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Married people, how do you cope with a storytelling spouse?


My wife is a natural storyteller. She can talk for an hour non-stop giving me gists, stories about her childhood or whatever crosses her mind --- all premium package. She tells both new stories and repeats some from time to time and I enjoy, or should I say pretend to enjoy every single one.


Funny enough, even when she repeats stories, I still sit, nod, react and ask questions like it’s brand new. Why? Because I refuse to be tagged as a non-listening husband.
There was a day she asked me a question referencing a story she told me before and I was lost. I couldn’t remember what she meant because I didn’t listen attentively that day. She was a little sad but as a sweet husband I was able to pacify her.


Before marriage, I wasn’t this patient. Long stories used to bore me. I preferred short updates and straight-to-the-point conversations. Even at work, I notice I now listen patiently to colleagues whenever they talk to me unlike before when I hardly engaged with anyone.

But marriage is slowly changing me. Now I listen. I laugh again at the same funny stories even when I’ve heard them before. I act surprised at familiar endings.

Marriage didn’t just give me a wife.
It gave me a storyteller ---and it’s teaching me how to be a better listener.



Now I'm curious:
Ladies, do your husbands really listen to your stories?

Men, how do you survive a storytelling spouse without falling asleep?

You're funny, very very funny actually IDK sha because me I no get the time and I never marry o, single as fcck

callmetade:
You're funny, very very funny actually IDK sha because me I no get the time and I never marry o, single as fcck

Don't allow anybody tell you otherwise, marriage is fun. I'm happier as a married guy compared to when I was single.

You just got married.

I'm not a prophet.

Bahamas95:

Don't allow anybody tell you otherwise, marriage is fun. I'm happier as a married guy compared to when I was single.

Your marriage is fun because you have a wife who wants to tell you stories about her past and because you are mature enough to listen to her sometimes, and you are being rewarded by learning to be patient.

Seems like you married recently too, so I expect your reward of patience to increase and be extended to your other relationships (work colleagues, family, children, etc), which would benefit you much in your future.

Encourage your wife to write her stories down. You never know how they might profit your family, but they very likely would.

budaatum:
Your marriage is fun because you have a wife who wants to tell you stories about her past and because you are mature enough to listen to her sometimes, and you are being rewarded by learning to be patient.

Seems like you married recently too, so I expect your reward of patience to increase and be extended to your other relationships (work colleagues, family, children, etc), which would benefit you much in your future.

Encourage your wife to write her stories down. You never know how they might profit your family, but they very likely would.

The stories she tells me aren’t folktales o ---they’re stories about her childhood friends, schoolmates, family/church members and even her village people. Its full community report. Honestly, most of them don’t even deserve documentation.


She’s the last child in her family, and before we met, her mum was her official gist partner. Now she has transferred that duty to me. That’s the price I pay for marrying a mummy’s girl.

We’ve been married for over two years now, but we’ve been together for five years altogether. So yes… I’ve been attending this storytelling class for five solid years with no graduation yet. 😭😂

Bahamas95:
The stories she tells me aren’t folktales o ---they’re stories about her childhood friends, schoolmates, family/church members and even her village people. Its full community report. Honestly, most of them don’t even deserve documentation.

She’s the last child in her family, and before we met, her mum was her official gist partner. Now she has transferred that duty to me. That’s the price I pay for marrying a mummy’s girl.

We’ve been married for over two years now, but we’ve been together for five years altogether. So yes… I’ve been attending this storytelling class for five solid years with no graduation yet. 😭😂

I presumed they were stories "about her childhood friends, schoolmates, family/church members and even her village people". I'm also presuming she's good at it too.

As for you graduating, dream on, since she's living life and gathering more stories to tell, which is why I'd encourage her to write them down and consider publishing them in a book. Tell her it's for her children to read when they grow up. It might encourage her to write.

Bahamas95:


Don't allow anybody tell you otherwise, marriage is fun. I'm happier as a married guy compared to when I was single.

fun is stressful

budaatum:
I presumed they were stories "about her childhood friends, schoolmates, family/church members and even her village people". I'm also presuming she's good at it too.

As for you graduating, dream on, since she's living life and gathering more stories to tell, which is why I'd encourage her to write them down and consider publishing them in a book. Tell her it's for her children to read when they grow up. It might encourage her to write.

I'll do that. 👍