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I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

This right here is what i fear the most.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long

I mean, there's no harm entertaining yourself with social media - but you're not learning anything, youre not earning anything from it, just giggling and being entertained into obsolescence 🤧.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings..

This is one thing I've not almost given up on. Apparently, no matter how good intentioned you are, you can't force someone to have a vision for themselves and pursue something that can better their own lives and improve the family.

But I think you knew even during dating thay she's a RELAXED person, did you promise her housewife life? Did you always know she was one to not pursue personal development?

I'm very big on partnership and mutual growth; the truth is, if one partner is growing and the other one is just marinating, it eventually leads to disgust.

Sending you my prayers Sir... May you find peace

You are a w*cked Soul.
Instead of you to understand the plight of this young man and give a constructive assistance you are heaping the problems on him, In this economy why wount she assist? This issue of laziness is causing a strain in the marriage already and if not handled properly will be come a bigger issue.

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

You like it when you get mentions abi, it gives you some dopamine hit. Because what in the unholy phurck did you just type here?

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

says who? 🧐
A wife should come with a value and add the value to the home, not liability.
The man married a wife, not incurred a loan to be serviced with his hard earned money.

The man still has to be blamed cause this is the kind of attribute he should have noticed in the woman before marrying her. It is very hard seeing an idle spinster becoming an industrious wife.

funkmrflexx:
✓ I 've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.
✓ Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.
I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.
✓ It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

1. You married a woman who had nothing doing and no skills. Then you tried forcing her to become business savvy without her showing before hand that she has necessary skills and temperament for such. And then wonder why it didn't work or why you have yet to, after 2 kids with her, made a business wiz out of her. Essentially, your plan to mold this woman into that which is of your dream failed and you are here to blame her for it. 🥱😩

2. She is a wife. She came to you as just a wife and you accepted, married and made her have your kids just as that. But with the economy how pinching your arse, you want to pretend she was supposed to magically transform into more than just the wife your married her as.)😩😩😩

3. She likely showed the same level of effort when you married her too. So what has changed if not you? Why are You desperately trying to blame her for what seems a you problem? 🥱🥱🥱

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

senseless talk!! A wife is supposed to be a help mate to her man ,thats the essence of marriage in its entirety. Marriage is Partnership!!! for crying out loud ,u cant kill the innocent man with pressing bills while u sit down doing nothing. Every right thinking woman knows that she also has to pull her weight by being productive to give her marriage a sort of balance.We are not in the stone age, Please!!!

verminnel:
✓ senseless talk!! A wife is supposed to be a help mate to her man ,thats the essence of marriage in its entirety.
✓ Marriage is Partnership!!! for crying out loud ,u cant kill the innocent man with pressing bills while u sit down doing nothing.
✓ Every right thinking woman knows that she also has to pull her weight by being productive to give her marriage a sort of balance.We are not in the stone age, Please!!!

A helpmate as defined by whom or what? The marriage contract that is signed by the man and woman in question? Or the religious delusions that you specifically operate under? 🥱🥱

2. Marriage as partnership only applies if and only if the couple in question chose to enter into the agreement that is marriage as partners and not as master-slaves, the default traditional option in much of Nigeria. 🥱🥱

3. The woman in question did pull her weight. She had two kids, keeps the home and even tried her hands at business for a while. What exactly are you dead set on blaming on this woman? 🥱🥱

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

A microscopically insignificant few wives add value to the lives of their husband. I've been married for over 15 years with 3 children.
That is stark reality!!!

Reasons why many men die young.

Cool down. It's not always as it seems. Over 25 years married now

Which kind post be this



My wife is not adding value to my life” lmfaoo 😂 😂

Yours is still better; just try to talk with her

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

Stop playing with THUNDER!

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

Empty komkom.

Empty komkom

You marry wahala
You no marry wahala
Looks like adopting seems to be the best

Stephen0mozzy:
This right here is what i fear the most.


I mean, there's no harm entertaining yourself with social media - but you're not learning anything, youre not earning anything from it, just giggling and being entertained into obsolescence 🤧.



This is one thing I've not almost given up on. Apparently, no matter how good intentioned you are, you can't force someone to have a vision for themselves and pursue something that can better their own lives and improve the family.

But I think you knew even during dating thay she's a RELAXED person, did you promise her housewife life? Did you always know she was one to not pursue personal development?

I'm very big on partnership and mutual growth; the truth is, if one partner is growing and the other one is just marinating, it eventually leads to disgust.

Sending you my prayers Sir... May you find peace

If you"overthink" on how you are becoming a Billionaire,you won't even notice your wife's not doing anything to add value to anyone or even yourself because you already are value..

Think and act like a Billionaire!

Most of my married friends I took time to chat with about marriage mostly tell me it isn't worth it except for procreating. Even those that were good friends before getting married to their partners. The recently married one just told me last week he isn't benefiting anything also.

Take life easy
It shall be well

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

No be by force say she must work.
Just calm down and enjoy ur marriage oo

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

In her mind, she has added two kids to your life and that is enough contribution from her.

If you like don’t take care of yourself, she will make the children abandon you in old age, under the guise of going to take care of HER grandchildren.

You marry slay queen that don't like stress. She is a baby girl that married you because you are able to take care of all her needs which is a rare found on a platter of gold.

That is why the holy books says that "he who finds a wife finds a good thing". And because there is a difference between wife and woman as there is a difference between husband and a man, you only found a woman and not your wife specs while she found a husband and not just a man. Complaining about your efforts to make her a wife material is the price you pay to correct the red flag when you fail to see the red flag.

In situations like this where she continues to be adamant it is advisable to continue to perform the husband role

verminnel:
senseless talk!! A wife is supposed to be a help mate to her man ,thats the essence of marriage in its entirety. Marriage is Partnership!!! for crying out loud ,u cant kill the innocent man with pressing bills while u sit down doing nothing. Every right thinking woman knows that she also has to pull her weight by being productive to give her marriage a sort of balance.We are not in the stone age, Please!!!

If the man wanted a supportive woman, I'm sure he would not have settled for the woman. The woman didn't become a lazy ass woman overnight, the man must have seen the red flag at the early stage of the relationship that she is mentally lazy but love blinded him and he ignored the red flag. Now ,he has to pay the price for the red flag he ignored. God will give him the strength and muscle to keep providing for his family.

Please go take a nap if u have nothing reasonable to opine.,I wont engage you.

Kobojunkie:
A helpmate as defined by whom or what? The marriage contract that is signed by the man and woman in question? Or the religious delusions that you specifically operate under? 🥱🥱

2. Marriage as partnership only applies if and only if the couple in question chose to enter into the agreement that is marriage as partners and not as master-slaves, the default traditional option in much of Nigeria. 🥱🥱

3. The woman in question did pull her weight. She had two kids, keeps the home and even tried her hands at business for a while. What exactly are you dead set on blaming on this woman? 🥱🥱

Didn't you see those obvious signs before getting married to her?

This one don allow fine face and sweet kpekus carry am enter Atlantic