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motymop:
They married the wrong woman.

It takes 2 to make a marriage work

They couldn't make it work for themselves then they project their own failures on other

Golden words carved in gold and on gold.

Coolgent:
Forget what they told you.
Marriage is a good thing.... if you find a good spouse!

This is a vague statement….how exactly is marriage a good thing?? U married pple should start saying more about how marriage is a good thing…

Alas! You dont.. …instead,.Yall come online and start posting…..
marriage is not for them faint hearted,
marriage is not for the weak,
marriage is a battle ground,
marriage will test you..
Marriage will drain you
Marriage will wound you..
Marriage will break you…
If u dont have money like otedola dont marry

Oya naaa..when guyz now say they are not interested you will say marriage is a good thing…it just sounds like yall dont want anybody to escape, as in, like every body must collect wotowoto …::

The truth is marriage only works when one party is stvpid and allows the other person use them…

its clear yall know this and dont enjoy being used all the time especially when it costs alot to be the sacrificial lamb

Orlandoo:
Even if you marry the right person, it is women that benefits the most in marriage.

You mean the same marriage that slows women's career growth, alters their bodies, paves way for terminal diseases, ages them, stresses them...?


Tell me how marriage is of more benefit to women?


This lopsided mentality ought to have been jettisoned in 2025.

franchasng:
Its subjective and based on individual experience.


Agreed, some ladies can make life a living hell for their partners while acting like all is well.


Many ladies enter into marriage empty handed and expecting their husband to become a commando and spider man Pope John Paul The Bill Gates at the same time, it can be frustrating if you are married to such women at the long run, reason many men regret getting married.


The truth is, in Nigerian setting, marriage seem to benefit women more than men, especially when the man is financially successful, the only thing he benefits is having children and heir in wedlock, outside that nothing else for most Nigerian married men and reason some see marriage as a waste of time.


I addressed some issues on a new thread on my profile for single ladies to learn.


Many well to do men are regretting getting married because they married valueless women whose only contribution is sex that many married men even get bored of over time due to over-familiarity and the natural male trait of desiring new experience at some point.


So to all single and married ladies reading, this is a wake up call for you all, try and become valuable woman that contributes immensely to the success and growth of the man and the overall family finance to avoid your man having this kind of regret of marrying you at the long run.


Marriage in this time and era is beyond providing sex and keeping the home, domestic staffs and side chicks can provide those, be more than just that, be a valuable woman, strive to be a contributor to your husband and family's financial growth and wellbeing, peace

Your argument is detailed, but subjective. Perhaps you haven't noticed, but there has been a paradigm shift in women and their value system. Women (or let's say those around me) are steadily worming hard and carving niches for themselves. Silent millionaires here and there. It is however the men (or let's say those around me) who are now intimidated by their success.


People should focus on what truly matters overtime and these sad tales may go into extinction:

1. Marry for the right reasons. Do not marry because your friends have or because you are of age, but only when you are mentally, socially, spiritually and financially ready.

2. Marry a partner whose value system aligns with yours. If you are a 50-50 man, marry a woman who is financially independent and is open to this arrangement and if you believe your wife shouldn't be working, marry a woman who is open to that.


3. Be open to assisting where necessary, learning and unlearning, understanding the needs and opinions of your partner....

See, when it was time to marry, I took the decision myself... I turned down over three different ladies, as I understood my vision, purpose and the ideal home I was looking for! When I saw the lady that fit in, it took less than two years to get Married and I can confidently say, that's the best decision of my life

Does marriage have challenges, of course yes. Is there anything without challenges, even enjoyment has challenges! Let's stop talking about the challenges of marriage and talk about the damaged people going into the institution called marriage

Is when you get married that u will get meet another lady that truly love you and share same idea with you

Juliearth:
Your argument is detailed, but subjective. Perhaps you haven't noticed, but there has been a paradigm shift in women and their value system. Women (or let's say those around me) are steadily worming hard and carving niches for themselves. Silent millionaires here and there. It is however the men (or let's say those around me) who are now intimidated by their success.


People should focus on what truly matters overtime and these sad tales may go into extinction:

1. Marry for the right reasons. Do not marry because your friends have or because you are of age, but only when you are mentally, socially, spiritually and financially ready.

2. Marry a partner whose value system aligns with yours. If you are a 50-50 man, marry a woman who is financially independent and is open to this arrangement and if you believe your wife shouldn't be working, marry a woman who is open to that.


3. Be open to assisting where necessary, learning and unlearning, understanding the needs and opinions of your partner....

So apt, nothing else to add



The only thing I would say is, most women don't like assisting their husband financially even when they are working and earning very well, they just believe their money belongs to them alone and highest they save and buy properties for their kids, those are very terrible practice by some high earning women of our time, but you said something about marrying from the start right and I agree with you

BRATISLAVA:
TLDR
Men's standards in Nigeria have changed.

Women—men are ready to sponsor and beautify the lives of side chicks and anyone else they fancy without them doing more than you do. But if you marry them, they expect you to bring them money... and something ethereal they've decided on in recent years, something even they can't define but they refer to it as "value". And even that won't secure your position. You need to be a nun and adult actress, you need to be boss lady and house wife—all in one. If you strive hard enough and kill yourself pleasing this god, guess what? He'll just get with his side chick and make her his wife pillar fall guy wife. Very inventive, right? The cycle continues. Men will keep preaching their message so that they keep benefiting from the arrangement and getting potbellies after marriage. You'll never hear them talk about men who can't lead, men who aren't heads, men who have no value.

The message of women sells. And sells really fast in Nigeria.

Lolz


Just be a valuable woman that offer value to her man and family and leave the rest, no matter where he decides to go out of foolishness, he will forever remember you and may always run back to you if the space is still vacant.


Do your best, it's better to be a woman that offer value than to be a liability and a squanderer, there will always be uncountable men that will appreciate and value you and treat you right

franchasng:
So apt, nothing else to add



The only thing I would say is, most women don't like assisting their husband financially even when they are working and earning very well, they just believe their money belongs to them alone and highest they save and buy properties for their kids, those are very terrible practice by some high earning women of our time, but you said something about marrying from the start right and I agree with you

That is a character flaw and that is on them. However, credit should be given to those who support their husband massively and hold the forte when the man cannot. There are alot of them out there. These women don't wear their capes of support outside and their husbands don't hold this line of discussion amongst their peers for the fear of being laughed at.

Juliearth:
That is a character flaw and that is on them. However, credit should be given to those who support their husband massively and hold the forte when the man cannot. There are alot of them out there. These women don't wear their capes of support outside and their husbands don't hold this line of discussion amongst their peers for the fear of being laughed at.

Hmmmm, very deep.


But I have friends who shower praises on their wives.


I have a friend that stay in the states, he told me around xmas that one of my cars I wanted to sell which he planned to buy that he was not going to buy it again that his wife wants to buy a bigger and more recent model SUV they would use last xmas. I was even the one discouraging him as a marketing strategy to fly my own car I had marked as sold lol.


Even my own wife do try too, she does some things without waiting for me and I will be surprised.


Only a foolish man will lie against his financially supportive wife in midst of his friends, not even when your friends know that your wife is a high income earner, it will be hard for them to believe you.

franchasng:
So apt, nothing else to add



The only thing I would say is, most women don't like assisting their husband financially even when they are working and earning very well, they just believe their money belongs to them alone and highest they save and buy properties for their kids, those are very terrible practice by some high earning women of our time, but you said something about marrying from the start right and I agree with you

Why will she assist the husband, when he paid her bride price?
The buyer of a property, should accept responsibilities of maintaining such property
QED

franchasng:
Hmmmm, very deep.


But I have friends who shower praises on their wives.


I have a friend that stay in the states, he told me around xmas that one of my cars I wanted to sell which he planned to buy that he was not going to buy it again that his wife wants to buy a bigger and more recent model SUV they would use last xmas. I was even the one discouraging him as a marketing strategy to fly my own car I had marked as sold lol.


Even my own wife do try too, she does some things without waiting for me and I will be surprised.


Only a foolish man will lie against his wife in midst of his friends, not even when your friends know that your wife is a high income earner, it will be hard for them to believe you.

... This is the ideal peace and support marriage should give you. When you marry a partner, everything becomes easy, especially if that partner is the second good head in the proverbial " two good heads being better than one".

Broveens42:
Why will she assist the husband, when he paid her bride price?
The buyer of a property, should accept responsibilities of maintaining such property
QED

lolz


paying of bride price is more of a tradition. Even in the ancient times, despite being married through bride price, our grategrandmothers still worked hard to support their husbands who even married more than one wives.


The women were solely in charge of cultivating certain crops like cassava, cocoa yam and rearing goat and fowl which they used to support their husbands. They also did petty trading to earn income they also used to support their husbands who also married other wives, so paying of bride price is not a good reason or justification for any woman today to become unproductive in her marriage, what if the man dies suddenly?

Update147:
Pls make me to understand ur point.

"my girlfriend has offensive odor during sex"

Juliearth:
You mean the same marriage that slows women's career growth, alters their bodies, paves way for terminal diseases, ages them, stresses them...?


Tell me how marriage is of more benefit to women?


This lopsided mentality ought to have been jettisoned in 2025.

Keep deluding yourself. Just because you are a woman, you can say whatever you like.

Marriage is not a boyfriend and girlfriend thing, if you notice something about someone and you talk and talk and you see that is not changing leave that relationship. Once you marry the person that thing becomes worst. Those signs you are seeing tackle them before you see wonders. This is my My humble advice to you.

franchasng:
lolz


paying of bride price is more of a tradition. Even in the ancient times, despite being married through bride price, our grategrandmothers still worked hard to support their husbands who even married more than one wives.


The women were solely in charge of cultivating certain crops like cassava, cocoa yam and rearing goat and fowl which they used to support their husbands. They also did petty trading to earn income they also used to support their husbands who also married other wives, so paying of bride price is not a good reason or justification for any woman today to become unproductive in her marriage, what if the man dies suddenly?

What you call ancient, isn't really ancient.

The ancient (normal) practice has always been using inducements, to get a lady cohabit with you... such inducements can be likened to a guy that uses indomie and egg/Generator light, to sleep with a lady.

It is different from going to a store( the woman's family) to pay for a commodity (bride price) and own it exclusively (in your house): what this means is; you are solely responsible for maintaining such commodity
#Simple psychology

It is not the marriage that is the problem but the 'strange ideologies' that now influence marriages. There is too much confusion everywhere as a result of too much unfounded knowledge. If only we all go back to basic scriptural demand for marriage, how awesome will it be?!
Marriage is beautiful only because two different people are willing (love) to work and walk together. Any slight change in that willingness will impact the whole outcome and it never stops unless 'death' is embraced...but...

Babatunjo:
So I was at dinner with a friend this week. Guy has been married for about 8 years now... married almost immediately after uni. Tall guy, always had fine girlfriends back in school. You’d think na him go dey hype marriage pass.

Out of nowhere, he just sighed and said he regrets marrying… apart from the kids.
His advice shocked me.

He said if he were single again in 2026 Nigeria, he would never marry. That I should just find a woman, have between 1 to 3 kids if I want, make her comfortable, take care of my responsibilities... but avoid marriage completely.

I laughed it off, but then it hit me:
My boss had told me something very similar some time ago.
Then I remembered a former neighbour... fine wife, two kids, lovely family pictures on social media... he also warned me not to rush into marriage.

These are not bitter, broke men o. These are men society would call “successful”.

So now I’m asking myself (and una): Wetin really dey happen?
Is marriage quietly becoming something different from what we were sold?

Most women's definition
of Peace is a man tolerating her disrespect, that's delusíonal

Hmmm,those people advising you're don't mean well for youooo! They are married and had children, but now telling u to get woman pregnant for 1-3 children and take responsibility, so that he will render you childless after much hard work training children, he for run his like that now,nonsense friends everywhere. Abeg marry,let her give birth for u too,if things are not moving, separate and have your children that all,don't allow frustrated friends deceive you.

fyneboi79:
Loneliness ke? I am just enjoying myself and my space....too unwilling to even date sef because if you see the quiet,"supposed" church girl i married you will imagine the silent trauma I went through for ten years.

Only remedy will be to travel the world and experience life.
But I still maintain it comes with so much loneliness esp when you're not willing to date again.
Oh btw....did you hv kids together yet?

tonididdy:
Only remedy will be to travel the world and experience life.
But I still maintain it comes with so much loneliness esp when you're not willing to date again.
Oh btw....did you hv kids together yet?

we have a son together and I let her keep him though with regular unrestricted visits and I have a daughter on the way via surrogacy.

I don't feel any loneliness only trouble is being around people.

franchasng:
Lolz


Just be a valuable woman that offer value to her man and family and leave the rest, no matter where he decides to go out of foolishness, he will forever remember you and may always run back to you if the space is still vacant.


Do your best, it's better to be a woman that offer value than to be a liability and a squanderer, there will always be uncountable men that will appreciate and value you and treat you right

What is "value"? Does it refer to the money that Nigerian men claim women don't bring? Because if it's the other things, then women have always brought unquantifiable value.

If it's money, good news. Women have jobs and make money too. Nothing special there.

Orlandoo:
Keep deluding yourself. Just because you are a woman, you can say whatever you like.

To a simpleton, the truth is delusion. You still haven't answered my question... How are women the biggest beneficiaries in marriage?

fyneboi79:
we have a son together and I let her keep him though with regular unrestricted visits and I have a daughter on the way via surrogacy.

I don't feel any loneliness only trouble is being around people.

Na so. Keep deceiving yourself and everyone on NL with a dream life when almost all your topics na women. Loneliness de cry.

baby124:
Na so. Keep deceiving yourself and everyone on NL with a dream life when almost all your topics na women. Loneliness de cry.

You are entitled to your opinion...now get lost!

Juliearth:
You mean the same marriage that slows women's career growth, alters their bodies, paves way for terminal diseases, ages them, stresses them...?


Tell me how marriage is of more benefit to women?


This lopsided mentality ought to have been jettisoned in 2025.

Many married women are successful in their various businesses and careers. Most women especially the Blacks, dont hit the gym or even take walks to stay fit, after eating like gluttons & childbirth. Marriage isn't responsible for terminal diseases. Terminal diseases could be either hereditary or due to one's lifestyle.

Men age like wine while women age like milk. Aging is not a curse.

No human can run away from stress, pains and problems. Married people suffer from problems & stress cuz they are married. The also single suffer from stress cuz they are single.

And yes, women benefit more in marriage in both patriarchal and matriarchal societies.

Kaido:
Many married women are successful in their various businesses and careers. Most women especially the Blacks, dont hit the gym or even take walks to stay fit, after eating like gluttons & childbirth. Marriage isn't responsible for terminal diseases. Terminal diseases could be either hereditary or due to one's lifestyle.

Men age like wine while women age like milk. Aging is not a curse.

No human can run away from stress, pains and problems. Married people suffer from problems & stress cuz they are married. The also single suffer from stress cuz they are single.

And yes, women benefit more in marriage in both patriarchal and matriarchal societies.

Whilst pregnant,at the point of birth and after, 7out of 10 Nigerian women risk the possibilities of:
Preeclampsia, Gestational diabetes, Placenta previa Postpartum hemorrhage, Amniotic fluid embolism, Peripartum cardiomyopathy, Uterine rupture, Eclampsia, Obstetric fistula, Postpartum depression with psychotic. These conditions are lethal. Do your findings.


Yes, our women aren't fit, they eat carelessly and don't hit the gym...infact, they are responsible for the crash of the N******n economy. That is not new. Maybe if you can nurture a life and bring it into existence, I would take your argument to books, but...


Finally, women benefit from Matriarchal bestownent passed down through marriage because some pyroqial-thinking lots made it so. A woman is considered responsible only because she is married, but does that even make sense to you? There lies the one and only benefit...one that can be lived without.


Let's toss the coin to the other side. A woman who embraces motherhood hardly ever gets to the peak of her career as fast as she would have if she were to be single. Parenting delays women in every sense. Only those engaged in government establishment may think otherwise. A woman who settles before securing a stable career is likely to not have a career at all. She will lose a ywr to bring life into this world, 2 to nurture the child and if care is thrown to the wind, at the end of the 2 year duration, another bun may be in the oven... and just like that, 6 to 10 years gone like that.

Now, due to this disadvantage, we have more women acing earlier than they should so they don't settle down as liabilities... That is to say these women come in loaded financially and mentally. This usurps the general believe that women benefit financially from marriage. I like to think that it is the other way round these days.

Juliearth:
Whilst pregnant,at the point of birth and after, 7out of 10 Nigerian women risk the possibilities of:
Preeclampsia, Gestational diabetes, Placenta previa Postpartum hemorrhage, Amniotic fluid embolism, Peripartum cardiomyopathy, Uterine rupture, Eclampsia, Obstetric fistula, Postpartum depression with psychotic. These conditions are lethal. Do your findings.


Yes, our women aren't fit, they eat carelessly and don't hit the gym...infact, they are responsible for the crash of the N******n economy. That is not new. Maybe if you can nurture a life and bring it into existence, I would take your argument to books, but...


Finally, women benefit from Matriarchal bestownent passed down through marriage because some pyroqial-thinking lots made it so. A woman is considered responsible only because she is married, but does that even make sense to you? There lies the one and only benefit...one that can be lived without.


Let's toss the coin to the other side. A woman who embraces motherhood hardly ever gets to the peak of her career as fast as she would have if she were to be single. Parenting delays women in every sense. Only those engaged in government establishment may think otherwise. A woman who settles before securing a stable career is likely to not have a career at all. She will lose a ywr to bring life into this world, 2 to nurture the child and if care is thrown to the wind, at the end of the 2 year duration, another bun may be in the oven... and just like that, 6 to 10 years gone like that.

Now, due to this disadvantage, we have more women acing earlier than they should so they don't settle down as liabilities... That is to say these women come in loaded financially and mentally. This usurps the general believe that women benefit financially from marriage. I like to think that it is the other way round these days.

Complaining about risks that women take during pregnancy doesn't mean sh*t. Like I said earlier, staying single comes with challenges likewise when you married. Men take huge risks too but they don't complain about it. They do extremely risky jobs in harsh and unpleasant weather conditions just to support their families and to keep the society running.
Men have curious mind and derive joy in fixing things. Even if you walk into a hospital, most gynecologist are men...they drive joy in treating women with pregnancy issues.

I'm not interested in getting married but I support men in getting married. Marriage be like chewing gum, if the sugar finish na shege promax..

Sister Juliet, I hate typing long messages. Bye

kushme:
Bros, tell your experience.

Bro i tried. My estranged woman family is the type that do not want their daughters (children in short including their only son) to live even a mile away from them. The story long

When we were preparing for wedding, they wanted to force me to rent a N1m flat on the Lagos Island (Omo, after all the wedding expenses and their unreasonable traditional wedding list) , my capacity was a N450k 2 bedroom flat at the time (2018), on the Mainland.

This caused friction for more than 2year as her mother said she would never come to our house because it's far. I sensed her hanger was because she couldn't control me perhaps like she's doing two her other two son inlaws

Her mother built on the island so she was obviously trying to make us stay close to her. Her other two daughters; one lives on the same street with her hubby, the other lives in her mother's building with her hubby (Chaii that cannot be me). They are obviously well to do than my family but i no send them, i get good job, i have ambition and i know my strength.

I got the shocker after the wedding, we conceived my first son just 2 weeks after the wedding (Yes, na my son no worries. DNA is done) and sorry i forgot to mention that my estranged madam works on the island, so her office is closer to her mother's home. That how she told me that she would be staying in her mother's house from Monday till Friday, she will come home on friday then leave again on Monday just to avoid traffic stress to and fro daily,

We have agreed before wedding that she would seek job at ikeja, closer to home after wedding but she seems not interested in that anymore.
When i explained my disapproval of her decision to her family, they obviously backed their daughter and that showed me that it was orchestrated by them.

Bro, that's how i lived for 7.5yrs in that marriage ooo, partly married, weekend wife. We were blessed with two handsome boys. But just like a poster said up there, mostly men must act the fool for the marriage to work (what a big fool i was 😀).

When it comes to the home, i pay 99.99% of the expenses, from children schools fees, house rent, kids upkip, food stuff, all kitchen gadgets that mostly reasonable women would get themselves (except all plates, spoons and cups we use in the house despite that madam is working). Compound cleaner was the least monthly expense i paid, just N1500. Madam didn't pay a single one for all the period of marriage, even when i sat her down to reason, she wouldn't change.
Even if expenses is choking me (You know those time when house rent expires children resumes a new section, family car broke down all at once?), when i get them sorted out, she will never bother to ask me how i did.

But what broke the camels's back happened last year 2025. September 2024, i paid for her professional exam, i encouraged her to start so that when she becomes chattered, she would be able to get good job closer to home (ikeja been the target), she did her her first diet in November, result should be out in max a month time, but she never tell me her results, i kept asking but she said she hasn't check. I noticed she may be having cold feet about the result, but i told her not to worry. It is unlikely you pass all your papers at once, i am the one paying, just read.

I later heard from an outsider that she passed one out of four papers, she never told me. Towards the end of December 2024, i bought a lithium battery to ensure we have steady light at home so she can read in the midnight. Unfortunately, that battery exploded on Wednesday 8th January while charging it, alot of properties were destroyed, it was around 8pm, thank God she was away with my kids and thank God it wasn't when i was sleeping. Neighbors rose to my help and we quench the fire but the damage was much.

I informed madam the second morning and told her not to worry that I'm safe, know fully that she will be home on friday. When she return she never said anything, never bothered how i survived, never greeted me. I had electrician working (because all the 6 prepaid meter in our compound were burnt) painters working, aluminum man changing all the broken windows etc. But nothing like "How is it going" from madam or her family members (i overheard her telling telling her that about the situation over the phone later that day)

That day i knew i married my enemy and i was the only one in that marriage, she doesn't care.
I felt pained, rejected and lonely but i left it behind for my kids' sake. I tried to find out from her if i offended her in anyway or why she couldn't be stone hearted towards me like that, but she said "nothing". For the first time in 7yrs, i reported her to her father but i see no changes or even feedback from her father.

But the decision to leave happened in june last year to October, i was sick to the point of no return. Millions of Naira gone finding my health, but madam was never there, she didn't even take a one day leave to stay by me. Her parent was informed on my condition but never bother to call or even pay a visit.
Then my siblings started coming to my house to take care of me, each of them stays a month before next one comes (i always inform her of their coming so she doesn't feel off). Even when she comes home in the weekend and i insist that she should be the one to make my food, she won't, she will say my family members is around and should make my food afterall they do it when she's not around.
I had to leave home early in September because my siblings also left their lives to take care of my out of love (thank God i am good to all of the; so the love was massive), one of them, kid sister lives in ibadan and not married yet, so i moved to stay with her and continue my search for healing. I decided not inform her to see if she would be worried of my wereabout. For 3 months sept-Nov, she didn't bother to call any of my family member to find out about me or where i could be, her parent? the same. She still comes home every weekend without the kids, (perhaps because of her studies), i do see her from the CCTV.

Then, i knew i had to leave. Then i packed my load outa the house towards November ending (still had 5 months rent when i packed), got an apartment in another state and living my life. Thank God for the investments here and there cause i couldn't work (I run my own business) throughout the period and medical bills was much, i still took care of all the home and kids financial needs. Madam's contribution was on N10k throughout the ordeal, and that's on the day i was run rushed to General hospital cos i hadn't been sleeping for 14days straight. My car was out of fuel and i was out of cash.

Now she is fully back to her parents' house, are other 2 sisters are back too (their husbands don carry the children and left). Her only brother is 34, unmarried, still staying with the mother. Father and mother are no divorced but haven't been living together for like 15yrs. Now their family pastors are the one calling me and my siblings up and down preaching "what God has join together" bulls**hit.

She was a good girl before marriage, but trust me, this gender sabi hide their true color. I never cheated on her (infact I've never had intimacy with 2 woman in my life), not that i can't but it doesn't just align with my moral value, i provide, i made her my best friend but it wasn't enough. No one should tell me about "marry right" because no relationship feels wrong before you say i do. There is a reason why apostles paul admonished men in the bible not to marry if not to fall into adultry, marriage is trouble. If yours hasn't come, congrats. Enjoy it while it last, early or later, you must regret something about it. And if your marriage is below 5yrs, abeg don't think you have a good home yet, time will test your marriage

So now my brother, i must thank you for allowing me to vent this off, can't believe i wrote this epistle. My focus now is to build my empire so my boys can be proud of me cos i plan to give them the world. I will go see them in school tomorrow to celebrate their birthday ( Cake, biscuit, sweet parcel, everything is ready 🤫🤫).

I still thank God all these challenges surfaced while I'm still young. At 37, i still have greater things ahead of me, women may not be one of them though.

fyneboi79:
we have a son together and I let her keep him though with regular unrestricted visits and I have a daughter on the way via surrogacy.

I don't feel any loneliness only trouble is being around people.

That's good bro, i can only visit mine in school because their mum stay with her parent. Looking forward to settling the custody issue shortly.

ollyboy900:
That's good bro, i can only visit mine in school because their mum stay with her parent. Looking forward to settling the custody issue shortly.

she's allows because i make steady financial contribution for her not to allow me access. Men are always on the losing end in custody battles because women will always get the sympathy. Just fight for unrestricted access.