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A marriage that has not been consummated is a grounds for annulment.

Marriage na by force?

If she nor won do again, make them leave her now?

Reason many people married is because of sex, they don't want to fornicate (or continue)

NomorePMO:
The craz**est, annoying one is the pastor. First, why did he made reference to an harlot? Also, praying for her destruction

Wow

Calling her attitude demonic? "A disgrace to the church", very absurd statement....

Exactly. And to excommunicate her from the churches that the solution..
You read some stories and you'll begin to wonder who called this one into ministry..??
Is that the best way to handle this matter..

dre11:
https://punchng.com/church-expels-new-bride-for-refusing-sex-with-husband/

Forced marriage

That's not his wife.
He should get out......
Any woman that doesn't submit to her husband is a roommate.

Dat y is adviced to get intimate with your partner a couple of times during courtship to ascertain there is bedroom chemistry between u two. Becos sex is one of the bedrock of a healthy marriage.

NomorePMO:
The craz**est, annoying one is the pastor. First, why did he made reference to an harlot? Also, praying for her destruction

Wow

Calling her attitude demonic? "A disgrace to the church", very absurd statement....

Is she not demonic? Make sure you read entire story before you comment ignorantly.

They have made endless reconciliations for up to six months, yet she refused bluntly.

Since she knows she won't consummate her marriage, why can she stood her ground,as she is doing nowt, wen her mummy pressurising her?


I only blame pastor not telling the husband blunt truth, .....to divorce evil wife

I also blame him for pray, that, she should destroy, what is role of church in casting out demon? if indeed, she is demonic.

But you saw that provided help by series of counseling and medical care to salvage the situation but she was not ready to be helped

brain54:
That girl is going through alot...


At first I wanted to criticize her. But on second thought she may have underlying psychological issues.

Maybe early abuse or even phobia for sex. If counselling hasn't worked it's okay to dissolve the marriage and everyone moves on without the plenty grammar from the pastor demonizing her.

He is right in certain aspects though... even harlots have sex with customers without feelings when I got to that part I just got weak and couldn't blame him too completely because it's crude but true.


Maybe hearing her side of the story would balance things up and create better understanding and clarity.

In the end she is the one who needs help psychologically to get through this phase of whatever it is she is facing!

Marriage isn't do or die as we see it in Nigeria.

If as an adult you are unmarried, some see you as cursed and needing deliverance.

But when you are coerced into wrong marriage, you are left alone to bear the consequences.

Bahamas95:
You can't force someone to love you.

The man is even risking his life because this kinda woman could poison him. Secondly, the pastor or whatever his title is sounds toxic to me.



For peace to reign it's better they go their separate ways........The man should count his loss because he ignored the handwriting on the wall.

Why will you blame the pastor when all effort to resolve proves abortive by the lady in question, that's the character of a demon possessed woman

There are no people that are psychologically not okay in Nigeria ,even if they are in very small fraction.some people are crazy here,and they need crazy people also to fixed them..all this germszy generation like Mirabel and this sisi that waste this dude money for both court and traditional right need to be thought a lesson.

PerfectStranger:
So nowadays folks just jump into marriage without dating or courtship first?

I'm sure he saw the sign but still went ahead. Imagine the amount he spent on wedding. His loss tho coz you can't force a person to like you.

From what the Man said, it is obvious he was the one madly in love

We keep telling dont marry that way, marry a woman that loves you More .. women by nature swing, they are mental unstable

A man can be with a lover he does not love,marry her, enjoy sex with her nd people wont notice But Women if she no love your neighbours, community will see it

makavalley:
But you saw that provided help by series of counseling and medical care to salvage the situation but she was not ready to be helped

I didn't see anything about medical care anywhere in the post o...

Maybe you can point that out to me.


But I was talking about professional (clinical) psychological help o!

Lamasta:
Why will you blame the pastor when all effort to resolve proves abortive by the lady in question, that's the character of a demon possessed woman

She's possessed by a demon because she doesn't love a man she was forced to marry?

Nawa for you o!

It's the church's statement that surprised me sha.

Na real wa.

Bahamas95:
She's possessed by a demon because she doesn't love a man she was forced to marry?

Nawa for you o!

She should come out openly and seek for divorce if she doesn't love the husband instead of disrespecting everyone that wants to mediate in the affair

Sagacity10:
Exactly. And to excommunicate her from the churches that the solution..
You read some stories and you'll begin to wonder who called this one into ministry..??
Is that the best way to handle this matter..

A woman who doesn't listen to the pastor and elders in the church is a rebel and needs to be withdrawn before she infects others....

She reportedly accused her mother of coercing her into the marriage.

@bold, is the reason for her not wanting to go intimacy with her new husband, all the long epistle na story story. Parents needs to learn how to deal with their child(n) decisions in choosing a life partner.

The bro self no try, probably the marriage is the type of marriage that the parents helps him to talk to the girl now he has spent money in vain.

This generation of ladies are hell bent on destroying the marriage institution which is the foundation upon which society is built!

From the beginning of time, marriage was supposed to be between a man who LOVES his wife and a woman who has taken an intentional decision to accept and submit to the man! The woman's "love" was never intended to be a basis for the marriage because love is expected to come majorly from the partner who bears the bulk of the family's responsibilities and which happens to be the MAN.

It is because of the great responsibilities marriage places on the man that even God admonished the man to love his wife while the woman should submit to her husband! These things are simple logic! But ladies of this generation would want to confuse themselves with their so called love (love that shies away from responsibilities). The feminist groups who advise these ladies are the ones planting that senseless thoughts about the non existing "mutual love ' as a basis for marriage!

They forget that love is hardly mutual and that if people are to wait until they found 'mutual love ', they might eventually not find any until they grow old and less desired.

Zionmdde:
Very good
Dissolve the marriage let everybody go their way

Next time they want to marry, let them date and court properly whom they intend to marry

Dissolve wetin? After the money I spent in marriage ceremony. I must knack u o

No sex before marriage in the mud.

Bahamas95:
You can't force someone to love you.

The man is even risking his life because this kinda woman could poison him. Secondly, the pastor or whatever his title is sounds toxic to me.



For peace to reign it's better they go their separate ways........The man should count his loss because he ignored the handwriting on the wall.

What do you mean you don't love Isaac? Demon! 😁

He is not only toxic. He's a mad person...

SMH

Pastor overdo with his declarations.

Marriage shouldn't be by compulsion.

Let her be!

PulaPower:
There must be a reason why..

Abi the man nah 2mins man wey no dey carry Oyiza reach there? Or the man get small preek? Anyhow sha

Cuz Koji girls ehh, when it comes to preek ehhh, you no fit wyne them. They always like it big and strong

What's your point?
Did you not read it up there that the lady didn't even opened her kpekus for one single time?
She did not allow any access.

Zionmdde:
Very good
Dissolve the marriage let everybody go their way

Next time they want to marry, let them date and court properly whom they intend to marry

Ebira ladies are very stubborn. Sorry, I don't mean to attack the tribe but I have 3 serious experiences in this Abuja that made me to say so.

Alaefulu:
There are no people that are psychologically not okay in Nigeria ,even if they are in very small fraction.some people are crazy here,and they need crazy people also to fixed them..all this germszy generation like Mirabel and this sisi that waste this dude money for both court and traditional right need to be thought a lesson.

The number that are crazy up to 35% population, but very very small are roaming about, go ask clinical psychologist who is practise and pastors, they will tell you mad people are everywhere.

sandra2025:
What's your point?
Did you not read it up there that the lady didn't even opened her kpekus for one single time?
She did not allow any access.

She locked up completely and gave the keys to her marine husband.

My brother pls waka, move on and I'm sure your pastor's wife will help you arrange for one of the babes around her in the church.

After completing the traditional marriage rites.


ME: The lady and her family OBTAINED the man

If someone says they are not doing or interested let them be cos she accuses her mum of forcing her.

Don't know if it was the mum who got them together but she was the one who made her agree to the marrying him when she was no longer into it.

brain54:
That girl is going through alot...


At first I wanted to criticize her. But on second thought she may have underlying psychological issues.

Maybe early abuse or even phobia for sex. If counselling hasn't worked it's okay to dissolve the marriage and everyone moves on without the plenty grammar from the pastor demonizing her.

He is right in certain aspects though... even harlots have sex with customers without feelings when I got to that part I just got weak and couldn't blame him too completely because it's crude but true.


Maybe hearing her side of the story would balance things up and create better understanding and clarity.

In the end she is the one who needs help psychologically to get through this phase of whatever it is she is facing!

Women always acting like children...in the end , she will end up with a man that will be treating her like crap...always the case

PulaPower:
There must be a reason why..

Abi the man nah 2mins man wey no dey carry Oyiza reach there? Or the man get small preek? Anyhow sha

Cuz Koji girls ehh, when it comes to preek ehhh, you no fit wyne them. They always like it big and strong

Dey try read small… e get why