work, work, work.
I was going crazy because of the mental torture she was giving me.

I once sat her down to ask why she was doing all of this to me and she said she doesn't trust men, that her dad cheated on her mom with so many side chicks. But I'm not her dad, I'm me. Why should I be the one to pay for whatever her dad did to her mom?

There was a time I stopped by a bar to chill on my way from work. The bar was just about 5 mins drive from my home. I had ordered a beer and realized I forgot my wallet at home.
I called her to please bring my wallet to me so I could pay for what I bought and drive home behind her.

She showed up at the bar with my wallet and suddenly started fighting a random girl that was just minding her business. I was expecting her to call me when she was outside the bar so I could walk up to her and get my wallet, instead she came inside and started fighting someone I have never met before my whole life, calling her my side chick. It was very embarrassing.

The girl had showed up there with some of her friends, they were playing pool and drinking.
I guess the girl came to the bartender to order somethings for herself and her friends. She was only talking to the bartender while I was minding my business on my phone. That's someone I have never met before my entire life and never ever talked to. It was like seven of them on their pool table behind me, this lady was only the trying to get something for her team.

Wifey walked in with my wallet and started calling the girl my side chick and both of them started fighting in the bar that was peaceful before her arrival. I kept telling her I do not know this girl nor her crew, she didn't believe me. The girls friends - 4 guys and 2 ladies- stepped in to support their friend. I had to beg them to leave wifey alone, that's the madness I was dealing with at home she brought to a public place.

Why will any man be in a bar with a side-chick and ask his wife to bring him his wallet? It doesn't even make any sense at all. She just liked to accuse me of stuff I know nothing about.

My younger sister i hadn't seen in years came to visit us and spent two weeks with us. Wifey kept saying I'm lieing to her that she's my side chick. I told her over and over that's the only girl in our family and even showed her pictures of us together when we were kids. She didn't believe me, she said I photoshopped the pictures. I got tired of explaining to her.

To her, every girl in the world is my side chick, even newscasters on TV. She was driving me crazy. I like watching news, suddenly I started turning off the TV whenever she's calling me so she doesn't accuse me of being with another woman whenever it's a lady talking on TV. Ain't that crazy? I was going crazy because of her. Asking myself if that's what all married men go through or mine is just special.

What got me really upset was when she drove over 12 hours with our 1 year old son then to the hotel I was staying at and waited patiently in the hotel lobby till I got back from work. The first thing on her lips was "let's go to your room, I want to see the girl with you." I kept telling her there's no girl anywhere, she didn't believe me. She searched the entire room, couldn't find any girl anywhere and still kept saying I must have told her to leave, which wasnt true . There was no other girl anywhere.

I couldn't take the drama no more and we ended up getting divorced and went out separate ways.

We have both re-married someone else again, and I heard she accuses her new husband of same thing she did to me over and over and they fight all the time. Such people cant change, I think it's psychological.

How can any many satisfy someone like that? He problem is not lack of money, lack of sex, lack of attention, it's simply JEALOUSY - that thought of someone else sharing her man with her, and it was leading to high blood pressure for me. I can't die because of a woman with that kind of mindset.

So, some ladies just have that insecurity issue. Even if you're a priest that preaches against infidelity, some women will frustrate you to the point where you may be tempted to do what you don't want to do.

Crazy thing was that we dated for 4 years before we decided to get married. She was nothing like that, she simply changed after the wedding vows. Almost ran me mad

Not necessarily I never got concrete evidence per se but I got her name and he married her after I divorced him. He presented as a single single man without kids but a person he claimed to be his sibling was actually his son and she was the mother. Little things as son wanted to call grandpa big daddy and father small daddy etc.

The atmosphere in the home becomes toxic, silent treatment, defamation, half stories about his religion allowing polygamy, I guess guilty conscience about the big lie was probably weighing on him, that is enough for me. After crying, depression etc I dusted myself and moved on.

LeoThaGreat:
From my experience in life, when a lady starts accusing a man of cheating, with no evidence to reference, the lady has been cheating.

Know what else? She has dug through the thoroughly and found no evidence of him cheating so as to justify her cheating or be free from the guilt.

It's very toxic remaining, cohabiting, dating, marrying or living with such a person. Breaking up is the way to go.

If you ever find yourself in such situation, don't stay because of what people will say or think, don't stay because of your kids (as you don't want them to have a broken home).

You don't owe people an explanation on why you separated from your spouse (so as to protect stigma against your kids as you'll expose them to ridicule if you expose your spouse)

You also need to be alive to make sure your kids (your very own descendants) do well in life.

Also, (this is my first time saying this ever) run DNA tests on your kids if you guys have any.

BOTTOM LINE:
When your partner starts accusing you of cheating with no evidence or a reference that pricks your conscience, RUN !

MemoriesAndMe:
That's not true all the time, some women are simply insecure.
I had one that never trusted me even though I wasnt cheating. Whenever I traveled for work, she is busy thinking something else. Even with her doing video calls with me while I'm in my hotel room, she will still say I she wants to see if the girl is hiding in the bathroom.

That's same person that would accuse me whenever I'm watching news and she's not there with me. As long as the newscaster is a lady, she hears a female voice on TV, she says it's a girl with me in the room with me. I mute the TV, she says I just told the girl to shut up which is not true.

There was a time I went to a bar to chill on my way from work. The bar was just about 5 mins drive from my home. I had ordered a beer and realized I forgot my wallet at home. I called her to please bring my wallet to me so I could pay and head home. She showed up at the bar and suddenly started fighting a random girl that was just minding her business. The girl had showed up there with some of her friends, they were playing pool and drinking and I guess the girl came to the bar to order somethings for herself and her friends. That's someone I have never met before my entire life and never ever talked to. Wifey walked in and started calling her my side chick and both of them started fighting. I kept telling her I do not know this girl nor her crew, she didn't believe me. To her, every girl in the world is my side chick, even newscasters on TV. Ain't that crazy?

What got me really upset was when she drove over 12 hours with our 1 year old son then to the hotel I was staying at and waited patiently in the hotel lobby till I got back from work. The first thing on her lips was "let's go to your room, I want to see the girl with you." I kept telling her there's no girl anywhere, she didn't believe me. She searched the entire room, couldn't find any girl anywhere and still kept saying I must have told her to leave, which wasnt true . There was no other girl anywhere.

I couldn't take the drama no more and we ended up getting divorced and went out separate ways.

We have both remarried again, and I heard she accuses her new husband of same thing she did to me over and over and they fight all the time. Such people cant change, I think it's psychological.

So, some ladies just have that insecurity issue. Even if you're a priest that preaches against infidelity, some women will frustrate you to the point where you may be tempted to do what you don't want to do.

That your ex wife is definitely not alone, she is mentally not okay.

especially women, there experience is usually regrets, bitterness, had-I-known, depression etc. One funny thing is that those who left advised those planning to leave but they wont listen until they too leave and become adviser who wont be listened to. The cycle continues......

Nedu522:
About to divorce due to my wife infidelity.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHy4LdPgqUY?si=WP3WoSmRsJqwP5ib

That's because you found out. Na thief them catch be thief. Omo if most men know what their madams do behind their back, 99% of marriages would have collapsed.

Ekehwinz:
That your ex wife is definitely not alone, she is mentally not okay.

She's is actually mentally ok, she's just so insecure. It's impossible to satisfy someone like that. Even if you walk on eggshells, she still won't be satisfied.

Yansh na yansh yansh na yansh yanah na yansh e yoh

My own question is, what does it mean for a married woman who own a shop to be clean shaved always. It began sometimes later in the marriage and not that she does that often before.
The husband was confiding in me that that, he go without sex for 2 or 3 weeks sometimes. But maybe one morning one thing led to another and he want to have sex, she's already clean shaved.
It's not an allegations or case of suspicion but the gentle guy just want to be sure what that meant before things go bad.
It's actually a true scenario and a little insight to such situation will really go a long way.

FuckYeyeMods:
My own question is, what does it mean for a married woman who own a shop to be clean shaved always. It began sometimes later in the marriage and not that she does that often before.
The husband was confiding in me that that, he go without sex for 2 or 3 weeks sometimes. But maybe one morning one thing led to another and he want to have sex, she's already clean shaved.
It's not an allegations or case of suspicion but want to be sure what thameant before things go bad.
It's actually a true scenario and a little insight to such situation will really go a long way.

If she allows him regularly, he is fine. If she refuses to do the do and is still shaving, maybe that's a red flag. Maybe she's just being hygienic.

Seun:
If she allows him regularly, he is fine. If she refuses to do the do and is still shaving, maybe that's a red flag. Maybe she's just being hygienic.

I know the couple and I can't advice him without knowing how such things work..
They sometimes have fight and everybody will just dey.. He don't want the sex and that can last for weeks sometimes but if he change his mind or calm down after sometimes, if he unexpectedly want to mate with his wife, she's clean shaved. Though she now wear light makeup and double as content creator on Facebook.
Active because the husband said she monetized are Facebook but the husband said he actually can't find anything suspicious because it's mostly women that do comment and like the post.

Don't listen to failures. No excuse is good enough for failure. Don't marry the daughter or son of the devil, just marry a child of God. Ask God to choose for you.
Proverbs 19:14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. don't listen to satanic counsels that God stopped giving men wives after Adam accused God. Those are dirty excuses to marry woman with a massive cleavages, big ass with angelic outer beauty.

Only God knows a woman that will stay till the end, only God knows a spouse that won't die untimely, only God knows a spouse that is not sent from the kingdom of hell to destroy your life..only God Knows the spouse that won't look at you and use a knife or pistel to kill you when he or she is under pressure. Don't be a fool, you're only a human and you need the help of the spirit to succeed in a fallen world like this.

bigdammyj:
What works for you may not work for others.

This is the mindset that will push you to learnt the bitter and brutal truth from personal experience .

purehustle101:
There's no perfect marriage anywhere but as a man set your priorities right. I have been there twice until I applied the following principles


​1. Visionary Compatibility: Clearly define the qualities and values you envision in a life partner. Without a mental blueprint, you risk building a future on an unstable foundation.


​2. Unwavering Standards: Establish your boundaries and tolerance levels early. True character is found in the discipline to uphold your standards rather than compromising them for temporary convenience.


​3. Spiritual Alignment: Seek a woman of prayer and spiritual depth. A partner with a strong moral and spiritual compass provides a sense of peace and resilience that sustains a home through adversity.


​4. The Weight of Integrity: Recognize that a history of infidelity or involvement in "hook-up culture" often signals a fundamental misalignment with the commitment required for a sacred covenant. Some lifestyles are inherently incompatible with the sanctity of marriage.


​5. The Reality of Individual Paths: Conduct an honest self-assessment. Not every individual is wired for the domestic responsibilities of family life. It is more honorable to choose a path that suits your nature—whether that is marriage or independence—than to force a fit that isn't there.


Marriage to me is a blessing, be with someone that wants you. Spending time with family at your old age is the greatest feeling money can't buy.

Thanks.

ChatGPT is that you ? Happy New Month sir . Aye(AI) sir

ravensckar:
Let me add to the ongoing confusion...

A lady who constantly accuses her husband of cheating probably cares a lot about him or about what he's bringing to the table.

Her insecurity is borne out of a deep feeling of not wanting to share or lose him or whatever he's bringing to the table. E get as man go dey irresponsible reach, the wife won't even bother herself if he's cheating.

She will be like; "yeye man wey I dey feed na him dey knack you and you think sey you don jam sugar daddy..."

Meanwhile, all these people wey dey complain sey marriage hard, na where una take meet una own wives? My own wife is like the best thing that happened to me o. Hanty no get wahala, other than the occassional wires wey dey touch for her head, she's a good wife.

Somebody that I posted about my mum's death anniversary and how I missed her. She said shuo; "Haven't I been taking care of you enough?". I nearly choked with laughter.

You must be such a simple...t.o.n to thick she just threw that statement out like that as a joke and for you to interpret it as a joke/laughing matter.
If you think you maried an Angel, try the same joke with her when she posts about her own parent's death/anniversary.

danhans:
If you experience nagging woman,then you will understand how hell fire looks like,it is better to stay alone than to stay with a nagging woman

It is better to stay in a tree, than to live with a nagging wife

In the book of Proverbs i don forget the chapter

kingthreat:
Not my story but happened to someone I know.
Guy is a very handsome and a natural flirt, his wife made sure she pushed other girlfriends away and ensured they got married. But as a regular ladies man she couldn't stop him from being who he is. 5 years later, she intentionally hacked into his phone and got proof of him cheating, sent screenshot proofs to friends and famly as prood. Then left him, my man begged and tried to make it up to her, but she refused. Before you know it, she has japa'd and is living a new life with the kids. Man is single in Naija, wondering if he should still get married as he edges close to 50. Yeah he messed up but, if he knew he should have just been a single man and continued his flirty life.

I'll bet, one little boy will be making that old wife gripping and biting the pillows