₦airaland Forum

hopeforcharles:
You are a w*cked Soul.
Instead of you to understand the plight of this young man and give a constructive assistance you are heaping the problems on him, In this economy why wount she assist? This issue of laziness is causing a strain in the marriage already and if not handled properly will be come a bigger issue.

Kingosytex:
I no sure say you read dis article well. Person tell you say to provide basic amenities dey take a toll on him and you dey ask am to provide a nanny. Shey na you go dey pay the nanny?
Ndi mmadụ sef

fregmath:
YOU ARE CALLED A HUSBAND BECAUSE OF HER, YOU ARE A FATHER BECAUSE OF HER.
IS THAT VALUE??

BROS TAKE UR LAZY ASS AND THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX AND LEAVE THAT BLESSED WOMAN ALONE

dominique:
A woman gave birth twice in the space of 3 years and her husband expects her to go out and hustle and men are supporting him. Does she have help? You conveniently left that part out. Assuming she had a job or business she was doing before having the babies, maybe she would have found a way to adjust depending on how strong she is and the kind of support she has. Expecting a woman with an infant and toddler to go out and start hustling is beyond absurd. If she knows what's good for her she better go and get a birth control done. This is not a type of husband a woman should be birthing more than 2 kids for

bukatyne:
I can excuse the men calling a non-earning wife a liability because most of them don't or refuse to use their brain.

But you a woman who should actually know what a wife brings to the table apart from money especially one with kids, your comment is very shameful.

sweerychick:
I and my husband earn 6 figures, even though he earns higher than me but we combine resources to make our lives better. We shared responsibilities at home 70:30 ratio. He takes care of 70% of responsibilities while I take care of the remaining 30%.
My husband is responsible for 70% of the rent, I take care of the remainder 30%

Bills he takes care of everything

School fees he takes care of it we have two girls, my oldest daughter is in Basic 1. And the other is in pre Nursery. There school fees combined is almost 1.2 million per term,

Feeding I take care of that though my husband supports too, but I mainly take care of that.

Other miscellaneous stuffs he takes care of his own, while I take care of my own. I fuel my car and service it, he fuels his own too.

If I leave my husband to do everything we would leave in misery, it would be overbearing for him, our rent in Gwarimpa Abuja 1st Avenue is 3.5mil per year. My husband is building our house at Lokogoma.

So if I don't help him out how would he achieve some of these things.

It pains me that some lazy Nigerian women depend solely on their husband for everything, I have a friend who even calls her husband to buy maggi 50 naira and I was like WTF!!!! It's really disgusting

DrFunmisticGlow:
Do they have a housemaid?
Doesn't she look after the children?
Doesn't she do housework?
How is that not contributing to the family?

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

JoeEeL:
You may one day lose that job. Or lose ur health in it.

Then u will come back to read your foolish post

kenben:
This one na beta wife. The husband is very fortunate

hopeforcharles:
You are a w*cked Soul.
Instead of you to understand the plight of this young man and give a constructive assistance you are heaping the problems on him, In this economy why wount she assist? This issue of laziness is causing a strain in the marriage already and if not handled properly will be come a bigger issue.

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

Honestey:
If she is not adding more trouble to your life, count your luck. Many of them are actually the reason guys keep failing to make progress

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

hopeforcharles:
You are a w*cked Soul.
Instead of you to understand the plight of this young man and give a constructive assistance you are heaping the problems on him, In this economy why wount she assist? This issue of laziness is causing a strain in the marriage already and if not handled properly will be come a bigger issue.

anonimi:
The woman is pressing phone all day long.

This means she has a housemaid paid for by her hardworking husband, who is obviously not satisfied with how she is NOT looking after the children.

I am only concerned that she is still his wife.

What does the Bible say about no food for lazy people

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer-term possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

Oyindamolah:
You are not ready for marriage.

Kalulu44:
Honestly you're like me, I value even #100 that a female partner gives me, it shows she can do more if she have. But some are just damn right lazy and stingy

Lamasta:
Rubbish.....

2 shall become one after marriage, They are to help and complement each other in the marriage and not one staying idle in this harsh economy....

LarryA1:
So she's my house hold but her money is not my house hold aswear you no well seriously

funkmrflexx:
I've been married for 3 years now with 2 kids, I try my best to take care of my family but the economy has become very bad so it's no longer possible to take care of a family of 4 on just 1 income.
When I had money, I setup a business for my wife because I want her to be engaged and also she can support with whatever she has from the business, but after a year the business crumbled with no results to show (she gave many excuses on why she can't continue the business), even after that I've tried engaging her on other endeavors but she's not always serious.

Now she does nothing, she just presses phone and play games all day long, all the responsibilities are on me, basically everything from school fees, feeding, house rent to buying a cube of Maggi.

I've tried talking to her several times but she will pretend to be serious and goes back to default settings, I'm tired and its really talking a tole on me, sometimes I just get angry at her for no reason and I don't even want to come home.

It's not the fact the she's staying home that's the issue, its the fact the she's not showing any effort to try and do something. I'm tired because all the money I make is being used for feeding and running the house, I can't even save or even think about buying properties

sweerychick:
I and my husband earn 6 figures, even though he earns higher than me but we combine resources to make our lives better. We shared responsibilities at home 70:30 ratio. He takes care of 70% of responsibilities while I take care of the remaining 30%.
My husband is responsible for 70% of the rent, I take care of the remainder 30%

Bills he takes care of everything

School fees he takes care of it we have two girls, my oldest daughter is in Basic 1. And the other is in pre Nursery. There school fees combined is almost 1.2 million per term,

Feeding I take care of that though my husband supports too, but I mainly take care of that.

Other miscellaneous stuffs he takes care of his own, while I take care of my own. I fuel my car and service it, he fuels his own too.

If I leave my husband to do everything we would leave in misery, it would be overbearing for him, our rent in Gwarimpa Abuja 1st Avenue is 3.5mil per year. My husband is building our house at Lokogoma.

So if I don't help him out how would he achieve some of these things.

It pains me that some lazy Nigerian women depend solely on their husband for everything, I have a friend who even calls her husband to buy maggi 50 naira and I was like WTF!!!! It's really disgusting

bukatyne:
I can excuse the men calling a non-earning wife a liability because most of them don't or refuse to use their brain.

But you a woman who should actually know what a wife brings to the table apart from money especially one with kids, your comment is very shameful.

Emdi1914:
Mr man, the economy is harsh for one person and it's not harsh for another person.So a woman cannot compliment her husband in other ways other than finance?

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

McLizbae:
Dear OP @Stephen0mozzy and @kobojunkie have said it the way it is, and I believe you know that. Bro, double your hussle and give as much as you can to that woman and the kid to stay fine. What you have their is an housewife, some may call such full housewife. It's luxurious and good if you can maintain such. She cooks, clean, takes good care of the home and the children. That's her job, and it's yours to go out and get the money. Settle with this and there will be lasting peace in that home.

bukatyne:
He can't provide a nanny yet expects a woman with two children under three years old to earn.

Whilst this woman is working, who is taking care of the house, who is taking care of the children after school? Who is preparing them to school? Who is running the home? Who is doing market runs and all the myriad of things required to make the home function.

Well, since he cannot afford a maid, let the wife list all the things she does in the house and both of them share it equally so she can have the time to work and 'add value'.