₦airaland Forum

ayoncox:
What about everyone paying for what they took, the reason why you are shocked is because of hypergamy, this generation of guys are woke about that already

. Was I the one who requested for a date? You guys should learn how to call a spade a spade sometimes.

Ruth15:
I'm simply surprised at how guys here are justifying the rubbish character their fellow man displayed instead of castigating him. Honestly,we African ladies are in problem especially those of us who aren't married yet.

Brotherhood is proud of him oo...very proud...Yoruba would say 'opor gon'

Ruth15:
. Honestly,the worst argument to ever have is the one with a poor man. So lemme just leave you alone because it's very obvious you're in a romantic relationship with brokeness .

& u can't have multiple accounts that are fully or half funded which would have sorted u out, ni? Abi ur friends couldn't sort it out...5k shouldn't have made u type dz long epistle na...

Mariangeles:
That should tell you that op is a male [troll], and the story is fake.
No lady with such experience will bring it to nairaland, knowing nairaland is.

Plus, the account was created today.🙄

so simply because I bought my story here means I'm a male or because I just created this account today means my story is fake? Well, you're free to your own thoughts.

Ruth15:
. Only broke men will have problem with paying the bills of the woman they hang out with . I know of men who personally splashed millions of naira on their first dates. So please stop making it look like it's all men that have a personal romantic relationship with poverty.

Would you advise your son, brother do this?

Ruth15:
. Only broke men will have problem with paying the bills of the woman they hang out with . I know of men who personally splashed millions of naira on their first dates. So please stop making it look like it's all men that have a personal romantic relationship with poverty.

This your reasoning is the sole reason many Nigerian ladies are single and one of the reasons many Nigerian guys are becoming uninterested in getting married lately.


What you did is completely wrong from all angle of it.


Even if you paid it was still wrong.

You agreed to hang out in a public place with him, you were not supposed to talk about bringing your friend to talk of two friends, for what reason? Are you 18yrs? Can't you stand on your own as a lady? You are just getting to know a guy and you are already inviting friends on the first date, who does that?


And now you are trying to twist the story and blame the guy by saying some guys splash millions on girls.


Only three categories of men splash millions on a girl they just met on a first date, they are:


1.) Senseless Yahoo boys with no good intention and because they don't know the value of money they got through crime


2.) Married men who want to confuse you with that to make things easier and faster for them

3.) Rich playboys and you know their mission.



No reasonable guy with a futuristic plan for you as a lady would want to splash millions on you on a first date after meeting few days ago, change your mentality and come to reality or else you will have more issues with men and may end up being recycled by unserious guys who will never have any future plans with you.

Though something in me tells me this story is fake

Mariangeles:
That should tell you that op is a male [troll], and the story is fake.
No lady with such experience will bring it to nairaland, knowing nairaland is.

Plus, the account was created today.🙄

I think I believe you.


The story is fake


I don't think any sensible, mature lady would do such nonsense in this present time and era knowing how young men of today reason and act towards women now lol

I was expecting this dude to be a gentleman and go and pay for all the stuffs we bought on his behalf.

Delusional Nigerian woman thinking. When you go outside, women of other races and groups pay for themselves, but in Nigeria, dating is bambiala industry. Change this repulsive mentality.

Then go and meet the men.

Ruth15:
. Only broke men will have problem with paying the bills of the woman they hang out with . I know of men who personally splashed millions of naira on their first dates. So please stop making it look like it's all men that have a personal romantic relationship with poverty.

franchasofficia:
I think I believe you.


The story is fake


I don't think any sensible, mature lady would do such nonsense in this present time and era knowing how young men of today reason and act towards women now lol

What about non-sensible and immature ladies

Pampered 😮😲😮😲😮😲

Ruth15:
. Didn't you read the part where I said I wanted to make transfer but it was network that Fvcked me up? Guys,you guys should please stop this gender war and start being like real men for once, okay. I understand the current economy has been at loggerheads with your heads recently but you guys shouldn't be channelling your frustrations on us. For God sake,we are women and we ought to be pampered.

Why will you bring your friends, and why will you order before he comes.

Ruth15:
. Was I the one who requested for a date? You guys should learn how to call a spade a spade sometimes.

So you mean you haven't heard about Dutch Date, if you have intention of traveling to Europe be prepared for that. If you want to be pampered let the guy ask you out first and accept his offer, but if your intentions are to get free meal for yourself and your friend because a guy asked for a date, it shows the kind of lady you are. Let's assume the purpose of bringing your friends along is safety measures should he and his friend now foot your bills, all you posted shows you have entitlement mentality complex and it has great repercussions

Ruth15:
Good day everyone.

So there's this issue that has been bothering me since yesterday and it has left me in a state of bafflement.

I met a guy on Thursday and I gave him my number. On Friday,he asked me if we could hang out and of which I obliged to. Mind you, before I agreed to go out with him,I told him I'd be coming with two of my other female friends and of which he said no problem. He even jokingly asked me if my friends were single and I told him yes. He then jestfully promised to hook them up with two of his other male friends and we both laughed over it .

So ,on Saturday which happened to be yesterday,we finally got to our agreed destination. I ordered for three bottles of coca cola and three fish pies,while my friends and I were awaiting them. Eventually they showed up and we were vibing. When it was time to pay for what I initially ordered for,I was expecting this dude to be a gentleman and go and pay for all the stuffs we bought on his behalf. But unfortunately,he wasn't making any move. So I stood up and wanted to pay. Unfortunately my bank was having network problem. But guys,guess what happened next. This dude and his friends stood up and left us stranded. Like they actually left, without thinking about what we'd be subjected to. Had it been I didn't have the money or went unprepared,that would have been an entirety different case but for goodness sake,it was just an ordinary bank network problems. And it was just ordinary 5k,and not something too big for a girl like me to pay without a blink of an eye. Omo,everything became blurry and I was wondering about what guys are turning into nowadays. Could this be a sign of being an alpha male or should I call it stoopidity? Because I was really embarrassed and I don't think I'd ever blame ladies who tend to be brutal to men from henceforth because I don't just understand what young men of these days are turning into.

Please guys,did I do wrong at all?

Obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun nlfpmod.

You, brutal to who? As per who you be?

Seriously that money is so small that the guy could have overlooked your forwardness and paid but I guess the group interaction didn't go well.

If the vibe was good like you said. I'm sure it wouldn't have been an issue. Tell us how the interaction played out.

If a guy you just met asked you out on a date,it is because he wants to know you more. It's a one on one date in a public place. You don't invite 2 other girls with you.

To make matters worse, you ordered stuff before they came not just for yourself but for your friends. Most men on principles alone will not pay cos it gives user vibes.
For them to leave, probably means you and your girls maybe started gisting with each other and ignored them or maybe one of your friends gave off bad vibes to one of the guys. Bottom line, the outing didn't look promising to the guys and they decided to cut their losses and bail out.

As the one who invited your girlies out, of course you should cover their bills.

So stop calling the guys out. You were way out of line. Not all guys are simps

Ruth15:
. Only broke men will have problem with paying the bills of the woman they hang out with . I know of men who personally splashed millions of naira on their first dates. So please stop making it look like it's all men that have a personal romantic relationship with poverty.

If he had paid for what ever you ordered and proceeded to ask for sex from you, wouldn't you have told him it's too early for that?
Sometimes i wonder the kind of parents that raised your type of women.

Ruth15:
. Didn't you read the part where I said I wanted to make transfer but it was network that Fvcked me up? Guys,you guys should please stop this gender war and start being like real men for once, okay. I understand the current economy has been at loggerheads with your heads recently but you guys shouldn't be channelling your frustrations on us. For God sake,we are women and we ought to be pampered.

Always na when e reach for una to use una money pay for something una bank dey get network issue😂😂

That Niggi deserves 2 bottles of chilled Budweiser and 3 beautiful virgins for what he hath done

Ruth15:
Good day everyone.

So there's this issue that has been bothering me since yesterday and it has left me in a state of bafflement.

I met a guy on Thursday and I gave him my number. On Friday,he asked me if we could hang out and of which I obliged to. Mind you, before I agreed to go out with him,I told him I'd be coming with two of my other female friends and of which he said no problem. He even jokingly asked me if my friends were single and I told him yes. He then jestfully promised to hook them up with two of his other male friends and we both laughed over it .

So ,on Saturday which happened to be yesterday,we finally got to our agreed destination. I ordered for three bottles of coca cola and three fish pies,while my friends and I were awaiting them. Eventually they showed up and we were vibing. When it was time to pay for what I initially ordered for,I was expecting this dude to be a gentleman and go and pay for all the stuffs we bought on his behalf. But unfortunately,he wasn't making any move. So I stood up and wanted to pay. Unfortunately my bank was having network problem. But guys,guess what happened next. This dude and his friends stood up and left us stranded. Like they actually left, without thinking about what we'd be subjected to. Had it been I didn't have the money or went unprepared,that would have been an entirety different case but for goodness sake,it was just an ordinary bank network problems. And it was just ordinary 5k,and not something too big for a girl like me to pay without a blink of an eye. Omo,everything became blurry and I was wondering about what guys are turning into nowadays. Could this be a sign of being an alpha male or should I call it stoopidity? Because I was really embarrassed and I don't think I'd ever blame ladies who tend to be brutal to men from henceforth because I don't just understand what young men of these days are turning into.

Please guys,did I do wrong at all?

Obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun nlfpmod.

Sorry about your experience; that must have been really embarrassing.

That said, courtesy usually demands waiting for the other party before ordering food, especially when you are still basically strangers. You could order drinks while you wait; it is only when the waiting stretches too long that ordering food or snacks is okay.

Personally, if a guy buys food before I arrive, I would take that as a red flag.

So U mean u and your 2 friends no even worth 5k combined?

Merry100:
Sorry about your experience; that must have been really embarrassing.

That said, courtesy usually demands waiting for the other party before ordering food, especially when you are still basically strangers. You could order drinks while you wait; it is only when the waiting stretches too long that ordering food or snacks is okay.

Personally, if a guy buys food before I arrive, I would take that as a red flag.

But… why do yall get angry because u paid for your own meal?? Im just honestly curious . do yall just naturally feel u are entitled to a free meal because a guy wants to get get to know you??

Dont get me wrong… its fine if the guy wants to take the tab, but if he doesnt want to, why is it a big deal for you women to pay for your own meal.. ??

Ruth15:
Good day everyone.

So there's this issue that has been bothering me since yesterday and it has left me in a state of bafflement.

I met a guy on Thursday and I gave him my number. On Friday,he asked me if we could hang out and of which I obliged to. Mind you, before I agreed to go out with him,I told him I'd be coming with two of my other female friends and of which he said no problem. He even jokingly asked me if my friends were single and I told him yes. He then jestfully promised to hook them up with two of his other male friends and we both laughed over it .

So ,on Saturday which happened to be yesterday,we finally got to our agreed destination. I ordered for three bottles of coca cola and three fish pies,while my friends and I were awaiting them. Eventually they showed up and we were vibing. When it was time to pay for what I initially ordered for,I was expecting this dude to be a gentleman and go and pay for all the stuffs we bought on his behalf. But unfortunately,he wasn't making any move. So I stood up and wanted to pay. Unfortunately my bank was having network problem. But guys,guess what happened next. This dude and his friends stood up and left us stranded. Like they actually left, without thinking about what we'd be subjected to. Had it been I didn't have the money or went unprepared,that would have been an entirety different case but for goodness sake,it was just an ordinary bank network problems. And it was just ordinary 5k,and not something too big for a girl like me to pay without a blink of an eye. Omo,everything became blurry and I was wondering about what guys are turning into nowadays. Could this be a sign of being an alpha male or should I call it stoopidity? Because I was really embarrassed and I don't think I'd ever blame ladies who tend to be brutal to men from henceforth because I don't just understand what young men of these days are turning into.

Please guys,did I do wrong at all?

Obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun nlfpmod.

If you continue like this you might end up as babymama in future

advanceDNA:
But… why do yall get angry because u paid for your own meal?? Im just honestly curious . do yall just naturally feel u are entitled to a free meal because a guy wants to get get to know you??

Dont get me wrong… its fine if the guy wants to take the tab, but if he doesnt want to, why is it a big deal for you women to pay for your own meal.. ??

It is not about entitlement; it is about fairness and courtesy. If someone asks me on a date, it is common courtesy for them to offer to pay the bill. I do the same: when I invite friends; male or female to meals, I usually cover the cost because I am the one who extended the invitation.

Why would paying for my own meal even be a big deal? It is not like I don't visit eateries and restaurants on my own.

My dear, I treat myself very well and eat well.

Hanging out is about company and connection, not free meals. I don't accept every invitation, especially if it would be pointless.

I don't take advantage. I stick to what I usually order. Often, it is the other person who suggests upscale options or encourages extras.

If spending is a concern, the person extending the invitation should discuss it beforehand or choose a simple spot.

If someone is still a stranger to me and I don't see things going further, I keep it modest; usually no more than 20k.

immortalcrown:
I take sides with truth. The truth is that his refusal to pay your bills does not mean he is poor, and your friends depending on him shows how poor you are.

You surely take sides with "T-Ruth"!
.. perhaps with t-ruth in '15' ways!!
Lovely banter.

Ruth15:
➜This dude and his friends stood up and left us stranded. Like they actually left, without thinking about what we'd be subjected to. Had it been I didn't have the money or went unprepared,that would have been an entirety different case but for goodness sake,it was just an ordinary bank network problems. And it was just ordinary 5k,and not something too big for a girl like me to pay without a blink of an eye. Omo,everything became blurry and I was wondering about what guys are turning into nowadays. Could this be a sign of being an alpha male or should I call it stoopidity? Because I was really embarrassed and I don't think I'd ever blame ladies who tend to be brutal to men from henceforth because I don't just understand what young men of these days are turning into.
Please guys,did I do wrong at all? .

There are no universal rules when it comes to who pays for whom and who does not. Some men feel it is their place to pay when they invite a woman out on a date, while, as you learned from the experience, there are equally other men out there who would not submit even a kobo for the sake of the woman they go out on dates with. Now that you know this, please be more cautious about whom you say "yes" to and who you invest your time and energy into. 🥱🥱🥱

Ruth15:
. Only broke men will have problem with paying the bills of the woman they hang out with . I know of men who personally splashed millions of naira on their first dates. So please stop making it look like it's all men that have a personal romantic relationship with poverty.

Then make concerted efforts on your part to avoid broke men even during the talking stage, so you do not end up pouring water into baskets over and over again. 🥱🥱🥱