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There is a funny cycle many people ignore until it stops benefiting them.

When many women were in their early twenties, a lot of them did not want men their age. They called their male age mates “small boys.” They preferred older men who were more established, more confident, and financially stable.

At that time, nobody called it a problem.

A 22 year old woman dating a 35 year old man was often seen as normal. Sometimes it was even encouraged. Friends would say she was “smart” for choosing maturity and stability.

Fast forward ten or fifteen years.

Those same men who were once the “small boys” are now in their mid thirties. They have careers, experience, and more confidence. Now many of them choose women in their twenties.

Suddenly the conversation changes.

Now people say it is unfair.
Now people say it is manipulation.
Now people say men should date their age mates.

But here is the uncomfortable truth.

Adults are free to choose the partners they want.

If a 24 year old woman chooses a 35 year old man, that is her decision. If a 35 year old man chooses a 25 year old woman, that is also his decision. Both are adults making choices.

What often fuels the argument is not morality. It is timing.

When people benefit from a system, they rarely complain about it. When the same system no longer favors them, they suddenly see the problem.

Now about the idea of the “perfect age gap.”

There is no universal formula.

Some couples are the same age and thrive.
Some couples have a ten year gap and thrive.
Some couples fail regardless of the age difference.

What actually sustains relationships is not the number between birthdays.

It is maturity.
Shared values.
Respect.
And the ability to build a life together.

Age can influence compatibility, but it does not automatically determine success or failure.

At the end of the day, attraction and partnership are personal choices.

Everyone wants the best partner they believe they can get.

The real lesson is simple.

Be honest about your preferences, and allow others the same freedom.

If you’re not making money from these write-ups, you’re wasting your life. Last last, na ban, hide and delete Seun go use frustrate you from here.

Dpsychologist:
There is a funny cycle many people ignore until it stops benefiting them.

When many women were in their early twenties, a lot of them did not want men their age. They called their male age mates “small boys.” They preferred older men who were more established, more confident, and financially stable.

At that time, nobody called it a problem.

A 22 year old woman dating a 35 year old man was often seen as normal. Sometimes it was even encouraged. Friends would say she was “smart” for choosing maturity and stability.

Fast forward ten or fifteen years.

Those same men who were once the “small boys” are now in their mid thirties. They have careers, experience, and more confidence. Now many of them choose women in their twenties.

Suddenly the conversation changes.

Now people say it is unfair.
Now people say it is manipulation.
Now people say men should date their age mates.

But here is the uncomfortable truth.

Adults are free to choose the partners they want.

If a 24 year old woman chooses a 35 year old man, that is her decision. If a 35 year old man chooses a 25 year old woman, that is also his decision. Both are adults making choices.

What often fuels the argument is not morality. It is timing.

When people benefit from a system, they rarely complain about it. When the same system no longer favors them, they suddenly see the problem.

Now about the idea of the “perfect age gap.”

There is no universal formula.

Some couples are the same age and thrive.
Some couples have a ten year gap and thrive.
Some couples fail regardless of the age difference.

What actually sustains relationships is not the number between birthdays.

It is maturity.
Shared values.
Respect.
And the ability to build a life together.

Age can influence compatibility, but it does not automatically determine success or failure.

At the end of the day, attraction and partnership are personal choices.

Everyone wants the best partner they believe they can get.

The real lesson is simple.

Be honest about your preferences, and allow others the same freedom.

Seun suppose dey pay this Op oo. This is good

Hahahaha. We’ve started using alternates? Your writing is good. It’s not that good.

TheMensch:
Seun suppose dey pay this Op oo. This is good

meobizy:
Hahahaha. We’ve started using alternates? Your writing is good. It’s not that good.

Oh you think I'm the Op (writer). No bro. I'm not. I'm just appreciating a piece. Whether you believe or not is up to you though. Happy Sunday

I like the title. They pretend not to understand

But no man can Denny nature
Body will tell d true

Dpsychologist:
There is a funny cycle many people ignore until it stops benefiting them.

When many women were in their early twenties, a lot of them did not want men their age. They called their male age mates “small boys.” They preferred older men who were more established, more confident, and financially stable.

At that time, nobody called it a problem.

A 22 year old woman dating a 35 year old man was often seen as normal. Sometimes it was even encouraged. Friends would say she was “smart” for choosing maturity and stability.

Fast forward ten or fifteen years.

Those same men who were once the “small boys” are now in their mid thirties. They have careers, experience, and more confidence. Now many of them choose women in their twenties.

Suddenly the conversation changes.

Now people say it is unfair.
Now people say it is manipulation.
Now people say men should date their age mates.

But here is the uncomfortable truth.

Adults are free to choose the partners they want.

If a 24 year old woman chooses a 35 year old man, that is her decision. If a 35 year old man chooses a 25 year old woman, that is also his decision. Both are adults making choices.

What often fuels the argument is not morality. It is timing.

When people benefit from a system, they rarely complain about it. When the same system no longer favors them, they suddenly see the problem.

Now about the idea of the “perfect age gap.”

There is no universal formula.

Some couples are the same age and thrive.
Some couples have a ten year gap and thrive.
Some couples fail regardless of the age difference.

What actually sustains relationships is not the number between birthdays.

It is maturity.
Shared values.
Respect.
And the ability to build a life together.

Age can influence compatibility, but it does not automatically determine success or failure.

At the end of the day, attraction and partnership are personal choices.

Everyone wants the best partner they believe they can get.

The real lesson is simple.

Be honest about your preferences, and allow others the same freedom.

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It is of a great concern for a man to build his relationship solely on other people’s opinion.

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Who takes women seriously? Women are selfish, emotional, biased, hypocritical, and extremely sentimental.

Only a woman will set rules of a game and then turn around in the middle of the game to change the rules when she's losing. These are the rules she set herself. If you object, she will say you aren't man enough.
To them, a real man is one who allows them get away with their folly, a real man is one who doesn't hold them accountable to their actions and choices.

A woman will burn down a city for what she believes in, and later not believe in that same thing again. She will just expect everyone to move on like nothing happened

Women are so drown in hypocrisy and double standards.
For instance, they will tell you that body count doesn't matter but will turn around and slut shame one another because of it
If body count meant nothing, why then do women lie about it? Why do they slut shame one another because of it?

Nkechi Bianze and Uzowulu have been dragging themselves for days now, body shaming themselves. These are same women that say that body shame means nothing

They jettison the 'small boys' and enjoy their prime years with the older men and then turn around at the twilight of their years to blame the then small boys who are now men for not wanting them.

Women are delusional.

Noted.
Be rest assured that people involved understand.

.but while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat and went his way...

Trust me the Bible was succinct with that verse, I guess the tares sower have hopped on this thread as the whole thread isn't in the favor.

Make una keep foaming, all of una go dey alright.

What is your favorite drink bro?

I offer to buy you 7 crates of it

Because you have said it all !!!!

"When people benefit from a system, they rarely complain about it. When the same system no longer favors them, they suddenly see the problem."

These words from the OP are so true and apply in many other aspects of life beyond this topic.

I am tired of AI writing. I prefer normal human writing please OP.

Women grow up faster than men but men age gradually. That's why at a young age a young woman won't go for her peers. She needs more of the daddy figures in her life. This is how older men exploit them because they know so women will cry and cry because the men are wiser than them and the young men are throwing tantrums so they cannot handle that.

At what age do women realize that the man they waited for is a dream

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7553103102446931231

Women palaver is not something you want to stress yourself over. It's biology, accept it like that. Women have biological clock so their time is limited to be with men who are not made. It is also a gamble for them to choose a man who is not sure where he is headed, that's why they are not really attracted to their peers and want ready made men but when life shows some of them shege, they know what they need in life. This is why the female child is one that you see families putting a lot of work on because most families don't usually want a returnee or single mom so they want to make sure the family they transfer you to is forever till death do you part 😉

eepeepook:
If you’re not making money from these write-ups, you’re wasting your life. Last last, na ban, hide and delete Seun go use frustrate you from here.

Negativity! Negativity!! Negativity!!!

Still finds nothing intriguing after reading through...

eepeepook:
If you’re not making money from these write-ups, you’re wasting your life. Last last, na ban, hide and delete Seun go use frustrate you from here.

Hahahahahahahaha epic!

Una no dey tire for bullshit discussion

How people cannot mind their business is beyond imaginations

Two adults jam themselves and wan pansh themselves, wetin concern you?

COMRADES, I don't have the time to read the whole article, but I am telling everyone here that I can't marry a lady within my age bracket. I think marrying a younger lady is better

I have always laughed at the trend.

I personally think its nobody's business aslong as its legal and free from exploiting and controlling manipulations.

Men, please dont date or marry your age mate. E get why.

Dpsychologist:
There is a funny cycle many people ignore until it stops benefiting them.

When many women were in their early twenties, a lot of them did not want men their age. They called their male age mates “small boys.” They preferred older men who were more established, more confident, and financially stable.

At that time, nobody called it a problem.

A 22 year old woman dating a 35 year old man was often seen as normal. Sometimes it was even encouraged. Friends would say she was “smart” for choosing maturity and stability.

Fast forward ten or fifteen years.

Those same men who were once the “small boys” are now in their mid thirties. They have careers, experience, and more confidence. Now many of them choose women in their twenties.

Suddenly the conversation changes.

Now people say it is unfair.
Now people say it is manipulation.
Now people say men should date their age mates.

But here is the uncomfortable truth.

Adults are free to choose the partners they want.

If a 24 year old woman chooses a 35 year old man, that is her decision. If a 35 year old man chooses a 25 year old woman, that is also his decision. Both are adults making choices.

What often fuels the argument is not morality. It is timing.

When people benefit from a system, they rarely complain about it. When the same system no longer favors them, they suddenly see the problem.

Now about the idea of the “perfect age gap.”

There is no universal formula.

Some couples are the same age and thrive.
Some couples have a ten year gap and thrive.
Some couples fail regardless of the age difference.

What actually sustains relationships is not the number between birthdays.

It is maturity.
Shared values.
Respect.
And the ability to build a life together.

Age can influence compatibility, but it does not automatically determine success or failure.

At the end of the day, attraction and partnership are personal choices.

Everyone wants the best partner they believe they can get.

The real lesson is simple.

Be honest about your preferences, and allow others the same freedom.

What actually sustains relationships is not the number between birthdays.

It is maturity.
Shared values.
Respect.
And the ability to build a life together.

Age can influence compatibility, but it does not automatically determine success or failure.

Lol, it's crazy to marry a woman that is your age mate or just a few years older than you.
Childbirth and marriage makes women far less attractive.

I can never get married to my age mate, imagine when you are 45 years and your wife is 43, she would begin to look like your elder sister or even mum, you won't find her attractive anymore and would wish you had a younger lady instead.

If you are 28 as a man, you are better off marrying a woman that's about 19,20,21,22 or at worse case scenario 23 years.
A 6 to 7 years gap is the best. It shouldn't exceed 10 years though. pocohantas would agree with me

TheMensch:
Seun suppose dey pay this Op oo. This is good

Na useless being he be naaaa!!
That's why Nairaland is pure garbage now. Nothing educative again. Just tribal and ethnic bigotry full here

InvertedHammer:
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It is of a great concern for a man to build his relationship solely on other people’s opinion.

/

Factss
A man who lives for the validation of others is NOT free

Kingosytex:
✓ Who takes women seriously? Women are selfish, emotional, biased, hypocritical, and extremely sentimental.
Only a woman will set rules of a game and then turn around in the middle of the game to change the rules when she's losing. These are the rules she set herself. If you object, she will say you aren't man enough.
To them, a real man is one who allows them get away with their folly, a real man is one who doesn't hold them accountable to their actions and choices.
A woman will burn down a city for what she believes in, and later not believe in that same thing again. She will just expect everyone to move on like nothing happened
Women are so drown in hypocrisy and double standards.
For instance, they will tell you that body count doesn't matter but will turn around and slut shame one another because of it
If body count meant nothing, why then do women lie about it? Why do they slut shame one another because of it?
Nkechi Bianze and Uzowulu have been dragging themselves for days now, body shaming themselves. These are same women that say that body shame means nothing
They jettison the 'small boys' and enjoy their prime years with the older men and then turn around at the twilight of their years to blame the then small boys who are now men for not wanting them.
Women are delusional.

Date your fellow men and keep your peace. 🥱🥱🥱

The world runs on the roman template which is irretrievable flawed and completely upside down.

Dpsychologist:
There is a funny cycle many people ignore until it stops benefiting them.

When many women were in their early twenties, a lot of them did not want men their age. They called their male age mates “small boys.” They preferred older men who were more established, more confident, and financially stable.

At that time, nobody called it a problem.

A 22 year old woman dating a 35 year old man was often seen as normal. Sometimes it was even encouraged. Friends would say she was “smart” for choosing maturity and stability.

Fast forward ten or fifteen years.

Those same men who were once the “small boys” are now in their mid thirties. They have careers, experience, and more confidence. Now many of them choose women in their twenties.

Suddenly the conversation changes.

Now people say it is unfair.
Now people say it is manipulation.
Now people say men should date their age mates.

But here is the uncomfortable truth.

Adults are free to choose the partners they want.

If a 24 year old woman chooses a 35 year old man, that is her decision. If a 35 year old man chooses a 25 year old woman, that is also his decision. Both are adults making choices.

What often fuels the argument is not morality. It is timing.

When people benefit from a system, they rarely complain about it. When the same system no longer favors them, they suddenly see the problem.

Now about the idea of the “perfect age gap.”

There is no universal formula.

Some couples are the same age and thrive.
Some couples have a ten year gap and thrive.
Some couples fail regardless of the age difference.

What actually sustains relationships is not the number between birthdays.

It is maturity.
Shared values.
Respect.
And the ability to build a life together.

Age can influence compatibility, but it does not automatically determine success or failure.

At the end of the day, attraction and partnership are personal choices.

Everyone wants the best partner they believe they can get.

The real lesson is simple.

Be honest about your preferences, and allow others the same freedom.

I was waiting for you to say something about the women who dated older men when they were younger tending to settle for very young men when they grow older..

..

A young woman choosing an older man and an older man choosing a young woman are both technically the same thing.

Why entertain that kind of convo in the first place?

BluntCrazeMan:
I was waiting for you to say something about the women who dated older men when they were younger tending to settle for very young men when they grow older..

..

A young woman choosing an older man and an older man choosing a young woman are both technically the same thing.

So from whence cometh the comlaint that people aren't dating their age mate?!