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As a man, there are exactly three types of married men who will ever give you advice about marriage.

Type 1: The Misery Recruitment Squad (“Go and marry!”)

These are the loudest ones. They’ll hit you with:

“Bro, go and marry.”

“When are you joining us?”

Translation: They are jealous as hell.

They hate it that you're moving freely, keeping your money, dating who you want when you want, and coming home to peace instead of interrogation.


Type 2: The Honest Minority (The ones who actually care)

They don’t sugarcoat. They honestly tell you things like…

“Don’t rush it, bro. Wait until you’re financially capable of handling the bills that come with growing a family.”

“Marriage is not for boys who still need peace of mind every day.”

“I love my kids… but if I could rewind time, I would not have married my current wife.”

These men are truthful. They’re not trying to save face or protect the institution. They’re trying to save you… sometimes from yourself.

Listen to these ones.

Type 3: The Silent Ones (The walking ghosts)

They never talk about marriage… good or bad. Either they have a good marriage… or they are suffering in absolute silence.

You’ll never know which. They smile like diplomats and change the topic like professional politicians.

My final truth...

When a married man opens his mouth about marriage, don’t ask yourself, “Is he telling the truth?”

Ask yourself one question only:

Which type is he… and what does he gain by me believing him?

Answer that honestly, and you’ll know whether to listen… or run.

Be wise brothers.

Marriage was cultural and religious obligation.
But it has become something else now.
The married believe responsibility starts when you are married.
Religion and culture maintain that two is always better than one. But civilization has so much destroyed both religion and culture that the statement now reads 'two good heads is better than one '!. Who spoiled the heads?

Only the honest minority.

Any man who enters marriage because of pressure in this generation is simply entering "one chance." You are just digging your own grave and he’ll come on this forum asking for divorce advice.

Marriage is not by force. If you can’t take the heat, stay out of the kitchen.

These days, you can get kids without the headache of commitment via baby mamas or surrogacy. Just make sure you have the raba to cater for them. Don't be deceived—children are no longer a "pension scheme."

Train them, leave a legacy, but keep enjoying your life. No man should pressure another.

thesolutions:
Marriage was cultural and religious obligation.
But it has become something else now.
The married believe responsibility starts when you are married.
Religion and culture maintain that two is always better than one. But civilization has so much destroyed both religion and culture that the statement now reads 'two good heads is better than one '!. Who spoiled the heads?

So it’s no longer “two heads is better than one.”

It’s now: two heads that genuinely like each other and truly want to support one another are better than one person who just wants the title of wife.

thesolutions:
✓ Marriage was cultural and religious obligation.
But it has become something else now. The married believe responsibility starts when you are married.
Religion and culture maintain that two is always better than one. But civilization has so much destroyed both religion and culture that the statement now reads 'two good heads is better than one '!. Who spoiled the heads?

Marriage has not changed at all. Rather, women have. Women no longer accept the standards offered by their fathers and grandfathers to their mothers and grandmother a. And that has sent men scampering. It is finally dawning on some that they would have to bring more than just a a body and promises of financial support to the table like their fathers before them used to be able to in exchange for a lifelong commitment from women they then used and abused to their heart's content. 🥱🥱

Pukkalolo:
✓ So it’s no longer “two heads is better than one.”
It’s now: two heads that genuinely like each other and truly want to support one another are better than one person who just wants the title of wife.

Marriage before now was always one head, though..the man's while the woman was a slave. (One head using the woman's head to benefit itself) That is why men went around tagging themselves the head of the family.🥱

Hahaha hahaha hahaha
I always enjoy your comments

Kobojunkie:
Marriage before now was always one head, though..the man's while the woman was a slave. (One head using the woman's head to benefit itself) That is why men went around tagging themselves the head of the family.🥱

You said it all.........

Kobojunkie:
Marriage has not changed at all. Rather, women have. Women no longer accept the standards offered by their fathers and grandfathers. And that has sent me scampering realizing that they would have to bring more than just a body, promises of financial aid to the table like their fathers before them used to be able to in exchange for a lifelong commitment to women they can use and abuse as they so chose to. 🥱🥱

I don't know where to start but is it fun that men have to struggle to maintain a decent marriage to the extent of advising unmarried men to get married and share in the suffering or avoid marriage to escape the suffering?
That should not be the case. In today's marriage, men proposes to women and they get married if she agrees. What was the woman agreeing to if not to support the man.
A vow which you detest so much was agreed to by both parties except in some countries where the couple draft their own vows.
Why should it become burden still.
The women you are speaking for has both religious and culture tolerance. Why should they heed to religious and cultural practices socially but denounce it in marriage.

There is definitely something wrong.