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A beautiful lady has sparked reactions online after explaining why she believes she is still unmarried despite her beauty and qualities.
In a video circulating on social media, she said:
“Y’all see how pretty I am? I am sweet, I am very smart, I read, I work, I am very soft, I cook, I clean, and I am not married. But it’s not that I don’t need a man for anything — no, I need a man. I was created to be a helpmate. I can’t wait to be there.

But the mistake that I made, and the mistake a lot of you are still making, is that once you lay down with them, it’s as good as dead.
A lot of us didn’t know that. I didn’t know that. Especially when you come from an environment where casual sex is promoted — you grow up doing it.
I had plenty of good men, but none of it ended with a ring.

The moral of the story is: I don’t care, you could be drop-dead gorgeous. Do you see me? If you met me in person, the energy is on ten — I am everything. Yet I’m unmarried because I slept with them.

So if you sleep with them, the looks aren’t going to get you there. Having a baby isn’t going to get you there either.

You want a ring? The longer you can keep yourself out of bed, your value goes up. It’s not too late to start living like this and understanding this.

But the first thing is repentance. You have to make that vow and say, ‘I’m not going to fall into premarital sex again.’ I’ve had enough of that.

Commit to getting to the other side of what it really means to allow God to bring love into your life — that is possible.

I come from an environment where I didn’t see marriages or healthy relationships. I didn’t understand that it was possible. But now that I know it is, it’s my responsibility as an adult to act differently and make different choices.

The looks just aren’t going to get you there. You are beautiful, but that’s not what it’s about. Think about it.

The video quickly attracted a lot of views and reactions, as many viewers admired her beauty, with some even expressing interest in seeking her hand in marriage.
However, the lady—whose goal is clearly to live a godly life and raise a godly family—did not entertain any lustful requests.

Many people have since praised her for sharing her experience and for her determination to live a godly life.

Watch the video to the end and listen.

Summary:
A beautiful woman sparked reactions online after explaining that despite her looks and qualities, she believes her past choices—especially becoming intimate too early in relationships—kept her from getting married. She now encourages women seeking marriage to avoid premarital intimacy, embrace repentance, and pursue relationships centered on faith and commitment. The video drew widespread attention, with many praising her honesty and dedication to living a godly life.

She's right tho.

But then again,what else do an average Nigerian banny has to offer in a relationship apart from opueh?

Simple conversations,they can't maintain.

Bring business idea,so that we can invest and grow together,na once their nipples go catch Cold run enter breast

She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

Normally the primary aim of most men is sex but many women don't know that.

They thought most men that approaches them need them in their life.

On internet they always brag they can't settle with broke guys, ugly guys, short guys. Who even told you that those men want to marry you ?

If not for religion, majority of men won't even marry at all.

But women marry because they need someone to take care of them and spend on them after their attraction/beauty expires.

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Sleeping with a man won't stop a man that truely love you not to marry you sha.

The main point is that women overrate themselves while in reality men are actually the prize. They are even more than men in number.

Her beauty and qualities are not the issue. The issue is that she spent her high-value years (her youth) providing "wife-level" intimacy for "girlfriend-level" commitment (or less). Now, approaching the age where her beauty begins to fade, she is attempting to retroactively change the rules to secure a husband. While her commitment to chastity moving forward is admirable and may even land her a husband (likely a divorced man or a pious man willing to overlook her past),I suggest her "value" has irreversibly declined, and her testimony is a lament for a market advantage she no longer possesses

From my point of view, I think men approach with two opposite intentions; one is to get married to her if she accepts while the other is just to have sex. So, the intention to go with now depends on the lady's characters 🤷

Solofresh2:
Her beauty and qualities are not the issue. The issue is that she spent her high-value years (her youth) providing "wife-level" intimacy for "girlfriend-level" commitment (or less). Now, approaching the age where her beauty begins to fade, she is attempting to retroactively change the rules to secure a husband. While her commitment to chastity moving forward is admirable and may even land her a husband (likely a divorced man or a pious man willing to overlook her past),I suggest her "value" has irreversibly declined, and her testimony is a lament for a market advantage she no longer possesses

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I must commend her for telling the truth. Premarital sex is not good for you ladies. Life doesn't judge the man the way it judges women when it comes to sex. We are not equal. Do not be deceived. Your value is in your virginity. Check out the meaning of the word


noun. a person who has never had sexual intercourse. an unmarried girl or woman.

The only thing that is worth the effort for men is the unconqured woman and he has to pay the price for it. If he has you cheap without doing the rituals, you go ask what are we now tire. Una think say all those traditions are for fun shey? Check history and all societies, why did they preserve the women so much until marriage? It's not even about religion now. Women are the second creators of earth, if them mine that place anyhow, na disaster. Mine am well and all the gold and diamond go flow well.

“Women don't want to hear what you think. Women want to hear what they think - in a deeper voice.” — Bill Cosby.

Q: At what age do women start seeing the truth?
A: Age 40 and above

Pretty na for her pocket, Gege students no get time for rubbish,

That's not true. A man sleeping with a girl isn't the reason he's not marrying her. Many guys slept with their wives when they dated and still married them.

Men don't marry the girls they date for several reasons, including him not being sincere with the girl, him not being ready for marriage, the lady not fit for his ideal partner, etc.

Keep deceiving the gullible ones

Have you ever asked yourself why the most decent ladies always end up with the wrong husbands and the hookers always end up with the most decent?

Keep displaying your steewpid attitudes and see how responsible men will keep derailing from your path.

Young lady, work on yourself

She tried but the truth is that other ladies will not listen to this her sermon.
I'm sure she heard these type of sermons in the past but didn't do anything with it till she experienced it her self. Some actually got married to great husbands because of sex. What worked for lady A may not work for lady B

In this world, experience is the best teacher, and ladies can never learn until they experience it themselves!

Well she made sense to some extent....

Unfortunately in this day and age, staying away from sex doesn't guarantee you a man.

What matters is CHARACTER! If it's missing, every other thing goes missing....

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This girl is not saying the honest truth. Laying down with a guy will not deprive you a ring. You can take this to the bank. Even ashawo kobo kobo with good qualities end up settling down with a man in her life.

To you ladies, what puts a ring in a lady's finger is "CHARACTER". Character is a combo that comes with so many attributes. I don't have the patient to list them here, but you all know them.

Lolooo Tonto Dike wanna be

She has never said the real reason why she is unmarried. Till then.

But outside her body, the average Nigerian woman offers nothing else. I think the reason why they are comfortable moving around with those weighty things they call weave on their heads is because the head itself is empty inside.
Ideas? Zero. Ability to hold intelligent conversation both online and in person? Minus zero! Income generating potential and ability to multiply, sustain and build wealth? Don't even go there.

Perpetually hungry, a single call to check up on them gives them an avenue to lament over their woes of how they've not eaten. Left to them, MTN would have long packed up and left Nigeria because they will never buy data for themselves if a man doesn't buy for them. With their body count alone, they can actually open up a place of whoreship with a decent sized congregation.

So yes, the men shouldn't be blamed for eating their share and leaving. That is the only thing on the table.

God bless her for coming back to her senses and I pray she get settled maritally to a good Man soonest, Amen.

They will always find something to blame, your environment as how

Who drinks a cup of water that many people have put their fingers in?
Once you taste it, the value reduces

In Summary, you were an ex OS?

Not a lie, looks like the kind of stories and clips you see in youtube Amakom TV, well they will learn with experience and time

You can even sense the toxicity from here. Full of herself. There's a reason over 70% of AA women are unmarried. Other races have just as much if not more premarital sex. So scratch that

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ

Radarada. After a lot of penislus mileage with b2b climbing activities, a retired owl is seeking for an intentional and innocent man’s hand for commitment.

All na marketing.

Na today?

I work, I clean , I do this and that......

And so forking what?

I don't speak for other men o, but laying with me does not make you less In my eyes o.


Na too much shakara and no sense dey make me sack person daughter quick quick

Dey play. A woman that doesn't give respect to her partner is a no go arear for a serious guy ...only good for sex. Know this....know peace✌️

Wether you have sex in a relationship or are well well to do lady financially, if it's going to work it will. If it won't work, it just won't work. You've just not met that man yet.

Sometimes though, there could be something dark about her attitude she hasn't revealed. These men have detected the red flag in attitude or her habit and silently dispersed. It could be hygiene, toxicity, extremely low tolerance, anything

Check the type of guys u were laying down with also. Might have a habit of picking same type of fvck boys while claiming ure looking for a husband.

Also check ur attitude and attachment after sleeping with a guy. u might have some issues there that make men disappear..

franchasofficia:
She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

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