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I dont know the right section to post this.but has your childhood best friend ever abondoned you when he/she grows up or becomes wealthy?how do you feel? Please share your stories am coming back to share mine thanks

Sirchiboy:
I dont know the right section to post this.but has your childhood best friend ever abondoned you when he/she grows up or becomes wealthy?how do you feel? Please share your stories am coming back to share mine thanks

What do you mean by abandon (please check the dictionary meaning before answering)?

Sirchiboy:
I dont know the right section to post this.but has your childhood best friend ever abondoned you when he/she grows up or becomes wealthy?how do you feel? Please share your stories am coming back to share mine thanks

Why should you be bothered if someone is doing better than you? Na una dey put una sef for depression and unnecessary competition. If someone is doing better than you, you’re also doing better than someone else.

I heard jennyclay's friends abandoned her when they became successful....that's one of the reasons she's sooooo bitter...

Pretty sure Nigerians equate successful with having money otherwise they don't think the success is worth it 😕

if you position yourself as a begger
they would ignore and abandon you.....
its friendship so keep it that way...
and let thier success thier business.

Peter comes to mind.


Early 2000s. We were kids close childhood friends. Our mums worked at the same place. We spent alternating weekends in each other’s houses. Him and his brothers would stay with us, we’d stay with them. We attended the same primary school. It was that kind of bond family-level closeness.
Then his mum got the opportunity to relocate to greater London. This was even before the whole japa wave became a thing. While she was sorting herself out, they stayed with us. Eventually she came back for her husband and kids, and off to London they went.
We lost contact for about a year.
One day, my mum said, “You people want to speak with the Babatopes?” We were excited me and my siblings. Childhood friends reconnecting after relocation? Sweet moment, right?
Wrong.
Peter and his siblings denied knowing us.
Flat out.
Asking “Who is this?” When I tried explaining, he acted like he had no idea who I was. My mum was shocked. I was a boy almost entering my teenage years, and my supposed best friend more like a brother that I already used to brag to my friends around erased me like I never existed.







That day stayed with me.
Fast forward about 15 years later. He wanted to come to Nigeria for something and needed help with security and accommodation. He reached out through my mum.
At that time, I was in the UK on course at Sandhurst.
I took my pound of flesh.
I feigned complete ignorance. Said I wasn’t even in the country. His mum called, acting surprised that I didn’t “know” them. The irony was loud.
Eventually I returned to Nigeria after my program. He was still around and tried reaching out to meet up. But that childhood hurt stuck with me. I cut ties completely.
Maybe people change. Maybe kids do silly things. But one thing I know is this if he had met me in a place where I wasn’t doing well, I doubt he would’ve wanted to reconnect.
Some people remember you only when you’re useful or successful.
I don’t hate him. I just believe in energy matching energy.

No because we lost connection in 2009, my dad retired and we moved to Abuja and since then we lost contact, we talked awhile but his number stopped going through, I don't know why. but I know some day we will both meet by God grace.

I've not really noticed, and I don't want to notice that. I just wanna be successful

20 friends cannot play together for 20years.




Have that at the back of your mind and save yourself from unnecessary worry.

The questions should be have u ever helped anyone including your childhood friends?


Because there are people u are successful more than in life

Ogun omode o le shere fun ogun odun. Bi ile aye se ri niyen.

Yes, made me wonder how much people pretend

No, not at all. We are both successful tho he hit money earlier than me

With the word "best friends" I'll say none. But many of my successful friends only buy beer and nothing else. You can only get their help if you have skills they require.

Yes he even boldly told me we aren't mate anymore I wasn't even mad at him for saying that because already I knew money makes a brother change

Going to 5Years we last saw

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Lol...make una go work on yourselves

He owns me nothing, I don't feel abandoned as I'm doing well for myself.

Lol. No one owes you anything . This mentality is with Africans only, even as a child, once you are 18, your parents don't owe you anything. You owe your parents. Your friends don't owe you anything, either you find your own success or move on. What an entitlement mentality

Sirchiboy:
I dont know the right section to post this.but has your childhood best friend ever abondoned you when he/she grows up or becomes wealthy?how do you feel? Please share your stories am coming back to share mine thanks

Well actually I abandoned a friend of mine when he became rich. He wanted to still be my friend but I remembered when we were younger he loved to trick us out of our money and properties

Olachase:
Yes he even boldly told me we aren't mate anymore I wasn't even mad at him for saying that because already I knew money makes a brother change

Going to 5Years we last saw

🚶🚶🚶

You are a theif lol. He owes you nothing

One did away with me (not as if I look forward to my friend buying me a car or building a house for me in life, LOL)

Another one stood by me (I appreciate it a lot, but still, I always know that nobody owes me anything).

The one that ditched me got close to another friend of ours.

The one that stood by me and myself are becoming the winning team (smiles).

Summary:
Face your life squarely now so that you will be too busy to even notice one person is ditching you. Woe betides any person who puts his confidence in a man.

See, your destiny is in your hand. It is not jealousy, envy will not enrich you, work out your own path to greatness and be careful of friends self.

Yes. But i later got to understand. I was dragging him back...now I'm up, but we can't be friends again cos it's so uncomfortable. But I do understand why he had to abandon me.

Only two of us still remain in Nigeria out of seven that we all grew up together as buddies in the 90s. We are best of friends till today. They are all well-to-do abroad, but I have never asked any of them for financial assistance before, except one who is my closest blood. Not because I don't need their assistance, but I hate being a bother. Maybe that's why they don't look down on me. My place is always one of their first port of call anytime they are in the country.

Normal
Travels abroad
Ends communication

This Life is all man for Himself,
I’m at the stage in my life that If your class is too high for me I change school, No Competition No Stress. No Expectations No Disappointments

Oracleee:
Peter comes to mind.


Early 2000s. We were kids close childhood friends. Our mums worked at the same place. We spent alternating weekends in each other’s houses. Him and his brothers would stay with us, we’d stay with them. We attended the same primary school. It was that kind of bond family-level closeness.
Then his mum got the opportunity to relocate to greater London. This was even before the whole japa wave became a thing. While she was sorting herself out, they stayed with us. Eventually she came back for her husband and kids, and off to London they went.
We lost contact for about a year.
One day, my mum said, “You people want to speak with the Babatopes?” We were excited me and my siblings. Childhood friends reconnecting after relocation? Sweet moment, right?
Wrong.
Peter and his siblings denied knowing us.
Flat out.
Asking “Who is this?” When I tried explaining, he acted like he had no idea who I was. My mum was shocked. I was a boy almost entering my teenage years, and my supposed best friend more like a brother that I already used to brag to my friends around erased me like I never existed.







That day stayed with me.
Fast forward about 15 years later. He wanted to come to Nigeria for something and needed help with security and accommodation. He reached out through my mum.
At that time, I was in the UK on course at Sandhurst.
I took my pound of flesh.
I feigned complete ignorance. Said I wasn’t even in the country. His mum called, acting surprised that I didn’t “know” them. The irony was loud.
Eventually I returned to Nigeria after my program. He was still around and tried reaching out to meet up. But that childhood hurt stuck with me. I cut ties completely.
Maybe people change. Maybe kids do silly things. But one thing I know is this if he had met me in a place where I wasn’t doing well, I doubt he would’ve wanted to reconnect.
Some people remember you only when you’re useful or successful.
I don’t hate him. I just believe in energy matching energy.

Lol, but he was very young to be honest, I don't think that counts. You should tell him what happened and forgive each other. He was also a child and most people abroad weren't doing well. Most teenagers abroad has lots of problems when they arrive and some often go psychotic. I think you should tell him and forgive him

20 friends can not stay together for 20 years. Good night !

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But I gv thanks to God that always ask friends or family for things

Nextjs:
The questions should be have u ever helped anyone including your childhood friends?


Because there are people u are successful more than in life

Hmm...this is so true. No matter how you feel about your goals and not achieving them yet, there are people you are ahead of and can lend a helping hand to.

sheeda995:
You are a theif lol. He owes you nothing

I am not even like you a gold digger 😅😅😅