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This is not a love story. This is betrayal at the highest level.

A woman says she cannot marry AS. She is AS herself. She was clear ans firm ans wants healthy children.

The man brings a result that says AA. They got married. First pregnancy.
CVS test at ten weeks.
Result: SS.
Shock. Tears. Fasting. Confusion.
They terminate.
They call it bad luck.

Second pregnancy.
Same test.
Same result: SS.
Another abortion.
More pain.
More hormones.
More grief.
She blames destiny.
She questions God.
She doubts herself.

All the while, her husband knows the truth.
He is AS. He forged his result because he “didn’t want to lose her.”

Let that sink in.
He watched her carry two pregnancies that statistically had a 25 percent chance of being SS.
He watched her terminate twice.
He watched her body break.
He watched her mourn.
And he kept quiet.
That is not love.
That is manipulation.
That is cruelty dressed up as romance.
Now she finds his real result from 2019. Genotype: AS.

Now he is crying.
Now he says “I did it for love.”
Now he suggests adoption.
Now he brings a pastor to preach “for better or worse.”

No.
Marriage is for better or worse.
Not for lies that create the worse.
He did not just lie.
He removed her right to make an informed decision about her own body.
He gambled with her womb.
He gambled with potential children.
He gambled with her mental health.
Genotype is not vibes. It is biology.

AS plus AS means:
25 percent AA
50 percent AS
25 percent SS

Each pregnancy resets the probability. It is not “once SS, next one safe.” That is not how genetics works.Two SS results back to back is painful, but possible.
And he knew the risk from day one.
The real question is not whether she should stay.

The real question is this:
If someone can lie about something this fundamental before marriage, what else can they lie about?

Trust is the foundation of marriage.
Without trust, you are roommates with rings.
“I love you” does not erase deliberate deception.
Love without honesty is danger.

If you were in her shoes, would you feel safe trying again?
Would you trust him with IVF decisions?
With finances?
With medical choices?
This is bigger than genotype.
It is about consent.
It is about truth.
It is about whether intention cancels damage.

For many people, this is a run and do not look back situation.
Not because AS is evil.
But because deceit is.
Take your genotype seriously.
But more importantly, take character seriously.
Because a forged result today can become a forged life tomorrow.

I just got off the phone with a distant friend of mine and I’m actually trembling. This isn't even about "love" anymore; this is pure, calculated wickedness. Please take your genotype serious🙏. Don’t bring sick kids to the world all in the name of love

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Always Make Sure You Check Your Genotype Before You Marry.

Attraction is sweet.
Chemistry is powerful.
But biology does not care about feelings.

Genotype is not a minor detail. It is life and death.

If two people with AS marry each other, they are rolling dice with every pregnancy.


There are families where the first two children are SS.
There are families where three children are SS.
Sickle cell disease is not a small issue. It is pain crises. Hospital bills. Blood transfusions. Emotional exhaustion. Watching your child suffer and feeling helpless.

Love will not remove that burden.

Yes, medicine has advanced.
Yes, there is prenatal testing.
Yes, there is IVF with genetic screening.

But be honest.

Do you have the financial strength for that?
Do you have the emotional stamina?
Have you both agreed clearly on adoption if things go wrong?

Or are you just hoping for the best?

Hope is not a plan.

In this generation, ignorance is no longer an excuse. Genotype testing is affordable. Results are clear. The information is available.

Do not prioritize wedding pictures over your future child’s health.

If you are AS, marry AA.
If both of you are AS, have a serious discussion before you proceed.

Not emotional. Not defensive. Logical.

Your child did not ask to be born into avoidable suffering.

Love responsibly.

Because real love thinks beyond the wedding day.

Wickedness of the highest order!!!

Why deceive a woman just to marry her in the name of lover that will first clear off when the truth unravels?

Oga ooo. This couldn't be a true story now? 😞

Omor this man dey manipulate pass my ex

But people should stop behave like illiterate, and endeavour to discuss their issue with neutral and knowledgeable person Whenever they are confused.


Since the lady confirmed that she is AS, having had the first pregnancy which was SS, she supposed to force the husband to go to hospital that she trusted and see the results herself and not hearsay.


Meanwhile, if this is to be wife now, foolish and mad people would have been chanting war songs on female gender.

dawnomike:
Wickedness of the highest order!!!

Why deceive a woman just to marry her in the name of lover that will first clear off when the truth unravels?

People seem to still not take with seriousness the grave consequences of 2 AS or SS marrying each other.

Omorr, Sickle cell SS na better disaster

Chai ! Very painful. Please intending couples should always check and confirm

The man should be arrested alongside the pastor that came to preach for better for worse. The marriage should be immediately annulled on grounds of falsehood.

Btruth:
Oga ooo. This couldn't be a true story now? 😞

It can be. It is tantamount to a lady claiming she is ok whereas she knows her womb is gone. When the man now finds out inside marriage, she starts crying 😭. Any union on falsehood is crime and should be immediately dissolved!!

Another Twitter story for jobless people to argue about it on Friday morning, let me jump and pass this one

Never mind, I don’t anything to say in The first place

It's painful.. I left my 8 years relationship before of genotype... It's better off than giving birth to Sickle cell children

This is a case of run for your life, nothing good can come out of relationship built on deceit.

Our forefather never had or knew anything about this genotype wahala but they managed to give birth ot healthy children and generation is what I'm yet to understand.

That is why i love the process of the church i attend.

Before even counselling, you will be sent to a hospital owned by a respected Deacon in the church to run all the required tests. You have no business coming with the results, as the hospital will mail them directly to the church's Family Affairs department.

Any result not from that hospital, then you need to go find another church to be joined together.


I wonder how people do serious relationships without checking these things. Immediately I met my then-girlfriend and was sure I could settle with her, we went for the Genotype testsin 4 different hospitals and labs. One lab even gave me AS as a result, I just laugh cos dem no know wetin dem dey talk. My entire family, no one has any 'S'. Something that I have been checking since school days?

All other hospitals and labs brought back AA.

This story get as e be, so she didn't realize immediately that something is wrong and that both of them should go for another round of check together?

Why CVS test

This test is not commonly done except there's a suspicion of abnormalities.
The man would have been the brain behind the CVS test, knowing what is at stake

Ladies be so curious & smart

Dpsychologist:
This is not a love story. This is betrayal at the highest level.

A woman says she cannot marry AS. She is AS herself. She was clear ans firm ans wants healthy children.

The man brings a result that says AA. They got married. First pregnancy.
CVS test at ten weeks.
Result: SS.
Shock. Tears. Fasting. Confusion.
They terminate.
They call it bad luck.

Second pregnancy.
Same test.
Same result: SS.
Another abortion.
More pain.
More hormones.
More grief.
She blames destiny.
She questions God.
She doubts herself.

All the while, her husband knows the truth.
He is AS. He forged his result because he “didn’t want to lose her.”

Let that sink in.
He watched her carry two pregnancies that statistically had a 25 percent chance of being SS.
He watched her terminate twice.
He watched her body break.
He watched her mourn.
And he kept quiet.
That is not love.
That is manipulation.
That is cruelty dressed up as romance.
Now she finds his real result from 2019. Genotype: AS.

Now he is crying.
Now he says “I did it for love.”
Now he suggests adoption.
Now he brings a pastor to preach “for better or worse.”

No.
Marriage is for better or worse.
Not for lies that create the worse.
He did not just lie.
He removed her right to make an informed decision about her own body.
He gambled with her womb.
He gambled with potential children.
He gambled with her mental health.
Genotype is not vibes. It is biology.

AS plus AS means:
25 percent AA
50 percent AS
25 percent SS

Each pregnancy resets the probability. It is not “once SS, next one safe.” That is not how genetics works.Two SS results back to back is painful, but possible.
And he knew the risk from day one.
The real question is not whether she should stay.

The real question is this:
If someone can lie about something this fundamental before marriage, what else can they lie about?

Trust is the foundation of marriage.
Without trust, you are roommates with rings.
“I love you” does not erase deliberate deception.
Love without honesty is danger.

If you were in her shoes, would you feel safe trying again?
Would you trust him with IVF decisions?
With finances?
With medical choices?
This is bigger than genotype.
It is about consent.
It is about truth.
It is about whether intention cancels damage.

For many people, this is a run and do not look back situation.
Not because AS is evil.
But because deceit is.
Take your genotype seriously.
But more importantly, take character seriously.
Because a forged result today can become a forged life tomorrow.




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Better is the man that exercise patience than he that is powerful and greater is the man who exercises self control than he that captured a city - prov 16 :32. The said man lacked self control and allowed the lust to rule him and inflicted the pain in the innocent woman. What a bad luck of a man. I will advise the woman to leave. Very sad situation here.

What kind of selfishness is this for heaven's sake? You clearly knew you guys are not meant to be with each medically from the outset but still decided to do forever with her. Purely wickedness.

Village people are wonderful

What he did was selfish and merciless. By lying about his status, her decision to divorce him and move on was the right choice. It is even scriptural.

My first cousin is AS. One of his girlfriends was AS as well. She pleaded that they get married. My cousin's constant reply was am ironclad no.

For her peace of mind and sanity she should just leave, not that i believe this story happened sha

Fiscus105:
But people should stop behave like illiterate, and endeavour to discuss there issue with neutral and knowledgeable person Whenever they are confused.


Since the lady confirmed that she is AS, having had the first pregnancy which was SS, she supposed to force the husband to go to hospital that she trust and see the results herself and not hearsay.


Meanwhile, if this is to be wife now, foolish and mad people would have been chanting war songs and female gender.

The lady is not suppose to carry second pregnancy without confirmation. I won't say she is too foolish

Blakjewelry:
This story get as e be, so she didn't realize immediately that something is wrong and that both of them should go for another round of check together?

you dey mind all this people with fake stories

Some people just want to get married and don't care about the aftermath. I would have dismissed this story as false if not that something similar happened to someone very close to me.

Husband is AS, she claimed her genotype was AA. After the birth of her first child, she tested as SS. The woman did another genotype test and the test showed she was AS.

Since she claimed she didn't know initially that she was AS, what was she supposed to do now that she knows? Don't get pregnant because even prenatal genetic testing is not 100% accurate.

But out of selfishness, she went on to birth additional 4 kids. In her defense...SS can be managed through healthy lifestyle....bla..bla...bla...

Fortunately, the second and last escaped being SS, but the other two tested as SS. I'm still trying to imagine why someone as learned as her would pull off such a stupid act just because she didn't want to lose her marriage.

Another made up story from lazy people to get engagement.
The earlier Mark cancels this monetisation stuff, the better for humanity.

In the catholic church, this is a valid reason for annulment of the marriage.

Make the woman divorce the man, he's so heartless.

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Cutezt:
That is why i love the process of the church i attend.

Before even counselling, you will be sent to a hospital owned by a respected Deacon in the church to run all the required tests. You have no business coming with the results, as the hospital will mail them directly to the church's Family Affairs department.

Any result not from that hospital, then you need to go find another church to be joined together.

Which church I go like join oo

It happened to my classmate

The woman decived the hubby
Only one is AS

The rest with my classmate are all SS

Till date
The man so much hate the woman and she is the only one more close to the children during crisis because the man doesn't really care

Though at some point he started showing up and bringing them to school himself
I believe he accepted fate that way

You can never see him and the wife together though

Btruth:
Oga ooo. This couldn't be a true story now? 😞

A fake story concotted to pass a genuine message.

Why would they do CVS for the first pregnancy if the man's result was AA and her own AS? If she suspected the man wasn't telling the truth, she would have just repeated the genotype test at another trusted laboratory instead of accepting the results he brought, getting married, only to then do the highly invasive and expensive CVS in pregnancy followed by abortion. And then going through the cycle again.