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Even though women are capable of ANYTHING.i would like to hear from the side of the late singer---but then agaun,dead men tell bo talses.
So my mouth is not on this matter

DeclanR:
I'm tired of everything.
Marriage, life, people, everything!

Hand over you everything about you to CHRIST JESUS make he run your life for you, then you go dey alright.

The second child is not his......

I really do not know what actually transpired between the two exes during and after their Marriage but I can relate. My ex been trying everything possible to paint me bad before my two sons after our breakup(which she initiated) all because she said I don’t have ‘enough money to take care of her meanwhile, I have never been a deadbeat father to
My lovely two
Sons. But thank God my sons were old enough to see through her emotional blackmail and lies.

You see this thing that women do...its best men start calling them out like women call out men... if tonto dikes own dint happen in real time , society wudnt believe that she keeps on denying the father's from seeing the son...then they will claim abandonment...Dotun is facing same now...his wife ran to another country with his kids ....and has denied him access ...

goslowgoslow:
"Omi je ojumi"....... what a name!... People will be answering names that mostly signify "sorrow". If you are not Yoruba or understand Yoruba don't quote me.

I bet you don't even know this woman a bit! Omije ojumi is not her name, her name is Bunmi Akinnanu. Her hit song in the early 2000 was titled omije oju mi, fully omije oju mi n beere anu re baba...meaning my tears are demanding for your mercy lord, It's usually better asking questions than concluding on things you don't know.

datola:
Omo, they should have just allowed peace to reign.

The daughter that gave the tribute should have been better guided by the so called bellegerent family members.

My point all day looooong.

Whether they like it or not, the wife is gone. All they should have done is talk to the man and the children, reconcile them and avoid all these nonsense.

If someone else already has children for the man, omor, he can ignore these children for life and heaven will not fall.

All the so-called Aunts and Uncles, within a short time will no longer be there for these children.

If my wife took my young children from the UK to Nigeria without my consent, I would stop at nothing to regain custody. I would confront her and her family directly and pursue every legal and institutional option available.

Reading that he occasionally sent financial support, sometimes amounting to thousands of pounds and paid school fees, yet remained completely cut off from his children for over eight years, does not suggest genuine commitment or seriousness. What I expected to read was evidence of concrete action: how many times he travelled to Nigeria, the confrontations he had with his estranged wife, and the steps he took when access was denied. Simply saying, “she blocked every access I had to reach you,” is not sufficient.

Personally, I would have applied pressure relentlessly through legal action, law enforcement, and competent legal representation. Instead, it appears he remained in the UK and relied on family members and relatives to fight on his behalf. For eight years? That is difficult to justify. If he had made personal visits during that period, there would likely be records, timelines, or documented attempts showing his efforts and resistance faced.

Frankly, this was a weak attempt. At this point, the most realistic option may be to accept the loss and hope that, when the children are older and more mature, they might choose to reconnect.

Showing up in a confrontational, “Rambo-style” manner to disrupt their mother’s funeral was misplaced. If he truly wanted custody, that level of intensity should have been applied years earlier—at their school, their home, and through formal legal channels—when it actually mattered.

Bizibi:
The second child is not his......

Go to church tomorrow and ask for the forgiveness of the Sin of " I know not but jumped into conclusion."

angelboy01:
When I saw the boys anger in the pic it made me to realize how a woman's venom can be so lethal that a son would beat up his father in public.

He wasn't brought up well. If you as a man is being brought up by a woman never believe their tales. Women are manipulative including my own mom and that's the pure truth.

Always manipulative, and you as a man try Nd find what why and most importantly it's better not to get involved in your parents fight if you can't be matured. Just forgive your father and move on instead of holding on to endless anger.

Lolzzzzz 🤣

It’s always unfair to judge when the other party is no longer alive to defend themselves. The fact that he kept quiet while she was alive, but is this vocal when she’s dead shows there is a lot more to it. He behaved as if he did not know what to do while she was alive. Him speaking up like this while she was alive and as a public figure will have ensured the children know of his efforts and church people would have forced her to find a solution to the embarrassing situation.

It is clear there are some terrible secrets that will have come out about him if he confronted the deceased while alive. The guy should stop running to the papers now, it’s too late. The children are still minors, he should go to the courts and work through the embassy if he’s their verified father.

feelme3:
If my wife took my young children from the UK to Nigeria without my consent, I would stop at nothing to regain custody. I would confront her and her family directly and pursue every legal and institutional option available.

Reading that he occasionally sent financial support, sometimes amounting to thousands of pounds and paid school fees, yet remained completely cut off from his children for over eight years, does not suggest genuine commitment or seriousness. What I expected to read was evidence of concrete action: how many times he travelled to Nigeria, the confrontations he had with his estranged wife, and the steps he took when access was denied. Simply saying, “she blocked every access I had to reach you,” is not sufficient.

Personally, I would have applied pressure relentlessly through legal action, law enforcement, and competent legal representation. Instead, it appears he remained in the UK and relied on family members and relatives to fight on his behalf. For eight years? That is difficult to justify. If he had made personal visits during that period, there would likely be records, timelines, or documented attempts showing his efforts and resistance faced.

Frankly, this was a weak attempt. At this point, the most realistic option may be to accept the loss and hope that, when the children are older and more mature, they might choose to reconnect.

Showing up in a confrontational, “Rambo-style” manner to disrupt their mother’s funeral was misplaced. If he truly wanted custody, that level of intensity should have been applied years earlier—at their school, their home, and through formal legal channels—when it actually mattered.

God bless you for this comment.

If your wife is fond of commiting infidelity and suddenly snatched your kids and begin to brainwash them against you. Shout o, and begin immediately to frantically scream out what she is doing. If you delay, it will be too late and the children will see you as a devil.

Bizibi:
The second child is not his......

Very possible

From the background of the story, the kind of job the woman does and the guy was financially down for long

The guy, the late woman, and their families are all wrong

Kwinesther:
I bet you don't even know this woman a bit! Omije ojumi is not her name, her name is Bunmi Akinnanu. Her hit song in the early 2000 was titled omije oju mi, fully omije oju mi n beere anu re baba...meaning my tears are demanding for your mercy lord, It's usually better asking questions than concluding on things you don't know.

Mr you are too little to teach me Yourba, I am a full-fledged Yoruba and I am sure you weren't in this life when I started talking.
I was making reference to the use of the name as a kind of "nickname" so if you don't understand my comment go to sleep.

angelboy01:
Baba they are now matured o. Not kids anymore, the boy wanted to beat his father in public. Shameless coward being manipulated. They aren't even listening to their father's side of the story. If they don't want the man they should contribute the money he spent on their education and refund the man. Ungrateful children.

I don learn something new today....


Mek I quickly go and make money before my kids hits teenage years to avoid stories like this...

Ire O.

P.S. Omihanifa wassup?

feelme3:
If my wife took my young children from the UK to Nigeria without my consent, I would stop at nothing to regain custody. I would confront her and her family directly and pursue every legal and institutional option available.

Reading that he occasionally sent financial support, sometimes amounting to thousands of pounds and paid school fees, yet remained completely cut off from his children for over eight years, does not suggest genuine commitment or seriousness. What I expected to read was evidence of concrete action: how many times he travelled to Nigeria, the confrontations he had with his estranged wife, and the steps he took when access was denied. Simply saying, “she blocked every access I had to reach you,” is not sufficient.

Personally, I would have applied pressure relentlessly through legal action, law enforcement, and competent legal representation. Instead, it appears he remained in the UK and relied on family members and relatives to fight on his behalf. For eight years? That is difficult to justify. If he had made personal visits during that period, there would likely be records, timelines, or documented attempts showing his efforts and resistance faced.

Frankly, this was a weak attempt. At this point, the most realistic option may be to accept the loss and hope that, when the children are older and more mature, they might choose to reconnect.

Showing up in a confrontational, “Rambo-style” manner to disrupt their mother’s funeral was misplaced. If he truly wanted custody, that level of intensity should have been applied years earlier—at their school, their home, and through formal legal channels—when it actually mattered.

Did you also read where the man said, he was having issues with his papers at that time? Which means he was battling with two issues at same time, which time he would have for all those detailing you are talking about oo?

Not even wen the wife was powerful and rocking with high and mighty in the society then.

DeclanR:
I'm tired of everything.
Marriage, life, people, everything!

guyyyyy

Life Drama just too much....

Unless it's a different write up you are referring to, there's nowhere I read the man saying he was having issues with his papers. The only reference to immigration was "The union was said to have been plagued by migration challenges to the United Kingdom, financial difficulties and personal disagreements, with custody of their children becoming a central point of conflict." which is likely the family.

Fiscus105:
Did you also read where the man said, he was having issues with his papers at that time? Which means he was battling with two issues at same time, which time he would have for all those detailing you are talking about oo?

Not even wen the wife was powerful and rocking with high and mighty in the society then.

cr7lomo:
You see this thing that women do...its best men start calling them out like women call out men... if tonto dikes own dint happen in real time , society wudnt believe that she keeps on denying the father's from seeing the son...then they will claim abandonment...Dotun is facing same now...his wife ran to another country with his kids ....and has denied him access ...

you see this women ehn

feelme3:
Unless it's a different write up you are referring to, there's nowhere I read the man saying he was having issues with his papers. The only reference to immigration was "The union was said to have been plagued by migration challenges to the United Kingdom, financial difficulties and personal disagreements, with custody of their children becoming a central point of conflict." which is likely the family.

Anyway,its not everyone who understands English properly and some cannot comprehend sentences, perhaps, the words used are too difficult to break down for them.


Meanwhile, migration challenges also mean, having issues with his papers .

Read below to update your knowledge.

otipoju:
Sometimes,no oftentimes, the most religious people are the most despicable human beings you would come across.

They would pray and sing fervently now and go and commit and say vile things the next moment without an iota of guilt.

And will never admit they are wrong. I have worked closely with " men and women of God" in the last ten years ranging from pastors and gospel artists to prophets and evangelists....at this juncture I just prefer to keep them very far away from me.

They are nasty, mean, vile, jealous, greedy, proud, arrogant, promiscuous and so on and so forth.

worst of values, shared same experience recently, sometimes felt there fanaticism my be untreated mental 🤒 illness

ppogba:
My point all day looooong.

Whether they like it or not, the wife is gone. All they should have done is talk to the man and the children, reconcile them and avoid all these nonsense.

If someone else already has children for the man, omor, he can ignore these children for life and heaven will not fall.

All the so-called Aunts and Uncles, within a short time will no longer be there for these children.

They all want the man to be remorseful and later start sending money for the children 's upkeep and welfare through them. Pounds changed to Naira na big money o.

My advice to the father is to open everything in the past to the world to clear his name and leave room for reconciliation open to the children and move on. If they later come back fine. And if they don't, move on with your life.

With or without you, they will get to wherever they are destined to get to. And with or without them you will also get to wherever you are destined to be.

The same thing I'm facing bro,this one cheated on me,and I sent her out,she's brainwashing the kids against me now

angelboy01:
Omoh OG you too get brain. My ex been won run me this thing. When I went to her school they didn't allow me. Thank God ogba been dey my head. I take am to court straight and dem warn am if she tries it again na straight to jail. Naso she calm since. The man sef too gentle for my eyes.

Awesome01:
They all want the man to be remorseful and later start sending money for the children 's upkeep and welfare through them. Pounds changed to Naira na big money o.

My advice to the father is to open everything in the past to the world to clear his name and leave room for reconciliation open to the children and move on. If they later come back fine. And if they don't, move on with your life.

With or without you, they will get to wherever they are destined to get to. And with or without them you will also get to wherever you are destined to be.

They have made the man to reveal too much.
The guy has to a large extent cleared most things hitherto unknown even to the woman's family.

Children can easily succumb to fake, vindictive and manipulative story being impressionable minds.Some mothers are overemotional in telling some stories that will make lasting and negative impact on the children.However, there's nothing hidden from God's eyes.

Sirmwill:
It is not necessary to comment
Think before you start judging or condemning
No one knows what truly happened!

That's true... But what the man explained seems to be the case most times. Someone close to me is even experiencing a similar scenario. She must've told them their father was evil...
If the man didn't care, he won't show up even after the person blocking his access is no longer here

There three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth. The truth will eventually prevail (I hope).

angelboy01:
Baba they are now matured o. Not kids anymore, the boy wanted to beat his father in public. Shameless coward being manipulated. They aren't even listening to their father's side of the story. If they don't want the man they should contribute the money he spent on their education and refund the man. Ungrateful children.

Well said ,anyway though God forbid if I were the man i won't bother myself getting the children acknowledgement cause situations and circumstances of life would surely make them to look for him either willingly or forced.Its so appalling and at the same time preposterous for that daughter spewing such nonsense about her father in such public gathering .

Honestly the late singer didn't do well at all in training her children in the way of the Lord.i shudder when I heard such nonsense fro that young girl about her father .
It shows the late mum didn't train the child in the way of the Lord at all.